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Find Out More Tips - Ask Carlos: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/askcarlos What To Talk About With A Guy - 18 Tips By: Carlos Cavallo Have you ever been talking with a man and found yourself wondering what to say next? You wonder what to talk about with a guy… I'll be the first person to tell you that talking to a man is really not that difficult. The problem is that you only learned how to talk to other girls. Ahem ... females, women. We may have a lot of topics in common, but knowing how to talk about with a man is really probably more important than what to talk about with him. Still, it's not intuitive. It's just not easy to know what to talk about with a guy. Aren't you lucky you have Carlos? I've been a guy in my entire life, and I've gone on quite a few dates where the woman talking to me didn't seem to have the first clue of how to talk to me. And now that we live in the age of Covid and online dating, we have to find more ways to make those connections count. Conversation is how more relationships will start off, anyway. So I'm going to give you a crash course in how to talk to men. We'll talk about what to talk about, and how to talk about it. But first, we got to talk about what NOT to talk about. Don't Talk About: Negative topics If you are still in the first two to four dates, you need to avoid your conversation going too negative. If he brings it up, that's okay. But you don't want to stay in the negative zone for too long. After awhile it will start to taint how he feels about you. Eventually, you will talk about these things. But there's no reason to tarnish the start of the relationship yet. Examples: How your life sucks How HIS life sucks Politics (it just ruins everything) News Don't Talk About: Criticism It should go without saying that you should avoid any kind of criticism towards him on those first few important dates. After all, if you are finding things to criticize him about and feel the need to share it, you probably shouldn't be seeing him. Pretty simple, huh? Don't Talk About: Anyone else you are seeing This is obviously a No-No. there's no need to discuss any one you are dating on the side other than him. If he asks, you can politely delay this for later. If you'd like to know how to say it to him, go check this out…. Don't Talk About: Any women from his past Until you're in a relationship that is stable and grounded in your Love & Safety, leave other people out of it. Memories of his past relationships don't belong. YOU are the present; stay with the present. Don't Talk About: His money Look, the truth is that a lot of guys run into a lot of women that are only looking at him as a source of gifts and support. Every guy understands his obligation to provide for his family. But don't bring up the topic of his money too early. Whether that's talking about his salary, or how he spends his money. This doesn't mean that you can't watch how he handles himself when it comes to paying for the check, of course. But there's no reason to get into his finances until much later on. Okay now let's talk about what you should bring to your conversation with a man - Talk About This - #1: Anything you can compliment about him Look ladies, the sad fact of the matter is that men don't get enough compliments. At least not the right kinds. You can't compliment a man the way you compliment a woman. He isn't really all that concerned about his choice in shoes or evening jacket. (Does anyone even care about an evening Jacket anymore?) What a man cares about more than anything else is whether or not he has done something that is worth recognizing. One of the most important things to a man is being approved of. When you give him approval, his heart just sings. So a good compliment is your best starting salvo. Compliment him on something he did well, or a decision he made. Talk About This - #2: Talk about his Hobbies or his Passions Guys love to talk about their pastimes. After all, there's a good chance he took a job just to pay for his Hobbies. And maybe that developed into his career. So you can talk about his work, but even better is to talk about what he would be doing if he didn't have to work at all. In fact, you can even ask him that question to find out what's important to him. You need to know this if you're entertaining the idea of this guy being your "one and only" someday. Also, make sure you ask ... Find out in the video! Watch now... ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== What To Talk About With A Guy https://youtu.be/psBCNA4O-po

Why He Stopped Loving You: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook Are You Dating A Married Man? The Rules - And How To NOT Get Hurt By: Carlos Cavallo Most women never set out to date a married guy. But for some reason this guy was so appealing and so interesting, and now you find yourself dating a married man. He could be a guy you work with, a guy you met at a party, or really anywhere. Maybe you started talking and realized that you have this deep twin flame connection. It just seems so easy to date a married guy, that you can't help yourself. And before you know it, things got really complicated. It could be you - or a friend - or a relative... My goal is to help you NOT get hurt! And to help you keep things REAL as you deal with the most complicated kind of relationship. Is it okay to date a married man? Let's also put aside judgment - especially self-judgment - about this situation. It is what it is, now let's figure it out and decide what to do. We won't be talking about who is right, who is wrong, or who is good or evil here. The simple fact is that these relationships happen all the time. Trying to pretend that they don't is just denial. Sometimes you might not even know this guy was married until later. He may not have intended to get involved outside his marriage. But maybe you still don't want to give him up. You have a connection. There's incredible guilt that goes along with dating a married man. In fact, I know at least FIVE of my immediate family that have had this situation - men and women. (Probably many more, dear reader.) Back in my early teens, I remember my dad even getting into an argument with a guy in our neighborhood who would stop by occasionally to hit on my mom. (AWK-ward!) So I know for a fact that it's common enough, but we just don't want to admit this. I'm going to give you some rules and some tips for handling the situation. If you're dating a married man right now, you're going to walk away knowing what direction you should head in. The truth is that this relationship probably started innocently enough. But, through a series of innocent steps, it became much more. Maybe you started out with just a chat. Talking to him for a few minutes, and realizing how easy it was to connect with him This might have happened a few times, and then you exchange contact information You might start sending each other occasional texts Maybe you go out on a lunch with him sometime - telling yourself it's just an innocent meal But then feelings start to develop... Before you know it, you're on a date with him. And things keep getting deeper from there. First of all - let’s set the record straight: “Does Carlos condone extramarital affairs? Cheating?” No, I do not think that you should continue an affair with a married man. However, I fully understand that sometimes sh*t happens. You didn’t plan for it, but it happened. Life isn’t always neat, tidy, or convenient. However, at some point the relationship must turn the corner and either become YOUR relationship, or he has to go fix his marriage. That’s not what we’re here to discuss today, though. I will give you some simple rules for dating a married guy that will give you the best chance of turning this into a happily ever after story. (Because it CAN work out - if you handle it right!) Now, let's talk about the rules for dating a married man. RULE #1: Drop the guilt! Look, we know what the situation is. Of course it's not ideal. But it's also not a reason to beat yourself up every single day about. The point is to resolve it as quickly and effectively as possible. In a perfect world, people would simply end the relationships that aren't working so they can go find a good one. But sometimes we have to encounter a relationship that works to figure out that the one we're in isn't working. There's no reason to feel a constant aura of guilt and shame. Accept the reasons you are where you are, and just move forward. Don't gloat or wallow in it, simply figure out how to handle it and manage it. RULE #2: Be discreet If there's one thing you know you need to do it's keep things very secret. In order to avoid hurting anyone, you can't let your relationship become public. Unfortunately this is the price you have to pay to keep your relationship going for the short-term. Now, hopefully he is working to end the affair or transition him out of his marriage. The important thing here is - For the rest - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Dating a Married Man https://youtu.be/R09uy7w0x_U

Find Out Why He's Not Loving You: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/helpmecarlos How To Make Him Jealous - And Love You More! - 12 Secrets By: Carlos Cavallo | One of the most common problems a woman has is when a guy seems to be losing interest. And you know that one of the best ways to get him interested again it's figuring out how to make him jealous - and how to make him love you again. It always seems like he's got another priority above you. You never feel like you're at the top of his list. And you probably know that “stoking the fire” with his emotions is a way to inspire him. Look, jealousy works. I'm going to show you how to use this powerful emotion to your advantage. Because he should be feeling a little insecure from time to time, right? The reality is that we all get a little bit jaded. We start to take our significant other for granted, and we don't pay attention like we should. Men are especially prone to this. And every so often he needs a good kick in the butt. “But Carlos, why jealousy? Isn't this manipulation?” Well, if you ask any woman who has a guy who isn't making HER a priority, she doesn't care one bit how she gets the attention she deserves. She just knows she wants it. And you should get that attention! If you're jealous of the time he's spending with his friends, or with other people instead of you, then you know exactly how you want him to feel about you. Jealousy can definitely be used for good in your relationship because it can: Make him remember your value Make him remember his feelings that he may have put aside Remind him how blessed and lucky he is to have you Show him that you are still attractive and desirable, and other men want you Make him understand that you are not permanently obligated to be his Remind him how much he wanted you before the complacency set in - just get rid of whatever “boredom” he might be feeling Rule #1: Use jealousy ONLY for good. Never to manipulate. The reason I'm showing you this method is because it's ETHICAL - because it's for a WIN-WIN. WARNING: When I show you psychological tricks like this, I assume that you are a good person. That you would never misuse or abuse these strategies. The other part is, it's not manipulation when we are doing it with heart. If you know you are coaxing your man to do the right thing, then it's never manipulation. It's inspiration. Jealousy is one of the most powerful emotions. It's like super-concentrated explosive. Just a little goes a long way. Jealousy is a warning - that something important to you is about to be lost. Or possibly taken away. Jealousy will absolutely keep you ON HIS MIND. I'm guessing you've probably felt jealous about something at some point in your life. Everyone has. Jealousy is intense and it gets you moving like nothing else. Jealousy motivates you to take action immediately to protect what you have. And that's why it's so important to use jealousy effectively if you're going to make a man pay attention to you. You've got to get this guy off his butt and working to win your heart again. If you don't, he will just keep losing interest and eventually fade away. Or, more likely, he will simply find someone else. And who will be jealous then? Unfortunately, probably you. So let's make sure that doesn't happen! Rule #2: Jealousy is powerful, only use a little tiny bit. The one problem with jealousy is if you use too much, you can poison your relationship. So go easy and don't overdo it. You don't want to create toxic feelings between you and him. Especially if he thinks you are playing games. (Which, if you do as I explain, this won't happen.) Jealousy has explosive power, which is important for you to leverage. Keep Him On His Toes - Jealousy Tactic 1: Remember Yourself Look, the reality is that when you're in a relationship, sometimes you forget to make yourself a priority. This happens frequently for women. When you do, you stop showing him how he should treat you. Remember the saying: “We teach others how to treat us.” We do this by how we treat ourselves. Make yourself a priority again! Pamper yourself Remind yourself of ... For the rest - Watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== How To Make Him Jealous https://youtu.be/ji4125wyTXE

