HeartTOHeart

Women, we are validated by God and no one can erase our gender or mess with our God created design. We were fearfully and wonderfully made by God to be women, shaped and designed in the womb of our mother. Motherhood continues with the egg of a woman and the sperm of a man and the creative life giving breathe of God. No corrupted culture can steal our identity; we are women destined and created specifically by the hand of our God. Women are fabulous, unique and incredible people. God’s created women. The gender of woman started with a rib from man, used by God to create the first woman. The rib protects the heart and the lungs. Isn’t that amazing that women were created as protectors of the heart. There is so much confusion in our corrupted culture about the genders. There are two genders. Male and Female. Confusion always has a deceptive core and the enemy of our soul is trying to take away the God validation of women, making them less vital, visible and viable in our culture. It is obvious the enemy is threatened by our design, the protector of the heart and breath of truth in the family and in society. We protect truth, we guard the hearts of our family with the atmosphere of love and truth. Figuratively a woman was created with a rib that protects the lungs because in order to live we need to breathe. No evil threat against women’s gender will stand or prosper with evil intent towards us. God will thwart it with His truth. From the beginning of time, women were shaped by God in the womb and born with a beautiful spirit of protectors of heart and protectors of the breath of our soul, the atmosphere of the home is set by women, so the family can breathe and grow in love, strength and truth. Every day women are born, with a vagina, a womb to carry a child and the egg that will join with the sperm for God to create life. This in itself is the God proof that shatters the darkness of this deceit. There is no confusion. God said it, it keeps happening and He proves it. Women, Mothers, we are loved by God and He has incredible things for us to do as women in this generation. Stay true to the gender God created you with, cling to God, dig your life roots deeply in Him, precious woman. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/happy-mothers-day/

You can’t deny it and there is no doubt about it, our God is amazing. Awe-GOD! He is at work in our world in ways we can’t even begin to wrap our mind around. Every single day, His purposes are in play and He is working towards something we could not even imagine that could happen. We have had a lot of Awe-GOD moments this year as God has exposed and expunged long term evil and left us with our mouth’s open in awe. Did that just happen. Yes it did! I have thought this many times this year. I can’t believe that things so deeply secreted are coming to the light of truth. The same God Who created everything, powerfully maintains everything! How amazing is that. We don’t maintain this earth, He does. He Who created, is the God Who wants to have a personal relationship with us. There is an authority of love, a power of transformation and an incredible truth that stands the tests of time and this is our God. There is no one like our God. AWE-GOD, He is the redeeming power of all things in our culture. We plant food by seed, it grows and we eat it and it bears more seed. Who could have done that but Him?!! We sense, we feel, we know there is an authority of love governing us and it is a stability in our soul in times such as these where illegitimate authority has grabbed control of power and is corrupting the governments of our nations. Global corruption and it can’t even touch God, it can’t stop Him. The greatest of human schemes are taking place, by powerful deceptive deceivers and yet, they all will end up bowing to God Almighty. He is Mighty and a Power like no other, tides coming in and going out, transformations of hearts and minds, and His Truth, His Bible that He breathed life into, it is still here, it is still viable. God knows exactly what He is doing in times such as these, and we need to stand back in Awe and surrender our lives to Him. Our future is in Him, the One who is, was and will be forever. He flat out told us that we would have hard times here, but He would be with us, He would be our Advocate. Nothing compares to the future and hope He has given us. Awe Lord God. This is not all there is, Jesus went to prepare a place for us. How do we respond to such a great truth as this? We cling to God, we dig our life roots deeply in Him, we watch, we wait and we see Him gloriously renovate, redeem, restore, renew and revive in that way only HE can. Awe Lord God! Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/god-causes-it/

I was thinking about this today: We are on the ledge of hell, teetering back and forth, off balance, out of alignment with God, and we really think we won’t fall in? Are we that good or are we that prideful and foolish? Pride goes before a fall. I love to watch the waves at the beach and today as I was sitting there watching the waves, I thought: you know, the choices I make today, they will crash on the shore of my life and wash inland effecting everyone walking with me. Choices matter and I can’t let pride drive my choice. Every single choice we make, on this day, from every moment to every decision, compounds and matters in a good way or a bad way. Consistent bad choices will drift me away from God as choices compound and my alignment with God shifts, therefore my choices follow. Our choices are not made alone, they affect other people. We can be navigated by God to make good choices as we follow after His way, truth and life. God is present, with us and is here for us, to direct us, strengthen us and help us make good choices. Walking apart from God, it is a 50-50 choice of good or bad, a rolling of the dice and the result of a bad choice, the odds are not good that the consequences will be felt by many. Do I want to roll the dice when my family, friends, neighbors and reputation is at stake or do I want to go with the sure thing? Make the right choice. Going all in with God, seeking God, looking for the truth and making a good choice is the best kind of living. A good choice, is not a impulsive choice, it is a well thought out, directed by God choice, which makes it good. People get so sloppy in their choices, focused on selfish wants, not caring about what that choice might mean to others, this is not good and does not end well. Compounded good choices, create good consequences, good reactions, good attitudes, good outcomes and a good life for you and all those you are doing life with. The goodness of God is seen in our choices, good choice after good choice. The result of many, many good choices is contagious in God’s goodness, replicating and mirroring the godliness of our Lord, and creates a living legacy that is really a sweet heirloom for your family. This is why we follow after God in followship of Him, listening up, learning from His Word, being shaped by His Voice about the best choices we can make, and being a godly example to the generation underneath us by the choices we make. Pass on a godly life choice by choice as you make the next right choice and honor God, bringing glory to Him. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/consequences-are-real/

