BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Pastor Scott and Nathan take aim at the false versions of the gospel that many Christians unknowingly live by. From shame-driven obedience to cheap grace disguised as freedom, they explore how distorted theology and unchallenged narratives quietly shape our faith. Drawing from personal ministry experiences, they discuss when it’s necessary to confront teachers, peers, and even ourselves. This conversation is a call to examine not just what we believe, but who told us to believe it — and to courageously realign with the truth of Jesus. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) The Gospel We Didn’t Mean to Believe - Nathan and Scott expose how distorted views of God, sin, and ourselves quietly shape our theology. (19:09) False Freedom vs. Real Accountability - They explore how the gospel is often misapplied to excuse sin, and why real discipleship involves confronting friends and leaders in love. (36:00) How We Stay Stuck (Even When Forgiven) - This section challenges the false belief that forgiveness always equals freedom. They unpack how healing often requires confrontation, clarity, and action. (55:13) Discerning What (and Who) to Confront - They close by addressing when to confront a person, when to confront a teaching, and when to confront yourself—so truth can lead, not reaction. — EPISODE LINKS — • The Life & Times of Jesus the Messiah, by Alfred Edersheim https://a.co/d/6BRixAQ • Podcast Playlist | Galatians Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/ • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • More Content & Resources at Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Pastor Scott and I talk about what it really takes to walk in freedom and how we are to walk in repentance, not performance, but as raw, awkward honesty before God and others. We share stories of people who found healing simply by admitting they didn’t know what to do next. With our insights on leading others to freedom, our vulnerability, and the Gospel’s power to transform, this episode is a call to bring your real self into the light — and let God do the rest. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.* — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) When Repentance Gets Real - Repentance often begins with admitting, “I don’t know what to do.” Nathan and Scott talk about awkward honesty as the first step toward real change. (14:55) Honest Leaders, Healthy Churches - Vulnerability from leaders sets the tone for healing. They discuss how repentance—not image—is what shapes healthy church culture. (25:24) Let the Gospel Work - Spiritual maturity starts when we stop performing and live the gospel fully. They challenge the habit of managing appearances. (40:47) The Fruit of Vulnerability - Freedom and healing follow honesty. Real-life stories show how God meets us in truth and transforms us through community. — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ •More Content & Resources at Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Pastor Kevin continue their discussion about the challenges of balancing ministry, marriage, and parenting. As a Youth Pastor, Kevin reflects on his desire to be a supplemental voice in students’ lives — not a replacement for spiritually engaged parents. Together, they discuss how youth ministry should support what’s happening at home, not carry it. Kevin opens up about the pressures of leadership, the importance of putting his marriage first, and the lessons learned from marriage counseling and personal failures. He also shares how his upbringing shaped his views on emotional vulnerability — and why he’s committed to being open with his wife. They dive deep into parenting, calling out the dangers of disengagement and the power of simply being present. Kevin’s advice to parents: ask real questions, build trust daily, and don't let fear or shame keep you from connecting with your kids. Whether you're in ministry or not, this episode reminds us that consistency, honesty, and grace are the foundations of impactful relationships. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.* — EPISODE LINKS — • STB128 | Youth Ministry + Pastor Kevin E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/podcast/stb128/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Kevin, where they swap stories about fishing (or, in Nathan’s case, the complete inability to catch anything). They discuss how our connection with God shifts through life’s changing seasons and the chaos of parenting. They also explore how spiritual growth doesn't always happen in quiet solitude, but often through the loud, messy, and beautiful moments of ordinary life. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.* — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott dive into what it takes to build spiritually mature relationships marked by humility, repentance, and growth. They explore how real connection requires more than surface-level friendship — it demands a willingness to confront sin, seek forgiveness, and walk in grace. They also encourage us to pursue relationships that reflect the transforming power of the gospel through honesty, accountability, and love.*Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.* — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Practical Ways to Rebuke the Enemy (12:31) Does God Allow Greater Temptations? (26:32) Wasting Suffering and Temptations & the Process of Walking Our of Temptation (36:16) Steps 2-8 in the Process of Walking Out of Temptation — EPISODE LINKS — • STB126 | BSE | Maturity Requires Repentance E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb126/ • Podcast Playlist | 1 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john •The Habit Tree Worksheet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/ •Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism •The God Who Risks, by John Sanders (Amazon) https://a.co/d/e2CfqQZ •Small Group Series | Failure https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-2-failure/ •More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — (1) ACKNOWLEDGE THE TEMPTATION • What temptation is common to you? (1 Corinthians 10:13) • What sins or addictions do you know you struggle with? (2) IDENTIFY YOUR BAIT (TRIGGERS / RED FLAGS) • When, where, how, or with whom does the temptation usually present itself? (Proverbs 7:6-27) • What are the scenes (places) of the temptation? Don’t revisit them! (Proverbs 26:11) • Are you tired, hungry, emotionally exhausted, or stressed? (3) RECOGNIZE TYPICAL RESPONSES • How do you typically respond to this temptation? • How have you tried to resist this temptation? Has it worked? (Secure a divers arsenal) If you have given in before, choose to do it a different way! (4) PRE-DETERMINE YOUR NEXT RESPONSE • Are you securing a diverse arsenal of offensive & defensive weaponry? (Nehemiah 4) (e.g., Accountability, Communication, Scripture, Diversions, Pre-Emptive Actions, Corporate Prayer, Personal Prayer, Remove Bait, Confess Temptation, etc.) • Are you agreeing with Jesus and his victory over Satan, sin, and death? (Colossians 2:15) • Are you actively seeking the exit to temptation? (1 Corinthians 10:13) (5) CONFESS, REPENT, & FORGIVE KNOWN SINS • Are you confessing and repenting of known sin to people AND Jesus? (1 John 1:8-9) • Are you forgiving other people of their sin? (Matthew 6:14-15; Ephesians 4:25-32) (6) AGREE WITH WHO YOU ARE IN JESUS • Do you see yourself as dead to sin? (Romans 6:1-14) • Are you walking as though Christ were at home in you? (Ephesians 3:14-19;Galatians 2:20) (7) RENEW YOUR MIND • What are you filling your thoughts with? (Philippians 4:8; 1 Timothy 2:22; Titus 1:15) • Are you getting rid of anything that generates tempting thoughts? (Ephesians 4:23, 31) (8) RESIST THE DEVIL • Are you taking thoughts and ideas captive? (2 Corinthians 10:5) • Are you submitting to Jesus, his will, and commands? (James 4:7; John 15:1-17) (e.g., Repentance, Forgiveness, Read Scripture, Believe Truth, Live in Community, Etc.) • Are you resisting Satan, his servants, and their works and effects in your life? (James 4:7-10)

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott dive into what it takes to build spiritually mature relationships marked by humility, repentance, and growth. They explore how real connection requires more than surface-level friendship — it demands a willingness to confront sin, seek forgiveness, and walk in grace. They also encourage us to pursue relationships that reflect the transforming power of the gospel through honesty, accountability, and love.*Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.* — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction (15:09) Maturity Goes Beyond Actions to Motives (24:31) How We Develop Doctrines (37:20) 1 Corinthians 10.13 — EPISODE LINKS — • Podcast Playlist | 1 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john •The Habit Tree Worksheet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/ •Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism •The God Who Risks, by John Sanders (Amazon) https://a.co/d/e2CfqQZ •Small Group Series | Failure https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-2-failure/ •More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — (1) ACKNOWLEDGE THE TEMPTATION • What temptation is common to you? (1 Corinthians 10:13) • What sins or addictions do you know you struggle with? (2) IDENTIFY YOUR BAIT (TRIGGERS / RED FLAGS) • When, where, how, or with whom does the temptation usually present itself? (Proverbs 7:6-27) • What are the scenes (places) of the temptation? Don’t revisit them! (Proverbs 26:11) • Are you tired, hungry, emotionally exhausted, or stressed? (3) RECOGNIZE TYPICAL RESPONSES • How do you typically respond to this temptation? • How have you tried to resist this temptation? Has it worked? (Secure a divers arsenal) If you have given in before, choose to do it a different way! (4) PRE-DETERMINE YOUR NEXT RESPONSE • Are you securing a diverse arsenal of offensive & defensive weaponry? (Nehemiah 4) (e.g., Accountability, Communication, Scripture, Diversions, Pre-Emptive Actions, Corporate Prayer, Personal Prayer, Remove Bait, Confess Temptation, etc.) • Are you agreeing with Jesus and his victory over Satan, sin, and death? (Colossians 2:15) • Are you actively seeking the exit to temptation? (1 Corinthians 10:13) (5) CONFESS, REPENT, & FORGIVE KNOWN SINS • Are you confessing and repenting of known sin to people AND Jesus? (1 John 1:8-9) • Are you forgiving other people of their sin? (Matthew 6:14-15; Ephesians 4:25-32) (6) AGREE WITH WHO YOU ARE IN JESUS • Do you see yourself as dead to sin? (Romans 6:1-14) • Are you walking as though Christ were at home in you? (Ephesians 3:14-19;Galatians 2:20) (7) RENEW YOUR MIND • What are you filling your thoughts with? (Philippians 4:8; 1 Timothy 2:22; Titus 1:15) • Are you getting rid of anything that generates tempting thoughts? (Ephesians 4:23, 31) (8) RESIST THE DEVIL • Are you taking thoughts and ideas captive? (2 Corinthians 10:5) • Are you submitting to Jesus, his will, and commands? (James 4:7; John 15:1-17) (e.g., Repentance, Forgiveness, Read Scripture, Believe Truth, Live in Community, Etc.) • Are you resisting Satan, his servants, and their works and effects in your life? (James 4:7-10)