For your free book and more: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook Why Do Good Girls Like Bad Guys? 9 Reasons Your Mom Would Never Admit By: Carlos Cavallo Have you ever fallen for a bad boy? Almost every woman has felt the attraction for a guy who's a little rough around the edges. And that might make you wonder why do good girls like bad guys? “So why do good girls like bad guys? I had this question for a real long time I've been a bad boy and it's plain to see So why do good girls fall in love with me?” Falling in Reverse - “Good Girls Bad Guys” Movies often highlight this wild dynamic of the woman who falls for the wrong kind of guy. The theme resonates because almost every woman can relate to this. Every woman has had a man in her life that she just couldn't resist. She may have put up a good act, but in the end she either gives in or runs away. She might have sensed that heartbreak was the only thing in her future with him. And she was probably right. But what a delightful distraction a Bad Boy can be! Just look at Hollywood and the interesting combinations of personalities there. Perhaps the most classic example of good girl/ bad guy was Billy Bob Thornton and Angelina Jolie back in the 90s. I'll warn you that you need to be prepared to look at your shadow-self here today. I'm going to point out parts of your behavior that you may not want to agree with. But that doesn't mean they're not true. The bad guy that women love is not politically correct. Which is why you don't want to admit you have an attraction for them! And also consider that you wouldn't admit these facts about bad boys and your attraction to them because of how they would make you look if you admitted them to other people! So you keep this secret - shhhhh! (Most women do.) Now, this article comes to you as a bit of an expose. You see, I was once one of those bad boys. And having spent many years dating women, I can tell you exactly why good girls fall for bad guys. First of all we have to start with a definition of what is a bad boy? What makes a guy “bad”? Bad Boy Quality #1: He’s a manly dude… It's pretty obvious when you encounter a bad guy like this that he is definitely not a wimp. If anything he oozes testosterone and Manliness. You can practically smell it on him. In fact, you probably can - most colognes change their scent depending on your hormone levels. Bad boys who wear certain colognes almost always smell different than the average Joe who wears them. That's why you can find the scent appealing on some guys and not on others. But besides this, you know that his way of being more of a man instantly sets him apart from the other guys you're dating - or guys that you know. Bad Boy Quality #2: He’s not a wimp… This quality is sometimes best described as being BOLD. A bad boy has a way of being more forward and direct with his interest and what he says to you. Whereas a more “beta guy” will hold back what he's thinking, and be more of a people pleaser. Which you know means he may not have the courage to back up his actions, or to protect you later on. In fact, you can describe a bad boy in terms of how much he is not like “The Nice Guy.” If you've ever caught yourself saying “but he's so nice” you know what I'm talking about here. You're trying to justify dating some dude who just doesn't light your Christmas tree. and as much as you wish you could convince yourself, you know you never will. You just know this guy doesn't have a very long shelf life with you. Bad Boy Quality #3: He makes you feel safe When it comes right down to it you know that the bad guy will make you feel safe. Because you know he's capable of physical action to protect you. Even if it means this guy likes to start fights, there's a part of you it gets a little turned on by it. He's more of an alpha male. And that definitely gets your hormones racing. Mostly because these guys are hard to find these days... Bad Boy Quality #4: He’s more aloof One of the less healthy traits is that a bad boy is often emotionally detached and distant. This creates a challenge for you, which makes you invest yourself and your time in him. Most women don't want to admit this, but most men are naturally attractive in this way. Most guys simply don't emote very much, and they don't talk about their feelings all the time. So in a way, most men have ... For the rest - watch the video! Then go to: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Why do good girls like bad guys https://youtu.be/U5n6nQzZ-TM

Click here to find out what's blocking your relationship: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/helpmecarlos Why Do Guys Ghost - 17 Reasons - And How To Stop It From Happening! By: Carlos Cavallo When a guy disappears on you it's one of the most annoying things that can happen when dating. Especially if you started liking him and thought “This one might be different!” And now all you can wonder is - Why do guys ghost? You know the situation: You've been talking to him for a while. He seems really interested in you. And then all of a sudden, POOF! He's gone. No more texts, no more calls, he disappears off the face of the Earth. As it turns out, there are reasons why a guy does this. And I'm going to reveal them here. But you need to sit down and prepare yourself for the truth. The truth is my specialty, and I don't shy away from it. That's why women come to me for the real answers why they don't have the relationship they want. Or deserve. One of these ugly truths is that you have probably ghosted someone yourself. In fact, most of us have. Even before there was texting, people have been ghosting. I'm fairly sure that there was a caveman named Gorg that left the cave one day and never came back. The reason that getting ghosted feels so hurtful is that you had started to awaken your own hope and desire for him, and now you feel abandoned and hurt. It can awaken a bunch of abandonment issues in you, as well as other feelings of insecurity. Bottom line: It ain't pretty. Some folks might tell you that it's all HIS fault. Guys are just inconsiderate and do this to women all the time. I call this the “blame him” syndrome. It’s popular because men are often vilified as the obstacle in relationships. While guys aren’t as good at the nuts and bolts of relationships, they want a committed relationship just as much as you do. Look, I’m not going to apologize for men’s bad behavior. There’s plenty of “bad actors” out there, for sure. But they are NOT in the majority. And as we know, blaming is not always the truth. In fact, it rarely is. "If you believe that men are simply inconsiderate, you overlook the real reason why this happens and it will keep happening to you." - Carlos Cavallo Remember I'm here to help you be successful, not lie to you! There are two primary reasons why a man will ghost you: He was “pushed” away He “ran” away Allow me to explain… While men are often viewed as being very active in their lives, they are very frequently passive within relationships. Mostly because he feels incompetent at them. He doesn't understand how women think, or how relationships should work. After all, relationships are fairly simple for a guy. His needs are not quite as complicated as a woman's are usually. So he usually spends most of his time trying to figure out how to make YOU happy. As a result, men can be very “sit back and watch” when it comes to relationships. Guys aren't exactly sure what makes a relationship work, but they are fairly intuitive at figuring out if it won't work out with you. If he feels like you're not going to mesh well with his life, he will feel “pushed” away. And if he doesn't feel like he can make you happy, he will simply leave. This is why men “run away” from a relationship. And a big reason why he ghosts you. We're going to avoid blaming here so that I can tell you the real truth about what men experience from women in relationships. Even if you haven't been dating all that long, these are very important for you to know. Especially if you're having trouble getting past that first month or two of a relationship. This is a very common “wall” for women that they can't get past. Why He Ghosts You - REASON 1: He found someone else Might as well get the tough one out of the way right off the bat. Most often, a man will try to date as many women as he possibly can. And then he picks the one that matches him the best. Any other women that he may have encountered in that time he simply forgets about. He'll stop texting, calling, etc. It's not that he is actively disrespecting you. It's not that he's trying to hurt you. From his perspective, he simply is making the best choice for him and his love life. Even if you felt like he was an awesome catch, that doesn't mean ... For the rest, watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Why do guys ghost https://youtu.be/9378QYKKb-M

CLICK For your free stuff: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook How To Fix A Broken Relationship - 10 Steps You Need To Know By: Carlos Cavallo If there's one thing for sure, it's that you will have problems in your relationship. So you need to know how to fix a broken relationship, no matter how bad. The good news is that if you can detect it early enough, a broken relationship can be fixed. And unlike a broken piece of pottery, your relationship will be stronger after the break has been repaired. Now you will have faith that you can weather the bad times. This is why relationships that don't have arguments or difficult times don't have what it takes to survive. So you may have a broken relationship right now, but that's no reason to despair. The skills you learn to fix it will last you for the rest of your life. And you will know more about your partner in the process. You may want to hit the reset button in your relationship. It can be difficult to repair, that's for sure. But if you have faith and the right knowledge, you can overcome these challenges in your relationship with your partner. Why Do Relationships Break Or Fail? The simple truth is that we are humans. We're complicated. And relationships between complicated humans are even MORE complicated. Let's go through some of the reasons that relationships can break: REASON #1: Trust Has Left The Building The cement of your relationship is Trust. without it, your relationship will fail. Trust issues are very common. Trust issues usually start in our childhood. We learn them in our families. And then we bring them into our relationships. When we stop trusting ourselves, we stopped trusting others. And when we stop trusting others, we stop trusting ourselves. Trust is a two-way street. Some of the bad things that happen when you lose trust are: Infidelity Jealousy Anxious behavior Smothering Insecurities And a whole lot more. The first thing you need to do is to figure out whether your trust issues are because your partner is not trustable OR these are anxiety and insecurity issues inside of you. Then you have to work on getting reconnected to your partner. I'll tell you more about how to do that in a bit. REASON #2: Clash Of The Expectations Expectations are the rules we set up in our brain for how we expect things to turn out. It doesn't matter if it's a movie, or a new album from an artist, or a relationship. We have certain expectations for what we want from it. The problem is that expectations are also one thing that breaks the easiest. "We are almost never disappointed by something we don't have any expectations for." Relationships, however, are something we have very distinct expectations for. When things don't turn out the way we expect them to, we get disappointed and our expectations are broken. The most common reason a relationship will start to break down is if your expectations - or his expectations - are not met. When your expectations butt heads, you understand the pain of a relationship. Some people can work through these expectations that are not met and manage to negotiate their way to getting them met. But more often than not, expectations can never be met by a person who doesn't meet your requirements. All too often we get into relationships with people that are not a good match and spend years trying to turn them into someone they are not. When you see your expectations are not being met, check your expectations first. If you're not willing to compromise or change those expectations, then it's time to really look at your partner. REASON #3: Your Communication Sucks This is another one of those very common reasons relationships start to fall apart and eventually break. If you're not communicating well, then you're not going to be able to meet each other's needs. You're always going to have misunderstandings and a deep breakdown of connection. Communication is one of the most important factors in a relationship because - For the rest - WATCH THE VIDEO! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== How To Fix A Broken Relationship https://youtu.be/RqwDIqcZml0