What am I reflecting? Do I mirror the anxiety and fear of the world? How much time are we spending watching the news and the mediatic false frenzy of fear mongering? (Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real) The place we need to listen up to first is from the voice of the ONE we should COME to first, and His name is Jesus. The best start of our day is in God’s Presence, with our Bible open and us soaking our soul with God’s way, truth and life. In our vital-vertical relationship with Jesus, we make it personal with our Lord. We talk it up with God before we talk to anyone else. If we spend time in the LIGHT of His Truth, in our heart-to-heart relationship with HIM, We will mirror His Heart. Therefore, when people see us, they see a reflection of His Life. I usually like to tell people this: I hope you SHINE. What do I mean by that??When we are spending more time with Jesus, listening up most to Him, we shine all things Him, His love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, humility, wisdom and self-control. Why? Because He is light and truth, the only light that no one and nothing can extinguish and He lights up our lives with hope and peace. God’s truth stands the tests of time and it sticks to us. We mirror God, we reflect to the world stability, strength, compassion, civility and common sense, many things that are rare in our day. It is attractive to others as we walk with a Kingdom Perspective, shutting down the worldly viewpoint. Many have tried over the years to put out the light of God’s truth, but all have failed. So, our SHINE today should be a mirror image of Him, of His glory glow. We were created in His Image, and as we spend more and more time with Him, we get a unique reflection, not our own fleshly reactions, but a response which is one that looks a lot like His character. Love is such a good quality as it is given unconditionally as is mercy, which is given to those who do not deserve it. These are just two of the ways we can SHINE today, reflecting our Savior, Jesus Christ in us and through us, we can light up the darkness wherever we step on this day, with His love, compassion, civility and common sense. These in themselves are precious commodities, rare treasures in times such as these, treasures in the dark as Jesus lights up our world as we reflect Him, and share His hope within a hopeless world trying to survive within the structure of no power higher than self. God is our hope in the dark where illegitimate authority has corrupted beyond our wildest dreams and as we position ourselves underneath His Rulership of Love, He is able to help us thrive in our world where mankind is so focused on self-gain, dangerously so. Within our vital-vertical relationship with Jesus, He changes things up for us and we reflect Him, His way, truth and life as we walk counter culturally with Him, joyful, strong and peaceful in all of our ways. SHINE! What are you reflecting? Reflect Jesus! Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/missionary-prayer-journey-7/

All the love we need is found in Jesus. Period. No doubt about it. Jesus is our ONE. As we keep Him at the center of the all of our everything, our soul is well. There is so much to distract us from God in our chaotic, every changing culture. We have to diligently determine to keep God as our ONE. Many people ask me why I don’t post my face or selfies or personal things about me, well, simply- significantly, Jesus is my One, He is my reason, my purpose, my why I say and do things. You don’t need to know me, you need to know Him. I can’t change people. Jesus can. So, Jesus is my One. My life is not about your response to my videos, my life is about Jesus, His way, truth and life. How about you? Who is your ONE? I hope to encourage people, to point them to Jesus. So, I make the Heart To Heart videos for my ONE. I really don’t care how many likes I get or if people notice me. I am truly hoping that my ONE will touch one person, even just one person is enough, because I know how my one life, affects so many others. If I can put a smile on the face of a person by what they see and hear me say, if I can help them think up and change their attitude from despair to hope, and bless their soul with God’s truth and peace, then that is why I post a video to this Heart TO Heart channel on Rumble. My motive is pure, I do it to point people to Jesus, Who can give them joy, who can change their heart attitude, who can transform their mind from chaotic deception to the truth. Shalom: disrupts chaos. I post videos for THE ONE, unto Him, for the one person that He will touch and change up their life. One person changed is many people touched. If a person has a bad soul attitude and it changes, then that affects many people, all that they come in contact with will be blessed on that day. I am a better person when Jesus, My ONE, has total access to my life, and that is why I give my life wholly-holy to Him so when I step into relationship on this day, people get the best of me, and that best is Jesus, His way, truth and life. Life is not about me, it is about Him. With God, I am less snarky, less judgmental, less critical, less anxious and more civil, more wise, much more compassionate, very loving, and I am trusting of God, trustworthy for others, and I have a lot of common sense in play in my life. The things that our crazy cultural chaos tends to steal from us are: Compassion, Civility and Common Sense, yet when we are Heart To Heart with our ONE, Jesus Christ, He restores all of that, plus so much more. Our God Adventure is joyful, when God is our ONE and great, as His purposes flow in and out of our lives. What are you looking for? All the love, strength, joy, peace and wisdom is found in Jesus, look to Him, make Him your ONE and put God first in your life. Be His Firstee, put God first in the all of your everything. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/firstee/

We all do have that desire to make the right choice the first time. Does it work at that way? Only if we connect to God and not go off impulsively in our own fleshly bright ideas. Sometimes there are so many variables to the decisions we need to make. At times we just walk by faith. Not being able to see what is ahead, but knowing that God has something in play, because we are at a crossroad and need to make a decision. I think the hardest moments of life are when we are at a crossroad and don’t know whether to go left or right. There are decisions to make every single day and a lot of them we don’t have a direction for, we feel confused about them. Some decisions seem natural because they are good choices, yet sometimes doing something good that God has not put on your plate can become a disastrous choice. The best decision if we don’t know what to do is to wait. The key is asking God for the answer, trusting Him and waiting until He answers. This takes some strong patient endurance, but always ends well when we wait on God and go in followship of Him. No that is self-control driven faith. Denying ourselves, this takes an increase in our faith to wait until we hear something definite. Saying no to our impulsive flesh, our faith can be tested as we wait on God. Trust is definitely strenuously exercised when knowing God has the perfect timing, the perfect solution, and the perfect outcome, we wait. Exercising our faith always leaves us with a heavenly hindsight of increased faith, tested belief, and satisfied trust. Waiting doesn’t seem so bad when we think of it that way. So, if you find yourself needing to make a decision and you are at a crossroad in life, ask God, wait patiently in belief, trust and faith. God will come through for you in ways you could not even begin to imagine or hope for and He will say: This is the way, walk in it, and as you do, His perfect will comes into play, purposefully so. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/divine-power/

Taking a day off is a great spiritual habit to form. I used to go, go, go until I would crash and burn. God did not create our bodies, minds, spirits, souls to not need rest. It is kind of cool to see how He built rest into our week. I call it a Sabbath day. Once I started taking time off during the week, at least one half a day to a full day, I felt such refreshment in my soul and my health got better. I noticed when I took a day off a week that I wasn’t having those crash and burn days where I just had absolutely no drive or energy. God created us for needing a Sabbath, a time of rest. When we follow after the way we were designed to be, we are much better human beings! Isn’t that the truth! We can actually see all throughout the Old Testament how God warned us that we needed rest, a Sabbath day. He not only asked us to rest, but He provided for it. Do you rest? Think About It: Do you take any time off to rest your soul? God even did it… six days of creation and rested on the 7th day. Rest. We take a day off and God provides for us through the other six days. When we take that Sabbath rest, that day off, it refreshes us personally and we are ready to work and do well the rest of the week. We live in very culturally chaotic times, and that requires a lot of soul reactions and emotional engagement. We need to replenish our soul in times such as these, so we don’t end up with damaged emotions. I remember pushing myself so hard, every single day with no rest, and it did not fare well for me emotionally, physically or spiritually. I was not kind, I was not civil and I was not compassionate. A good description of me when I have too much on my plate and take no time off to rest is this: Compassion Fatigue. Without rest, things never ended well for me. But when I started taking that day off, that Sabbath rest, everything changed up for me. I felt more creative in my work, I felt stronger physically, more alert spiritually, and emotionally very stabilized. It is always good to refurbish, renovate, restore, revive, replenish, your soul. When you do. You finish well. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/be-replenished/

