BPDBreakupandCodependencyRecovery

BPD Ghost or Discard 5 Reasons to Go No Contact BPD ghost or discard you need to go no contact. 5 reasons you need to seek help to work to go no contact. Not the "no contact" of getting your Ex back but serious healing breaking the relationship on/off cycles NO CONTACT. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDDiscard #ajmahari #GoNoContact

Borderline Gaslighting Borderline gaslighting happens or is in play manipulatively when you try to tell the person with BPD how you feel, how their behaviour affected you, they will deny, defend, and make excuses and often start aggressively accusing you of things they did, but things, you didn't do. They, in a differently motivates way from Narcissists are projecting and blaming you to try to defend their own emotional survival. When Borderlines gaslight they don't have empathy. For information about Sessions with me please go to the About page on this channel: https://www.youtube.com/@bpdbreakupcodependencyrecovery/about #BPDGaslighting #ajmanari

Borderline Inward Focus Leaves You Out - 5 Reasons Why The inward focus of people with Borderline Personality Disorder is at the heart of why you really cannot be connected to them and they don't ever truly connect fully or consistently to or with you. The inward focus of people with BPD has 5 central core reasons that all end up blocking you out and making mutuality and/or reciprocity impossible which makes your relationship unhealthy and next to impossible, if not impossible. to have work, last, or function in any remotely healthy way at all. The inward focus of people with BPD is selfish but its genesis has all to do with their emotional dysregulation and lack of self - unstable identity and maladaptive defensive coping mechanisms. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Ebooks & more #BPDInternalFocus #ajmahari #OneWayRelatingwBPD Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/borderlines-inner-focus-leaves-you-out-5

What Do Borderlines Need? 9 Red Flags You Can't Help Them & Why You Will Be Punished For Caring People with Patterns of BPD or diagnosed and not extremely well treated and on their way to BPD Recovery (for real) need from a partner or anyone close to them interpersonally. Why you really can't give them what they need. 9 Red Flags why helping a borderline and meeting their needs is impossible and how you will be punished for caring, loving them, and trying to meet their needs and walk on all those eggshells. Sessions with A.J. Mahari - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions A.J.'s Ebook “Punishment and Revenge in BPD - The Unmastered Unregulated Talionic Impulse” is available at: https://ajmahari.ca/courses-and-products-a-j-mahari/ #WhatBPDNeeds #ajmahari #BPDPunishment #CannotHelpaBorderline #CannotRescueYourBPDLovedOne #BPDLovedOnes

Echo Chamber Info BPD “all bad” and … Echo Chamber info on BPD is that it is "all bad" and ... as if all with BPD are the same They aren't. Does a channel with huge views total mean better information necessarily? It's more polished and it's slick marketing too. Full video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqHgbhVyRDk Sessions - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions These channels rarely, if ever, talk about the relationship dynamics between Borderlines and Codependents.

BPD On/Off Relationship Limbo and Still Stuck Wanting Your BPD Ex Back? Why? BPD on/off relationship limbo and still stuck wanting your BPD Ex back is the situation that a lot of people are finding themselves in. What is keeping you stuck in these very unhealthy cycles? Why do so many keep betraying themselves? If you can relate what is your self-abandonment due to? https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #ajmahari #BPDExBack #Codependency #Counterdependency #childhoodwoundedness

Hurt By Loving a Borderline? Have you been hurt and beyond in loving a Borderline? What do you need to do for you? You need to stop self-abandoning and looking for self-worth and self-esteem from care-taking a person with BPD. Full Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqHgbhVyRDk Sessions with A.J. Mahari - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Idealization Does it Make You Feel Like a Different Person then Lost When Devalued? In BPD idealization does a person with Borderline Personality ‘make’ you feel like a different (“better”) person? Then I’m BPD devaluation does the Borderline make you feel lost? Do you have responsibility for how you feel? For #Codependent #lowselfesteem and #lackofselfworth https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDIdealization #BPDDevaluation #ajmahari #Codependency #Borderlinemakeyourfeel #CodepndentResponsibility

BPD Negative Impact on Loved One’s in One Way Relationships Staying in BPD relationships of any type negatively impacts loved ones. Full video here: https://youtu.be/c9JnXQ827X4 Sessions with A.J. - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions These one way relationships cause so many negative impacts on people who love a person with BPD in any relationship type.