For The Relationship Roadblock Quiz: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/helpmecarlos Women want to feel more seen, heard, loved, and appreciated. But did you know guys do too? Do you know any compliments for a guy to make him feel your love? Let’s put it this way: How long would you stick around if you didn’t feel his love and appreciation? Well, he won’t stick around long if you don’t give back to the Love Bank Account! So yes, you need to know the kind of compliments a man wants to hear... Because some compliments won’t work. He won’t recognize them as a compliment. (There are a lot of “guy compliments” that he uses on you - that you miss!) I can tell you from experience that most men NEVER get the kind of compliments they really want from a woman. So knowing these compliments for a guy will immediately give you the edge. Now, keep in mind that all of these compliments can be used when TEXTING, too. Of course, every compliment works better if you say it in person. Compliment Type #1: Recognize his efforts One thing that many women don't realize is that men put a lot of physical and mental energy into making you happy. In fact, you may not know this but men spend most of their time in a relationship focused on that one thing: Making you happy. If you doubt this in any way, simply ask every guy you know at work or in your life if this is true when it comes to relationships. And tell him to really think about it. I would say that at least 90% of men will agree that they are simply trying to make YOU happy in the relationship. It all comes down to that (in)famous saying: “Happy wife, happy life” Of course, men also know what happens when you're not happy and it comes time to go to the bedroom. In the words of Apollo 13: 'Houston, we have a problem.' Guys don't only try to make you happy jus to get sex - BUT that's one of the signals we watch out for. We know if we want to be happy, YOU need to be happy. So it's especially critical that you recognize the effort he puts in to make you happy. Keep an eye out for all the things he does to win your approval. Of course, the tricky part is that many of the things he does you may not notice. And if you stop noticing them for long enough, he stops doing them. You may notice this when it comes to chores around the house. If he didn't get recognized when he was doing them, he'll figure why bother? And then he stops putting that effort in. So how do you compliment his efforts? “I really appreciate all the effort you put in around here.” “You are so good to me…” “Wow, you’re the best guy to have around in a pinch…” “You’re a regular Mr. Fixit! Thanks!” “What would I do without you around?” “Thanks for listening to me and letting me vent…” Another important thing to recognize is that if he's not doing a lot right now, he may already be in that place of feeling under-appreciated. Start out by giving him the appreciation first, and then he will start to live up to your expectations. = Compliment Type #2: Compliments of Respect One thing I've noticed about mature, stable relationships is that the partners in them always respect each other. They don't resort to insults, petty put-downs, snarky comments, etc. On the other hand, almost every single relationship that struggles has two people who probably aren't a good match for each other, constantly belittling the other person because of this poor match up. I'm sure if you look back in your history, you'll find a similar pattern in many of your relationships. I know I have. Here's a little secret about relationships you might not know: Most of the problems in a relationship are simply because we expect the other person to behave and be just like us. Literally exactly like ourselves. We expect them to have the same: Tastes Sensibilities Values Communication styles History (The list goes on and on!) When this happens, respect is lost. And a relationship will soon be lost too. This is why you need to make sure you compliment him by showing him respect. This is the first step to ensure that you get that respect right back. Because if he doesn't feel respected, why would he feel that he should pay that respect back? While both men and women want respect, it's usually only in retrospect that you realize you weren't getting it. Guys put extra value on respect, so this one is really important. Here's a few ways you can show him - For the rest: WATCH THE VIDEO! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== The Best Compliments For A Guy https://youtu.be/C3-QmBIh8t8

What's blocking your relationship? FIND OUT: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/helpmecarlos 20 REAL Signs That He Cheated - Is He Having An Affair? By: Carlos Cavallo If you want to create a relationship of love, trust, and connection, you have to know if your man is being faithful. It's also important to see any signs that he cheated - or if he's thinking of being unfaithful or having an affair. Some men can stray - and usually not because he's a "bad" person. He strays because he doesn't know how to navigate his own emotions to avoid the temptations. Sometimes a relationship can be tested, and you don't want to lose a good man to a bad situation. But first - we need to ask a very important question: What Do You Think Is “Cheating”? For some people cheating is ANY activity with someone of the opposite sex. For others, it might need to take a romantic overtone. And for other women, it might require an emotional attachment. Or just physical cheating. Whatever your definition might be, you are probably pretty sure you know when a guy has been up to no good. You know what your limits are, and you won't let them get out of control. But one thing you do need to do up front when you get intimate with a man is let him know what you consider acceptable versus not acceptable. If you don't tell him, he can always pull that excuse of “I don't know.” Yes, we know that's not a legitimate reason. But you don't want to leave your boundaries in your relationship ambiguous or fuzzy. One of the most common problems I notice in relationships is when these boundaries haven't been talked about. Mostly because of fear. If you have your definition of what cheating is, stick to it. Keep your relationship free from the problems of poor boundaries. Communicate what you expect from him so that you can expect it from him. Before we get started here, you need to make sure you realize that everything I point out about men's behaviors when they're cheating are also true about women in the same situation. It's tempting to make men out to be the more unfaithful and least trustworthy or reliable. If we start believing these ideas about men and cheating, you can create really harmful trust issues for yourself. When we ascribe a particular behavior to a gender - in this case men - we run the risk of creating prejudice and mistrust. Just remember that the door swings both ways. Compassion is a better companion than suspicion and fear. Before we talk about the signs, one thing you must be sure to do is wait until you see at least two or three of these signs before you confront him. One signal on its own is not necessarily enough. You don't want to go accusing him without good justification. That could cause just as much damage as infidelity might. Now let's get into the signs that he cheated: Sign #1: Social media signals One of the most obvious signals you'll encounter is when you notice something concerning on social media. For example: If you noticed on Facebook that he is getting tagged in someone else's photos more than usual, or he's commenting on some other woman's wall, you should keep an eye on that. It's more and more common for people to start flirting through social media, and that's how these kinds of side relationships can start. Keep your eye on him! Sign #2: Your instincts are tingling This one is extremely important. If you find that you have this weird gut feeling that something is going on, that probably means something is going on. Most women discount their feminine instincts these days. That's a shame because you can trust your gut to give you an alert when something isn't quite right. Get back to trusting yourself! If something just feels a little bit off, you should take a closer look at it. Don't ignore your inner voice of wisdom. When you learn to distrust yourself, it can be very hard to rebuild that relationship again. Sign #3: He goes “dark” for long time periods If your man disappears for long periods of time - more than a day or so - that's an indicator that he is preoccupied. If he's normally the kind of person to ... For the rest - Watch the Video! c============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Signs That He Cheated https://youtu.be/79MTyeyR4ZY

For more: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/helpmecarlos 10 BEST Ways To Say I Love You - To MEN! By: Carlos Cavallo There are probably as many ways to say I love you as there are people to say it. You might be wondering how to say I love you to someone special. Even more important, you probably don't want to scare that person off when you tell them! One of the most common problems I run into is when a woman says I love you to a man and scares him away. You may have experienced this yourself. The interesting thing is why this scared him away. I'm going to explain that along with a few other things coming up. But first let's talk about the different ways to say I love you to a man. There are two methods for saying that you love him: 1 - With words… 2 - With Actions! Men typically respond better to actions than the words. Here's why: When you say I love you to a man, he hears the words, and then he has to translate them back into something he can DO. Since most men don't have very good emotional vocabulary, this is the direction he has to go. This may solve a lot of mystery for you right away. Most women don't realize that men struggle hearing those three words. If he doesn't know how he feels about you, this could also trigger him to panic. It feels like pressure. And yes, he will run. Putting him in this kind of confusion will simply make him freak out. That's why you want to find ways to say I love you that don't feel like pressure for him to reply. This is the number one rule of communicating love with a man. Men typically show you they love you by DEMONSTRATING their love to you. It's very rare that a man will tell you his feelings. Mostly because he doesn't have the vocabulary for this. So what he's going to do is show you how he feels. This is both good and bad. Mostly bad because many women don't recognize his acts of love as him saying he loves her. But if you think about it, actions speak louder than words. It's far better that he demonstrates his love instead of just saying words that he doesn't believe. Because anyone can say they love you. Men like to show you they love you in action. So let's jump right In with the words you can use to say “I love you” How To Say It #1 - Try Another Language One of the best romantic ways to say I love you is to do it in another language. Obviously some languages are far better for this than others. Italian is probably one of the best. French is another good language to use for saying I love you. When you say it in another language, don't tell him what it means. Make him look it up. This is why it's great to use a foreign language when you want to text him "I love you." REMEMBER: The more he thinks he can’t predict you, the more infatuated he is with you. How To Say It #2 - Send it in a letter Up until the 1980s, it was not uncommon to get letters in the mail. I know, crazy, right? But way back then, people used to take a pen and a piece of paper and write down their thoughts. Then they would stuff it in an envelope and send it through the mail. This is still a great way to share your feelings for him. You can do it with a blank card if you like. The same way you might send a birthday card, just grab a blank card and scribble your feelings on the inside of it to him. Don't be surprised if you see that card somewhere in his house. Even if you don't see it, it's likely that he's saved it and put it in a special place out of the way. How To Say It #3 - How Does He Want To Be Loved? When it comes right down to it, we want to be loved. But when someone tells us they love us, what do we do with that? You can't take the love to the bank… You can't take the love to Amazon and order something… As a momentary expression of your feelings, of course it has value. But what would he do with it? Instead, why not express love in a language that he understands. You see, most men don't feel very appreciated. They try and try, but most women don't see their actions as being loving gestures. This is one of the ways that we completely overlook our partners needs. We give them what we want to give them, not what they really want. When you want to tell him you love him, why not speak HIS language? The first thing to do is to know how he prefers to experience love. If you're not familiar with it, Gary Chapman has a list of seven love languages. You need to find out what his language is, and then use it. For the rest, Watch the Video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Ways to say I Love You https://youtu.be/hivcH4PFvcA

