BPDBreakupandCodependencyRecovery

BPD On/Off Relationship - Why Still Talking To A Borderline Who Isn’t Listening & Can’t Hear You? BPD on/off relationship cycles don't work and are very painful and unhealthy. Are you still in contact, going in circles and feeling more and more lost and hurt? Are you still talking to a Borderline who isn't listening and can't hear you? https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Ebooks & more #BPDonOff #TalkingtoBPDNotListening #ajmahari

Borderline Personality Identity Disturbance | A.J. Mahari BPD Inside Out Borderline Personality Disorder identity disturbance, the lost self, lack of self in BPD. People with BPD do not have a known sense of self or identity. This arrested self that is not known is at the core of what drives so many Borderline defenses and unconsciously drives their repetition compulsions cycles that inhibit relating so severely that undiagnosed and/or untreated people with BPD cannot connect and relate to others and they are seeking a sense of identity from the person they are closest to. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more #BPDidenityDisturbance #BPDNoIdentity #ajmahari,

BPD Breakup Focusing on BPD To Be an ‘Expert’ & Not On Yourself? This a way a lot of people stay stuck and blocked to getting into a healing & recovery process and focusing on finding yourself - not staying stressed and lost. No matter how much you know about BPD as a person hurt by one or more people with BPD you still won’t really be able to know the deeper motivations that are unconsciously repeated over and over by people with BPD or why this or that then or now. It’s also very difficult for Ex’s to really know what could have been done intentionally and what may well not be done on purpose. It matters more that you take care of yourself than whether or not this, that, or the other painful ways they treated you were on purpose or not. Even if you can know that, at times, it doesn’t make what they are doing okay or anything that you need to continue to rationalize or deny. Sessions - https://ajmahari.ca

Do Borderlines Need Supply or Identity From You? Borderlines, unlike so many people believe, are not seeking supply like Narcissists do. Borderlines need validation and seeking identity (unconsciously) from or through you. Are you no contact? No contact after a BPD relationship breakup is best. When no longer communicating with your BPD Ex that’s not about you feeling power over them - that’s still codependency - it’s about you learning in therapy to self-partner in healing and recovery. Looking for help, support, more understanding in healing? Sessions - https://ajmahari.ca

BPD Relationships and Couple's Counselling - Will it Save Your Relationship? (Click on a Video Card To See List of Linked Videos) BPD relationships and partners believing that couple's counselling will benefit and/or save your relationship - it doesn't and it won't. People with undiagnosed (all the patterns of) BPD or diagnosed BPD who are not able to take personal responsibility or effectively communicate in any mutual way need their own therapy - years of it. And you need your own healing and recovery process from Codependency, CPTSD, and/or PTSD. Couple's Counselling with people with BPD does not work. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more #BPDandCouplesCounselling #BPDRelationshipsUnhealthy #ajmahari

Borderline Patterns Diagnosed Or Not Don't Doubt Your Experience (Originally Recorded April 21/23) Borderline patterns diagnosed or not it's important that you don't doubt what you are experiencing. There are a lot of people out there with all the patterns of BPD that aren't diagnosed. When the experience and the pain fits you need to trust what you are experiencing. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDpatterns #BPD #ajmahari

Borderlines Radicalized Social Media Tribalism Weaponized Against You Borderline radicalized social media tribalism weaponized against you and the increasing BPD social media echo chamber's normalizing Borderline Personality Disorder by many with it that is contributing to many with BPD to increasingly weaponize their distorted radical tribalism of "identity" in the vilification of partners. How many times have you seen Borderlines online complaining that we are all "vilifying" them (BPD projection) and how many times and ways have you experienced this in your own relationship and/or breakup with a Borderline? https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more #BPDRadicalized #BPDTribalism #ajmahari

Vulnerability is a Strength Not A Weakness I have an obvious difference - I'm very fat. This is the result of a medical condition and not anything emotional and I don't have an eating disorder. Had I not found my way to healing many years ago from a Cluster B dysfunctional family of origin I would be without the hard earned gift of my healthy self-esteem and self-worth. I know that my size is seen, among other things, as a vulnerability that trolls love to attack thinking it is a weakness of mine and where they can most hurt me. That's just not true. What others perceive as my vulnerability is a strength and not a weakness for me. I will do me and be me, fat and all. There are as many vulnerabilities and then some as their are people. Differences need to be respected. If you are just coming out of a relationship with a Borderline or Narcissist and/or from a Narcissistic Dysfunctional family of origin, in your healing and recovery process, don't allow anyone to define you anymore. Working toward healing you will learn to empower yourself and build healthy self-esteem and self-worth. Self-partnering and self respect is invaluable. Do you and be you, unapologetically. I have been working with clients to help them heal from BPD or NPD Relationship breakups, Dysfunctional families of origin, Codependency, CPTSD, PTSD, for 33 years. My medical condition has been a problem for the last 3-4 years primarily. It's not cool to be fat and especially not as a Youtuber in our Narcissistic culture. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more