How do you do with change? I really don’t like it. God set up our world with lots of changing seasons of life. We should be used to the transitions we make in every season. Do you get restless before things are going to change up? I do! It seems to me that when I have a big life transition about to happen that all hell seems to break loose! Do you find that to be true? I am comfortable in the way things are and then I see the signs of a new season and I want to run from it. Lots of decisions have to be made in life season changes and sometimes the way is not really clear. Change can be good, but sometimes we make a decision outside of the will of God and that is not fun as it never ends well. We do have that heart’s desire to make the right choice. Sometimes it is a good thing to just wait on God to chart our course into a new life season. God’s timing is always perfect. Life transitions require changes. We leave behind the old and step into the new and have to move into the flow of that new transition. Fitting into a new life season as we transition out of the old, into the new, can be a really narrow place in our lives and can make us feel claustrophobic. Yet God purposefully challenges us because He knows the God purpose in our challenge is greater than the challenge itself. For our good! The in-between the old, the past life season and the new life season is the toughest place, because we don’t like facing the changes that need to be made in us and we feel constricted. Yet, we want to bring the best us we can into the new life phase we are walking into. All of our transitions probably should start facedown before God asking Him to change us and make us ready. Transitions are hard, but oh, so very good for us as we grow forward into new things, into new God adventures. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/the-way-up/

Murky Soul? Can’t see who you are anymore? Looked in the mirror and saw a reflection of yourself, who you did not recognize? Lost your identity in Christ? Have you ever looked in the mirror and did not recognize yourself because you have such a thick façade over your soul? Who Am I? Do you know the answer to that question? Can you speak it with confidence? Sometimes we get so attached to something that God has not put on our plate and it exhausts us as we lose ourselves in someone else’s cause. Do you feel like you are being who someone else wants you to be, and you have lost yourself? Are you wasting time standing in the light of someone else’s glory? We all have a mission that we are uniquely designed for, and sometimes we are so afraid of rejection that we never step out in it, we ride the coattails of someone else’s identity. Who Am I? Have I put my identity wholly-holy in Christ? What causes do you have on your shoulders that are not about you, the you who God has created you to be, but all about chasing approval of others? We need to get back to the basics and learn about our personal identity in Christ, so we can start reflecting His glory and deflect all the distractions that keep us from developing our personal God shape that leads to our destiny. Who Am I? What is my design? What is my shape? Ask God and ask Him to peel off all the layers we have applied so we can become what God sees as His finished masterpiece. Who Am I? Get back to the basics of just You and God and let Him be the reflection in the mirror. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/back-to-the-basics/

Group Up! What? Huh?? Why? Well… Are we slipping into being very isolated people? Isolating, it is so easy to do in times such as these. We have to push ourselves out of our comfort zone and start “Grouping Up” with others. It can be as easy as asking a few friends over for lunch. It is so important to us as an individual to be a part of a group. Like the Bible so wisely says: “iron sharpens iron”! We need other people to make us better people. If we want to be the best we can be, the influence of other people, being a part of a group where people are speaking their life experiential wisdom into our lives is a good thing. Even in our online social media I see a lot of self-isolation. Have you noticed in times such as these that we get much more private message chat offers than we do people joining our online group? Why Group Up? Well…There is truly safety in numbers. It is harder to hide who you are when there are others to be accountable to. It is more likely we will take off our facades when we group up. God created us for friendships and we are so much better human beings when we are together with others. Being with others, we get encouragement, wisdom and counsel and we learn from each other. God planned it that way. He never created us to be isolated from others. God is teaching each of us something and when we dare to share it, we become better people. Doing life together, this is the best way to do life. Loving others, coming alongside of others, forbearing with others, and creating a group of friends who have your back. Life is good when we group up together. What are some things you like to do? Do you like golf? Group up, invite some friends to play with you. Do you like to ride bikes? Group up, be creative and schedule a ride and then invite others to come. Do you like the beach? You know I do… that is obvious. Ask some other people to come walk the beach with you. If you want to go see a movie, ask a group of people to go with you. Group Up. Some of what you are doing alone, it would take little effort on your part to make a group of it. This is the best way to do life… together. I hope this for us. Together is better. No more isolating, step outside of your comfort zone and group up! Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/kindred-friendship/

Joy! God dances upon the dark waters in our soul and creates such joy! Have you ever just stood at the beach and watched the sun dance on the water? I love that! Jesus does that too. He dances on the darkness of our soul and creates a beautiful shining light that shimmers on our soul. Tinkerbell is one of my favorite fantasy characters. I love how she sprinkles the “fairy dust” all over people and then they can fly. God is like that with the dusting of His glory, helping us to shine out in the darkness of life with that glow that attracts people to Him. We can soar above our problems, our tough situations, our hard times on the wings of God. People notice when we are growing through hard times, yet we have joy. It makes them want what you have deep inside your inner spiritual core that turns weakness into strength, sorrow into hope and chaos into peace. Is the Son of God dancing on the water of your soul, creating an atmosphere of joy in a down and discouraging time? Our Awe-GOD is a Way-Maker for Joy to break through during the very dark and hard times of our lives. We are never without joy, the light of God is always there and as we lift up our face to Him, our countenance is alive with His Glory Glow. God is always soul saturating us with His joy, in abundance until we are full to overflowing, and we always have enough joy to share it wherever we go. Make a difference today. Share the love, joy and peace of God. Glow God’s Glory! Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/glitter-glory/