For more: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/ldr 10 Long Distance Relationship Tips - How To Make It Work! A lot of people believe that long-distance relationships are a really bad idea. In fact, if you know what you're doing with a few long distance relationship tips, you can actually make it work. As a matter of fact, long-distance relationships can work just as well and even better than regular relationships. Whatever "regular" is. What Is A Long Distance Relationship? One of the most important things to define is, what makes a long distance relationship long distance? Is it the time or the actual distance? I believe it's a little of both. Here's my “scientific” definition: You're in a long-distance relationship if it takes longer than 2 hours to get to the other person's house. Either by car or by plane. Or if you feel like you're just not that close! Ultimately your heart has to agree. If you don't feel like he's close enough for you to hold and love in person, then you are long distance. Heck, maybe you even feel that he's just too far away emotionally. In that case, you still need to close the distance. Things can be difficult in a long distance relationship, that's for sure. It can be lonely, a bit isolating, and sometimes sad. But in between there are a lot more high points of love. And when you do get together finally, it's fantastic. You’ll have weathered more difficult times in your long distance relationship than most married couples ever will. The Most Common Long Distance Relationship Problems But first, we should take a look at a few of the things that could sabotage your long distance relationship. Take note of these: PROBLEM 1: Not enough contact One of the easiest things to do is to fall down on your communication with him. This one is easy to fix, but it's also easy to screw up. Just remember that the answer is not always more communication. Sometimes it really is the quality of your communication. This is a balance you'll have to figure out with him. You both have different requirements from each other, and probably different from almost everybody else at the same time. PROBLEM 2: Not enough balance Again, another problem coming in long distance relationships is when you don't keep a good balance of your regular life to your long-distance romance life. Way back, I had a long-distance relationship with somebody that was halfway across the United States. I remember that I eventually got way too invested in it. I didn't balance all the other stuff I had to do in my life. Like exercise, self growth, etc. It was a valuable lesson to learn. I explain this relationship in detail and those lessons for success in my new program: “Long Distance Love.” More on that in a bit. PROBLEM 3: Urgent answer syndrome Another of the big problems in a long distance relationship is expecting him to respond to you immediately every time you text. I'll talk about this again in a little bit in the tips section, but you want to avoid getting too caught up in texting as your communication with him. One of the ways this shows up is when you expect him to answer your text immediately. You have to keep a realistic view of things when you're in a long-distance relationship. He's not always going to be available for you. And you're not always going to be available for him. So watch out for the Urgent Answer Syndrome - where you panic when he doesn't respond right away. Or he panics when you don't respond right away. What's really happening here? You're just falling victim to ... For the rest - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Long Distance Relationship Tips https://youtu.be/J5GMytkHm6E

Find out what your roadblock is: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/helpmecarlos 21 Toxic Relationship Signs & How To Fix It By: Carlos Cavallo If you're looking for signs of a toxic relationship, you probably suspect you have some unhealthy patterns in your relationship. Or you may want to ensure that your relationship stays healthy. By recognizing the signs of a toxic relationship, you can avoid a lot of the problems that people run into in relationships. Let's face it, almost every single person will have a bad relationship at some point in their life. We learn from the bad ones - so that we can come to a good one and make it even better. You might find yourself arguing with your boyfriend over and over and over again. You might find yourself caught in a cycle of breaking up and coming back to him over and over again... This may not be a toxic relationship, but it's something you should be watching for. Which brings us to the first and most important question: What is a toxic relationship? The simplest definition of a toxic relationship is this: A toxic relationship is where your feelings of self-worth and belief in your value is damaged. Any relationship that makes you feel less about yourself should be considered toxic. It's probably also better if you avoid romantic relationships if you are trying to work on yourself or make up for some feeling of inadequacy. There are millions of people out there right now with genuine emotional issues that should not be in a relationship. However, we all feel entitled to a relationship with someone. And there's no reason why you can't have love in your life. But you also have to attend to the personal issues or you will constantly be seeking help. The truth is that your relationship might be toxic because of a few factors: He might be toxic - someone who just isn't ready or capable to have a healthy relationship You might have a bit of toxic going on in your life The dynamic between you and him might be toxic - you might be okay people on your own, but you're just a bad combination together Your timing might be off - and your fighting against the impossible is creating a toxic situation Another important distinction is the difference between a toxic relationship and an abusive relationship. A toxic relationship affects your self-esteem and adversely affects your emotional health and well-being. An abusive relationship is much worse. It not only affects your self-esteem, it can result in physical injury. And it can also create severe emotional health issues. It's not uncommon for someone who is being emotionally abused to be suicidal, depressed, and very unstable. Sometimes it's even hard to go to work or function in the world. Signs of a Toxic Relationship Keep in mind that these signs are warnings for BOTH you and him in the relationship. Sometimes we don’t notice when our boundaries have been pushed or erased. Yes, you could be just as guilty as he is of these signs. Sometimes we get pulled into really unhealthy situations. Notice this and take steps to fix it immediately. You might act out of panic or fear without even noticing it. So be on the lookout for these signs in yourself, too. Sign #1: You don't have a say Ultimately in any mature relationship you should have the right to participate. Meaning that it's not the 1800 s. Women should be participating in the relationship just as much as the man is. But if you find your relationship is not honoring your participation, meaning that big decisions are made but you aren't a part of them, that's an issue. He should value your opinions and ideas every bit as much as his own. Especially when it comes to big decisions. Sign #2: Nothing Is Private If your boyfriend tends to go through your correspondence, your phone, your private stuff, this shows a really unhealthy boundary. It also might show some possessiveness and overly jealous behavior. It's extremely toxic if you can't have your privacy within your relationship. Remember that this is something that you define for yourself. You set the terms of your own level of comfort within a relationship. If you're struggling to accommodate all of his needs and bending over backwards to meet them, you're going to give up your boundaries and it's going to turn unhealthy really quick. Sign #3: Lies lies lies…! Let's be real - when your relationship has dishonesty and lying at the core of it, it is - For the rest - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Toxic Relationship Signs https://youtu.be/uF5K4Tv0IaA

For more: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/helpmecarlos 25 Texts You Should NEVER Send A Guy By: Carlos Cavallo When it comes to texting a guy, you need to know what texts you should never send a guy more than anything else. Mistakes in texting will earn you silence - sometimes making him ghost you. Guys interpret what you text him. And if we see any red flags, we get more cautious, more silent, and less interested. I'm going to show you almost ALL of the red flags guys see in texting. Before I get started, though, I realize that seeing a bunch of "don't do this" tips is going to eventually make you feel like you can't do ANYTHING right when it comes to winning his heart. Don't look at this as being a huge rant about "you're doing it all wrong!" It's really a list of things that you might have been unaware you were flubbing for a while. Watch out if you find yourself saying: "Why do I have to do all the work? Why doesn't HE have to fix anything?" In fact, if you find yourself extremely sensitive to messages that make you feel as if you're making all the mistakes, that's a sign you should probably stop and apply some self-care. Now, let's go through the 25 texts you should never send a guy. Let's do this countdown style: #25 Don't Text: Naked pics, or sexy body part images These days you just don't want to show up on some website somewhere. If your relationship doesn't go the way you hope, you don't want this guy having these kinds of pictures of you. PERIOD. No matter how much you think you may trust him right now, I'm sure you have relationships that have felt similar in the past. And they may not have gone so well. A lot of guys will try to get you to send this kind of picture to him. It's a bit of a test. He probably does want to see you naked - obviously, but it doesn't mean you need to oblige him. In fact it's the wrong thing to do. Save the intimacy for the bedroom. Save it for the right time. And give him something to look forward to. A huge part of pulling a man into loving you is knowing what to hold back at the start. These days, women are giving up way too much too soon to men. #24 Don't Text: Anything boring or day to day ordinary You may want to text him the same kind of stuff do you send to your girlfriends. But don't do it. I guarantee you it's going to bore him and it's going to make him less responsive. Guys don't text like that. It's tempting to let him in on the nitty-gritty details of your life. But quite honestly this isn't very interesting to him. Save it for when you feel you have something interesting to share, or possibly if you need his emotional support. You don't want to turn texting into your everyday conversation. #23 Don't Text: Multiplicity One habit that's easy to fall into when you're texting is sending a text message with multiple characters or multiple emojis. EXAMPLE: “Heyyyyyyyy” The best advice I can give you is DON'T do this. It looks kind of high school-ish, and it diminishes how he sees you. Simply spell words correctly, and intelligently. #22 Don't Text: Short texts that are hard to read EXAMPLE: “Hey you” This one is obviously a bid for attention. If you want to start a conversation, start with a question. Engage him with something. EXAMPLE: “K” You know you hate it when guys send you this one letter, so don't send it back. Send a full “OK” - or nothing at all. EXAMPLE: “I guess” I think we both know what's going on with this particular text. You want to say you disagree, but you know it's easier to go with the flow. Or at least you're afraid to go against the flow. Again, this is very ambiguous to a guy, and he won't understand it. More than likely you'll just start an argument. This is called the “passive aggressive” text. Mostly because it feels like you’re not telling us what you really want, and then expecting us to fish it out of you. Definitely not inspiring to a man. #21 Don’t Text: Drunk or under the influence! If you've ever gotten a text from a man who is drunk, you know what I'm talking about here. We always seem to be more embarrassing than endearing when it comes to Drunk Texting. If you know you're going to be out with the girls and having a few glasses of wine, it's probably best that you ... For the rest - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Texts You Should NEVER Send A Guy - Avoid These! https://youtu.be/4UoEUdXpaRI