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott talk about what prayer truly is — and what it isn’t by looking at the disciples’ prayer in Matthew 6.5-14. Prayer isn’t just a monologue directed at God; it’s a real conversation with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. They explore how prayer includes not just speaking, but also listening for God’s response and how to grow in our ability to hear His voice, not just Bible verses and what we think He’s saying.*Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.* — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction (11:20) Matthew 6.5-7 (29:28) Matthew 6.8-14 (43:42) Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — •The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ •STB124 | BSE | Real, Vulnerable Prayer E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb124/ •More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — What is Prayer? Prayer, by its nature, defines God as personal (Psalm 34.18; 139.7-12; Romans 10.20-21; Jeremiah 23.23-24). Prayer is a real and specific, vulnerable conversation with God (Matthew 6.9; 1 Timothy 2.5; Romans 8.26): The Father: giver of identity & destiny (e.g., plans, purpose, and design issues) The Son: revealer of identity & destiny (e.g., relationship and circumstantial issues) The Holy Spirit: empowerer of identity & destiny (e.g., ability and emotional issues) God desires connection with us (Psalm 51.16-17; Hosea 6.6). Jesus reveals this in his own life (schedule: Luke 5.15-16; grieving: Matthew 14.13; joy: Luke 10.21; struggle: Luke 22.39-46). APPLICATION QUESTION(S):When or with whom (or what) do you avoid prayer or neglect to pray? What part does prayer play in your life when making plans or preparing for the future? Prayer: Moment-by-Moment Dependence Upon the Holy Spirit Jesus assumes that Christians pray (Commanded: Matthew 6.5-8; Demonstrated: Matthew 14.23; 19.13; Mark 6.46; 14.35) and Paul reveals what prayer looks like: moment-by-moment (Romans 12.12; Philippians 4.6; Colossians 4.2; 1 Thessalonians 5.17). Jesus gives us the disciples’ prayer as an example in Matthew 6: v. 5 – We pray… sincerely – not ritualistically, legalistically, or formulaic. v. 6a – We pray intimately, without distraction. v. 6b – We don’t admire demonic religious prayers – our standard must be Jesus. v. 9a – We pray corporately to God as a dad. v. 9b – We believe God is uniquely separate and altogether different – His core nature. v. 10 – We believe God is King and He is in charge – bold submission. v. 11 – We pray for their needs – receive grace for our fears, worries, and anxieties. v. 12 – We pray for repentance and forgiveness – as we forgive, God forgives us. v. 13 – We pray for victory in temptation – empowerment by the Holy Spirit. APPLICATION QUESTION(S):How does the way you pray reveal your desire for community, connection, and dependence upon God rather than comfort, personal preferences, or control? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – ALIGN YOUR DESIRES WITH JESUS’ KINGDOM (Matthew 6.10): Jesus begins his prayer model by centering everything on who God is, His Kingdom, and His will — this reminds us to set aside personal desires and seek God’s desire first in every area of life. Ask the Holy Spirit:What part of my life needs to be more aligned with Your Kingdom (think fruit of the Spirit) and less about my own control or comfort? STEP #2 – DEPEND DAILY ON THE HEAVENLY FATHER’S PROVISION (Matthew 6.11): This prayer doesn’t ask for excess or wants but rather for our needs to be met — challenging both our tendency toward self-indulgence or anxiety about the future. It draws us toward living dependent upon God daily. Ask the Holy Spirit:How am I struggling to believe or see You as responsible and in charge in that area of my life? STEP #3 – RESPOND TO WHO GOD IS IN THE MIDST OF NEED (Matthew 6.13): Instead of reacting from fear, self-protection, or control when needs arise, we can ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the Father’s character in the moment — then align our response with that truth. This is how dependence leads to transformation and peace of mind. Ask the Holy Spirit:What is the truth about who You are in this situation? In response to this truth, what can I do that would reveal my agreement and dependence upon who You are?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott talk about what prayer truly is — and what it isn’t by looking at the disciples’ prayer in Matthew 6.5-14. Prayer isn’t just a monologue directed at God; it’s a real conversation with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. They explore how prayer includes not just speaking, but also listening for God’s response and how to grow in our ability to hear His voice, not just Bible verses and what we think He’s saying.*Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.* — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction (07:22) What Prayer Is & Is Not (26:05) Real, Vulnerable Conversation with God (39:53) Prayer to the Trinity — EPISODE LINKS — •The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ •More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — What is Prayer? Prayer, by its nature, defines God as personal (Psalm 34.18; 139.7-12; Romans 10.20-21; Jeremiah 23.23-24). Prayer is a real and specific, vulnerable conversation with God (Matthew 6.9; 1 Timothy 2.5; Romans 8.26): The Father: giver of identity & destiny (e.g., plans, purpose, and design issues) The Son: revealer of identity & destiny (e.g., relationship and circumstantial issues) The Holy Spirit: empowerer of identity & destiny (e.g., ability and emotional issues) God desires connection with us (Psalm 51.16-17; Hosea 6.6). Jesus reveals this in his own life (schedule: Luke 5.15-16; grieving: Matthew 14.13; joy: Luke 10.21; struggle: Luke 22.39-46). APPLICATION QUESTION(S):When or with whom (or what) do you avoid prayer or neglect to pray? What part does prayer play in your life when making plans or preparing for the future? Prayer: Moment-by-Moment Dependence Upon the Holy Spirit Jesus assumes that Christians pray (Commanded: Matthew 6.5-8; Demonstrated: Matthew 14.23; 19.13; Mark 6.46; 14.35) and Paul reveals what prayer looks like: moment-by-moment (Romans 12.12; Philippians 4.6; Colossians 4.2; 1 Thessalonians 5.17). Jesus gives us the disciples’ prayer as an example in Matthew 6: v. 5 – We pray… sincerely – not ritualistically, legalistically, or formulaic. v. 6a – We pray intimately, without distraction. v. 6b – We don’t admire demonic religious prayers – our standard must be Jesus. v. 9a – We pray corporately to God as a dad. v. 9b – We believe God is uniquely separate and altogether different – His core nature. v. 10 – We believe God is King and He is in charge – bold submission. v. 11 – We pray for their needs – receive grace for our fears, worries, and anxieties. v. 12 – We pray for repentance and forgiveness – as we forgive, God forgives us. v. 13 – We pray for victory in temptation – empowerment by the Holy Spirit. APPLICATION QUESTION(S):How does the way you pray reveal your desire for community, connection, and dependence upon God rather than comfort, personal preferences, or control? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – ALIGN YOUR DESIRES WITH JESUS’ KINGDOM (Matthew 6.10): Jesus begins his prayer model by centering everything on who God is, His Kingdom, and His will — this reminds us to set aside personal desires and seek God’s desire first in every area of life. Ask the Holy Spirit:What part of my life needs to be more aligned with Your Kingdom (think fruit of the Spirit) and less about my own control or comfort? STEP #2 – DEPEND DAILY ON THE HEAVENLY FATHER’S PROVISION (Matthew 6.11): This prayer doesn’t ask for excess or wants but rather for our needs to be met — challenging both our tendency toward self-indulgence or anxiety about the future. It draws us toward living dependent upon God daily. Ask the Holy Spirit:How am I struggling to believe or see You as responsible and in charge in that area of my life? STEP #3 – RESPOND TO WHO GOD IS IN THE MIDST OF NEED (Matthew 6.13): Instead of reacting from fear, self-protection, or control when needs arise, we can ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the Father’s character in the moment — then align our response with that truth. This is how dependence leads to transformation and peace of mind. Ask the Holy Spirit:What is the truth about who You are in this situation? In response to this truth, what can I do that would reveal my agreement and dependence upon who You are?