Do you have a soul stuck in winter? Unleash Your Joy! Within the boundaries of our current cultural chaos, we can feel deadened to joy, like a leash of hopelessness around the neck of our soul emotions. Everything feels dead, nothing moves us and we go from day today without even a spark of hope. Winter is a very soul barren season. We are born into winter, a deadness of soul and God hopes for the day spring is sprung in our soul from death to life in His Son, Jesus Christ. Unleash Your Joy! In soul winter, everything can look and feel brown, dark, life less, purpose has no drive to even hope to see any kind of joy. We human beings can over think ourselves into nothingness until we have no identity, no hope and life is all on us. What a burdensome way to live when we know no power higher than self, and when self consistently fails us like a fire light we kindled that flames out and the darkness of the human condition envelops our soul, depressing our human spirit. Even in the darkest depths of our soul despair, God knows where we are, God is still reaching for us. God sees us. He is the Light, the Navigator, the Way-Maker out of soul death and darkness. For every winter soul season, there comes a spring. God make it that way, and He sent His Son, Jesus, here to us on this earth to change up our soul death to unleash our lives from death to life. Unleash your joy, know Jesus, give your life to Jesus. Jesus Christ, accepting Him as the Son of God and inviting Him into your soul will enlighten your soul in that forever kind of way. Winter to spring, death to life, God is the author of it all. Unleash Your. Joy! It is so wonderful to know God, to walk with Him in the beauty of His holiness, from a brown, dank wintery soul, to a beautiful lush flowery spring, soul death to soul life. Everything comes alive in you, changing up your perspective from brown to green, from dead sticks to beautiful life, a soul aflame with the joy of life-purpose, alive in Christ, renewed daily by God. Unleash Your Joy! As we recognize and acknowledge Jesus as the Creator of all, our soul magnificently comes alive and the beauty all around us tickles our human senses creating an awe of God, in the purity and abundance of His love. This Awe GOD now saturates our soul with life, shattering the dark winter with incredible spring light and life. The beautiful seed of life, this tiny innocent, fragile bud, like a rose bud which has special redemptive value and unique God purpose, you are now created to blossom in due time with God’s holy nature and character. Even now with Christ in you, God’s Holy Spirit inhabits your soul filling your heart with a beautiful, pure and fragrant innocence, the winter to spring, death to life Christ in you, purity of righteousness which pleases the heart of the Father God. This open door to our heart is like a beautiful rose bud that is blooming into a full grown rose in the love and light of God, Who makes life so joyfully beautiful in every life season. Unleash Your Joy! Accepting Jesus as God’s Son, asking Him into your heart this holy week is such a precious moment for you God says to you: “Look upon Me focus on Me daily through the window of your soul with the eyes of your spirit, and you will see and experience My beautiful Spirit of life. My love will infuse your hope with courage and renew your mind with perfect peace. Being in harmony with My Holy Spirit will escalate the valor of your inner man, and renew the creative anointing of your spirit. Watch and pray with Me and I promise to awaken your senses each day with revelatory beauty as I write my Living Word upon your heart and strengthen the steadfastness of your soul within the boundaries of My holiness. Even your ashes of your yesterdays, I can convert into beauty, transforming them from winter to spring into valuable, purposeful heart treasure. My perfect love will purify your soul emotions daily as you connect with me in vital-vertical relationship, you will have the light in your soul that nothing can diminish, so much so that even your winter season will be beautiful.” Excerpt From Book: The Bridegroom’s Voice. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/the-bridegroom-speaks-about-hope/

Sometimes our flesh thinks: I am invincible! We make the craziest choices that reflects our immaturity and our human condition. Have you ever done anything on a dare and ended up regretting it? I have as I flew off the back of a dirt bike, knowing I just made a bad choice. Have you ever done something spontaneously because you thought it was a “bright idea” and then it turned out so very wrong! I know I have. Some of my “bright ideas” were not so bright. To the enemy of our soul, he delights in our foolishness, it makes us an easy mark for him and his deception. We think we are so good, we can walk up to the pit of hell, and as we put ourselves in situations of temptation we should not be in, underestimating the enemy of our soul, thinking I am not going to fall in. Your on the ledge of hell, teetering back and forth, off balance, out of alignment with God, and you really think you won’t fall in? Are you that good or are you that prideful and foolish? I am thinking of times in my past where I have been “hooked” by the enemy, deceived as these sudden “bright ideas” that came my way, where I took off impulsively and foolishly after them, so independent from God, and His wisdom and all the time getting that check in my spirit and ignoring it. I can do this… and then crash and burn! Sometimes I look back in “heavenly hindsight” of just how protected I was from my own prideful stupidity and all I can do is laugh at myself in disbelief of some of the dumbest things I did, and also at the same time be humbled by God’s protective care over me that I did not deserve. God gave us common sense for a reason, and if you have to go against that common sense, then you know….this is not a good choice. What we do, where we go matters, and sometimes, we make dangerous choices that could hurt us and other people’s lives. Consequences are real. Life is real. It is not something to fool around with. Living casually when it comes to our choices is living dangerously. We need to take our choices seriously. We can make a choice that can affect someone the rest of their lives. Like drinking and driving, getting behind the wheel drunk, we could take someone’s life and ruin ours forever. So many choices, so many consequences and we think, “it won’t happen to me” I can handle this temptation, I won’t fall. That is pride talking and pride goes before a fall. The enemy loves when we fall, and loves to make us a stumbling block for others and their faith. Believe me, I have been there and done that, fallen hard because I thought I could do life without God’s direction, outside of His ways. We need to stay in God’s Presence, to stay in followship of Him, being navigated by God and His wisdom. The best choice we can make is a commitment to keep it personal with God, to stay in a vital-vertical relationship with Him and be navigated by Him. When we make a choice and hurt someone else, the consequences are real. When I was a young girl, one of my family members murdered two of my family members. Did she think that she would fall that far, when she stepped away from God and His ways, no, never in a million years? Don’t underestimate the power of evil. Bad choices compound and evil runs your life downhill fast! That decision of that one family member destroyed our family, fractioned it, and most of us never got over it and probably never will. The consequences of that one choice on our family were horrific for many years. Hurt by the consequences of a bad choice, we go on, and God heals, but the pain of it stays with us as a reminder of how important our choices are. Consequences are real. We make good choices so that we don’t end up hurting someone and not being able to fix it. Sometimes we make bad choices and there is no way out of them. Be wise, be navigated by God and make the next right choice, because the consequences of a bad choice can affect so many people and they are very real consequences. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/you-are-warned/