Understanding Codependency & Split Relational Dynamics with The Borderline Understanding your codependency and the deeper ways you feel so much pain from the person with BPD (because of what they do) and also the unconscious inner child "benefits" of why you keep relating to a borderline who is hurting you and not seeing you. The shared split relational dynamics that unfold between borderlines and codependents go back to family of origin adverse experiences. Codependents are coming almost from an opposing yet similar seeking of reparation from childhood. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDCodependentDynamics #ajmahari #UndertandingCodependency #Codependencyrecovery

On/Off with pw/BPD - Ignoring Your Gut Instinct? Full Video - BPD Relationship Ignoring Your Gut Instinct? Emotionally Stressed? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2X3r-LSxZ_s Are you now or have you been in the on/off limbo place of being ghosted by a Borderline and you want them back? This is not only cognitive dissonance but it is ignoring your own gut brain instinct? Have you thought about this? Sessions with A.J. Mahari - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions People with Codependency have tremendous difficulty being able to stop abandoning themselves in the obsession of care-taking the Borderline. #OnOffBPDEx #ajmahari #GutBrain

BPD Relationship Ignoring Your Gut Instinct? Emotionally Stressed? Are you in a BPD Relationship ignoring your gut instinct? Are you often emotionally stressed? Dating a person with BPD just figuring that out or still trying to get a BPD Ex back all while ignoring your gut instinct? Your gut instinct is more important to focus on than the Borderline red flags because it is at least some focus on yourself. People with Codependency have learned in childhood to not trust your gut instincts and/or feelings and to put another person's needs and wants ahead of your own. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Ebooks & More - Want to be interviewed? #BPDpartnerorEx #ajmahari #IgnoringGutInstinctForaBorderline

BPD Ghost or Discard - No Contact To Re-attract Your Ex? To what end? This codependent ploy of “no contact” to re-attract your BPD Ex, if and when it “works” is only you (perhaps not consciously) setting yourself up for potential relationship recycling wherein *nothing* will be different and the split to devaluation cycles, without re-idealization speed up and you will be in more agony than the first, second, third (etc.) time. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Want to learn how to emotionally cope with authentically going *real no contact* as part of your seeking help to break free? #bpdDiscard #nocontact #ajmahari #nocontactToHeal

BPD Ex? No Contact - When or Why To Break No Contact? No contact is an important goal and stepping-stone to work toward after you have been ghosted or discarded - in your BPD Breakup recovery. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions No contact is not a way that you need ever manipulate to get a BPD Ex back. How is that ever a healthy idea, strategy, or “game to play?” It never is. #ghostedbyBPD #ajmahari #bpdDiscard #codependency #BPDRelationshiprecycling

Trying To Rescue & Change a Borderline? This is the ultimate (often unconscious) self-abandonment of people who truly do have the adaptive wounded mess of Codependency that has its roots in not feeling emotionally safe or worse in childhood for various family system and dysfunctional family of origin reasons. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions Are you ready to learn more that will help you to know yourself better? Want/need to connect to your lost inner child so you can rescue and change - heal - yourself? I have 33 years of experience working with people to heal and recover from any BPD or NPD person, in any relationship type, so you can heal your Codependency and become a healthier and independently happy integrated person.

Devastated By A Borderline? Repetition Compulsions of Lostness in Codependency are incredibly re-wounding due to the trauma bonding with a person who has BPD. Watch Full Video here: https://youtu.be/P9RAZbhCFLI It is the childhood woundedness that causes a Codependent response as a protection to feeling emotionally unsafe. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions When you are prepared to open to your own healing and recovery journey each person with Codependence can then begin to learn about the re-wounding relational dynamics of both sides of these unhealthy relationships. You need to to learn how to break the trauma bond!

BPD Relationship Recycling - Want BPD Ex Back? These Hoovers and reverse Hoovers - the Codependent obsession with a Borderline Ex is really you, as a person with Codependency unconsciously seeking what your wounded inner child never got and so needed from a wounding parent. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions Want to heal and find yourself after a BPD Relationship Breakup? People with Codependency become very dependent on a person or Ex w/BPD to give them a sense of (lacking) self-esteem and (lacking) self-worth.