Nathan and Phil dive into some hot-button topics — they discuss convictions (opinions) on worship music and address the controversy surrounding certain churches' cultures and the songs they produce. They also reveal the often judgmental tone of “heresy hunter” ministries that claim to defend the Gospel but sometimes miss the heart of grace. They explore how believers can engage with non-Christians — when it’s wise, when it’s not, and how to navigate those relationships without compromising faith or integrity. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott wrap up Philemon 21–25 by highlighting Paul’s confidence that Philemon will go beyond what’s asked — not out of pressure, but because the gospel has truly transformed him. His obedience isn’t just submission to Paul, but evidence of the Holy Spirit’s work. Philemon’s discipleship is marked by radical love and vulnerable community, not safe, self-imposed limits. This is the power of a life changed by grace. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (13:57) PHILEMON 8-16 (26:47) PHILEMON 17-20 (48:50) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • STB033 | Intentionality + Joiners https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb033/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — PHILEMON 21: PAUL AFFIRMS PHILEMON'S GOSPEL TRANSFORMATION Paul expresses confidence that Philemon will go beyond what he asked — not because of pressure, but because the gospel has truly changed him. Philemon’s obedience goes beyond submission to Paul, it is an outcome of the transformative power of the Holy Spirit working within him. Philemon’s discipleship was shaped by radical love and vulnerable community, not safe, individualistic self-imposed limits. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Am I living a faith that goes beyond what is expected (doing enough to be “right with God”), reflecting a heart transformed by the Holy Spirit? PHILEMON 22-25: PHILEMON'S CHURCH Philemon’s Spirit-filled, life-giving community includes Apphia (likely Philemon’s wife), Archippus (likely the leader), Onesimus (his slave), Epaphras (an intercessor), Mark (now reconciled to Paul after 12 years), Aristarchus (a traveling companion of Paul based out of Colossae), Demas (who would later selfishly desert Paul), and Luke (Paul’s personal doctor and memoirist). Unnamed (See Colossians 4.7-18): Tychicus, Jesus (Justus), Nympha and the whole Laodicean church (or Ephesian church). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): How does my Spirit-filled, life-giving community challenge and support me to live beyond the bare minimum of obedience to the risky generosity (e.g., financial, relational, spiritual, etc.) of a maturing Christian? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 - TRUST THE SPIRIT TO DO MORE THAN EXPECTED (Philemon 21): Paul affirms Philemon’s faith and transformation. Ask the Holy Spirit: Where are You inviting me to go beyond what’s expected — to love, forgive, or serve in a way that reflects Your generously sacrificial heart? STEP #2 - INVITE COMMUNITY INTO YOUR GROWTH (Philemon 2, 23-24): Philemon’s community provided encouragement and accountability amidst a safe, Spirit-filled, life-giving atmosphere. Ask the Holy Spirit: Who are three specific individuals You have placed in my life who can challenge me, encourage me, and hold me accountable for what You are doing in my life? STEP #3 - OBEY FROM GRACE, NOT OBLIGATION (Philemon 25): Paul knows Philemon’s response will be one of gracious submission rather than dutiful obligation — from love rather than law. Ask the Holy Spirit: Where am I living from law (pressure or guilt) rather than love (faith or freedom)? What lie am I believing that leads me to operate out of pressure and guilt? What is the truth You want to teach me that will lead to faith and freedom?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott explore Philemon 8–20, where Paul models the gospel by stepping in on behalf of Onesimus, offering to repay his debt to Philemon. This powerful passage reveals that true reconciliation requires both repentance and forgiveness. Paul’s appeal goes beyond personal favor — it’s a call for Philemon to live out the gospel by welcoming Onesimus not as a slave, but as a brother. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (26:37) PHILEMON 8-16 (52:47) PHILEMON 17-20 (1:07:56) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • STB084 | Forgiveness: The Process of Reconciliation & Restoration https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb084/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — PHILEMON 8-9: PAUL APPEALS TO HIMSELF AS THE AUTHORITY Paul begins his light-hearted, sarcastic yet firm request to Philemon by appealing to himself, his age, and his imprisonment — stating that while he could order Philemon based upon his own status, he would rather appeal to him in love (knowing Philemon’s own change of heart as a result of the Gospel). PHILEMON 10-16: PAUL EXPLAINS WHAT HAPPENED Paul lays out how his and Onesimus’ relationship began and how he became a Christian. He also appeals to what was originally a selfish move on Onesimus’ part, God used for redemption — the idea being what the enemy schemed for evil, God schemes for good. He also reveals, as a Christian, the change in the relational dynamic between Onesimus and Philemon one of equals rather than of hierarchy while technically the hierarchy still remains in place (v. 16, “…more than a slave…”) APPLICATION QUESTION(S): How does this passage apply to someone who does not own a slave? What Gospel-centered Kingdom realities are present that challenge our own individualistic views of boundaries and cultural views of justice? PHILEMON 17-20: PAUL DEMONSTRATES THE GOSPEL ON BEHALF OF ONESIMUS As Jesus did on behalf of Philemon, Paul does on behalf of Onesimus — he pays a debt he does not personally owe. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What does Paul’s willingness to cover Onesimus’ debt teach us as Christian about the cost of reconciliation with those who have wronged us? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 - EMBRACE THE COST OF RECONCILIATION (Philemon 18): True reconciliation, like Jesus demonstrated, often requires absorbing a personal cost. Ask the Holy Spirit: What Christian in my life am I unwilling to personally sacrifice for especially if I were to receive nothing in return? STEP #2 - SEE CHRISTIANS AS SIBLINGS CREATED BY GOD (Philemon 16): Just as Philemon is to view Onesimus as a brother challenge yourself to view other Christians who have wronged you as a fellow child of God as you are. Ask the Holy Spirit: How do You see [insert person listed above]? STEP #3 - TAKE ACTION TOWARD RECONCILIATION (Philemon 17): The process of reconciliation isn’t passive — regardless of what side of the offense you are on (either the offender, like Onesimus, or the offended, like Philemon) it is a process that will require active selflessness and likely sacrificial steps. Ask the Holy Spirit: What practical step can I take toward reconciling with [insert person listed in step #1], even if it means humbling myself and absorbing the cost?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott unpack Philemon 1–7 and Paul's addressing of Philemon, Apphia, and Archippus — along with their whole house church — as a united community rather than just individuals. Within the context of Colossians 4.1-18 and "Ephesians" 6.21-24, the introduction of Philemon (1-7) illustrates the collective responsibility of believers within a Spirit-filled, life-giving community to live out the gospel. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (06:40) PHILEMON 1-3 (1:00:24) PHILEMON 4-7 (1:13:27) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • Small Group Series | Friendship https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-4-friendship/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — PHILEMON 1-3: INTRODUCTION Author: Paul through Timothy → carried by Tychicus and Onesimus (slave) (see Colossians 4.1-18; Ephesians 6.21-24). Audience: Philemon (slave owner), Apphia (possibly Philemon’s wife) & Archippus (possibly the lead pastor and house church host). Date: c.59-61 AD during imprisonment in Rome awaiting trial under Nero (cf. Acts 27-28). Colossians (c.59~61 AD), “Ephesians” (c.59-61 AD), Revelation (c.67~68 AD) 2.1-7 (Ephesus); and 3.14-22 (Laodicea). Paul addresses Philemon, Apphia, and Archippus — along with their whole house church — as a united community rather than just individuals. This introduction highlights the collective responsibility of believers in living out the gospel as it will personally apply to Philemon and his slave, Onesimus. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Why do you think Paul makes resolving personal issues and conflict a public matter, inviting Philemon’s church to partner with him in the reconciliation process with Onesimus? In what ways do you personally fight against the temptation to be individualistic in your struggles and conflicts? PHILEMON 4-7: PAUL AFFIRMS OF PHILEMON Paul commends Philemon for his sacrificial love and demonstrated faith, especially for how he has refreshed and encouraged the believers in his house church. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Why do you think Paul advocates for a believer’s faith to go beyond a private or intellectual pursuit to one that impacts the church community around them? Do you think Paul would agree or disagree that a Christian’s life is one of privacy, independence, and personal devotion? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 - EMBRACE FAITH AS A SHARED JOURNEY (Philemon 1-3): The Christian life is not meant to be lived in isolation. Rather it is meant to be lived in community — where mutually beneficial encouragement, accountability, and love are demonstrated. Ask the Holy Spirit: Who have You placed in my life to walk with me in faith, and how can I engage more deeply with them? STEP #2 - ADDRESS STRUGGLES AND CONFLICT TOGETHER (Philemon 4-6): Sin, conflict, and personal struggles are not meant to be dealt with alone. God desires us to seek wisdom, restoration, and healing within the Christian community. Ask the Holy Spirit: What conflict or struggle have I been handling alone that I need to bring into the light with some trusted believers? STEP #3 - REFRESH OTHERS THROUGH LOVE AND ENCOURAGEMENT (Philemon 7): True faith is not just personal devotion — it overflows into relationships, bringing strength and renewal to others. Ask the Holy Spirit: Who can I refresh this week through an encouraging, comforting, or challenging word; personal prayer and intercession; or through practical support or bring relief to them in their struggles?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott discuss Romans 8.26-39, showing how we can share the same glory as Jesus and the Father. They also share how Christians are more than conquerors through Jesus, and nothing (except our own lack of faith) can remove us from God’s protection and vindication. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (05:23) ROMANS 8.26-30 (46:28) ROMANS 8.31-39 (1:10:11) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 8.26-30: SUFFERING + THE HOLY SPIRIT = OUR GLORIFICATION Our suffering (for Jesus) with the Holy Spirit leads to our maturity (becoming like Jesus) and our glorification (with Jesus) to the glory (plan and purpose) of the Father. • John 17.1-26 – Glorify means that we make known — through acknowledging, seeking after, trusting, and praising Him — His actions, desires, opinions, purposes, thoughts, and approval. • Glory of God → Glory of Jesus → Glory of Us → Gives God Glory (Gk. doxazo from doxa = to be worthy of high opinion, honor, approval, or praise) • In God’s view of time (foreknowing our failure), he planned (predestined) humanity to conform to Jesus (redemption) → therefore He invites (calls) all humanity (see John 12.32) → those who respond in faith (see Romans 3.21-30) are made right (justified) → only those who are of faith are then given the glory of Jesus and the Father (John 17.1-26). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What struggles do you have with the concept that as a believer you share the same glory with both the Father and Jesus as you trust the Holy Spirit in your weakness? ROMANS 8.31-39: WE ARE IN GOOD HANDS No suffering or attack against us (because of Jesus) will conquer or overtake us as we trust in the Holy Spirit. In fact, we are more than conquerors. Nothing — except our own lack of faith — can remove us from God’s protection or vindication. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): If we are more than conquerors and God works all things out for our good, what might this mean for circumstances that appear to not work out in our favor or for our benefit? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 - LET THE HOLY SPIRIT BE IN CONTROL (Romans 8.26): You do not have to navigate pain and hardship alone. Ask the Holy Spirit: What would it look like for me to release to You the outcome of ________________ [insert a decision, circumstance, or relationship]? STEP #2 - TRUST THE HEAVENLY FATHER TO WORK (Romans 8.28): If the outcome is not good, then God is not finished working on your behalf. However, you do not get to decide what “good” means for your life and the lives of those you love. Ask the Holy Spirit: How can I change my definition of good to agree with Yours? STEP #3 - KNOW THAT YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER LOVES YOU (Romans 8.38-39): No circumstance, pain, or opposition that is a result of your trust in Jesus can change the fact that you are in God’s careful hands — He is working it out for your good and for you to conquer. Ask the Holy Spirit: Because of this circumstance, what are the lies of the enemy that are making me question my value, my purpose, or my security in You? What is the truth about my value, purpose, or security in You?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott unpack Romans 8:1-25, revealing the choice we all face — living as children of God or of the devil. They explore how Christ’s death and resurrection conquered sin, death, and the enemy for believers, yet the full realization of this victory remains a future hope. This episode dives into the tension between present freedom and the unseen fulfillment of God’s promises. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (06:44) ROMANS 8.1-15 (36:46) ROMANS8.16-25 (1:20:38) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism/ • Pelagius on Romans, by Theodore de Bruyn (Amazon) https://a.co/d/2xO6gqB • The Natural Ability of Man, by Jesse Morrell (Lulu Publishing) https://www.lulu.com/shop/jesse-morrell/the-natural-ability-of-man-a-study-on-free-will-human-nature/paperback/product-1gv9nkz4.html • Finney's Systematic Theology, by L.G. Parkhurst, Jr. (Amazon) https://a.co/d/bbgMYv8 • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • Podcast Playlist | Revelation https://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation/ • Unseen Realm, by Dr. Michael Heiser (Amazon) https://a.co/d/22jvfVm • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 8.1-15: CHILDREN OF GOD (JESUS) v CHILDREN OF THE DEVIL (ADAM) We have a choice: set our mind toward Life or toward Death (see also Deuteronomy 31): 1) Living Empowered by the Spirit - The Law of Life is choosing to depend upon the Spirit (making ourselves sons of God) and it proves to be resurrection life to us (inheritance, co-heirs) or 2) Living Empowered by the Law - The Law of Sin and Death is choosing to depend upon ourselves (making ourselves sons of the devil, see John 8.44) and will prove to be eternal death to us (debt, abdication). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): In what areas of your life are you still relying on your own effort (e.g., experience, understanding, ability, education, responsibility, will power, self-discipline, etc.) instead of surrendering to the Holy Spirit (asking what His opinion is on a matter)? ROMANS 8.16-25: HOPE FOR THE FUTURE LIFE, RESURRECTION, & GLORY While the death and resurrection of Jesus, for the Christian, resolved the issues of sin, death, and the enemy, the full realization of those things is still a future hope (unseen). Faith in the full reality of what Jesus has accomplished in the past becomes the reality of our future expectations — convinced, to the point of action, by the things I don’t yet see (see also Hebrews 11.1). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): If sin, death, and the enemy are resolved issues for the Christian, how should this impact the way you think, make decisions, and live now? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 - SET YOUR MIND ON THE SPIRIT (Romans 8.6): Your beliefs dictate your behaviors. Beliefs founded in the Spirit’s power and opinion will always lead to peace and life. Ask the Holy Spirit: Where in my life am I not asking for Your opinion and power? Where in my life am I disagreeing with Your opinion and opposing Your power? STEP #2 - TRUST YOUR FUTURE TO JESUS (Romans 8.18): Jesus wants to redeem even our fears (future worst-case scenario projections). Using the answers you listed in step #1, take a moment to think of the extreme worst-case scenario. Ask the Holy Spirit: As I choose to go to this extreme conclusion with You, what would Your presence and peace look like? STEP #3 - AGREE WITH GOD FOR YOUR IDENTITY IN CHRIST (Romans 8.14): As a Christian, you have agreed with God that you are His child — a son or daughter given a Spirit of love, power, and a peaceful mind, not of fear. Thinking of the answers from step #1, ask the Holy Spirit: What would believing and living as though I am Your child look like in these areas of my life?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking explore Romans 7, focusing on the tension of living under the law without the power of Jesus. They also discuss the hopeless cycle of striving to live good but without Christ and the freedom that comes only through living empowered by the Holy Spirit — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (05:03) ROMANS 7.1-12 (36:46) ROMANS 7.13-25 (57:11) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • Unseen Realm, by Dr. Michael Heiser (Amazon) https://a.co/d/22jvfVm • Supernatural, by Dr. Michael Heiser (Amazon) https://a.co/d/hDeIZdJ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 7.1-12: WE ARE FREE FROM THE LAW & SIN Romans 7.1-3: The Marriage Example – if a woman joins herself with another man while her husband is alive, she is an adulterer. If the husband dies, she is free to marry another. • Romans 7.4-6: The Explanation – a person who trusts Jesus (the new husband) has died to the law and sin (the former husband) and is free to live by the Spirit. Romans 7.7-10: The Human Experience – Innocence/Ignorance (v.9: alive apart from the law) → Revelation (v.8, 9: “age of accountability”) moments of understanding consequences → Choosing Sin (v.10: self-reliance) → Rejection of a Dependence Upon God (v.10: Death). • Romans 7.11-12: How Sin Overtakes A Person – Sin (an external force; i.e., our enemy) deceives us by tempting us to live by the Law apart from God; the Law points to our dependence upon God but it becomes the means to reject God — the result of living by the Law alone can only end in death. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What do you think Paul means when he says we are “dead to the Law” (Romans 7.4, 6)? ROMANS 7.13-25: HOW SIN TRAPS US THROUGH THE LAW Romans 7.13-25: Our design (the law of God in our mind [v.25], “what I want to do” [v.15]) is overcome by our habitual inclinations (the law of sin in my flesh [v.25], “I do what I hate” [v.15]). • This is a picture of a person who has not chosen Jesus — they are continually in conflict with how God designed them to operate (i.e., dependent upon the Holy Spirit). It is contradictory to believe this is a believer’s battle in light of everything Paul has said in chapter 6; that is, Christians are dead to sin and the Law. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What’s the main difference you see between Romans 6 (v.6-7) and 7 (v.13-25)? What might this mean for both the Christian and the non-Christian? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 - RECOGNIZE THE STRUGGLE (Romans 7.13-25): Without the Holy Spirit, unbelievers are powerless to overcome sin. Their struggle is real and inescapable without Jesus. Ask the Holy Spirit: How have I been quick to judge __________ [insert the name of a non-Christian or someone uninterested or seemingly unworthy of Jesus] in light of their struggle? STEP #2 - RESPOND WITH GRACE (Romans 7.24-25a): The Law can only reveal sin and enslaves us to death, but only Jesus brings grace that frees us to life. Ask the Holy Spirit: How can I show __________ specific grace and compassion in light of their struggle? STEP #3 - SHARE YOUR JESUS-STORY (Romans 7.4): Rather than debating morality (good vs bad behaviors), we can share how Jesus freed us and why we trust him. Ask the Holy Spirit: How can I be appropriately vulnerable with __________ about how Jesus set me free and how I live victorious?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking explore Romans 6, emphasizing that we are truly dead to sin but still have a choice of lordship—either sin (rebellion) or obedience (Jesus). They discuss the reality that we are always bearing fruit, and the type of fruit reveals whom we have been serving. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (06:41) ROMANS 6.1-14 (51:58) ROMANS 6.15-23 (1:03:50) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 6.1-14: WE ARE DEAD TO SIN... REALLY? Those of us who have received Jesus (as Savior and Lord) consider ourselves dead to sin — sin no longer has a draw or hold on us (Romans 6.2). Our habitual inclinations are rendered powerless when we live in Jesus (through his Spirit) (Romans 6.6). • See also 1 John 2.1; Galatians 2.20; 5.24. Romans 6.12-14 – Our weapons (our physical bodies) reveal who our master is: • The enemy and the kingdom of darkness to spread unhealthy relational living. • Jesus and the kingdom of light to spread healthy relational living. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): If salvation is more than just forgiveness — if it actually involves dying to an old, unhealthy way of thinking and behaving — how should that reshape the way we think about grace, sin, and discipleship? ROMANS 6.15-23 - CHOOSE YOUR LORD: SIN (REBELLION) OR OBEDIENCE We are designed to produce fruit — fruit is present no matter what. However, what we serve reveals what we trust and determines the kind of fruit we will produce: • If sin, we exponentially develop more sin leading to death (relational, emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual). • If obedience, we exponentially develop sanctification (purity and life). • See also Matthew 6.24; John 8.34; 2 Peter 2.17-19; Galatians 5.16-24. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What masters (think: fears, worries, anxieties, or doubts) compete for your attention and affection? These can often be identified by who and what we try to control and what occupies our thoughts, time, and attention. ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 - ASSESS YOUR FRUIT (Romans 6.20-23): The fruit (our own physical, emotional, or mental outcomes) can often reveal the source of our words and actions. Take a moment to reflect on the past week. Ask the Holy Spirit: When or with whom do I feel powerless, out of control, or a victim? When or with whom have I lacked healthy fruit (think: joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, or self-control, etc.)? Why were these attributes not present in that moment? STEP #2 - ENTRUST YOURSELF TO YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER (Romans 6.13): Our words and actions reveal who we trust — either God or not God. Ask the Holy Spirit: What lies have I believed about God that have led me to this unhealthy fruit? STEP #3 - SUBMIT & SERVE YOUR TRUE MASTER (Romans 6.22): You are designed to bear fruit in line with your Heavenly Father’s character. This week, whenever you feel fear, worry, anxiety, or doubt, ask the Holy Spirit: What does it look like to trust and submit to You in this moment?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking discuss Romans 5 and how faith in Jesus requires risk, maturity, and endurance. We also share how sin is anything in opposition to our nature or design, that is, living as the image and likeness of God. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (21:42) ROMANS 5.1-11 (42:52) ROMANS 5.12-21 (1:01:26) ACTIVATION STEPS — EPISODE LINKS — • Podcast Playlist | Romans https://cultivaterelationships.com/romans • Podcast Playlist | Galatians https://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 5.1-11 - FAITH-FILLED SUFFER + RECONCILIATION WITH THE HEAVENLY FATHER = HOPE OF SALVATION In this section, they discuss how faith in Jesus requires risk, maturity, and endurance — all brought about by suffering and opposition. They also discuss how Jesus sacrificed himself for our benefit before we wanted to benefit from him. The benefit was that through Jesus’ death, the reconciliation of the relationship with the Father was made possible, and that through his resurrection life, restoration of our human design, and our dependence upon the Holy Spirit were revealed. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Think about the times you’ve shown love and forgiveness to someone you deemed undeserving or uninterested. What does this reveal about how you believe God loves and forgives you? ROMANS 5.12-21 - ADAM V. JESUS In this section, they discuss how sin is not simply a list of rules (“the Law”). Sin is anything in opposition to our nature or design; that is, living as the image and likeness of God. The Law simply revealed how we were missing the mark. We accept the gift (Jesus) the same way we accept the transgression (Adam): 1) choose to believe → 2) trust in what we believe → 3) actions empowered by what we trust. However, the fruit of these choices is vastly different — either life (Jesus) or death (Adam). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): When do you find it easier to rely on your own thoughts and conclusions instead of seeking the Holy Spirit’s guidance and strength in a situation? ACTIVATION STEPS Take some time this week to prayerfully work through the following steps in light of Romans 5.1-21: STEP #1 - IDENTIFY THE SOURCE Take a moment to reflect on your daily choices. Are they rooted in an agreement with Adam’s self-reliance or in an agreement with Jesus’ righteousness? Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where you might be operating out of fear, self-sufficiency, or wrong beliefs rather than trusting the Holy Spirit. STEP #2 - SHIFT YOUR TRUST Just as death entered through a belief in a lie, life comes through belief in the truth. Tell Jesus (out loud) about a specific circumstance where you are struggling. Ask Jesus what his perspective and truth is about that circumstance. STEP #3 - WALK IN ALIGNMENT Ask the Holy Spirit to give you one intentional action you can take that reflects the truth of what Jesus spoke over your circumstance. Whether it is extending grace to someone, surrendering control, or stepping out in faith, let your actions flow from the truth that you are alive in Christ AND empowered by His Spirit.