Are you trying to fit in? Why? Why should you try to fit in when you were born to stand out? So many of us are on “Social Media” and I wonder how many times we post things for reason of being “self-validated”. We show case ourselves with “selfies” and post videos of all of our talents. Sometimes we are even mistaken for being conceited, when really we are trying to fill a human condition of being valuable, visible and validated by others. We do have the need to be valued and there are some seasons in life where we do feel very invisible. Self-validation is sometimes the very opposite of being conceited, it is that we have a poor self-image, we don’t believe in ourselves, we don’t particularly like ourselves, and we need that self-affirmation that a selfie or a video post brings to us. We are human and we have the need to be visible, viable, validated and valued by other people. A lot of us use social media to self-validate ourselves. Many people are self-validating and show casing who they think they are based on their looks and talents. This is a very common place thing in our society and has very little to do with conceit. People that are soul wounded have a gaping hole in their soul that even self-validation can’t fill, their self-image will leak out of their soul, leaving a very needy person. Only God can heal your soul. People pleasing makes soul wounded people feel whole, it is a fake reality that the enemy sets up as a trap. They are happy and validated by people when they get “likes” on their posts. Some people live for the “likes”, especially if they are soul wounded, they really need them to boost up their self-image so they don’t crash and burn emotionally. This kind of pushing forward a fake façade of ourselves, helps to distract us, so we don’t have to deal with the wounds of our soul and they get worse and worse as we get more and more addicted to the “likes” on social media. I liken it to working really hard to kindle a fire, so you can walk by the light of it, yet a man-made fire always flames out and leaves you in the dark. If you are soul wounded, confused and anxious, don’t look to self-validation to soothe these things, it will be a temporary fix, but the permanent ache will return with a vengeance. Only God can heal a soul, and fill you to overflowing joy. The first people who were tricked by self-validation were Adam and Eve in the Garden. They had everything they needed, yet the enemy of their soul tricked them into thinking if they had more knowledge, they could be self-validated, self-dependent and show case an even greater wisdom than what they thought they had. The enemy said they needed more and it was God who was holding them back. We blame God for a lot of things, especially for our brokenness and wounded souls, but we see that here with humanity, in the human condition, making the wrong choices is where brokenness began. Consequences of sin are far, far reaching. Self-Validation does not fix brokenness, it just adds to it. Putting our identity wholly-holy in God, letting Him shape our lives, letting Him light up our lives, this is our true self-validation, in Christ Jesus. This identity doesn’t need the perfect selfie or snap chat of ourselves and we don’t have to light our own fire that flames upward and then out, we don’t need “likes”, and we can have an anointing on us, a God flame that comes down upon us that heals, restores and revives our soul and brings incredible glory to God as He validates our lives, as He “Lights Up” our lives. Don’t be tricked by the enemy of your soul, to choose the fire that goes up instead of the fire that comes down from God. Don’t underestimate the glory of God in you and through you and the next time you post on Social Media, let it be all about Him, that is a flame that no man can extinguish, the glory of the one Who is validated by God alone. God bless you. Go… light up your world. Enfuego! https://rumble.com/vdwwsr-attractive-anointing.html Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/enfuego/

I think I can. I think I can. Will powered doing. Not Fun! Has anyone ever said to you: I will try or I am trying? Well you know at that point whatever it is, it may not get done. Will power fleshes out really strong in the beginning, but then it fades out to failure before it accomplishes anything good. I think I can do that; doesn’t mean I will do it. It means it is a big maybe. So many times, we engage our mind, we engage our will, we think positive thoughts and we trudge through, pushing through and then we run out of drive, and we crash and burn. Will power is not enough. Thinking in our mind is not enough. Our mind and our body sometimes do not agree with each other. Our mind says yes, our body says no. Our mind and our will and psychologically our soul did not agree when we thought we could, so we failed. We can do anything. Yes this is true. But don’t forget the second part. In Christ, all things are possible. I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me. I think I can do this, but not without Christ Who empowers me. If our soul is not with us when our mind is saying: I can do this. Our emotions will overpower our mind and we will not get it done. If we truly want to “do” something, then it begins with “being” something. Being found in Christ. Learning to live in God’s Presence, learning to be found in Him, becoming wholly-holy His, and walking in His power, we can. An incredibly engaged will that pushes, pushes and pushes forward, will run out of steam and fail us. Our hearts and our minds fail us, but God can be the strength of our lives. We need to allow God total access to our lives so it doesn’t matter if our will is bucking up or our soul is not feeling it, or our mind is worn out being positive, all these things don’t matter when we are engaged with God’s Holy Spirit, in followship of Him, we will have exactly what we need to grow through and finish well. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/deliverer/

There is nothing more pure, authentic, enduring than the love of God for us. God With us, His Presence all around us, His Advocacy for us. How beautiful it is to watch the tides come in and out on the beach knowing that this is our God, He does this. He is a good Father, our God. He knows everything about us, every hair on our head. He knows everything. God knows. God has never been stingy with His love, wisdom, discernment or caring. Do you need wisdom today? Where does that wisdom seeking start? Does it start with us? No. We are not a good source of wisdom. In our human condition, our hearts are easily deceived and there is not much clarity in times such as these. So, we look up, to the God of all knowledge. If we need wisdom, He is the best source of wisdom and His knowledge of the all of our everything is the best source of knowing we could ever want. So, today, if we need wisdom, the best ONE to ask is God. Ask God. He is a good Father and will not withhold anything good from us. He loves us more than we could begin to hope for or imagine. He is on our side. He is for us. When we need wisdom, we need to seek God’s heart first. Everyday God is working for our good, loving us, exhorting us, discipling us when we need it and directing our steps with His wisdom. Ask God First. God knows us best and loves us most. God’s motives for us are pure, untainted by the human condition and motivated by His great, great love for us. God knows. Ask Him. He will give us the wisdom we need, light our way in the dark, one step at a time. Let go of every preconceived idea, every presumption, emptying your mind of all opinions, assumptions and rationalizations and listen up to God and He will bring forth His newness, His fresh revelation into our life in that way only He can. Every day is new when it comes to God’s wisdom, just like the tides that come in and go out, leaving the beach changed, different, and new. God loves us enough to navigate us into the newness of His wisdom, revealing His truth to us, changing things up in us. Sometimes He speaks things that are so fresh that it leaves us in AWE of Who He is, as our hearts bow in reverence. Sometimes God speaks things that are hard to hear, but as we embrace them, we are purified and changed in the sweetest of ways. Knowing we are holy-holy-His. Sometimes Jesus by His specific discernment leads us to places we think we don’t have the courage or strength to go, yet His Presence is in the navigational wisdom and we know we are not alone, we know He has charted our pathway. Sometimes The Father God’s wisdom is so joyful, we can’t contain it and it bubbles out with light into the darkness of our world, changing everything up. Sometimes The Holy Spirit charts our course and the ride is uncomfortable, not a way we would choose to go, yet the driver in the seat occupied by Jesus, and we know the destination will be worth the uncomfortableness of the travel. The point is that no matter what we think we need to know, we will know purposefully, and timely what God already knows as He plays out His Kingdom purposes and precepts in our lives. We don’t need to know everything; we just need to know Jesus, and make it personal with Him, this is the best wisdom of all, life with God is personal. This is wisdom. God knows and sometimes we don’t know and He is always our enough. So, once again, I ask, do you need wisdom? Ask God! Listen Up And Watch-Wait-See. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/godly-wisdom/