Borderlines Radicalized Social Media Tribalism Weaponized Against You The “reality” and entitled exploitation increasing in so many with patterns of or diagnosed BPD is causing an ever-escalating more dangerous and more emboldened punishing vengeance from so many with BPD against those who try to live them. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & More

Couple’s Counselling With Your SO w/BPD? Will it save your relationship? With an undiagnosed and/or untreated person (partner) with BPD - No! So many people (often with Codependency) believe that Couple’s therapy even as a last ditch effort will save a relationship or change something about “who” the partner w/BPD is and how they act, behave, “relate” etc. This is not true and results in the person with BPD aborting the therapy because they get triggered to devaluation with anything or feedback - even a question - in session and feel ganged up on and often shut down, get very volatile or just leave and/or refuse to ever go back. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Podcasts - Ebooks & more

BPD Breakup No Closure & Wanting a "Closure Conversation" with Your Ex BPD breakup and no closure leaves so many Ex's wanting "the closure conversation" with a BPD Ex - these "closure conversations" go nowhere and only hurt you more. I work with clients to help people heal and recover and in that process find your own closure which is much more empowering and healing then anything you could ever get from risking the "closure conversation" with your Ex. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #NoClosure #ajmahari

Borderlines Use You They Do Not Love or Attach To You (Originally Recorded April 16/23) Borderlines (patterns undiagnosed and/or untreated) use you they do not love you or attach to you. People with BPD with the central approach/avoidance conflict and the major defense of splitting are not emotionally mature enough for love or attachment. This is how and why they can ghost and discard so easily and so often. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BorderlinesUseYou #noloveorattaching #ajmahari

Borderlines Use You Borderlines Use You because they are incapable (untreated) of love or attachment. You are emotionally experienced (unconsciously) by them as a “good parent” when not devaluing you. They in a child-like way expect you to validate them, give them what they want when they want it. They don’t give back. They aren’t capable of healthy mutuality. These are the endless eggshells that you walk on trying to stay out of their splits to devaluation. Do you ever really feel respected or like the borderline you “know” or “knew” cares about your feeling or needs? http://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Podcasts, Ebooks & more

BPD Breakup - Still Pursuing Your Ex? Strong Childhood Connection You Need To Heal Codependency originates from unmet needs to childhood trauma as it varies for different people and their family of origin. There is a very strong correlation (often unconsciously) for so many people that just can’t stop pursuing a Borderline ex or can’t break free of a person with BPD- pursuing, reverse hoovering - relationship recycling often for years. Most people believe all the pain of a BPD Breakup is 100 % the borderline’s doing or fault. While much is about the way you were treated terribly by a BPD partner there is a strong childhood & family of origin connection that Ned’s to be unpacked, processed and *emotionally* understood in a healing and recovery process. I have been helping clients do this deep healing work to be able to let go of the BPD ex and all focus on them to work toward truly moving on in healthy independent ways in life and relationships. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more

BPD Breakup - Still Missing, Longing For & Loving Your Ex? Many people are stuck still missing, longing for and loving a BPD Ex. For many people it’s been 2-3 or more years. Why is it so difficult to break the trauma bond and heal beyond recycling toxic painful relationships? You are stuck emotionally if you are still missing, longing for, and/or loving your ex which also often means also still more focused on the ex vs yourself. If you can’t move on and are too exhausted to ever go back or your BPD ex did the final discard I have 33 years experience working with people to heal from and break these trauma bonds and heal from the relationship and Codependency. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Podcasts- Ebooks & more

Borderline Beliefs - Everything They Don’t Believe is Stigma When It Isn’t There are so many people with Borderline Personality Disorder that just can’t see beyond what they feel and feel in cognitively distorted ways that lacks any aware application of logic. So many with BPD falsely believe every they *feel* is *real* - this is just not accurate. Is this Borderline Blame-shifting? If you can’t bridge the gap with a person with BPD in your life or significant other relationship and you are in so much pain and trying to figure out the person with BPD who is or has hurt you I can help you. https://ajmahari.ca -Sessions

Borderline Mindset vs Emotional Harm To Others - BPD Contradictions The borderline mindset for many with BPD is in direct conflict with the emotional harm to others. Many people with BPD even when more aware than many others still have many contradictions. What have your experienced with a person with BPD and their contradictions? How can you take care of yourself, but not "abandon" them. If you need to breakup or walk away for your own mental health does that contradict the notion that "love never fails?" https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more #BorderlineMindset #BPDHarmOthers #ajmahari