Nathan and Phil dive into the tensions of growth — navigating confrontation, grace in freedom versus judgment in addiction, and forgiving repeat offenders. They discuss mediation, reconciliation, appropriate vulnerability, and what the fruit of the Spirit looks like in real life. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.* — EPISODE LINKS — • STB113 | Behind the Pages of UnLove + Phil P2:E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb113/ • Nathan's Teaching Archive https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Bookshelf | Unlove, by Nathan Steel https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan talks with Phil about his dream of church planting — and how Lacey devastatingly crushed it. He reflects on key “waypoints” in his journey to freedom and writing UnLove, the shifting seasons of relationships, and his struggle with appreciating apologies. They also explore how God uses, and sometimes orchestrates, tragedy for our growth, the age of accountability, and the weight of our expectations on others. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.* — EPISODE LINKS — • STB104 | Fathers + Phil https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb104/ • STB107 | Grieving the Loss of a Child + Sarah https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb107/ • Bookshelf | Unlove, by Nathan Steel https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this third part, Phil Reeves continues interviewing Nathan, where he dives into his struggle with people apologizing, why he hates accountability partners, and the devotionals that have shaped him. He shares his journey of learning to feel, wrestling with anger, trusting in God’s goodness, and the male role models who influenced his life. This honest conversation explores the challenges of personal growth, faith, and the people who shape Nathan along the way. *Please note, this discussion takes place in three episodes. This is episode three.* — EPISODE LINKS — • STB111 | Behind the Pages of UnLove + Phil P1:E2 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb111/ • Bookshelf | Unlove, by Nathan Steel https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this second part, Phil Reeves continues interviewing Nathan, where he opens up about the weight of living a double life in his addiction to pornography, the pain of public church discipline after being a youth pastor who went to a strip club, and the redemption he and Lacey walked through with their church. He also explores the danger of expecting others to fully understand our story, the balance between empathy and clarity in ministry, and how his struggles have shaped the way he helps others on their journey to healing. *Please note, this discussion takes place in three episodes. This is episode two.* — EPISODE LINKS — • STB110 | Behind the Pages of UnLove + Phil P1:E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb110/ • Bookshelf | Unlove, by Nathan Steel https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Phil Reeves interviews Nathan to uncover the real-life stories that inspired his book UnLove. In this heartfelt conversation, Nathan shares the personal experiences, struggles, and lessons that shaped the principles outlined in the book. From moments of heartbreak to breakthroughs of grace, he offers an honest look at the theology woven into each chapter, revealing the raw and relatable journey behind its creation. This discussion is a powerful glimpse into the connection between Nathan’s own story and the message of UnLove. *Please note, this discussion takes place in three episodes. This is episode one.* — EPISODE LINKS — • Bookshelf | Unlove, by Nathan Steel https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan continues his conversation with his friend, Sarah Frerking, where she vulnerably shares her journey through the devastating experiences of miscarriages and the loss of their firstborn son, Josiah. In this powerful discussion, Sarah reflects on how she processed her grief, initially in unhealthy ways, but eventually discovered a path to healing. She speaks openly about how her grief journey transformed, ultimately leading her to a place of unexpected gratitude for Josiah's death. This conversation offers profound insights into the complexities of grief, healing, and the hope that can emerge from even the deepest loss. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.* — EPISODE LINKS — • STB108 |Coping & Resolving Loss + Sarah P2:E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/podcast/stb108/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan continues his conversation with his friend, Sarah Frerking, where she vulnerably shares her journey through the devastating experiences of miscarriages and the loss of their firstborn son, Josiah. In this powerful discussion, Sarah reflects on how she processed her grief, initially in unhealthy ways, but eventually discovered a path to healing. She speaks openly about how her grief journey transformed, ultimately leading her to a place of unexpected gratitude for Josiah's death. This conversation offers profound insights into the complexities of grief, healing, and the hope that can emerge from even the deepest loss. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.* — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan talks with Sarah Frerking about the heartbreak of her miscarriages and losing her firstborn, Josiah. She opens up about the raw, overwhelming emotions of grief and the difficult, messy process of navigating devastating loss. She shares how she and her husband, Scott Frerking, held tightly to a hope-filled but painful faith, even in the face of unanswered prayers and shattered expectations. Their journey reveals both the depths of their sorrow and the resilience of their trust in God amid profound heartbreak. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Christmas and its origins. They also discuss several Christmas traditions and why traditions are important to communities. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes & Introduction (4:58) Krumpus and Cultural Reflections of Truth (23:15) X-Mas, December 25, & Christmas Trees (44:17) Purpose of Traditions and Festivals (59:26) Celebrating Christmas and Engaging Culture (1:14:59) Mistletoe, Yule Logs, & Romans 14 — EPISODE LINKS — • Top 10 Christmas Traditions (& their Origin Stories) (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlEQW-NPqWI • Christmas Traditions (Wikipedia) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christmas_traditions • Christmas (Britannica) https://www.britannica.com/topic/Christmas • The Pagan Roots of Christmas (History) https://www.history.co.uk/article/the-pagan-roots-of-christmas • The Star of Bethlehem DOCUMENTARY https://bethlehemstar.com/ • STB047 | Hell + Pastor Michael https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb047/ • Folk Angel - O Holy Night (Spotify) https://open.spotify.com/track/1dB4ImgHIrYUPIfbMZioyJ • David Crowder Band - After All (Holy) (Spotify) https://open.spotify.com/track/3daAYqNEt5hzPtHycscQoM • Cultivate Relationships Christmas Playlist (Spotify) https://cultivaterelationships.com/christmas-playlist • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about the incarnation of Jesus — God becoming real humanity. They discuss how the New Testament reveals the fulfilled Hebrew prophesies of a real flesh-and-blood human messiah. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes & Introduction (30:27) Jesus is Flesh & Blood (1:08:53) Jesus Reveals Our Design (Flesh + Spirit) (1:53:20) Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • TEACHING | The Bible Jesus Read (and How to Study the Bible) https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20230115-the-bible-jesus-read/ • Podcast Playlist | Revelation https://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation/ • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — INTRODUCTION Luke 24.44 (see also Matthew 5.17-19) JESUS IS FLESH & BLOOD John 1.14 (See also Roman 1.3; Galatians 4.4; Philippians 2.7; 1 Timothy 3.16; Hebrews 2.14-18; 4.14-16; 1 John 1.1; 4.2; 2 John 7; Revelation 5.1-10 → 2 Corinthians 5.20-21) • How do you demonstrate that you know Jesus truly and fully identifies with your experience? • In what relationship do you feel like Jesus can’t identify with you? Why? JESUS REVEALS OUR DESIGN: FLESH + SPIRIT Matthew 12.15-24 (See also Luke 3.22; John 14.25-31 → John 5.19, 30; 6.38; 8.28-29; 12.49; 14.20 → “my disciples” statements: Matthew 28.18-19; Luke 9.1; John 8.31; 15.8; 17.17-26) • How do you demonstrate that you believe you can do what Jesus did? • In what relationship do you feel like you can’t be like Jesus? Why? ACTIVATION STEPS Take the relationships you mentioned above and ask Jesus the following questions: • Step #1: Jesus, how does this relationship make me feel? Jesus, how does this relationship make you feel? • Step #2: Jesus, what would you do in this situation?

MEDITATION - Nathan shoots the breeze about Romans 11.33–36, emphasizing the importance of recognizing God’s infinite nature and our human limits as the starting point for studying or understanding Him. He also highlights how God’s greatness brings comfort, reminding us of His trustworthy and unchanging character. — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about the incarnation of Jesus — God becoming real humanity. They discuss how the Hebrew Scriptures prophesy a real flesh-and-blood human messiah and their future fulfillment revealed in Jesus. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes & Introduction (15:02) Who's Your Father? (45:11) Whose Kingdom Are You Living In? (1:00:58) Who's Your Redeemer? (1:31:36) Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • The Gospel According to Matthew | Full Movie (YouTube) https://youtu.be/yf9jWonGL74 • The Chosen: Little James - “Why haven’t you healed me?” (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZDvcEkjthA • Bible Study Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — Genesis 3.15 (See also Romans 16.20 → Hebrews 1.13; 10.13; Revelation 12.1-12) • Where in your life do you see yourself as deficient (lacking what you need)? • What (non-Jesus thing) do you usually do to meet this deficiency? 1 Chronicles 17.7-15 (See also 1 Chronicles 28 → Daniel 2.41-45; Revelation 22.9-16) • How do you invitationally demonstrate the reality of Jesus' Kingdom to those whom you believe to be unworthy or uninterested in him? Isaiah 52.1-3; 53.1-12 (See also Isaiah 60.1-4; 61.1-11; Malachi 4.1-3; Revelation 22.1-5) • When is it tempting to believe your darkness or pain is unredeemable or that God is uninterested in dealing with it? • When (and how) do you intentionally engage the darkness or pain of others? Step #1: Ask the Holy Spirit: What area in my life do I see myself as “deficient” or lacking what I need? Step #2: Ask the Holy Spirit: How do You want to empower me in this area? Step #3: Ask the Holy Spirit: Will You reveal ONE person in my life who is struggling with darkness or pain? How do you want me to partner with them to relieve or resolve this darkness or pain in their life?