I hope we all leave behind casual Christianity and go all in with God. It is a good day to flesh out and let the truth of God reign in our lives, giving Him total access to our lives. Yes, it is a good day, on this day, to leave casual Christianity behind and close the gaps in our soul that keep our heart divided. We should have an undivided heart of loyalty in our relationship with God, because He does for us, the cross is our constant reminder of that. Our YES should be on the table with God, so much so that it obliterates our personal comfort zone. God should have total access to our lives, yet casual Christianity has a heart that is full of compartments that God is not allowed in. We need to decompartmentalize our soul and become wholly-holy His. Christianity was never meant to be convenient. The heart of the Gospel is radical change. Jesus ushered in the most disruptive peace to the chaos of the enemy’s death wish. Jesus rose from the dead. This defeat of death ushered in the greatest transformation mankind would ever know, death to life. There is nothing casual about this, there was nothing comfortable about the cross of Jesus Christ. Where does your loyalty to God lie, on the surface, or does it run deep within your heart, as a commitment that is never described as casual. Are you living life as God’s sacrifice, where the power of God falls down upon you, or are you lighting your own fire where the fire you kindled flies up and flames out, leaving everyone in darkness? We take on the name of Jesus, we run deep with His truth, in vital-vertical relationship with God and experience the supernatural power of God upon our lives. God’s power ruptures the confines of the natural, it is supernatural Christianity, that presses beyond traditional beliefs into the reality of truth of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Are you ready to leave behind casual Christianity and go all in with God? Are you with me? All In? Religiosity is all about being a Christian in an exclusive comfort zone, and is a life without a living legacy, a life without the fire and power of GOD, a life that changes nothing. Renew your relationship with God. Ask Him: “How can I love you more? How can I love you better?” Lord give us an undivided heart that erases the casual in our Christianity and gives you total access to our lives. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/you-are-warned/

Ghosting is a cultural word that has sprung into use in this cultural climate where we cancel each other, devaluing each other for various reasons. Ghosting to me is being devalued by someone else, being treated like you are not viable, you are not visible. It is one person ignoring another person, treating them like they are not good enough, it is an elitist, self-righteous attitude towards another person. Ghosting isolates people and is used by people when they want to shun you from relating with them and usually comes out of an exclusivity, a snootiness of spirit that speaks with an attitude of: I am better than you, you are less than desirable to me. I have seen whole families who act this way, who care less what they do to other people’s hearts as they ghost people with an elite exclusivity, a snobby way of living that excludes with a self-righteous stank. Ghosters are people who don’t give other people permission to be in their presence. The worse part of it, is that most of the people I know who ghost others, call themselves Christians. This is not Christianity. How can you be a Christian when you are so rudely careless with other people’s hearts? I have to come to grips with this myself, because I have ghosted others in one way or another, especially when I want to run from conflict. But I have also been ghosted by other’s exclusivity, where they did not want to talk to me and they ignored me saying hello and walked right by as if I never spoke a word. The main commandment of Christianity is to love. (John 15:12-17) Ghosting is not love, excluding and exclusivity of others is not a reflection of Jesus. Jesus never devalued other people. If there was truth that needed to be spoken, Jesus did not run from it, He faced it head on and spoke truth in love. Jesus lived a life of compassion adding value to everyone He crossed life-path’s with and eventually gave His life for us, adding eternal value to our lives. Jesus Ghosted No One! Because of Jesus, we can live among “the rocks” and bloom in His life. We can be like Jesus as we depend upon Him to flesh us out and help us live out of His Kingdom precepts. It is possible to bloom in love even among the rocks, as we lean into God’s Sovereign Sway. Even in the harshest of elements of insults, hatred, anger, being ghosted by those who not only hate what we believe, but hate us. Yes, we can beautifully bloom in and through God’s love because we were created in the image of God and God is love. We can bloom in the bright SONshine of all God is. Life is not about us, it is all about Him and how He can empower us to bloom among the rocks. So if someone is “ghosting” you, devaluing you, cancelling you, don’t reflect that darkness, choose to bloom in the brightness of God, SHINE His Love and grow through, living, loving and laughing, blooming in bright yellow flowers among the rocks. Remember This: God does not “ghost” us, God stays with us, and we are seen by God and loved unconditionally by God and this has to be our enough when human beings do not love us well. God loves us well. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/faith-thoughts/

We will all respond to things differently because our “life story” shapes our reactions to life. I am thinking that maybe we would be more caring, compassionate, civil, forbearing, nice, kind, if we knew each other’s back story. Like take me for instance, I came from a long line of civil servants, so I am going to be sensitive about stories that make policemen out to be bad people, because I know from my “life story” that I have lived, that they, most of them, are amazing human beings. We do things strictly out of our upbringing and sometimes that overburdens us. We take things on that God has not put on our plate because that is the way were raised, so we are responding to life situations out of what we know. The best way to live life is not by kindling our own fires and walking by the light of a man-made fire that will flame out. The best, absolutely best way to live life is in followship of Jesus Christ, His way, His truth, His life. We, either take on too much or we don’t stray from our comfort zone to experience new things and all of this is related to the back drop of our experiences. We should really step outside of our comfort zone and experience new things. Often God has to practically “kick us out” of our comfort zone. We like to stay with what we know. Oh, how that can have a downside. Because we judge people, their life actions, reactions and responses by what we know, what we think we know from the backdrop of our life experiences. Sometimes it is best to let a strife filled situation go without adding our opinion, until we take the time to really get to know the person we don’t agree with. Civility begins with listening, learning and adjusting our attitudes by what we learn. I call this learning and growing together. Wouldn’t it be awesome if we all did this? Step outside of our comfort zone and truly get to know someone, know their backstory and respect them because of it. Jesus was that way. We should be too. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/civility/

If someone doesn’t like what you believe, it should end there, but it doesn’t, in persecution, this hatred goes further and it extends to you personally. Not only do they hate what you believe, but they hate you too. Persecution is ugly as its roots in deception, devaluing and despising all mix together into a formula of hate. Persecution comes in all forms, one of the simpler forms, (if you can even say that persecution is simple), is one that we do to one another. We “ghost” one another. We make the other person feel “invisible” like they have no value. We don’t want them in our life, we don’t agree with them, so we “ghost” them, treating them very rudely. I have personally done this and had it done to me. It is used as a form of self-protection, or it is used as a form of exclusion and isolating a person from your life. Most of us don’t really know what “real” persecution is. Most of us live in freedom. To me, persecution is emotional, mental and physical abuse used to conform you to another person’s way of thinking and can lead to your death. Like in North Korea, if you are found with a Bible, you could lose your life. Or in China, if you are a specific race, you are starved, physically beaten, and killed. If you do not conform in some countries to their communistic ways, you are subjected to physiological, mental, and physical abuse until your will and spirit are broken. Freedom is a fragile thing and persecution can overtake it little by little until it is gone. Once freedom is gone, it is super hard to get it back. Persecution is the vehicle the enemy uses to steal freedom and break the spirit of mankind, so they no longer have a will, except the will of the persecutor, the enemy of their soul. Faith in Jesus Christ is a point of persecution in many countries. Jesus said blessed are those who are persecuted for theirs is the Kingdom of God. God’s Truth remains, it stands from generation to generation. Unbelief does not change God’s Truth. Many people stand on the side of truth and are persecuted for it, but they are also blessed by God in ways we can’t even begin to imagine. God does not leave us when we are being persecuted, He is with us. He told us the truth that we would have trials in this world, but His peace would never leave us. Persecution is temporary, God’s kingdom is forever. There will come a time when we all will be persecuted for our belief in Jesus Christ, for our faith. Jesus and His truth are an anchor that will hold us in these stormy days we all find ourselves in. This is a season of deception; many are deceived into thinking right is wrong and wrong is right. This is why we guard our hearts diligently with God’s Truth, and we wear it as our armor in the spiritual battles of this generation. Jesus will fight for us; all we have to do is stand in the truth and stay in followship of Jesus. If you are being persecuted in any way, let God lead. Jesus knows about persecution. He was innocent of all charges, beaten, wounded by the corrupted supremacy of mankind. The human condition corrupted by illegitimate supremacy knows no power higher than self. Jesus was selfless, humble, meek and showed the power of true, legitimate Supremacy as He loved us as if He had never been hurt by us. This is how He responded to persecution. “Father forgive them, they know not what they do”. Jesus did not let persecution stop Him from completing His mission, He died our death, so we could live His life. He was blessed beyond measure as He defeated death for us, completed the greatest change that would ever be known to mankind, death to life. Persecution never wins. Stay On Mission! God has already won. The final word of justice will be His. Do not fear persecution, take the angst it creates in your soul and use that passion to pray for those who are persecuting others, to pray for those persecuted and stand firm in Jesus, and His Truth. On this day, put your YES is on the table with Jesus and His Kingdom. Jesus will help you to face your persecutors with courage, boldness, faith and patient endurance. In the power of God go we. Never underestimate God. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/stand-for-you/

Why do we distrust Him, our all-knowing God? Why do we chase after the thinkers of men whose “what they think they know” changes with the cultural tide? We seek all the opinions of all the so-called experts when we are looking for a solution and none of them navigate us in the right direction. All we really want to do is make the next right choice for us and our family, yet we can’t find our way through the fog of deception which has evaded this life season. God sees us, God knows us. God is all-knowing. We believe in God, but do we believe He is all knowing? If we do, then why not ask God when we come to a crossroad and we can’t see ahead. Why don’t we ask God for the solution we are seeking? What do you want to step out on? Do you want to step out on a presumption or on truth? Why should you guess at something when you can know? He knows everything, He knows every hair on our head. So when we find ourselves tossed about by false narratives and fake reality, He is the best source of truth. If we light our own fire and walk by the light of a man-made fire, it will flame out. Assumption is following after a worldly viewpoint that distorts our reality, because it is not truth. Assumptions lean us into self-dependence, where the full weight of the solution is all on us. Self-dependence is hard to maneuver in stressful times, because the broad road does not have that comfortable boundary that the narrow road of God’s truth does. The same thing happens when we are lazy and we take an opinion over truth, we don’t seek out truth, we settle with a “maybe this is true”. We can ask God to Navigate us by His wisdom and He will. Self-dependence is not a good thing because when we fail, we are truly alone, and most of the time this leads to isolation. This is exactly what the enemy wants, us to be isolated, outside of God’s Presence so he can stir up the chaos in our soul to kill, steal and destroy all of our peace. We are never stuck in chaos, like our enemy would like us to think. Just the mention of the name of Jesus, and the Shalom of God destroys our enemy’s chaos! What do you do when you need wisdom? You don’t need an assumption; you need the reality of truth. Does your wisdom seeking start with God? The best wisdom that we step out with, it begins with God and it ends well. Need something? Ask God! Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/acknowledge-god/

We can focus on all the “have nots” and go off on a bunny trail of fret, displeasure and grumbling. “Have Nots” are temporary, yet we do “have a Have” which is permanent. Our “Have” is Jesus. In the midst of all the “have nots” we seem to be focused on more and more in this life season of cultural chaos, we “have a HAVE”, He is a Way-Maker, He is a Provider, He loves us well. There is nothing that God can’t do for us, there is nothing He can’t provide us, there is nothing that He doesn’t know. That is the coolest thing about our God. Sometimes we have no clue about the direction of even our next step. GOD KNOWS! There is no clarity in times such as these, deception is a fog in our culture. It is hard to know the next right step and sometimes our “have not” is the chart for our course. Yet, we do HAVE the best Navigator in the universe, God’s Holy Spirit. When you don’t know, ask God! Jesus is our “Have” that trumps every single “have not” that we can think to complain about. So why even grumble, why not just pray and ask God for what we need and wait, watch and see Him deliver in that way only He can. We may not like God’s methods that bring us down narrow paths full of the prickers of “have not”, but in the heavenly hindsight of our lives, all of the plans we have made that have been thwarted by God, He has done a better thing for us than we could even begin to hope for or imagine. God changes things up. Our God is a “crazy good” Navigator, and He can chart our course through all the “have nots” right out of the cultural chaos, into smooth shalom sailing. He is so good at disrupting the enemy’s chaos that flows in with our “have nots” and bring about a purposeful, amazing end game for us. Yes, despite all of our “have nots” we HAVE the greatest and most amazing Awe-GOD Redeemer, Who has taken the “have not” of life, death, and transformed it into the HAVE of eternal life. There is no “have not” that will prosper, in our lives as we trust Him to change it up to a HAVE all things in Christ, the hope of glory. God bless ya. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/nothing-is-to-difficult-for-thee/