For your free ebook of secrets: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook "Do I Love Him?" 25 Signs You're In Love (And not just infatuated) By: Carlos Cavallo Sometimes it’s easy to doubt your feelings. When it comes to your love relationship, you might be wondering: "Do I love him?" Is He The One? Sometimes it happens right at the very start. You meet a guy and you just click. And you think right away, I'm falling in love. Other times, you might meet a guy and think he's just friends. But then something happens that turns that on its head. And you might find yourself questioning the relationship. Could you be in love with him? You may even be in a relationship right now, and struggling to keep it together. You might even be wondering if it's all worth it. Do you love him? Let’s find out... If you're the kind of person that believes in Destiny or fate, you may think that this is out of your hands. That you might be falling in love whether or not you want to. And there's some truth to that. Attraction isn't really a choice when it comes right down to it. We don't get to choose the people we feel attracted to. Sometimes it's their looks Sometimes it's their attitude Sometimes it's their lifestyle Sometimes it's their fun personality If you've ever tried to choose someone to fall in love with, chances are you've been pretty disappointed with the results. Your thinking brain just can't choose as well as your heart can when it comes to passionate Romance and love. Of course the big reason you want to know “do I love him or not?” is because you don't want to fall in love with someone that's wrong for you. Or that doesn't love you back. We want to jump into the best romance possible. When I was a younger man, I fell in love way too easily. Which led to a lot of heartbreak. I fell in love with women that were wrong for me - or that I was wrong for. But I wouldn't go back and change anything. That's where I got all of my understanding and experience from. And that's what brought me to the point where I became the dating and relationship advice Guru. Still, I'm sure you don't want to go through all those Growing Pains. Which is why I'm here. Are there signs that you can see that will tell you if he's the one you love? As it happens, yes. Love Sign #1: He gives you steam One of the best signs that you are in love with him is your energy level. When you are feeling that love, you feel energy welling up from seemingly nowhere. And EVERYWHERE at the same time! It's like the world's best energy drink. There's some science to this, of course. One of the primary love chemicals that we feel when we're in love is adrenaline. Which, as you know, can really give you a jolt of energy when you need it. This is why love is so exciting - the new emotional connection AND the feeling of "aliveness" you have when you're falling in love. Love Sign #2: He makes you feel alive Another of the great effects of love is this incredible feeling of just being alive. You feel more in touch with your senses and the world around you. It's like everything is dialed up to 11. Foods taste better Colors seem brighter Connections seem stronger You'll even feel the impact of your love for him in all of your relationships. You may find yourself more forgiving and tolerant of your family. You might find yourself reaching out to old friends you haven't talked to in awhile. Life just seems so much more vivid when you're in love. It's a great place to be, and you want to live your life from here all the time. The feeling of being immersed in the present moment is amazing, and one of the reasons you feel so alive when you start a new relationship. Love Sign #3: He steadies the boat Another great effect of a love relationship is revealed when you surrender to your relationship. When a woman falls in love with a man, she gives in to his strength in many ways. And one way that's important is you feel so much more steady with him. Your emotions feel calmer and more easy to deal with with him around. You feel like you can cope with things so much better, and even petty annoyances and grievances just don't impact you quite the same way when you’re in love with him. Your emotional cycles won't feel so crazy, either. Love Sign #4: You feel LEGIT trust One of the biggest signs that you're probably looking for is Trust. When you wonder if you love him, you should ... For more - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Do I Love Him https://youtu.be/U1g-X2g6JKM

For more, go here: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook Dating a Man With Kids - What You MUST Know FIRST By: Carlos Cavallo It's possible that dating a man with kids is one of the most complicated things to deal with in a relationship. But it can also be one of the most gratifying and amazing accomplishments. There's a lot to be interested in. After all if you don't have kids of your own, you might like the idea of taking on the nurturing maternal role, even if it's not for your own children. And, knowing that he's made this kind of commitment himself is also a big plus. It shows that he's capable of devoting himself to family, the way you need to know he will. However, you do need to know all the details about it so you can make a good decision. Is Dating A Man With A Child Worth It? A lot of this will depend on whether or not you're used to having kids around. If you have your own kids, you'll probably already know the answer to this. If you don't have kids of your own, you are going to have to make some adjustments. It's a big deal to take on kids that are not your own. There's no way anybody can tell you whether it's worth it or not. The best they can tell you is what to be aware of going into this kind of relationship. Pros & Cons Of Dating A Man With Kids The PROS: If he’s looking for a relationship, he’s not going to waste time or energy He’s going to have an open heart if he’s open to loving his child He’s not going to be in a hurry to get married or rush the romance He’s going to understand commitment on a very deep level The CONS: His life is going to be chaotic, and you’re going to have to be really flexible You’re going to have to figure out your place along the way - and fit in a way that helps the kids first, him second, and sometimes you last You gotta deal with his ex - so hopefully they’re on good terms You’re going to have to work around a time schedule (and dating schedule) that won’t be carefree - it can be hectic There might be many more that you will figure out on your own, given your situation. Here are a few of the reasons why you would want to immediately walk away from a relationship with a man with kids: You don’t want kids (this is an IMMEDIATE deal-breaker and you should walk away now) You’re not ready to share the parenting with another woman (his ex) You’re either too young for kids or too old for more kids (basically you don’t want kids yet) He’s not up-front and honest about his parental situation and role He doesn’t seem to be able to balance that dad role with making you happy and being a good man for you If you want biological children of your own in addition to the kids he has, he has to be on board with that. (This might sound strange, but you should make sure he hasn't had a vasectomy. A lot of guys get them when they're done with making babies, but he didn't realize the marriage wouldn't last.) I would think most of those reasons make sense to you if you think about them. Is there baggage with a relationship like this? Of course there are complications. I have been a man dating several single moms in the past, and I can completely relate to the complication of this situation. It may not be easy, but nothing worth doing in life will be easy - as you know. You also have to realize there are plenty of people ready and willing to give you advice. Some of it's good, but some of it is bad. Like, really bad. And the bad advice could easily wreck your relationship! So you need to know the truth. For example, one of the most emotionally charged objections goes like this: “You don't want to raise another person's kids!” This particular objection depends on your perspective. If you are a woman who could not have children for some reason, or you wanted to add more children to your family, you might adopt a child. Technically, this would be raising another person's kids. And this would be a good thing - especially if it were For more - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Dating A Man With Kids https://youtu.be/iikKP2ZzMiM

Find out if he really loves you: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/doesheloveme Is He Pulling Away From You? 10 Tips To Save Your Relationship By: Carlos Cavallo Has he stopped texting you right back? Has he stopped calling you? You might be wondering, is he pulling away from you? Maybe he's just pulling back a little bit... He isn't texting as much or calling as much... Or maybe he's pulling back a lot... Maybe he's completely ghosted you... Unfortunately this situation is much more common than ever before. And one of the worst things happens when a man does start pulling away: Usually the woman starts to go into denial. Men are even worse at this to be truthful. Most guys don't even notice that the woman is pulling away until she’s already found another relationship. (Talk about clueless, huh?) But you don't want to be caught off-guard. You have heightened instincts about how engaged a man is in your relationship. And you're right to trust your intuition. The really dangerous relationship dynamic that happens is this: He starts to pull away You become more grateful for what relationship still remains You start chasing him more and more He starts to pull away more and more, and your panic increases You can imagine where this ends up. Usually in a breakup. Finding out if he is pulling away from you is essential if you want to save your relationship. Just think of all the emotions you go through when you start to worry about your relationship: Desperation Anger Insecurity Fear Panic Your emotional state is compromised and it makes it difficult sometimes to even work or function correctly. And then the next thing happens: "You wonder why he would pull away from you when all you've done is shown him love and how great of a partner you are." Sometimes this even makes you want to prove it more, so you chase and push more. It's a deadly spiral, and it usually ends up in a breakup. Sometimes this even creates a victim mentality for women. They start to believe that men are always “doing this” to them. They see themselves as always doing right by him, but he seems to always mistreat her. I'll warn you up front that I'm not going to give you the usual answers in this article. In fact, you may have to look at yourself a little bit. If I didn't show you these things, I wouldn't be doing my job. In fact, I'd be a disgrace if I didn't tell you what men really think and feel when this happens. You owe it to yourself to know the truth about why men pull away. You’ve probably even heard a bunch of reasons why this is happening from all the other advisors out there: He's a commitment-phobe (check out some of my other articles on this) He's cheating on you (again, not that common in the first few months of a new relationship) He's focused on work and stressed about it (this one isn't always wrong, but there's more to it) You got a problem with communication (again, possible, but there's way more to it) He’s gay (maybe, but not likely) You're needy and insecure and you drove him off He's immature and not ready for a real relationship He’s hiding his feelings from you because he’s “scared” of his feelings (doesn't happen - this is a rationalization) Sure, some of these things could be true. But most likely your situation is a little more complicated. Or, then again, it might not! One of the things I have to discuss with my coaching clients is that: No matter how unique they think their situation is, someone has had it millions of times before. There are no unique love problems in the world. We all want to believe our problems are totally new and unique. We think this way because we are the ones experiencing the emotions of them. "No one else can be experiencing this! It's MY problem!" But the truth is completely different. And then if you start to argue for your complex relationship problems, you start to defend them and make them unsolvable. This is really big and you should think about that for a moment: Are you possibly making things more complicated than they actually are? Okay, so you came here for some tips. Let's talk about how to handle it when you're wondering, is he pulling away from you? But first I want to tell you why he might be doing this - reasons you might not know about: WHY #1: He knows what it will do - and that it works He may not be doing this to hurt you intentionally, but most guys know that when they pull away women typically rush in to pull him back to her. And once he gets used to this pattern, it's just like ... For the rest - Watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Is He Pulling Away From You https://youtu.be/L6P623jnoAk

Ask Carlos a question: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/askcarlos Or just get the free book! He Does These 7 Things If He Wants A Serious Relationship With You By: Carlos Cavallo What does a man want? Even more important: Do you know what he wants in a serious relationship with you? Men are truly not that complicated. When it comes to our needs in a relationship, we don't have a whole lot that you need to worry about. But you do have to be sure that you're not trying to give him what YOU want - instead of what HE wants. It's one of the most common mistakes people make. They tend to give other people what it is they themselves are looking for instead of what the other person really wants. Men don't want exactly the same thing you do, or even at the same time. A lot of it overlaps, but you have to know how men think - and when they think it. Some of the advice you've probably heard that men want: Get to his heart through his stomach - cook for him Satisfy him in the bedroom like no one else Be a difficult bitch with him Be nice to him and never ask for anything The problem with this kind of advice is that there are small bits of Truth in them. The unfortunate part is that it's not explained so you're going to make a ton of mistakes trying to apply it. Let’s jump into what men want in a serious relationship… WANT #1: Safety First! One of the most misunderstood needs men have is safety. It's not physical safety he needs, it's emotional safety. Men understand that they are not as well equipped for handling their emotions. They know that they don't have the same kind of emotional IQ that a woman does. Women are better at relationships, while men are better at rising to the challenge and chasing/hunting you. But he does understand it's at a very Primal level that he needs a woman that will keep him in a safe bubble for him to express and show his feelings. This requires you to be stronger and smarter as a woman. How do you make a man feel safe? Well it just so happens that I created a program to help women do this called The Connection Code. Because it takes a lot of understanding how men work to know how to do this right. But briefly, the way you make him feel safe is to make sure he never feels like he's going to be insulted or shamed or put down by you for expressing any emotion. Men grow up knowing that if they express emotions in front of another man who is not himself a mature and balanced person, he will probably be ridiculed. Possibly even BEATEN UP! (Women don't typically ever experience this.) This feels horrible to a man, probably the worst thing he can experience. If he's even suspects that you will react this way - negatively, you will never get him to connect with you. He will simply use you for physical intimacy and move on to the woman who does show him safety. One of the best ways to explain this is to give you an example of when he doesn't feel safe: Listening. A man needs to know he's going to be heard by you when he talks about his feelings or the difficult things he's experiencing. Unfortunately, what many women do is to ruin this sense of safety when he's talking about his feelings. Very often she will not hear him out completely. She will also typically interrupt him to move him forward in the conversation faster. She gets impatient when he's taking so long to explain himself, so she jumps in and tries to get there first. What this does is it feels like a disconnect - and he shuts down. There is a pretty good chance you've experienced this in a relationship with a guy, especially in conversation. Unfortunately, you may not have noticed when it happened. But I can tell you he sure noticed. And he went on guard and made a decision to be very careful about doing that ever again with you. Of course you would have fixed this in the moment, but you probably didn't know what happened. This is why it's so important to understand how men connect. You see the problem is that if you don't catch this and fix it, it's - For the rest - Watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Does He Want A Serious Relationship With You? https://youtu.be/0CoYIeGZXTE