MEDITATION - Nathan shoots the breeze about Romans 8.12-17. He also discusses Galatians 4.1-7 and how our experience with our earthly dads impacts our relationship with our Heavenly Dad. — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about their 100th episode and what it means to persevere. They discuss how Christians have misdefined success due to false portrayals of people’s lives in the Scriptures. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Guess who’s back? (00:49) Lacey defines consistency (14:19) Defining your personal success (27:28) Examples of highlights in the Scriptures (37:07) Success is asking God what He wants (50:15) Nathan explains Christianity… using football highlight reels — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about the messiness of perfection. They discuss the Scriptural word for perfection and how it also means completeness or maturity. They also reveal that we are ever becoming perfect while God is perfect. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes / Introduction (27:09) Matthew 5.48 / Perfect, Complete, Mature (41:51) Exodus 23.30 / Israel's Process of Taking the Promised Land (59:35) 2 Corinthians 7.1 / Perfection is One Degree at a Time (1:14:31) Application Questions, & Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What might tiny choices (toward maturity, completeness, or perfection) look like in the following areas (not an exhaustive list): • Finances (e.g., savings, generous giving, etc.) • Ministry (e.g., volunteering, serving, etc.) • Relationships (e.g., friendships, marriage, parenting, etc.) • Employment/Career (e.g., boss, employee, employers, co-workers, etc.) • Education (e.g., future career, qualifications, degrees, location, etc.) • Reading Scripture (e.g., study, devotions, etc.) • Prayer (e.g., by yourself, with others, etc.) • Health (e.g., mental, physical, emotional, etc.) • … ACTIVATION STEPS Pray and ask the Holy Spirit: 1. “What is ONE area from the list above You want me to make a tiny change?” 2. What tiny change do You want me to make in this area?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Phil Reeves about Revelation chapters 19-22. They also discuss Matthew 23-25 and what the Red Sea Beast and the Land Lamb Beast represent. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction / Matthew 23-25 / Meanings of the Beasts (13:53) Revelation 19 - The Wedding of the Lamb & Bride (1:08:10) Revelation 20 - "1000 Year" Reign (the Millennial Reign) / Judgement of Satan / Final Judgement ("Hell") (2:08:34) Revelation 21 - New Jerusalem / New Heaven / New Earth (2:47:37) Revelation 22 - The Re-Created Garden Paradise / Epilogue — EPISODE LINKS — • Bookshelf | Revelation Commentary https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#revelation • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • Misreading Scripture with Western Eyes, by E. Randolph Richards and Brandon J. O'Brien (Amazon) https://a.co/d/eVZUa9Z • Hans Rosling's 200 Countries, 200 Years, 4 Minutes - The Joy of Stats - BBC (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jbkSRLYSojo • Wild At Heart, by John Eldredge (Amazon) https://a.co/d/gp5GXOI • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — All notes are available in our Revelation Commentary linked above.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Phil Reeves about Revelation chapters 15-18. They also discuss the "rapture", Jesus' second coming, the antichrist(s), the abomination of desolation, and Daniel's 70 weeks. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction / The "Rapture" / Jesus' Second Coming / AntiChrist / Abomination of Desolation / Daniel's 70 weeks. (58:36) Revelation 15 - The Preamble to the 7 Bowls (1:12:33) Revelation 16 - The 7 Bowls of Wrath (1:36:03) Revelation 17 - The Adulterer & The Red Sea Beast (2:08:02) Revelation 18 - The World Mourns the Fall of Jerusalem — EPISODE LINKS — • Bookshelf | Revelation Commentary https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#revelation • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — All notes are available in our Revelation Commentary linked above.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Phil Reeves about Revelation chapters 12-14. They also discuss how John laid out his visions in Revelation, either in linear movements through the destruction of Jerusalem or cyclical movements that reveal different perspectives of Jerusalem's destruction. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction / Matthew 23-24 / Spiritual Reality of Revelation (10:07) Revelation 12 - The Woman & The Dragon (1:10:54) Revelation 13 - The Red Sea Beast & The Land Beast (1:44:16) Revelation 14 - The Kingdom of Heaven & God's People — EPISODE LINKS — • Bookshelf | Revelation Commentary https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#revelation • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • The Star of Bethlehem Documentary (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b9exnD6MiCg • Teaching | Righteous Anger https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20221204-how-to-be-free-from-anger-bitterness/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — All notes are available in our Revelation Commentary linked above.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Phil Reeves about Revelation chapters 8-11. They also discuss how some modern authors and teachers have created empires around selling fear-based modern geopolitical content of Revelation. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction / Matthew 23-24 / Spiritual Reality of Revelation (10:37) Revelation 8 - The 7th Seal and the 1st Four Trumpets (47:16) Revelation 9 - The 5th and 6th Trumpet (1:25:20) Revelation 10 - The Angel & Little Scroll (1:33:52) Revelation 11 - The Two Witnesses — EPISODE LINKS — • Bookshelf | Revelation Commentary https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#revelation • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • Siege of Jerusalem 70 AD - Great Jewish Revolt DOCUMENTARY (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KE4hmrvZLIQ • The Siege of Jerusalem (70 AD) - Great Jewish Revolt [FULL DOCUMENTARY] (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y741QbT1YEo • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — All notes are available in our Revelation Commentary linked above.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Phil Reeves about Revelation chapters 4-7. They also discuss the implications of Jesus fulfilling the entire Hebrew Scriptures and their implications on Revelation. Furthermore, John uses "hear" and "see" language to show when he is revealing the meaning behind what he is writing. John defines most symbols he "sees" in his vision in the immediate context or through Hebrew Scripture cross references. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction / Online Study Tools (20:18) Revelation 4 - The Heavenly Temple (53:36) Revelation 5 - The Scroll and the Slain Lamb (1:18:56) Revelation 6 - The Seven Seals (1:49:59) Revelation 7 - 144,000 — EPISODE LINKS — • Bookshelf | Revelation Commentary https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#revelation • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • Bible.com (Multiple Translations) https://www.bible.com/ • Step Bible (Translations and Word Study) https://www.stepbible.org/ • Blue Letter Bible (Translations and Word Study) https://www.blueletterbible.org/ • Logos Bible Software (Exhaustive Bible Study Software) https://www.logos.com/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — All notes are available in our Revelation Commentary linked above.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan shoots the breeze with Phil Reeves about Revelation chapters 1-3. They also discuss false, fear-based views of Revelation, hermeneutics (principles in Bible Study), and how to read prophetic and apocalyptic Scriptures. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction / Views of Revelation / Study Tools (27:24) Hermeneutics and How to Study the Scriptures (1:12:15) Revelation 1 - John's prologue (1:55:51) Revelation 2 - Ephesus, Smyrna, Pergamum, Thyatira (2:11:41) Revelation 3 - Sardis, Philadelphia, Laodicea — EPISODE LINKS — • Bookshelf | Revelation Commentary https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#revelation • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • The IVP Bible Background Commentary: New Testament (Amazon) https://a.co/d/45xhORN • How (Not) To Read the Bible, by Dan Kimball (Amazon) https://a.co/d/3X10K97 • Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism/ • Podcast Playlist | Galatians https://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — All notes are available in our Revelation Commentary linked above.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about the messiness of rejection. They discuss how feelings of being rejected can lead to either rebellions or religious mindsets and behaviors. Additionally, they share how it is only through the power of the Holy Spirit that one can truly live free from rejection. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes / Introduction (10:49) John 4.1-42 / Evangelism = Telling Our Messy Jesus Story (55:21) Matthew 9.9-17 / 2 Sides of the Messy Spectrum: Rebellious & Religious (1:15:35) Romans 8.1-11 / Flesh + Spirit or Flesh - Spirit (1:41:09) Application Questions, & Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • Rejection Meets Its Match | Pastor Michael Barnard | September 22, 2024 | HCF Online (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/live/8WMBlfjq5JE?t=2776s • Teaching | Ephesians 3.1-21 | Making Jesus Comfortable In Your Heart https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20160515-making-jesus-comfortable-in-your-heart/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS When have you felt most “spiritual” (closest to Jesus)? Do you ever feel like you lose your “spirituality” (closeness to Jesus) in the messiness and busyness of life? Explain. ACTIVATION STEPS Develop (or define) an encouragement partner – someone who will primarily encourage you by celebrating “wins” in your life. Secondly, they will pray with you and partner with you to develop practical steps toward building healthy attitudes, beliefs, mindsets, and habits. The health and effectiveness of these encouragement partner relationships directly correlate to the depth and vulnerability of the conversations. Who is it? What are your conversations primarily based upon: successes or failures? Explain. How does this person intentionally partner with you to develop healthy attitudes, beliefs, mindsets, and habits?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about messy Christianity. They discuss their journeys of how Jesus pursued them amidst messy doubt and how, as believers, we pursue others amidst their messy doubt, along with how to resolve doubt. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes / Introduction (19:06) Matthew 28.16-17 / Disciples Doubt (59:20) Isaiah 61.1-4 / Your Responsibility in Redemption (1:10:48) James 5.14-18 / Confession of Sins (+ Forgiveness) Brings Healing (1:19:47) Application Questions, & Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • Culture of Honor, by Danny Silk https://a.co/d/2BWmBBP • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS When have you felt most “spiritual” (closest to Jesus)? Do you ever feel like you lose your “spirituality” (closeness to Jesus) in the messiness and busyness of life? Explain. ACTIVATION STEPS Develop (or define) an encouragement partner – someone who will primarily encourage you by celebrating “wins” in your life. Secondly, they will pray with you and partner with you to develop practical steps toward building healthy attitudes, beliefs, mindsets, and habits. The health and effectiveness of these encouragement partner relationships directly correlate to the depth and vulnerability of the conversations. Who is it? What are your conversations primarily based upon: successes or failures? Explain. How does this person intentionally partner with you to develop healthy attitudes, beliefs, mindsets, and habits?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about how our ability to approach God, our Heavenly Dad, directly affects our outlook and behavior within a circumstance or relationship. They discuss their journeys toward seeing God as a good Dad who does good things. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes / Introduction (02:54) Matthew 18.1-5 / We must relate to God as a child (15:39) What does "being a child" mean (40:50) How we lose child-likeness (59:52) Application Questions, & Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • STB044 | LGBT + Kalena https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb044/ • STB046 | ExVangelical + Kalena https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb046/ • STB048 | Worship + Kalena https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb048/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Ask the Holy Spirit: What issue in my life currently feels overwhelming? What would it look like for you to come to the Lord with that issue like a child? ACTIVATION STEPS Close your eyes: What is your first thought when you think of resting in the arms of your dad? (Who did you see first: Heavenly Dad? Earthly dad? What did you feel?) If James 1.17, Psalm 119.68, and Hebrews 1.1-3 have not been your experience with God, He wants to heal your heart and show you what it means to be protected, loved, and cared for by a good dad. Use The Freedom Booklet to help you resolve those areas of your heart.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about how Christianity is the ongoing process of leading and being led. They discuss how Jesus was our ultimate example and that serving others doesn't mean we are slaves to them. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes / Introduction (09:53) Matthew 28.19 / Servant Leadership = Christianity ≠ Pastoral Ministry Philosophy (35:21) Philippians 2.1-11 / Jesus led by humbly serving and releasing (54:37) Matthew 20.24-28 / Servant leadership is discerning the needs of others and partnering with them in the most empowering and beneficial way. (1:13:13) Application Questions, & Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Who is God asking you to lead (serve)? ACTIVATION STEPS In what specific ways is the Holy Spirit encouraging you to intentionally serve (lead) this person in a way that will be empowering and beneficial to them?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about humility and agreeing with God. They discuss how agreeing with God empowers Christians to defeat the enemy, spread Jesus' Kingdom, and live sin-free. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes / Introduction / 1 Peter 5.1-5 / Humility Defined (22:29) Pride Defined / The Process of Humility (39:05) 1 Peter 5.6-14 / Powerless Enemy (1:01:45) John 8.31-38 / You Are Who Jesus Says You Are / You Can Do What Jesus Says You Can Do (1:45:11) Application Questions, & Activation Steps — EPISODE LINKS — • Teaching | 1 Peter 5.1-14 | Your Enemy Is Powerless https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20161019-your-enemy-is-powerless/ • Teaching | Genesis 4.1-4 | You Are Important https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20170226-you-are-important/ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What, in who you are (e.g., personality, passions, emotions, abilities, how you think, etc.), best reflects God’s image and likeness in you? What practical Spirit-led habits havehelped empower you to be victorious over the enemy’s “roaring” (lies and temptations)? ACTIVATION STEPS The by-product of a Spirit-filled life is the fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5.22-26). Take an assessment of your life: What by-products of the Spirit-filled life seem to be lacking most, and when?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about the Kingdom of Heaven and its present reality in a Christian's life. They also reveal how the Hebrew Scriptures point to Jesus as the prophetic fulfillment of the Davidic Messianic King. *Fact Check: 40:25 - Psalm 38.6 not Psalm 89 - The Hebrew word translated "bent over" in Psalm 38.6 is the same word in 2 Samuel 38.18, translated "iniquity". However, the word in Psalm 38.18 translated as "iniquity" is a completely different Hebrew word than 2 Samuel 38.18 and means guilty of sin. Psalm 89 deals with the Messianic Davidic Kingdom and has no bearing on the word "iniquity" from 2 Samuel 7.14. However, it is a worthwhile read regarding this study on Jesus and his Kingdom.* — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes, Introduction, the Human Design (16:56)Messianic Promises in Genesis (36:53)King & Kingdom Promises and The 5 Kingdoms of Daniel Explained (40:25)*FACT CHECK* (1:01:15)Matthew 13 Kingdom Parables Explained (1:34:13)Diminishing Darkness, Application Questions, & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • Genesis 3 Teachings: --- 1) Teaching | CE1 | You Are God's Image & Likeness https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20220128-ce1-you-are-gods-image-likeness/ --- 2) Teaching | CE2 | Walking In Step with the Holy Spirit https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20220129-ce2-walking-in-step-with-the-holy-spirit/ --- 3) Teaching | Genesis 4.1-4 | You Are Important https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20170226-you-are-important/ • STB74 | BSE | Bible Oddities https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb074/ • Podcast Playlist | Galatians https://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/ • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Where in your life do you struggle with shame or regret? With whom do you have in your life to walk difficult things through?

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze by finishing their series on forgiveness. They discuss why forgiving yourself doesn't help (but what you can do instead to set you free), along with how to resolve shame and condemnation. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)"The Most Important Episode" (01:30)Lies We Believe About Forgiveness #5-7 (10:06)The Lie of Forgiving Yourself (25:30)Resolving Shame, Regret, and Condemnation (34:08)Life-Giving Conviction — Living Convinced by the Holy Spirit (46:30)The Identity Guide — Receiving God's Truth — EPISODE LINKS — • UnLove Book https://cultivaterelationships.com/unlove • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/ • Great Faithfulness | Sarah Frerking | July 28, 2024 | HCF Online (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/live/3lJGQPvT-G8?t=1980s • Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, by Peter Scazzero https://a.co/d/9yRq0Iv • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Where in your life do you struggle with shame or regret? With whom do you have in your life to walk through difficult things?