Borderlines Ghost & Discard and many have their own “understanding” of why and yet still leave so many partners, Ex’s or Favorite Person with devastatingly painful shock and no closure. If many can “explain” this behaviour of theirs why can’t they take personal responsibility to say something to the person they ghost and/or discard? So many people with BPD have no true understanding or awareness of how much they wound others. Perhaps they just don’t care. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Podcasts & more Apologies for the fan noise in the background

Borderline blame-shifting is the result of people with Borderline Personality Disorder who don’t take any personal responsibility or accountability and lack self-awareness. People with BPD blame-shift in very painful ways in interpersonal relationships. People with BPD also continue to blame-shift into people online who the *feel* are stigmatizing or vilifying them. This is the consummate Borderline victim narrative of (each with BPD) “poor me”. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blogs - Podcasts & more

BPD Breakup & The Mother Wound - 7 Impacting Consequences For Men with Codependency Most men in a relationship with a girlfriend or wife with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have Codependency. The origin of Codependency is in childhood and is the result of the Mother Wound. (Can be or also be a Father Wound). It is the wounded inner child - that hurt little boy inside who didn't get enough of his emotional needs met in childhood - that unconsciously seeks out an emotionally unavailable woman in adulthood. You really do date or marry "your mother". To stop longing for a BPD or NPD Ex and still love her when she has no healthy love for you is the deep inner ache of the Mother Wound inside the little boy inside you, the man. You can heal this and it requires going deep because it isn't really all about your BPD or NPD ex or on/off recycling Ex. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & More #BPDBreakup #MenandMotherWound #ajmahari

Borderline or Narcissist Mother Contrast & Comparison - How They Wound Us Having been the child of a Borderline or Narcissist mother means you have experienced childhood trauma. As the adult child of a Borderline or Narcissist mother the trauma and trauma bond you suffered as a child will continue to negatively impact you and your relationships in adulthood until and unless you seek help to heal and recovery and fully know yourself. It is also important to not stay enmeshed with a Borderline or Narcissist mother and to not continue in adulthood to pursue the unmet needs of childhood trauma because it only re-traumatizes you. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more #BPDMother #NPDMother #ajmahari Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/borderline-or-narcissistic-mother-contra

Borderline Tribalism & BPD Right-Fighting - They Can't Handle The Truth The victim narrative of so many with Borderline Personality Disorder continues to grow as they evoke a co-opted "social justice warrior" victim mentality and try to silence those who tell the truth about them. They can't handle the truth. In this Borderline Tribalism each and every one of them, untreated, or not well enough treated, who can't take personal responsibility and regulate their own emotions continues to claim falsely that what people say about them online or in person are "wrong" and that anything said that a Borderline doesn't like or agree with and TAKES PERSONALLY is "hurting all of us", "makes us not want to live" "means I can never have a full life" - Say what? What are they going on about? https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Blog - Podcasts and more #BPDTribalism #BPDrightFighting #ajmahari

Borderline Abuse & Victim Narrative Meets Wokeist Ideology - What's Next "Borderline Phobic?” A person (male) with BPD commented abusively on this channel. When I deleted the comment, this person with BPD felt entitled to continue an ad hominem “conversation” that would be them borderline right fighting, his abuse and harassment. But, hey, what THEY do is "all-right" by them as they lack any conceptual understanding of personal responsibility. This person with BPD took 18 seconds of a video I did (5 months ago) took those 18 seconds personally, got triggered, and well, just like for so many of you in inter-personal relationship to a person with BPD - there's no possibility of a two-way conversation. This person with BPD - commenter and emailer - combines their Ad hominem with so much projection, the abusive BPD victim narrative that has now met with wokist ideology. Aren't people with BPD so "clever" while they miss the point of their right-fighting abusive behavior in "attempts" to do what, exactly? This person with BPD acted so BORDERLINE. Wow, imagine that! :) https://ajmahari.ca #BPDTribalism #BPDWokeism #ajmahari

Mother With Borderline Personality Disorder - Wounding Childhood Dynamics & The Trauma Bond Are you someone who was "raised" by a suspected or diagnosed mother with Borderline Personality Disorder? Are we really ever "raised" by untreated BPD mothers? The devastating childhood dynamics and effects - the wounds and the trauma bond that results from having an untreated Borderline Mother. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions with A.J. Mahari https://ajmahari.ca - Contact - Blog & Podcasts #BorderlineMother #BPDMom #ajmahari Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/mother-with-borderline-personality-disor_1