Does he love you? Find out: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/doesheloveme How To Make Him Fall In Love With You Again By: Carlos Cavallo There's a good chance you're reading this because you've just gone through a breakup. And the one thing you want to know is how to make him fall in love with you again. The other likely possibility is that you sense he is no longer feeling the same as he once did for you. Maybe he's falling out of love... Maybe he's just distant... Maybe you two have just lost that special “spark” between you... But you know you want to win him back and make him fall in love with you all over again. The truth of the matter is, he's probably still in love with you right now. But if he's not holding you in his arms right this second, you know you have to get him feeling That Loving Feeling Again. First I Have Some Bad News AND Some Good News... The bad news first: You're going to have to do something different and smarter than you did before. You have to be willing to change your behavior if you're going to make it work. I called this “bad news” because most people can't make these kinds of changes. But I have hopes for you because I know you read my advice. And that means you understand that I can show you how men think and how to win him over. The good news: If you just do a few small things differently, you can have him eating out of the palm of your hand. You can have him on his knees begging you for another chance. You can have him proposing to you within a year. It may sound incredible, but it's absolutely doable. You simply have to have the resolve to do what you need to do. Just follow Carlos’ advice and you'll have no problems at all. You also have to be willing to use some psychological strategy to get him to love you again. It's not hard, but you have to let go of worries that you're somehow playing games with him. You're not. You're simply using the rules of the game in your favor. That's called a "Short Cut," by the way. It's the unfair advantage YOU NEED! 20 How To Make Him Fall In Love With You Again Another bit of good news is that you managed to win him over once. That means you're already imprinted on his brain. He's already fallen for you, so all you need to do is reactivate those circuits in his head, and warm his heart back up to you. Let’s start with: STEP 1: Identify the Roadblock If you had a relationship before, that means something came up that blocked his love for you. We don't simply fall out of love with someone for no good reason. Something had to appear that made him back away from your love. All you have to do is find it and get rid of it. Chances are, he feels like something changed in you. Or he's discovered something that he didn't see before. The clues for this are usually locked away in the last few conversations you had before the break up. What you want to do is think back to your last few arguments you had. What are the problems that came up? What did he say about your relationship? What has he said was a problem for him? All the clues you need are in your last few conversations. All you have to do is remember them and see if you can pick out those Clues. STEP 2: Give him his space! This one is going to be really tough for most women. When you start to panic because you may have messed something up in your relationship, the first thing you're going to want to do is to fix it. And the first thing you'll do is start texting him WAY too much. Most people are texting in their relationships way too much already, but you definitely don't want to make this mistake if you're trying to make him love you again. I recently asked a client of mine why she was only texting when she should be calling her boyfriend. She said to me: “What would I call him about?” (Insert astonished silence here…) My response? Talk to him about the same darn things you were just texting him! I'm not understanding why women are so reluctant to talk to their man these days. I'm guessing it has a lot to do with the convenience of texting. But the truth is that if you're only texting him, you're probably pushing him away. Men hunger for - To get the rest - watch the video? ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== How To Make Him Fall In Love With You Again https://youtu.be/N2aZBziK_TQ

For your free quiz - go here: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/connect Why Does He Keep Coming Back? When he doesn't even want a relationship? By: Carlos Cavallo If you've ever had a relationship that was rocky, and sometimes downright difficult, you may wonder why does he keep coming back? Is he half interested? Is he just using me? What the heck is going on? This can really drive you nuts because you feel like you have a good relationship. It's especially confusing if the relationship is passionate. Does he love you? What's going on in his head? Why does he keep giving you false hopes? As it turns out, men have a pattern with coming back to relationships. And if you don't know what his behavior means, you might misunderstand and leave a perfectly good relationship it's on its way to marriage. And this can feel even worse when he hasn't given you much of a commitment yet. Do you experience any of these situations: He cancels plans last minute with some fabricated excuse He doesn’t treat you with the love or compassion that you deserve He acts like a completely different person, sometimes when other people are around He hasn’t introduced you to his friends or family He doesn’t really plan things in the future with you He just expects you to be ready whenever he calls on you He loves it when you guys “get physical” but acts distant otherwise This is a common problem that women have and don't even realize it. But again, the truth is that he's working things through in his head. Without guidance, and making wild assumptions that he will never ask you about. It can be really confusing and difficult to know if you should stick with it or just walk away. Especially if it's your ex boyfriend that just can't stop coming back to you. It doesn't really matter even who broke up with who! It drives you nuts when he keeps leaving, and then he keeps coming back to you. Over and over again. Have you ever had a boyfriend break up with you, and then he's engaged six months later to someone new? The truth is that he's not marrying her, he's actually marrying you. She just happened to jump in the right place at the right time, and now she is his "replacement." (He still knows it's all really YOU, though.) He's pinning his hopes that he had with you on HER. Now, let's review what he really means by this phrase: “I don't really want a relationship.” He may not have said that in those precise words, but that's what you are left with. He doesn't seem to want to make a commitment He doesn't want a relationship He doesn't want to be entangled or in anything “complicated” Well, the truth is that he does want a relationship. If you've been reading my articles, listening to my podcast, watching any of my videos, you know that I give you the straight truth about what men are thinking. Because I'm a man. And I spent over a decade working with men on why they choose one woman for a relationship instead of another. Because, let's face it, if he didn't really want a relationship, and you probably think most men don't, how the heck are so many people in the world getting married and having kids? After all, every single marriage requires two people! Well, the truth is that men do want relationships. And YES - he probably wants a relationship with you. When he says “I don't want a relationship” - what he's really saying is this: “I want to see how you’re going to react when I tell you I don’t want a relationship.” Yes, it's a test. And it's a test he doesn't even know he's giving you. And it's also a test most women FAIL! He might really wonder inside if he wants a relationship. The only reason he wonders is because… Well, I'll come back to that in a little bit, so stick with me. Let’s take a look at the reasons why he keeps coming back to you. REASON 1: You are a convenient booty call. Yeah, I hate to say this one, but it's true. A lot of women let men keep coming back for favors when they're broken up. You know the pattern right? You guys break up, and then he's texting you a week later to come by and “talk.” You let him come over because you want to see if maybe he wants to get back together. And the next thing you know it, you're waking up in bed together. You're happy as can be, until you start expecting that things will go back to the way they were. And he doesn't even begin to mention restarting the relationship again with you. Or getting back together. Inside your head, you're screaming “What are we?” He doesn't mean to do it, but what he ends up doing is ... ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== why does he keep coming back to me https://youtu.be/6h7Lqg_wYWI

Ask Carlos any relationship or dating question: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/askcarlos Does My Guy Friend Like Me? 16 Signs To Look For By: Carlos Cavallo Sometimes your guy friends might make you scratch your head. They act a little bit flirty, or maybe hold eye contact a little too long, and you start to wonder “Does my guy friend like me?” The truth is, many men try this tactic for working (sometimes weaseling) their way into a woman's heart. For whatever reason he may not feel confident enough to approach you directly with his feelings. So he might try to be your friend first in an effort to woo you. After all, if he were to listen to a lot of his female friends, he probably hear the same advice come out all the time: “Look, I just want to be friends first...” - as she complains about the guy that "moved too fast." Most guys don't know that friends first is actually a recipe for failure. Chances are, you know this as well. Romance starts with a BANG - not a fizzle. Most romantic relationships run into trouble if they don't start out romantic. They fizzled because they lack the necessary Sexual energy to lift off and Achieve orbit. As a matter of fact, it's vitally important that you figure out if your guy friend likes you as quickly as possible. So that you can avoid any confusion and losing the spark a passion from the romance that could happen. When you're really close to a guy, it can be very difficult to tell if he's just being friendly or if he's showing real interest in dating you. How do you know if he loves you or if he's just being a sweet friend? You don't want to ask him directly and risk a really awkward conversation that loses a friend. So what do you do? Well that's what we're going to talk about… Why does a guy suddenly want to date you when he's always been your friend? There's a lot of reasons for this. First one is of course simple chemistry. Sometimes a guy spends time without a girlfriend and realizes he really wants one. If there's a woman that's already in this life that he's comfortable with, it's only natural that he's going to think about escalating that to a relationship. It's a perfect case of familiarity breeding desire. Second, it could be his own desert island problems. You could say that his desperation drove him to wanting you as well. Sometimes a guy just realizes he needs a bed buddy and he starts to think, why not? Hang on and I'm going to explain how you know if your guy friend likes you. SIGN #1: You’ve met his family Yes, it's one of those things that you normally look for in a romantic relationship. But if he has brought you to anything with his family - especially alone - you can be pretty sure he knows his family will think you're his girlfriend. And maybe he's trying to get you to think that too. It's a little devious, but it's coming from a good heart. He may also want to show you that his family is cool and fun to be around. Maybe hoping that you will feel at home and entertain the idea of dating him. The more you already feel like you're in his family, the easier it is for you to see yourself in a relationship with him. SIGN #2: One-on-one Hangouts A really huge sign of his interest in dating you is when he arranges it so that you and him do things together. Alone. If a guy is only interested in you as a friend, he won't let this sort of thing happen. He doesn't want you to get the wrong idea, so he won't do things with you without other friends. You might go out every once in a while alone, but if it happens consecutively or frequently, you can bet your calendar that your guy friend really likes you. SIGN #3: Physical affection is increasing One of the sure signs of a man's interest is the amount of touching he does. Guys love to touch women that they're attracted to. In fact, we have a hard time resisting this behavior. You probably experience this with guys you're not interested in who just won't take a hint. When a guy gets gropey it can get pretty tiresome. So when a guy starts touching you a lot more, there's a good chance he's feeling more interested in a relationship with you. He might: Touch your arm more Let his touch linger a bit more Hold you in a hug for longer He might also - FOR THE REST - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Does my guy friend like me https://youtu.be/w9y3_AoZdTA