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about forgiveness... again and the various excuses often used when someone does not want to forgive. They also discuss common lies that are believed about forgiveness. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Unlove Book (01:33)Excuses to Forgiveness #1 (15:46)Excuses to Forgiveness #2 (27:37)Excuses to Forgiveness #3-#6 (35:00)Lies We Believe About Forgiveness #1-#2 (55:05)Lies We Believe About Forgiveness #3-#4 — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • UnLove Book https://cultivaterelationships.com/unlove • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Who do you feel like you are unwilling to forgive? Who annoys you? Who frustrates you? Who irritates you? When angry at someone, is there someone you remember back to and say, "they remind me of _____"? These may be clues that you are holding onto an unwillingness to forgive.

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about forgiveness and how it differs from reconciliation and restoration. They also discuss propitiation and how restitution works when repenting. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Is Nathan writing a Revelation commentary? (01:32)The process of forgiveness and ongoing forgiveness (11:58)Unresolved offenses and their impact on us (25:43)Reconciliation (& Propitiation) = Forgiveness + Repentance (39:22)Moving from reconciliation to restoration. (59:28)How restitution works within broken relationships — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • UnLove Book https://cultivaterelationships.com/unlove • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Who do you feel like you are unwilling to forgive? Who annoys you? Who frustrates you? Who irritates you? When angry at someone, is there someone you remember back to and say, "they remind me of _____"? These may be clues that you are holding onto an unwillingness to forgive.

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about all things forgiveness. They also discuss what it is, what it isn't, and some objections to it. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Long Hair & "New" Studio (02:54) Introducing Forgiveness, Luke 17.1-5 (13:13) The Lord's Prayer & Forgiveness, The Physical Effects of Bitterness (27:31) Unforgiveness & Coping, Addictions and the Necessity of Community Prayers (38:49) Forgiveness & Repentance --> Resolving Sin = Release & Replace (54:25) Jesus' Word Will Lead Us To Freedom & Defining Freedom — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • UnLove Book https://cultivaterelationships.com/unlove • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS How was forgiveness taught or exampled to you in your growing-up years? How does that differ from your view today?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about the Holy Spirit, faith, and spiritual gifts. They also discuss baptism or being filled with the Holy Spirit, cessationism, tongues, and how God answers prayer. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Dad Jokes (04:00) Cessationism, Tongues, Azusa Street (17:52)Nathan & Scott share their Holy Spirit baptism story (42:58)Tongues, How to hear God, Prayer (1:03:54)Hard questions from God, prayer beads, and icons (1:22:57) What is faith, and how does it look in one's life, expectations, and failure — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • SBT074 | BSE | Bible Oddities https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb074/ • How to Study/Read the Bible https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/#how-to-study-the-bible • Jesus Revolution Movie https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B0B8JB31PC/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r • Small Group | Failure Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-2-failure/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What concerns you, or what questions do you have about the Holy Spirit? What questions do you have about gifts of the Holy Spirit or living empowered by the Holy Spirit? Leave a comment, and in an upcoming episode, Nathan and Scott will address your questions, comments, and concerns. ACTIVATION STEPS Seek out a Spirit-filled community and ask them how you might be able to serve. Over time, ask them to affirm and confirm in you the gifts that they see.

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about "influencers", social media, and how habitually scrolling creates an overwhelming compulsion to consume. They also discuss the discontent brought about by comparison due to curated "perfection" on social media platforms. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Unpopular Opinions (01:54)Truly Horrible Habits (14:09)Influencers: The Target Market & the Comparison Problem (26:54)Social Media: Overwhelming Consumption & Our God-Given Needs (42:03)Fixer Upper, Discontentment, Self-Improvement (56:49)Application Questions — EPISODE LINKS — • STB070 | BSE | Fear https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb070/ • STB071 | BSE | Rejection https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb071/ • STB072 | BSE | Anger https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb072/ • STB073 | BSE | Depression https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb073/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What circumstance would make you feel content? What achievement would make you appear successful? Whose attention would make you believe you are valuable?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Galatians 6.1-18. They discuss spiritual maturity, Christian generosity, and how the measure of our generosity directly impacts the generosity God demonstrates toward us. They also share how numbers-based evangelism is a fleshly, self-focused, approval-seeking false Gospel. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Dad Jokes (4:27)Galatians 6.1-5 - Pt 1: Spiritual vs Unspiritual (Fleshly) (17:15)Galatians 6.1-5 - Pt 2: Spiritual vs Unspiritual (Fleshly) (28:33) Galatians 6.6-10: Christians Generously Care for People (43:55)Galatians 6.11-18: Numbers-Based Evangelism vs Exampling Jesus (1:02:36)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Resources https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • The Blessed Life, by Robert Morris https://a.co/d/cDCMC4Y • The Spirituality of Fundraising, by Henri J. Nouwen https://a.co/d/d7UD0wU • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What do you use to measure your Christian maturity against others’? When is it most difficult for you to be generous with your: 1) time; 2) abilities; 3) money; 4) possessions with: 1) non-Christians; 2) Christians; 3) Christian/Ministry Leaders? How is living a Spirit-filled life amidst your job, friends, and family be a truer, more effective form of evangelism than simply telling people about the “Roman’s road” or praying a “sinner’s” prayer? Why might this be more difficult? ACTIVATION STEPS Ask the Holy Spirit to put on your mind 3 people (a non-Christian, a Christian, and a Christian/ministry leader) that you are to intentionally care for and sacrificially be generous toward. Then, implement this over the next few days.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Galatians 5.1-26. They discuss how faith in Jesus brings freedom from the Law and sin; while the Law only brings meaningless mutilation. They also contrast the fruit of living in the flesh with the Holy Spirit and living in the flesh with the Holy Spirit. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes (2:13) Galatians 5.1-12 - Pt 1: If Circumcision = Righteousness… Then Cut It All Off (27:57) Galatians 5.1-12 - Pt 2: If Circumcision = Righteousness… Then Cut It All Off (44:26) Galatians 5.13-21: Flesh - Spirit = Law → Unhealthy Fruit (Distorted Design) (1:09:45) Galatians 5.22-26: Flesh + Spirit = Freedom → Healthy Fruit (God’s Design) (1:20:00) Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Resources https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism • Teaching | Jesus Is Perfect Humanity https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20220116-jesus-is-perfect-humanity/ • Teaching | You Are God's Image & Likeness https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20220128-ce1-you-are-gods-image-likeness/ • Teaching | Walking In Step with the Holy Spirit https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20220129-ce2-walking-in-step-with-the-holy-spirit/ • Teaching | A Discussion About Jesus' Humanity https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20210503-a-discussion-about-jesus-humanity/ • Teaching | A Discussion About Doing What Jesus Did https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20210510-a-discussion-about-doing-what-jesus-did/ • UnLove Book https://cultivaterelationships.com/unlove • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Considering that the Law was fulfilled in Jesus, along with the real destruction of its practices and rituals during the destruction of Jerusalem, why do we often read Scripture as a Law book for living (a list of dos and don’ts)? What concerns are there if we stopped looking at Scripture as a behavior manual and salvation as behavior modification? ACTIVATION STEPS What creative or new way might you try this week to connect with God that doesn’t involve a “study” of Scriptures?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Galatians 4.1-31. They discuss how the Law is immature and will (in 70 AD) melt away because the mature (Jesus) has come. They also discuss Paul's analogies of the Law (Hagar) and the Promise (Sarah). — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Dad Jokes (4:04)Galatians 4.1-11 - Pt 1: The Law Is Immaturity, Not Maturity -> When the Mature Came It "Melted" Away (16:07)Galatians 4.1-11 - Pt 2: The Law Is Immaturity, Not Maturity -> When the Mature Came It "Melted" Away (28:38)Galatians 4.12-20: Paul Appeals to Their Former Fondness For Him (36:46)Galatians 4.21-31: The Promise (Sarah) & The Law (Hagar) (48:53)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Resources https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Considering that the Law was fulfilled in Jesus, along with the real destruction of its practices and rituals during the destruction of Jerusalem, why do we often read Scripture as a Law book for living (a list of dos and don’ts)? What concerns are there if we stopped looking at Scripture as a behavior manual and salvation as behavior modification? ACTIVATION STEPS What creative or new way might you try this week to connect with God that doesn’t involve a “study” of Scriptures?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Galatians 3.1-29. They discuss how the Law was not God's original design; but rather, it was a babysitter for the immature Israelites who didn't want a personal relationship with God. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Dad Jokes (4:45)Galatians 3.1-14 - Pt 1: We’re Not Justified by the Law So We Don’t Live by the Law (24:30)Galatians 3.1-14 - Pt 2: We’re Not Justified by the Law So We Don’t Live by the Law (38:29)Galatians 3.15-18: The Promise (Faith) Is Not Cancelled by the Law (Works) (47:28)Galatians 3.19-29: The Babysitter Until the Promise was Fulfilled (1:11:58)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Resources https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • How to Read the Bible Video Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/#how-to-read-the-bible • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS APPLICATION QUESTIONS In your relationships (i.e., parents, spouse, children, friends, siblings, etc.), when or with what issue is it easier to have rigid expectations rather than flexible adaptability? Why is this the case? What have been the outcomes in the relationship or issue because of these rigid expectations? What outcomes have someone’s rigid expectations produced in you? When might rigid expectations be appropriate? ACTIVATION STEPS What might the Holy Spirit be leading you to do this week to help bring resolution to the issue or reconciliation to the relationships you discussed above?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Galatians 2.1-21. They discuss a timeline of Paul's life up until visiting Jerusalem a second time to deliver financial support. They also talk about how Paul had to confront Peter, Barnabas, and other Jewish Christians over their fear of being rejected by Jewish Christians from Jerusalem. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Dad Jokes (4:48)Galatians & Acts Timeline (13:23) Galatians 2.1-10 - Paul's Jerusalem trip #2, and he submits to the Jerusalem Church leaders (43:03)Galatians 2.11-14 - Paul confronts the hypocrisy of Peter, Barnabas, and other Jewish Christians (59:15)Galatians 2.15-21 - Paul's thesis statement for the rest of his letter - Jesus + Anything = Nothing (1:13:12)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Resources https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • Small Group | Failure Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-2-failure/ • CWC | How To Apologize (Say, "I'm Sorry") https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-group-videos/cwc-how-to-apologize/ • Small Group | Assumptions & Expectations Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-3-assumptions/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS As a Christian, who in your life have you sought to impress or be accepted by, or not lose their favor or attention? How did you go about accomplishing this? What elements of your personality or behavior did you feel like you had to change for the person to accept you? Why did you want the person(s) approval? ACTIVATION STEPS Is there anyone you have put expectations on (i.e., things the person must do or change) for you to accept, forgive, or be in relationship with that person? Take some time this week to reach out to that person to apologize for putting expectations on this person.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Galatians 1.1-24. They discuss how Paul is not bashful about sharing his story of Jesus' redemption in his life. They also talk about the background, setting, and date of Galatians. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Unspoken prayer requests, Nathan humbled (8:38)Recommended resources, New Testament timeline (29:19)Galatians 1.1-7 - author, audience, setting, the distorted Gospel (50:59)Galatians 1.7-14 - Paul's contrary life to his former religious life (Philippians 3.1-13) (1:11:32)Galatians 1.15-24 - predestination, Paul's trip to Arabia, Paul's discipleship (1:33:17)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • NASB Study Bible https://a.co/d/9Mt0fQP • ESV Study Bible https://a.co/d/9yzdSk4 • Hidden In Plain View https://a.co/d/04tnAfO • How (Not) To Read The Bible https://a.co/d/0dZKrPl • Redating The New Testament https://a.co/d/9Z8phbx • Rethinking The Dates Of The New Testament https://a.co/d/dsj8k7r • The Apostle: A Life Of Paul https://a.co/d/1GP0RVE • Bible Resources https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What aspects of your past do you withhold from people due to the shame or regret it makes you feel? How has God redeemed you from your past? Without talking about your past, how might people glorify God for your redemption without the context of your past? ACTIVATION STEPS If you have not done this, share your story with a family member, friend, or spouse. If you’ve already done this, share where God is currently transforming or redeeming you.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about a few of their favorite Bible oddities, "coincidences", and threads. While this episode may not have any specific application or activation, we hope it piques your interest in exploring the literary genius that is the Scriptures. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Opening (2:43)Zombie Evangelists, Undesigned Coincidences (31:15)Saved By A Foreskin, The Brick Bible (42:10)Goliath & Golgatha (1:03:08)Giant Demon Babies, The Movie: Noah, The Movie: Exodus (1:24:25)Disappearing Sword Trick, Jesus is Hangry, Light Before Lights — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Resources https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What are some questions or confusing passages of Scripture that have perplexed you? What are your favorite Bible oddities? ACTIVATION STEPS Simply, begin reading the Scriptures. A great place to start is the Gospel of Luke and the book of Acts. These two writings, authored by Luke, will give you a foundation for who Jesus is while explaining some of the Hebrew Scriptures associated with his life, death, and resurrection.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about how despair (depression) is the hopeless state in which we choose not to release our circumstances and relationships to God — that is the Father’s good character, Jesus’ redemption, or the Holy Spirit’s empowerment. They share how depression holds on to our rights, desires, beliefs, and expectations of how we think a circumstance should work out or a person should behave. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Opening (1:56)Cain - the first self-fulfilling prophet of despair (21:11)2 Corinthians 4.7-10 and paralyzed and performance depression (52:13)Performance depression (1:14:10)Ways we prolong and exacerbate depression (1:43:40)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • Nefarious Movie (Amazon Prime) https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B0BZSJ46KZ/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r • The Habit Tree https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS When or with whom do you seem to lack peace, feel a lack of focus and clarity, or feel a lack of resolution? With your answer to the previous question, how do you generally cope with these feelings (what do you do, where do you go, with whom do you spend time)? Control? Distract? Medicate? What achievement would make you feel successful? What circumstance would make you feel satisfied? Whose attention would make you feel significant? What OTHER factors have you dealt with or struggle with that contribute to your lack of hope or resolution? ACTIVATION STEPS Discuss the above questions with a trusted friend, family member, or spouse. Then, work through The Freedom Booklet to help you resolve the circumstance or the person’s behavior that has made you lack peace, feel a lack of focus or clarity, or where you feel a lack of resolution.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about anger and how it is a behavior — words or actions — toward someone or something as a result of negative feelings being triggered in our hearts. They discuss how unhealthy anger (either internal ‘smolderer’ or external ‘exploder’) is a behavioral reaction to the belief that our satisfaction, security, or safety is being infringed upon. This belief and ensuing behavior hinders our peace of mind and infringes upon others’ freedom. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Opening (7:04)Anger & Compassion - Ephesians 4.26-32 (27:09)Smoldering Anger (48:24)Exploding Anger (1:09:40) Jesus' righteous anger and God's kindness (1:27:59)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS Who have you yet to forgive and release to God? What desired outcomes of negative or uncomfortable circumstances and relationships have you yet to release to God? ACTIVATION STEPS Discuss the above questions with a trusted friend, family member, or spouse. Be sure to address when, how, or why you answered how you did. Then, work through The Freedom Booklet to help you resolve times you have felt unsafe, unloved, uncared for, or out of control.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about rejection and how it's a belief that our acceptance (or acceptability) is dependent upon what we do, what we produce, or how we behave. They also discuss how this belief hinders peace of mind and confidence in who God created us to be and what He designed us to do. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Opening (4:31) Built up by significance, not worn down by rejection (25:55) Biblical examples of rejection. (48:30) Flavors of feeling rejected (1:10:07) 3 foundational reasons we believe we are rejected. (1:32:29) Abide in Jesus' real, timely, and personal word for your life. (1:45:07) Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • Small Group Series | Expectations (Assumptions) https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-3-assumptions/ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATIONS QUESTIONS What has been your most painful experience of feeling insignificant or rejected? Who was the person(s) involved? In light of your answer to the previous questions: (1) How have you been affected? (2) How has your relationship with others been affected? (3) How has your relationship with Jesus been affected? ACTIVATION STEPS Take The Identity Guide and read through it, out loud, twice a day for the next week. Discuss the above questions with a trusted friend, family member, or spouse. Be sure to address when, how, or why you answered how you did. Then, work through The Freedom Booklet to help you resolve areas of rejection in your heart and mind.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about fear (a.k.a., worry, doubt, anxiety, etc.) being the lie that we are more caring, responsible, just, resourceful, loving, good, and redeeming than God. They discuss how fear is ultimately not an issue of circumstance, but rather, it is an issue about what we trust. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Opening (3:24)Holy Spirit (abundant life) vs The Enemy (steal, kill, destroy) (29:43) Fear: a signal that a God-given heart-need is being attacked. (50:56)3 Categories of Fear: Fear of the Unknown, Fear of Poverty, Fear of Man. (1:13:48)Fear: How to defend against it and how to attack it. (1:36:58)Application & Activation — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS What are you afraid of people knowing about you? What people do you constantly try to appease or make happy? What circumstances or possessions make you content, happy, or at peace? What is an acceptable or adequate place to live? How do you view people who are “better off” and “less than” you? What are you unwilling to give or part with to serve/trust God? What area or circumstances in life, when not in control, do you become emotionally, physically, or mentally stressed or burdened? ACTIVATION STEPS Discuss the above questions with a trusted friend, family member, or spouse. Be sure to address when, how, or why you answered how you did. Then, consider walking through The Freedom Booklet to help you repent for living in fear, worry, or anxiety.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about how a Christian who receives the Heavenly Father’s love and forgiveness, is filled with the Spirit, and trusts Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection does not need to sin. They also discuss 1 John 5.1-21 and how believers can live their life sin-free when their conscience is tuned into the Holy Spirit. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Opening (11:12)1 John 5.1-4 (32:28)Being Right vs Being in Right Relationships (54:10)1 John 5.5-17 (1:14:53)1 John 5.18-21 (1:34:55)Closing — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • UnLove, by Nathan Steel https://cultivaterelationships.com/unlove • Pints with Aquinas Podcast (Spotify) https://open.spotify.com/show/312eXMI31liKUHSx6U5p1H • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS From whom or what do you need permission to do the things the Holy Spirit is asking you to do (think of the things that bring you safety, security, and satisfaction)? ACTIVATION STEPS Pick one thing you know the Holy Spirit has asked you to do that makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell a trusted friend, family member, or spouse. Develop and implement a plan to accomplish (or at least take the first required step) in fulfilling that thing.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Jesus being fully human and how he can fully identify with us. They also discuss 1 John 4.1-21 and the gnostic origins behind the pessimistic nature of humanity and how this belief hinders humanity's ability to mature in Jesus and be led by him into freedom and victory over sin. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00)Opening (05:41)1-3 John Review (24:49)1 John 4.1-6; 2 John 7 (42:09)How Gnosticism permeated the modern church. (1:03:20)1 John 4.7-21; 2 John 5-6; 3 John 11 (1:31:26)Closing — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • Bible Project Podcast: Images of God (4 Episodes) https://bibleproject.com/podcast/series/image-of-god-series/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS In difficult circumstances and with difficult people, what does abiding in Jesus look like for you? What thoughts, feelings, or behaviors do you have that trigger your awareness that you might not be abiding in Jesus? ACTIVATION STEPS Talk with a trusted, Spirit-filled family member, friend, or spouse about when it is most difficult for each of you to abide in Jesus. Develop a plan for how you will encourage one another when those moments come. Use last week’s activation step as a starting point.