Go with the flow! Right?!! Been there and done that. God is always on the move and we are all trying to keep up with what He is doing. Sometimes things change so quickly that you can’t wrap your mind around it. If we lean into God’s Sovereign sway, go with what He is doing, life is less frustrating. God does do new things and sometimes we don’t know where He is leading. God likes to change things up in our lives, so we have to depend on Him more. We can react to change by bucking up our will and trying to walk against the current of our reality and do our own thing, that never quite works out. It is very exasperating and exhausting! The best thing for us to do is turn away from dependence on self, yield our lives to God’s way and follow after where He is leading. Followship can be a great God Adventure, such a good thing, as you surrender to God and give Him total access to your life. I am thinking followship is definitely a way we serve a power higher than ourselves, as we yield our lives to God, giving Him total access to our life. There is no room for selfishness in the followship of God, and the God adventure is always pretty amazing. The truth is, being victorious is faithfully hanging out with God and being wholly-holy aligned with His Kingdom purpose in play in your life! Followship after Jesus, His Life-Truth-Way will make you victorious, you won’t be a loser in Him, His endgame is amazing and that’s the truth! That is why the one thing that stands out when you are in followship of God is a good attitude, even in a bad situation. So today, determine in your heart that you will follow God and grow through every season with reverent-submissive-obedience. Followship Such A Good Thing! God knows as I endure through long seasons of waiting, there is less of me and more of Him active. With God charting my course, at the helm of my life, I grow through things better, gaining a Kingdom perspective that is much more valuable than getting the worldly things that I want, that are influenced by cultural say so. Followship Is A Good God Thing! Awe-GOD! Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/true-followship/

I know you hear many messages instructing you how to be independent and live by your own personal strength and wisdom. The craftiness of the media is to overload your senses and covertly maneuver into the centerpiece of your thinking. Your enemy has devised the perfect strategy of successfully jamming your mind with the disinformation of the world and deprive you of God’s communication of truth, discernment, and peace. It begins with little suggestions in your mind that something is just not right, and then the “over thinking” starts. Wondering, speculating, presuming, assuming, all these nasty devil tactics that stir up anxiety through the deceptive process of mind chaos. Nothing good comes out of a lie, and if you are worrying about something that has not even happened yet, then you are on a shaky foundation of an untruth. We waste so much time with our “what if” scenarios that stir up our emotions and leave us anxiety ridden. Why do we let the enemy twist up our gut in that way? Life is too short to be stirring up so much anxiety over something that may not even occur. That is our enemy, he loves to work us up with deception. Anxiety high? What have you been thinking about what has your mind distracted and of course what are you presuming? There is a lot in our chaotic culture that will keep us riding the wild ride of chaos as we stand back aghast at the deplorable human condition rolling downhill fast, day after day. So, we don’t know what is coming next, and things ahead don’t look too well. So, we project our assumptions propelled by anxious thoughts, and we go faster and faster with irrational thought patterns, until we crash and burn emotionally. There is a better way to deal with all of the cultural chaos in days such as these. We are walking through some incredibly distracting, high anxiety times. Wars and rumors of wars, things we never thought would be happening right now. Our enemy causes chaos and then we struggle with the unknown, and the fear of this disrupts our soul. On a narrow path, looking anxiously ahead? Get with Jesus, take one step at a time, one foot ahead of another. As we stay tight in our vital-vertical relationship with God, He will make a way of peace, where there seems to be no way. Shalom~ in the Presence of God, chaos is disintegrated. We can trust God in times such as these, where everything is shaking. God is an amazing Advocate. God sees us and knows where we are at and where we are going. God has a plan, His purposes are in play in the unseen. He is trustworthy. So, shake off the anxiety, focus up and follow after God. He’s got us. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/no-anxiety/

This Hurts! Has something happened in your life where you feel so hurt by it, you can’t even breathe? You feel sick inside by a horrific decision someone made that hurt so many, that hurt children? Feel like there is not a way back from this? People hurt people, and then hurt people react to those who have hurt them. It makes the family a battle ground of emotions, wounded hearts and people estranged from people. At times it feels not fixable, so we walk away, sometimes alienated for months, sometimes for years, sometimes forever on this side of heaven. Forgiveness is not an easy option for someone who has done something you don’t feel they can come back from. Is forgiveness a feeling? No! Forgiveness is not a feeling, it is a followship of Jesus. We betrayed Jesus, we hurt Jesus, we wounded Jesus, we killed Jesus. Jesus loved us like He had never been hurt by us, like we never even wounded Him. “Father, forgive them, they know not what they do!” Jesus made the choice to forgive and He acted on it and went to the cross for us, died our death, taking our death sentence, our sins on Him, so we could live free. Unforgiveness begets bitterness, and bitterness becomes a root of evil in us. This is the trap of the enemy. Side step it. Forgive that person who has devastated your family life and let go and let God work out the way to reconciliation. Forgiveness is our choice; reconciliation is God’s echo to our forgiving. Sometimes forgiveness is a moment-to-moment thing. We have to keep forgiving from every moment to every choice. We have to decide to make the next right choice. People hurt people, but it doesn’t have to end there, it can continue with people forgiving people. The only way UP from a bitter broken heart is bowed DOWN before God, surrendering every feeling, right and hurt we have to Him, and giving Him permission to mend our heart. Yes, it hurts to get hurt, but then you have to make the next right choice. If everyone makes bad choices out of bad choices, then all we have is human badness. We have to make the choice to love, even though we have been so hurt, pressing forward and fighting for what is right, to respond with what is right. Wounded people, hurt people, but people who are wounded by hurting people don’t have to do the same. I find myself at this crossroad. What choice will I make? I have not reacted well to a “this is devastating” situation in my family. I don’t believe there is a way back from this hurt, I can’t see a way back to forgiveness, to family reconciliation. This is my crossroad decision: My only way UP is bowed DOWN to the ONE Who did make the right choice, to love even though He had been hurt. Jesus, The King Of Heaven. Humbly Bow. Make the next right choice. Bow. Surrender To God. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/the-warrior-is-a-child/