For your free VIP newsletter & ebook: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook How To Win A Guy Over By: Carlos Cavallo Over the long hard Road of Romance, there's a good chance you've probably found a guy that wasn't ready to show you how much he wanted to be with you. You know you have to open his heart to you, and all you want to know is how to win a guy over. And you'd be right to ask. There's a secret to winning his heart, and it's important to know as many ways as possible to get him to open his heart to you. There are so many things that can keep you apart: Long distance romance Family problems Money problems You’re in different relationships If you're going to win him over, you've got to know how to reach him, and his love. First, let's start with a few of the mistakes women make when they try to win a guy over: MISTAKE #1: Being too aloof and too distant I don't see this one as much as I used to. But it's still there. Some women think that being really cold and bitchy will attract a guy. There are even books that perpetuate this myth. "Guys desire women who are easy to be around." - Carlos The truth is that only a guy who is lacking in self-esteem will latch onto a woman who is stronger willed than him. (You can have all the will you care to. Just notice when your will becomes HIS.) A man needs you to be warm and nurturing. Don't walk all over him. And the same goes for you: Don't let him walk all over you like a rug. MISTAKE #2: Faking your way into his heart Some women pretended to be interested in his hobbies and pastimes to win him. This is obviously a bad idea. Mostly because guys can see right through it. A man might get snowed over once in awhile, but he will be able to figure it out if you're just pretending to share his interests. It doesn't hurt to go along and participate to see if you might be interested. But if you know you're not, don't say that you are. When he figures out the truth, it will feel like a betrayal. And he will very likely lose interest because of it. MISTAKE #3: Giving him the override button A lot of women go too far by giving guys the power to: Break her plans to be with him Or she ignores her girlfriends to spend time with him And so on... Sure, you don't want to lose an opportunity to see him. But that doesn't mean you should drop everything you're doing and change plans for him. In fact, it's very likely that when you tell him NO that it will challenge him even more. Here's something that most women don't know about guys: If he really likes you, he's never going to be discouraged because your schedules conflicted. It actually works the opposite. He will be more interested because you will appear like you have a life. A life he might want to work his way into. Don't steal that motivation from him by being too easy! MISTAKE #4: Compromising your integrity for him One of the simplest ways that women do this is when they allow a guy to be 20, 40, 60 minutes late for a date. They stay silent, for fear of disapproval. And that is training him to not value you. When a guy isn't on time, you give him a gentle text message asking him where he is. If he won't be there within 20 to 30 minutes, you call the date off. Why? The first reason is you're demonstrating your own value. That you have boundaries and limits. And you command respect. The second reason is because you have to have self respect first. And you've got to train him to be on time. He must value your time as much as you do. If you set the stage by letting him mistreat you right off the bat like this, you will get the relationship that you trained him to give you. MISTAKE #5: Give into him in any way to get him to like you Letting him have his way all the time is the ultimate way that you compromise your integrity with a man. And you'll destroy any respect he might have for you. In the same way that you don't let him abuse your time, you never go along with his bullying just because you think he'll stop liking you if you don’t. (*He’ll actually stop liking you if you do give in.) And if he's using this kind of childish tactic on you, you should probably question whether or not he's a good candidate for your love. You shouldn't be dating little boys who haven't grown up past manipulation like this. You're looking for a real man who will love you for the rest of your life. AND respect you! If you want that love, you've got to.... FOR THE SECRETS - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== How to win a guy over https://youtu.be/M5i7ZMN5mBw

Get more on how to reach him: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook Why Is He Trying To Make Me Jealous? - The Secret Psychology By: Carlos Cavallo | Some women believe that men try to push their buttons. The truth however, it's exactly the opposite. If you're wondering “Why is he trying to make me jealous?” - then this article should help you understand him better. And I will also explain what to do if he is trying to make you jealous. Jealousy is a complex emotion that encompasses feelings ranging from suspicion to rage to fear - and even humiliation. Jealousy is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party. And the threat may be real or imagined. Jealousy is very strongly related to Envy. Jealousy is one of the most POWERFUL of emotions. It comes from fear, a deep fear that connects to: the fear of being alone the fear of being replaced the fear of being rejected... Jealousy is like jet fuel for starting the fires of passion. It may not be healthy, but it sure does get things hot and heavy. One of the most important things to remember is: “If you have a man who is intentionally threatening the security of your relationship with jealousy on a regular basis, you must dump him fast.” - Carlos Cavallo Absolutely, definitely, with haste. You cannot allow a man like this to create that kind of emotional turmoil. Over a long enough period of time, this behavior will undermine your happiness and self-esteem. It will erode your self-worth. And you can even develop possible life-threatening illness. I have known at least two people that have died from emotional and physical complications from this kind of unhealthy relationship. So please believe me when I tell you to be on your guard if you think he's doing this on purpose and on a regular basis. A healthy relationship must be built on a foundation of consistent, healthy, stable love. The fact is, if you suspect he's trying to make you jealous, and you do feel jealous, then yes he is trying to make you jealous on purpose. Now let's get right into the reasons why he is trying to make you jealous... Reason # 1: He’s Testing You What is “testing”? It’s when we push someone’s buttons to see if they’re putting on an act. It’s a tool for the chooser to evaluate the pursuer in romantic courtship. And before we get started here, let's get one thing out of the way: You test men in your relationships. You know you do. All women do. Because you need to know if a guy is faking his confidence or is he for real! In the words of an anonymous woman: “Women test men when we don’t know who you really are or when your words and actions have been incongruent — when they don’t line up and something seems fishy or ‘off’ about you.” And right you are for testing him! Because you know that no matter what he says to you, his actions always speak the truth. We test people in our relationships because it's instinctual. It's not a game, it's simply the way to get to the very vital truth: “Is he sincere? Or is he unreliable?” This came from a time when we had to know we could rely on the people in our “tribe.” Back in the early days, the caveman days, your survival depended on your mate. Sure, these days you can just get divorced, but back then it was possibly the worst situation imaginable. Alone without protection and a provider? It could even be fatal. The truth is that most men don't test women on purpose. (If you haven’t seen it, you should definitely read my article on why men test women here…) But sometimes he will test you by trying to stir up your jealousy. He's doing this because he wants to figure out how he should think about you. Girlfriend? Booty call? Wife material? Cool friend to hang out with...? Ultimately he wants to know how you handle your emotions. Because jealousy is one of the strongest emotions, and one that women fall victim to very easily. And jealousy will bring out your true colors when you experience it! If you're insecure, you will probably act out when he tests you by making you jealous. This might be as small as the silent treatment or as big as a huge shouting match in the middle of a crowded restaurant. And every woman has had her share of embarrassing outbursts that she wishes she could take back. Hey, guys do too! We just forget about them faster. So what do you do if you think he's testing you? The first most important thing is ... Watch the video for the rest! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Why Is He Trying To Make Me Jealous https://youtu.be/RC-vF4FLpc8

For your free "7 Mistakes" report: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook How Men Test Women - Secret Tests That You Must Pass! By: Carlos Cavallo This is one of those things that I think every woman wants to know: How men test women. But first I have to set the record straight on something right off the bat: Men don't intentionally test women...! Now you might find that a little bit hard to believe. After all, a lot of men's behavior seems to be testing their limits - and testing your patience. Most of the time what he's doing is responding to emotions that he doesn't quite understand. He's just trying to figure out where he stands with you most of the time. I know, I know. It's a little bit crazy. But let's be honest, you've done far worse, right? The point is that guys aren't testing you from any kind of clever plan they come up with. They're testing you because they're just trying to get a response that he can work with. So why is he testing you? What's he playing at? Is he just playing head games with you? Well the good news is that if he is testing you, that means he's interested in you. That means he sees some potential for a relationship with you. Because a man only tests a woman if he's trying to see if she is safe for him. It's kind of like him trying to find a safe path through a Minefield. Because guys don't know where the relationship and emotional land mines are. What they do know is, if he makes one wrong step, he could blow up the whole thing. And again most guys don't have strong relationship skills. They look out for themselves, and then entrust the woman to guide him through the rest. Which is all the more reason you have to have exceptional “man management” skills. Which I will tell you right now, most women do not have. And I'm assuming you are reading my articles because these skills are something you know you need to have to succeed. And you are absolutely right! The women who don't know how to manage their men almost always find their relationship blowing up. A moment ago I mentioned that a man is trying to see if you are "safe for him." What does this mean? What is safe for him? I'm going to come back to this in a bit. Just keep in mind that it's the most important reason that he is testing you. Test #1: “What's your phone number?” This is one of those tests that can be a little bit tricky. First of all, his purpose in asking you for your phone number is to get your phone number. It's not very complicated. But, he knows that he will get a certain response from a certain kind of woman. For example, a woman who is in high demand and valuable in the sexual Marketplace will not just give him her phone number. She will challenge him a little bit to see if he's up to the task. “Why do you need my phone number?” she asks. The reason a woman asks a guy this is to see if he's got some “game.” Can he play with a little bit of banter? Is he confident, or is he just going to roll over and be a wussy wimp who walks away with his tail between his legs. And I encourage you, no matter what you may think of your value in the sexual marketplace, to adopt this exact same strategy. Ask him some kind of challenging question. Don't just give him the phone number right off the bat. Because women who give the phone number right away are saying “Please please please - take it and call me because I'm desperate for a date.” Of course that may not be what you're trying to say, but that's what he will be hearing. Especially if you seem too eager. Women who have a lot of choice will shop a little bit and make sure she's getting a good "product." Which is why she knows to challenge him. She can afford to throw a few wimpy fish back into the pond. Every woman that I have gotten a more challenging response from, were typically the women who had some choice. They didn't need to chase me. They didn't need to prove themselves to me. They knew that if I could handle a little challenge when it came to getting her phone number that I was a much better candidate as a boyfriend or relationship. I was probably more confident and the kind of guy she would be attracted to. Look at it this way: your response to him is a test to his test. In other words, you are turning the tests around on him. Which is why you have to know how to talk to men. Test #2: “So I bet your ... For the rest - watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== How Men Test Women https://youtu.be/a7RxnLwJD9M

Go Get Your Ebook: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook 7 Signs He Cares About You By: Carlos Cavallo In today's dating world, it's hard to know if a man truly feels for you. You may find yourself looking for signs he cares about you quite often. The trickiest part is knowing for sure. We all want guarantees when it comes to relationships - especially when we're in love. But even more important, you want to know if he feels for you genuinely. You want to know if these are honest feelings of love, and not just lust or a desire to get you into bed. There are a few ways you can do this without going insane in the process. Men give off very clear signs of how they feel. They do this through body language, words they use, and of course their actions. Before I talk about some of the signs, let's talk about one very important fact about men: Men will typically not tell you how they feel unless they are extremely emotionally compromised. What I mean by this is that he will only tell you how he feels when: He has the words to explain it He is absolutely sure he feels it He loses all ability to stop himself from telling you about his feelings Most men simply don't have very good emotional coping mechanisms. But on the other side of that, there is one mechanism that has served him well. Silence. Most men simply don't talk about their feelings with you to keep himself safe. We stay silent. This is part of the nature of men. We are part born this way, and we are also nurtured to be this way. Now you may think this means he doesn't care for you, if he can't talk about his feelings with you. But this is very far from the truth. So when he is particularly quiet about his feelings, you can't project how he feels. Many women see men who are quiet and think this means he doesn't feel the same things you do. Not true at all. He's just being as cautious as you are. If he feels overwhelmed by his emotions for you, then he will break this Code of Silence and tell you how much he cares about you. One of the big mistakes is to take any of these signs I’m going to show you and assume that if he doesn't show that sign, that means he doesn't care about you. That's not true either. Here are a few quick reference signs for when a man does not care about you. Let's look at some of the signs he isn’t The One for you first, before I get into the main list. Signs He's Not The One For You: No - or very little - trust: Without trust, your relationship is as good as dead... You don't get a genuine Vibe of Desire from him. He should make you feel wanted and desired... You never really feel like you're enough for him... You're never his priority. He's always finding something more important... He's not generous with you - whether that's buying you the occasional gift, or making you feel special from time to time... He's cheated on you within the first several months of your relationship - this is a fatal mistake from Which you should NOT forgive him... He's very clingy and needy, very insecure - this usually means he will have more emotional and control issues coming soon... He's into putting you down and making you feel inadequate or less than him... No one in his family or friends knows about you... He's only into the physical side of your relationship... He almost never asks you questions about you, your interests, or your life... You feel a lot of familiar anxieties come up from your childhood when you're with him... Of course there are a ton more than these but they are a great place to start when you're wondering if he might not be the one for you. Now, let's move over into the positive signs. These are some of the best indicators that a man cares about you and wants only the best for you. SIGN #1 He Cares About You: Time is of his essence One of the most important and treasured resources in a man's life is his time. Men value time most of all as it translates directly into his income and his recreation. One of the most significant signs that he cares for you is his willingness to spend his time with you. Even if a guy is working two jobs, taking care of his mom, going to night school, whatever, he will make time for you if he cares for you. This is a rule of relationships that many people trick themselves about. They will start making excuses for why the other person can't see them. The truth is that -- For the rest - Watch the video! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== Signs he cares about you https://youtu.be/DeNQRM9C_2Q

To Learn More About The Cupid Effect - Go Here: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/cupid How To Get A Man To Marry You - 11 Secret Tips By: Carlos Cavallo If you're like most women who have been in a relationship for more than six months, you may start to wonder how to get a man to marry you. After all, marriage is the goal of a committed relationship. There are 4 big steps in any relationship: The first date The first sleepover Becoming "exclusive" Getting engaged / getting married Now, some women consider #3 and #4 to be pretty darn close - almost the same. Falling under the heading of "commitment." Every woman has had her issues getting a man to commit. You know that at some point a guy will get comfortable in the relationship and he will just try to coast. He starts to slow down, and that's right when you want to move this thing forward. Then come the phrases we've all come to recognize... "Honey, we need to talk...." "What are we...?" "I need to know where this is going..." These are a few of the things women say when they're starting to feel that pull of commitment. But you can't let him stall! You have to know how to get him to propose to you and marry you. Eventually... How To Get A Man To Marry You - SECRET #1: Start with a little "group hypnosis" This one might sound a bit sneaky, but it works. And it's a good tactic for getting a man really invested in a long-term relationship. All you got to do if you want him to propose to you is start hanging around your friends that are either engaged or are already married. Spend a lot of time with them and around them, provided they are a healthy couple. (Obviously you want to steer clear of any troubled relationships.) Most men hold back from marriage simply because they haven't got a lot of positive examples of good marriages. Interestingly, most women don't either. But you have a stronger drive towards a committed, long-term relationship. Men need to see good examples of strong relationships. He wants to know that being your partner will be worth it. And this needs to be nurtured even after the wedding - after you get married. My wife and I hang around only positive relationships. Marriages where both people are committed to it and are working on it. It's like being in a peer group that's always telling you how cool it is to make your marriage WORK. (Not fail.) Think of how far that would go toward making him love the idea of marrying you...! SECRET #2: Love You Like You Love Him… Look, you've gotta love your own life just as much as you love the idea of making him your partner. You’ve probably seen this tip on just about every list for how to get a guy to marry you. But that's not stopping me from including it here. The reason is that it is essential for you to know your own worth. And yet so few women really take time to work on this one thing. The ultimate truth that cannot be escaped is this: A man can never love you more than you love yourself... Sure, you may think you love yourself. We all want to believe we do. But it's not a slam dunk. Take some time over the next few days to do a real personal inventory. Make a list of all the things you would like to change about yourself or your life. Then, read it over and decide how much of it you can be happy with right now. Even if it's not perfect, even if you'd like to update and upgrade it - and there's no reason why you can't in the future. But for now, do a life inventory of all the things you're genuinely happy - and unhappy about. And then ask yourself if this might be getting in the way a feeling grounded and satisfied in your relationships. There is a reason why therapists start with YOUR LIFE when it comes to marriage counseling as well. It's the foundation of your happiness. In fact most women never really pour their heart and soul into themselves. They typically pour everything into a relationship. And almost never really confront those things that keep them from being happy alone. Happiness in relationships come when you stop needing a relationship to be happy. SECRET #3: Make sure the 'whoopie' never stops ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== How To Get A Man To Marry You https://youtu.be/rjoydc1QsJ4

For MORE dating and relationship advice: https://www.datingadviceguru.com/freebook What Makes A Man Leave His Wife For Another Woman By: Carlos Cavallo What makes a man decide to leave his wife — What makes a man leave his wife for another woman? As a coach and counselor for women on dating and relationships, I often run into situations where a marriage has ended. And there's always the question about what makes a man leave his wife like this. A woman can feel betrayed in her marriage when this happens, and it can leave deep emotional scars. And some women I coach are also dating a married man and want to know: What are the signs he will leave his wife for you, if you are the other woman? And, even though women leave men at a slightly higher rate, it seems to be much more painful for women to deal with this kind of trauma. You may have cause for concern in your own marriage. He may be showing you signs that there's another woman in his life. You need to know what he intends to do about all of it. And you sure as heck want to know if he intends to leave you. Because that's the statistics are not pretty. Over 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. The answers I'm about to show you might surprise you. Here is some advice for a woman who wants to save her marriage or her relationship. And make sure you stick around to the very end. I'll tell you a little bit about how you save your relationship. Because if you don't do something, the situation will only get worse. Is He Leaving? Sign 1: No Appreciation Most men show their love with acts of Love. They will help you out, give you advice, take action where needed. And one of the things he looks for is appreciation for his showing love in this way. A man needs your acknowledgement and gratitude. Frequently, women do not see men's behavior as “loving” - misinterpreting it as ego or something else because it's not how she would express it. What this does is it leaves a man in a situation where he's not getting appreciated for the love he's showing. He doesn't know that she's not seeing what he's doing as love, so he just feels rejected on an emotional level. This is a lot more common than most women are aware. Of course both of you have a need for appreciation. I'm not saying he shouldn't appreciate you. But this article is not about how to get him to appreciate you, it's about recognizing the things that are making him pull away from your relationship or your marriage. One of the best things you can do in your relationship is to set aside time to recognize the things you're missing when it comes to appreciating your partner. Sometimes you have to have the other person point out where they were loving you if you're not seeing it. Of course it makes it a lot easier when you can recognize the other person's love right off the bat. But some relationships start out with a period of getting to know the other person's communication style when it comes to love. Be on the lookout for his acts of love and appreciate them. Sign 2: Money Money… You're probably aware that money is one of the biggest areas of contention and struggle within a relationship. If you're not on the same page as him with respect to spending, you should spend some time to get that straightened out. Women and men often have very different ideas about how money works within a relationship. You can't take this for granted. Most couples wait until this becomes a problem instead of facing it head on. You must know how the other person sees their spending habits. And how you can come to some mutual understanding to avoid conflict over money. Some of the areas about money you should discuss are: Budgets - how much you spent on what Savings - how much to save - and on what Recreational spending - what to spend on fun & experiences Retirement - what are your goals for money later in life? Again most people do not ... Watch the video for the rest! ============================================ ** SUBSCRIBE for More Videos: http://www.youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=connectwithhim =========================================== Carlos Cavallo Dating Advice Guru http://www.datingadviceguru.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carlosdatingguru =========================================== What makes a man leave his wife for another woman https://youtu.be/r8YW1ixWXss