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about 1-3 John (1 John 3.4-24; 2 John 1-6; 3 John 2-12) and how our proximity to Jesus isn't as important as our faith in him. They also discuss how what we practice (work at to improve) reveals our true loyalty: practicing rebellion against our design reveals our loyalty to the enemy, practicing living in right relationship with God and others reveals our loyalty to Jesus. — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Opening (03:52) 1 John 3.1-10; 3 John 11-12 (19:09) 1 John 3.11-12; 3 John 11 (37:36) 1 John 3.13-22; 2 John 1-6 (55:37)1 John3.23-24; 3 John 2-8 (1:05:33)Closing — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/new-testament/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/ — EPISODE NOTES — APPLICATION QUESTIONS As a Christian, how have you demonstrated that you do not practice sin (self-righteousness/unrighteousness)? When is it most difficult for you to practice right relational living (righteousness)? ACTIVATION STEPS Assess this week when you are tempted to practice sin. Take note of the extent to which the following factors played a role in you giving into the temptation: 0 = not a factor / 4 = major factor • Hunger / Type of Diet/Nutrition: 0 1 2 3 4 • Exhaustion (not from health): 0 1 2 3 4 • Unresolved Frustrations: 0 1 2 3 4 • Unresolved Disappointments: 0 1 2 3 4 • External Pressures (others): 0 1 2 3 4 • Internal Pressures (yourself): 0 1 2 3 4 • Physical Health / Lack of Exercise: 0 1 2 3 4 Using the factors that you selected 3 or 4, what might God be revealing to you about your lack of trust or dependence on Him in those areas? Prayerfully discussing with a close, trusted, Spirit-filled friend, what intentional steps might you need to take to grow in your trust or dependence on the Holy Spirit in those areas?

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about 1-3 John (2 John 2.3-3.3) and how our focus determines our world view — whether light and walking with the Holy Spirit or darkness and rejecting God's empowerment. They also discuss antichrist, eschatology, and the Kingdom of Heaven spreading to fill the earth. — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet • Bible Tools | New Testament • HCF Freedom • More Content & Resources at our website

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about 1-3 John (1 John 1.1-2.2), Gnostic influences in the modern church, and how believers do not have to sin. They also discuss how our ability to experience full joy may only come as a result of serving and loving others. — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools | New Testament https://cultivaterelationships.com/bibl-tools/new-testament/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about miracles they've experienced throughout their life and marriage. They also discuss how seeing miracles takes intentionality, humility, and release of expectations. — EPISODE LINKS — • Seasons (Live) - Hillsong Worship https://youtu.be/QaEx2A7p9Dk • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Jude 17-24 and how believers are empowered by Jesus to live in mercy. They also discuss progressive Christianity and the practical tools Cultivate Relationships provides to keep believers from becoming bad leaders. — EPISODE LINKS — • STB044 | LGBT + Kalena https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb044/ • StrengthsFinder Book, by Tom Rath and Gallup https://a.co/d/iuHxoh2 • FREE Strength Finder Test https://high5test.com/ • Teaching | The End-Times and Why You'll Want to Be Left Behind https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20201130-the-end-times-and-why-youll-want-to-be-left-behind/ • Podcast Playlist | Revelation https://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation • The Habit Tree Worksheet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Jude 1-16 and how believers are to live in a manner that agrees with their beliefs. They also discuss Gnosticism, apocryphal books, false teachers, along with how to avoid becoming a legalistic or liberal Christians. — EPISODE LINKS — • The Babylon Bee: If Jesus’ Resurrection Were A Hoax https://youtu.be/23UNLLbOS3w • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about Gnosticism and its impact on the content of the New Testament, along with its influence on the modern church. They also discuss ways Christians may be "gnostic" and not even realize it. — EPISODE LINKS — • The IVP Bible Background Commentary: New Testament https://a.co/d/3OfJhYi • Rethinking the Dates of the New Testament, by Jonathan Bernier https://a.co/d/iyAVcx3 • The Natural Ability of Man, By Jesse Morrell https://www.lulu.com/shop/jesse-morrell/the-natural-ability-of-man-a-study-on-free-will-human-nature/paperback/product-20452393.html • Bible Project Podcast: Images of God (4 Episodes) https://bibleproject.com/podcast/series/image-of-god-series/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about pessimistic fear-inducing American-centric interpretations of Revelation, Spirit-led decision-making, technology, whether or not Elon Musk is evil, and how social media is antagonistic to how our brains are wired. They also discuss how social justice, migrants, protestors, and people who tow the line are used as pawns to empower progressivism and liberal agendas that are in opposition to the Gospel message. — EPISODE LINKS — • Podcast Playlist | Revelation https://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about how a Christian should respond to politics, voting, conspiracies, and war. They also discuss how our view of the world, the Kingdom of God, and His images (people) will determine our hope and peace. — EPISODE LINKS — • TEACHING: The End-Times and Why You'll Want to Be Left Behind • The Experimenter (Amazon Prime) • More Content & Resources at our website

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about how to encourage someone going through a hard time. They also discuss love languages, how to pray for someone, and how to respond when you don’t feel cared for. — EPISODE LINKS — •5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman https://a.co/d/8FXcFym •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about God giving people vision, hopes, and dreams, along with the downfalls of trying to fulfill these through self-imposed expectations for how those should be accomplished. — EPISODE LINKS — • Experiencing God, by Henry Blackaby & Richard Blackaby https://a.co/d/f6axKqo • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Scott Frerking about attending church while also living in intentional community with others. They also share their thoughts on mega-churches and house churches. — EPISODE LINKS — •The gas gauge was introduced in 1988 https://www.designnews.com/automotive-engineering/how-your-car-got-its-fuel-fill-arrow-gas-gauge •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Jordan Cornelius about the spectrums of Christianity and their views on the authority of Scripture. — EPISODE LINKS — •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Andrew Orr about the role media production, social media, and live-streaming have in the modern church. — EPISODE LINKS — •Andrew’s Production Company (LivingPicture.us) https://www.livingpicture.us/ •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about how to read and study the Bible with the Holy Spirit. Lots of recommended resources in this one! — EPISODE LINKS — •Bible Tools Resource https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ •FREE Online Bibles (Bible.com) https://www.bible.com/ •FREE Online Greek/Hebrew Study Tools (blueletterbible.com) https://www.blueletterbible.org/ •Teaching | Threads Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/threads/ •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with a man’s man, Cole Bollier, about manly things and why men need to be more in touch with their feelings. — EPISODE LINKS — •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Jeremy Cotton about hearing God’s voice, life transitions, and resolving disappointment. — EPISODE LINKS — •David McDonald Ministries https://davidmcdonaldministries.com/ •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about social media and how the more “connected” we are, the more disconnected we become. — EPISODE LINKS — •7 Ways the Printing Press Changed the World | History https://www.history.com/news/printing-press-renaissance •Parents of the Social Media Generation Are Not OK | CNN https://www.cnn.com/2021/12/08/tech/social-media-parents/index.html •The Power of Vulnerability | Brené Brown | YouTube https://youtu.be/PY9DcIMGxMs •Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong | Johann Hari | YouTube https://youtu.be/PY9DcIMGxMs •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Rebekah Jones about how to grieve the loss of loved ones in a healthy way. They also discuss running, eating disorders, self-hatred, purity culture, and unhealthy perspectives in fundamental Christianity. — EPISODE LINKS — • Rockpile Church http://rockpilechurch.com/ • The Problem of Pain, by C.S. Lewis https://a.co/d/gVXqbzf • Redefined: Evaluating Purity Culture Podcast (Spotify) https://open.spotify.com/show/3ZOm3RaDgCWkCvQMKlZwOi • Redefined Podcast (Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/redefinedbyjc/ • Redefined Podcast (Facebook) https://www.facebook.com/redefinedevaluation • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Kalena Cotton about how she connects with God. We discuss reading the Bible, worship, and prophetic words — including when and what words to receive, revisit, or reject. — EPISODE LINKS — •The Passion Translation https://www.thepassiontranslation.com/ •Echo Holy (LIVE) – Red Rocks Worship https://youtu.be/cVxI5AkOIV4 •Raise A Hallelujah (LIVE) – Bethel Music https://youtu.be/awkO61T6i0k •Promises (LIVE) – Maverick City https://youtu.be/q5m09rqOoxE •Breakthrough (LIVE) – Red Rocks Worship https://youtu.be/yhyVW6sbZeA •STB044 | LGBT + Kalena Cotton https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb044/ •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Michael Barnard. We discuss the light topics of evangelism, salvation, and hell. We also discuss how to have healthy disagreements with other Christians and why some things aren’t worth debating. — EPISODE LINKS — •Michael’s Sermon on Hell https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sGYuEaSAp7Q •Michael’s Seromon on Women in Ministry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PInvCoCVTBk •4 Views on Hell https://a.co/d/iInpnFZ •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Kalena about why some people who grew up evangelical are deconstructing their faith and leaving the Church. They also discuss their views on progressive “Christianity” and why not having an anchor is dangerous. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website

Nathan shoots the breeze with Arianna Steel, his adopted daughter and homeschool science student. This episode literally proves our show name. While discussing weekly traditions, they also touch on counseling, ASMR, pets, and so much more. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website

Nathan shoots the breeze with Kalena Cotton, a long-time acquaintance, a worship leader, and a former lesbian. They discuss Kalena’s journey into the “cult-like” embrace of the LGBT community, along with her own struggles that led her there. — EPISODE LINKS — •Kalena’s Testimony https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20210919-preparing-your-heart-to-hear-gods-voice-kalena-cotton/ •More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with his friends Joe and Daniel about theology, science, and evolution. They also discuss recognizing the limitations of apologetics and seeing the value of focusing on the relationship more than winning an argument. — EPISODE LINKS — • The Bible Project https://bibleproject.com/ • Answers In Genesis https://answersingenesis.org/ • Discovery Institute https://www.discovery.org/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about the important role a healthy community plays in freedom. They also reveal how Christian maturity is more of moving from “glory to glory” than it is “peeling away layers like an onion”. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with his friends, Jim and Joe. They discuss how fulfilling our God-given needs can become unhealthy. They also question whether the Bible is the only way we can know God and grow in our relationship with Him. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about forgiveness, what it means, and how to live out of thorough forgiveness. They also discuss repeat offenders, accountability (and its pitfalls), and how to have encouraging friendships. — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Abide Devotional by Shannon Guerra https://copperlightwood.com/books/abide • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about a question they received about how to make a decision when God hasn’t given you direction. They also discuss free will, open theism, and their definition of God’s conviction. This map clarifies a point I was making about Abraham’s journey from Ur to the Promised Land being led by God through normal or familiar locations: https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb039/ — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

Nathan shoots the breeze with David Root, a friend of his diagnosed with a rare and untreatable lung cancer. They discuss God's goodness, healing, relationships, and the choices he makes to maintain a positive outlook. — EPISODE LINKS — • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about their education, qualifications, and the perceived foolishness in their walk with God. They also reveal the most important thing (and their biggest struggle) they've learned about success and God's favor. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about the subject they have avoided at all costs — politics. They discuss the mark of the beast, vaccines, and Nathan's controversial End-Times beliefs. — EPISODE LINKS — • TEACHING: The End-Times and Why You'll Want to Be Left Behind https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings/20201130-the-end-times-and-why-youll-want-to-be-left-behind/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze again with Pastor Scott Frerking. They discuss spiritual authority, time management as a pastor, mutual submission, and unity between local church communities. You can learn more about Scott by visiting: https://hcftx.org/ — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about homeschooling... again. They discuss lessons they've learned over the years and the changes they're making for this school year. One of the biggest changes they're implementing is a mindset that comes from their friend, Shannon Guerra. She is the author of Upside Down: Understanding and Supporting Attachment in Adoptive Families. You can learn more about Shannon and her family at: https://copperlightwood.com/ — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Jim & Lauren Joiner, volunteer Cultivate Marriage leaders. They discuss the intentionality it takes to be in healthy relationships with others. They talk about why it may be difficult to receive the love others extend toward us and why it is important to discover the deeper issue behind the small annoyances of others. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with his mom, Jolene Beach. They discuss divorce, marriage, and God's provision. They also talk about the importance of having people in our lives — even if they say stupid things from time to time. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze again with Jordan Cornelius. They talk about theology, mental health, and the importance of community and relationships in preventing suicide. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about the season of life they are in and how God has brought them to a place of peace. They each share their perspectives on where God has them in ministry, as a parent, and in their personal lives. They also share what they have had to do to receive peace of mind, no matter what is happening around them. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with his oldest brother, Jeremy. Jeremy has a daughter with whom he shares custody. We discuss when and how to compromise, along with how to maintain consistency. We also discuss our experience growing up in church and how discipleship and evangelism may not be what we were traditionally taught. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with John Barclay, a husband, dad, software security salesman, and a volunteer leader with Cultivate. We discuss how the home he grew up in affected his marriage. He talks about his struggle with needing to be in control and learn healthy forms of conflict in his marriage. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Lauren Barclay, a wife, mom, and former volunteer leader with Cultivate. The trauma Lauren faced growing up resulted in anxiety that often fed thoughts of her circumstances ending in worst-case scenarios. She talks about how this anxiety impacted her marriage and parenting. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about devotional times and bible reading. The "Christianese" is strong in this one. They both share how their times with God have changed throughout their lives, along with some recommendations that may help you get more out of your quiet times. If you're unfamiliar with what "devotions" and "quiet times" mean, think of it like meditation, but where you are intentionally focusing on the Holy Spirit's voice. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Daniel Diemer, a senior power grid operator for a Texas electric company. In his time in the Navy, he was a nuclear electrician on a submarine. They discuss evolution and the role religion plays in science. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about spiritual abuse. Lacey shares her story of being at Master's Commission — a ministry school that marginalized unpopular students and treated dropouts like they had given up on Jesus himself. Nathan describes what it was like growing up in a house with a spiritually abusive pastor for a dad. They also share some resources that can help you resolve spiritual abuse and live free from its oppression. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about accountability partners. *SPOILER ALERT* They do not like them. But they do talk about something that has been proven very effective for changing unhealthy mindsets and habits. Also, they fight about their new studio/office arrangement. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about how they make decisions. Lacey tells the story of how they pursued her healthcare and surgery (and the decisions they made along the way). They also decide how they will parent their girls right before your ears. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze by asking each other random questions. From politics to childhood fears, they ask questions from a book they used to get to know each other while they were dating. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about their ideal dates, how the Holy Spirit has been speaking to them lately, and — for the first time in their marriage — how God has been calling them in directions for this season of life. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Jason Teague, a United Methodist Pastor. They discuss the apprehensions of getting into full-time ministry. You can learn more about Jason by visiting: https://burnetmethodist.org/ — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey share their struggle with infertility, along with some of the more common inappropriate things they hear about adoption. This episode will be encouraging to those struggling with infertility and secondary infertility. Also, this discussion will help you know what to say to someone struggling with infertility. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Jordan Cornelius, a former Marine and a personal student of N.T. Wright. They talk about depression, the importance of mental health, and how the Spirit of God helps them. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Donna Shaw, pastor, ministry director, and the Chief Operations Officer of the business she and her husband own. She's a wife, homeschool mom, and so much more. They discuss time management, how she develops volunteers, and how she sets realistic goals for herself. They also share a hobby they mutually enjoy — wearing costumes. You can learn more about her at her website: https://weakdayministries.com/ — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Cate Morris, an author, speaker, worship leader, and evangelist. She and her husband, Jamin, are commercial fishermen in Homer, Alaska. They discuss her new book, Beyond the Siege. Nathan read her book during one of the darkest seasons of his entire life. While there were many contributing factors to his freedom, Cate's book was the catalyst of hope that reinforced the truth that he is not alone. You can learn more about her at her website: https://catemorris.com/ — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with his older brothers, Jeremy and Josh Steel. This is the only episode that had to be edited due to how breezy it was. In the middle of all the jokes, sarcasm, and laughing, they discuss what it has taken for them to have a healthy relationship. Also, Nathan's brothers share their perspective on growing up with a brother who has a terminal disease. They also advise parents and siblings of those who have an illness. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about the blessings they've experienced as a couple and family over the past 16 years. One of the biggest keys to maintaining emotional, mental, and relational freedom is thankfulness. They received some disappointing news just before recording this episode, so they decided to remember God's faithfulness. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan shoots the breeze with Scott Frerking, Hill Country Fellowship Church's lead pastor in Burnet, Texas. He and his wife, Sarah, are parents to five children. Scott and his wife were Nathan and Lacey's marriage counselors almost 15 years ago. They talk about their wives (and the wives' disapproval of their jokes), their kids (and how often their children force them to trust Jesus), and leadership (and how to have confidence and conviction amidst opposition). — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about their pets. They grieve the passing of one of their favorite pups they've owned. This transitions to stories of all the pets they've had through their marriage. *TRIGGER WARNING* Some of them do not end well. They also share some bazaar pets other people have had and the tragedies that have resulted from those bazaar pets — this episode has DOUBLE TRIGGER WARNINGS!!! — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about Lacey's new speech impediment. They also share an encouraging thought that may change how you view yourself. They share ten things they appreciate to celebrate the 10th episode of Shoot the Breeze. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about being back in their studio and discuss the horror stories from past Valentine's Days. They also discuss several traditions their family has and why they're important to them. They also share some tips that can help your family create meaningful traditions. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about taking their work home because global warming officially hit Texas, and they are FREEZING! As they shelter, they agree to disagree about showing up late to places, the Twilight series, and what translation of the Bible is best. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze and respond to your questions and your responses. Some of the topics covered in the episode are how to find peace amidst chaos, living whole amidst a divorce, how to find contentment through singleness, and how to start dating post-divorce. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze by reminiscing about what was "cool" when they were growing up. Also, they reveal their secret shame and a few books they recommend... and some they don't. They are also joined by a special guest, their dog, Lulu. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about their time in Ireland, along with their ministry failures and fact checks. Lacey also reveals how the lack of conviction in one's life leads to unnecessary pain. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about homeschooling and how it took a global pandemic to get them to do it again. They also discuss colloquialisms, playing the lottery, hiding money in couches, and why even good habits can be bad for you. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze about their love of fish, the stomach flu, and an embarrassing encounter Nathan had with Pastor Mark Driscoll. Nathan also blows the whistle on Lacey, revealing a very dangerous driving issue she has. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey shoot the breeze by defending their views of hotel key cards in a segment called "Agree to Disagree". We also discuss why censorship is dangerous and how censorship within relationships can lead to immaturity. — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey discuss firsts (e.g., first appearances, first dates, and first kisses). They also reveal their favorite and worst gifts, and present a surprise segment called "Why Do I Care?" where they discuss why certain theological topics are important. The first important topic: Eschatology (aka, The Study of End Times). — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com

Our podcast celebrates the messiness of life, relationships, and Christianity. Mostly, it is us shooting the breeze (sometimes with guests) while occasionally saying something important.