BPD Idealization & Codependency Borderlines don’t make you feel good about yourself in their idealization. That’s your reaction but they can’t”make you feel it”. Then when the split to major devaluation comes wherein you may be ghosted suddenly you are shocked. You wonder why they aren’t “seeing you” the way they (apparently) did in idealization. They really weren’t idealizing you for who you really are. This is where your unconscious woundedness from your childhood is starting to be re-experienced. It’s not all about the Borderline. To break the cycle of being a codependent dependent upon caretaking a person with BOD to derive self-worth and self-esteem externally is a key reason to get into a healing and recovery process to process this and why you don’t have a consistent sense of self to internally know and regulate. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

Loving a Borderline is a One Way Relationship When you are loving or trying to love a person with Borderline Personality, whether a significant other, mother or father. sibling or friend it's a one way relationship. You will give and give and that person will take and take. You want to please them, but they can't be pleased. You want to be seen and heard but they truly don't see you or hear you. Loving a Borderline is a one way relationship in which you lose yourself. There is no mutuality in these relationships. When you need something like support or being heard about feeling hurt the BPD partner or on/off Ex has nothing to give you. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #LovingABorderline #ajmahari #codependency

Have a Borderline or Narcissist in Your Life? Losing Yourself? Are you still way over-focused on that person with BPD or NPD and making any relationship type work no matter what? Are you losing yourself? Stressed out, in pain, stressed out, unable to concentrate on anything else and having difficulty sleeping? Are you denying that you have Codependency? Do you even know how to put yourself first? I can help you. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions with A.J. Mahari You deserve much more! You deserve to heal, change, and grow rather than trying, in vain, yo change a Borderline or Narcissist. The first step to healing starts with talking about it.

BPD Breakup Exs’ Carrying The Wounds Internally = Building Maladaptive Internal Walls After a BPD breakup so many Ex's are carrying the wounds of that painful experience internally now and building maladaptive protective walls that likely also go back to wounds in and from childhood. The external world will be not as you believe it to be or as you want it to be but it will be what you perceive or misperceive it to be projecting your pain and woundedness after the BPD Breakup out onto "all other woman" or "all other men". The painful trap of not healing or processing to free oneself of negative core beliefs, the wounds from the relationships and the wounds of your inner child. Do you have your walls up now? Are you projecting out internal (unconscious) unhealthy adaptation of defenses that won't serve you in your life going forward? I can help you heal this multi-layered woundedness and defensiveness - the maladaptive coping patterns of people with Codependency and/or Counter-Dependency after BPD or NPD relationships wherein you lose yourself. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions #BPDBreakup #CoreWounds #ajmahari #codependentsbuildingwalls #innerchild #wallingyourselfin #CodependentRecovery

BPD Relationship & Breakup BPD Empathy or Its Lack Is The Third Rail Disconnect BPD relationship and/or breakups and recycling, the reality for most loved ones is many with BPD lack empathy while misperceiving that they have "empathy in spades". The BPD narrative of having so much "superior" empathy versus the loved one experience of a tremendous lack of empathy in so many (not all) with BPD is the third rail disconnect between many with BPD and their loved ones, many of whom have Codependency. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDEmpathy #ajmahari #BPDlackofempathy #BPDBreakup #BPDCodependentDisconnects #codependency #NotAllBPDSame

Want Your BPD Ex Back? So many people find it unthinkable from a highly emotional lens and relational experience that a BPD discard or Breakup is “the end”. Check out this video: “BPD Relationship Recycling - Getting Your Ex Back is Recycling The Trauma Bond” https://youtu.be/KJXg-X4Dg3I So many people - thousands + clients I have worked with recycle these “breakups” only to be re-wounded and lose themselves to the T bond that isn’t love. Watch the above video among many others on my channel to learn more about escaping this trap and how to cope. No contact is your way forward even when it feels impossible! Are you recycling or booing you by getting your BPD Ex back? Want to understand what is happening to you emotionally? Book a session with me and let’s work toward your much-needed clarity. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

Borderlines Lack of Empathy Borderline lack of empathy is fueled by identity disturbance - the loss of self and arrested emotional development as a response to adverse childhood experience. People with BPD unconsciously at very young ages need a lot of defense mechanisms to survive their childhoods. Their defenses in childhood become very maladaptive in adulthood and attempts to have relationships. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Contact & more - Want to Be interviewed email me https://ajmahari.com Ebooks #BPDLackEmpathy #ajmahari

Identity Disturbance in BPD is not a lack of values or about “character flaws”. 87% of people diagnosed with BPD have arrested emotional development by or before the age of two. This “identity disturbance is a response to extreme adverse childhood experience that may begin in infancy. Identity disturbance in BPD is a lack of known or defined self. People with untreated BPD cannot relate to self or others in any consistent or congruent way due to this loss of self that is termed “identity disturbance” These people have a fragmented ego to where they need to find that arrested emotional self in therapy. Want or need to understand more about the truth and depth of identity disturbance in a loved one with BPD and how that effects you as someone e close to a person with BPD? Sessions with A.J. - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions