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SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ Chatting with CandiceJohann Hari Episode Run Time: 1:11:36 Our guest is Johann Hari, writer, journalist, and author of “Chasing the Scream”, “Lost Connections”, and his most recent one entitled “Stolen Focus”. We talk about our waning attention spans and how this is affecting our children, how his trip to Provence Town changed (or didn’t change) his life, and how Google is stealing our attention. 00:00:00 00:01:35 Johann’s Article in the Guardian on Attention 00:08:50 Crisis of Being Present, Lenore Skenazy’s “Let Grow”, and Children’s Attention 00:19:33 Professor Steven Pinker’s “Better Angels” and the Decline of Violence 00:24:57 Earl K. Miller and Larry D. Rosen on Attention and an Experiment on Hewlett-Packard 00:29:49 Johann’s Trip to Provence Town and Dr. James Williams 00:35:33 The Lead in Lead Paint in Google According to Tristan Harris and Aza Raskin 00:49:47 Minds, Freedom, Le Burnout, and the Personal and Collective Responsibility 01:09:12 Where to Find Johann “Your attention didn’t collapse. It was stolen.” Johann tells the story of his godson Adam who, once was a curious, precocious child obsessed with Elvis Presley, now has become glued to his phone, and won’t stop checking Snapchat. There is an ongoing crisis right now with children with short attention spans, are not independent, and are being locked away at home in fear of their safety or of kidnappings which in turn stunts their social skills and ability to think on their own, even before the pandemic started. This led to Johann advocating for Lenore Skenazy’s LetGrow.org non-profit where she promotes “free-range kids” who can do things on their own, like take the subway alone. According to psychologist Steven Pinker who wrote a book called “Better Angels”, violence has declined over the past few decades which Johann agrees with in helping create more independent children. Burnout and Our Collective Responsibility Against Social Media We’ve been getting our sense of fulfillment externally on social media, which harms our ability to focus. Johann went to MIT to interview Professor Earl K. Miller who explains that the human brain can only consciously think about one or two things at the same time. We’ve fallen into a collective delusion where we can do more one thing at once leading to a culture of overworking and burnout, also called the switch-cost effect. Hewlett-Packard did an experiment between two working groups in the company and saw that the group that had been uninterrupted by calls and e-mails scored 10 IQ points higher. In France, a phenomenon called “Le Burnout” let to the government implementing a legal right to disconnect. Tristan Harris of Google was shocked by the addicting effects they built within Gmail and together with Aza Raskin formed Center for Humane Technology. Just like the moms who banned lead in paint, we can collectively fight against the ongoing phenomenon of our losing focus by not banning Google and Facebook, but by having an individual and collective responsibility to find the root of the problem and challenge these ideas and concepts of the way we work in our hyper productive world. Links and Resources: Johann's Website https://johannhari.com/

FULL EPISODE https://youtu.be/oApqmy7g3bk SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://chattingwithcandice.com The Alpha, Beta, Omega dynamic has been a hot topic in the manosphere over the past couple of years. Although it’s easy to define men based on these three brackets, the real question is, can an alpha man become beta and vice versa? If so, what can a beta man do to climb up the social mating hierarchy and become an alpha or an omega? Tune in to find out.

FULL EPISODE https://youtu.be/oApqmy7g3bk SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://chattingwithcandice.com Jealousy can be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy jealousy is normal and involves guarding your territory with genuine care and commitment. In contrast, unhealthy jealousy is characterized by lies, threats, feelings of inadequacy, stalking, and insecurity. In this video, you will learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy jealousy, the signs that your jealousy is slowly becoming toxic, and what you can do about it.

FULL EPISODE https://youtu.be/oApqmy7g3bk SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://chattingwithcandice.com It’s a well-known fact that, deep down, everybody has got kinks and fantasies that they would love to try out with their partners. Unfortunately, most people would rather stay silent about them than share them with their significant other. In this video, Geoffrey reveals the #1 defining factor of a healthy relationship and why talking about your no-so-weird fantasies shouldn’t be such an intimidating task.

FULL EPISODE https://youtu.be/oApqmy7g3bk SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://chattingwithcandice.com Did you know that hunger could be the reason you and your partner are constantly quarreling? Geoffrey explains that couples could dramatically improve the outcomes of their relationships by simply eating healthier foods, exercising, and having more sex.

Full episode https://youtu.be/XzQ1Jt1vJrs SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ 9/11 First Responders were using S&M clubs to deal with their PTSD and heal their trauma. Through orgasm meditation, Dr. Nicole explains how they are able to heal and do a sexual reframing of traumatic incidents, whether or not they are sexual in nature.

Geoffrey Miller is an acclaimed evolutionary psychologist, author, and Associate Professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico. He is known for his research on sexual selection in human evolution and has written numerous best-selling books such as Virtue Signaling, Spent, and The Mating Mind. We talk about the evolution of monogamy, the power of negotiations in marriage, and why a little jealousy can ignite passion into your relationship. 00:00:00 00:02:52 Welcoming Geoffrey 00:03:30 Evolutionary Origins and Why It’s Such a Controversial Topic 00:06:10 Why It’s So Hard to be Active on Social Media 00:09:50 Virtue Signaling and Moral Progress 00:12:15 How to Identify Authentic Virtue Signaling 00:16:30 The Core of Today’s Oppression and the Demands of the Oppressed 00:21:45 The Current State of Marriage Psychology and Therapy 00:27:10 How Diet and Physical Shape Affects Marriage and Sexual Attraction 00:29:33 The Truth About Female Sexuality 00:33:30 The Evolution of Monogamy 00:36:50 What Does Commitment in a Relationship Really Mean? 00:41:30 The Right Way to Negotiate with Your Partner 00:46:40 Conversations You and Your Partner Need to Have 00:48:00 Sexual Fantasies: To Tell or Not to Tell? 00:50:30 Sexual Orientation and Gender Identities 00:52:30 Is Our Sexual Orientation Determined By Biology? 00:59:20 How Politics is Seeping Into Every Aspect of Our Lives 01:04:58 Parenting and the Morality Argument 01:08:50 Polygamy in Modern Society 01:18:10 How Virtual Reality Will Influence Marriages of the Future 01:21:55 The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Jealousy 01:29:50 Understanding Jealousy in Monogamous Relationships 01:35:10 The Alpha, Beta, Omega Dynamic 01:40:20 How to Really Understand Your Partner 01:43:50 What Playfulness Can Do For Your Relationship 01:44:40 Parting Thoughts The Current State of Marriage Psychology and Therapy If you’re married and going through a rough patch in your marriage, chances are, you’ve considered marriage therapy at some point in time. It may be because you genuinely want your relationship to work, or you’re not the type that gives up too quickly. But the question is, does marriage counseling work? Yes, counseling helps couples identify and resolve conflicts that may be contributing to the problems in their relationship. However, Geoffrey believes that the marriage counseling of today is sadly built on a foundation of victimization. One or both partners have to be the source of most relationship issues before a solution can be found. He goes on to explain that some couples argue a lot because one partner is just being petty. Others are just hungry, while a vast majority would fix their marital issues by simply exercising a lot more. Unfortunately, most marriage therapists don’t go as far as checking a couple’s diet or exercise routine before prescribing a solution, and that’s a problem. If marriage counselors could dig a little deeper to understand the root cause of a couple’s disputes, that would immensely help couples strengthen their relationship and build a solid foundation for their future together. The Right Way to Negotiate With Your Partner Marriage is built on negotiations-- one partner takes out the trash while the other takes the kids to school. Unfortunately, the longer people stay together, the more likely they are to compromise, yet always compromising rarely gets anybody what they want. According to Geoffrey, successful marriages are built on successful negotiations. On any given day, there are numerous marriage matters that need to be discussed and deliberated. Understanding how to negotiate properly makes marriage life easier. He goes on to add that negotiations should be taken a step further and implemented in the bedroom. The more you deliberate on what you want as a couple in the bedroom, the more fun your sex life will be. Understanding Healthy and Unhealthy Jealousy in Marriage Jealousy is the reaction to a real or imagined threat to a valued relationship. It’s a normal human emotion that everyone experiences and forms a vital part of our primal evolution. The good news is that a little jealousy can be positive and reassuring in a relationship. However, problems can arise when jealousy turns from a healthy human emotion to an irrational one. For example, if your partner is constantly stalking you or becomes violent when you interact with people of the opposite sex, that’s a red flag you should never ignore. Geoffrey explains that mild and occasional feelings of jealousy in marriage reminds couples not to take each other for granted. Jealousy also motivates partners to appreciate one another, heightening emotions, making sex more passionate and love even stronger. Toxic jealousy is not an emotion that can be banished by wishful thinking. It runs right to an individual's core, and takes awareness and effort to overcome these feelings. Links https://www.primalpoly.com/ https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/the-fourth-trimester/

Full episode https://youtu.be/XzQ1Jt1vJrs SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ Candice stumbled upon an article about sexual autism and Dr. Nicole confirms whether this is true. She also shares how she stumbled upon Dr. Nicole at a Jamie Wheal event on his book “Recapture the Rapture” which begs the question: can you truly achieve transcendental moments during an orgasm?

Full episode https://youtu.be/XzQ1Jt1vJrs SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ Dr. Nicole explains their methods on sex research and the physical and mental health benefits of porn to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. She uses orgasm meditation as one of her examples and the results that came about the experiment.

Full episode https://youtu.be/XzQ1Jt1vJrs SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ Society likes to pretend that women don’t watch porn because it’s considered “dirty” and “unladylike”. Turns out, they are the biggest spenders in OnlyFans. Dr. Nicole explains the female data on sex and the results are shocking, but not a huge surprise.

Full episode https://youtu.be/XzQ1Jt1vJrs SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ The conversation around pornography is always put in a bad light, specifically with how sex and porn can be addicting. Candice asks Dr. Nicole what addiction really means and whether sex and porn addiction fit into that definition.

SUPPORT THE PODCAST https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.chattingwithcandice.com/ Chatting with Candice Nicole PrauseEpisode Run Time: 1:03:26 Candice welcomes Dr. Nicole Prause, a neuroscientist researching human sexual behavior, addiction, and the physiology of sexual response. We talk all things sex: porn, “addiction”, women who watch porn, and how sex and porn can benefit people in more ways than we can imagine. 00:00:00 00:01:51 Welcoming Dr. Nicole 00:02:54 The Academic Industry on Sex Research 00:08:46 Defining Addiction in Sex and How to Tackle the Shame 00:20:37 Women’s Pleasure and Orgasm Medication 00:25:00 Mental and Physical Benefits of Sex 00:34:52 “Sexual Autism” and Orgasms 00:39:52 Sex in Psychedelics and Altered States 00:46:21 Fetishes, Trauma Healing, Orgasm Medication and Sexual Reframing 00:51:45 Public Health Approach on Sex 00:58:20 What the Public Can Do 01:01:44 Where to Find and Support Dr. Nicole Sex & Porn Addiction There’s no doubt that some people are more addicted to sex and porn than others, but the question as a clinician is to ask: “How do I treat this?”. One model could be addiction and some of the things that are required to call some things as an addiction would be developing tolerance around the stimulus or behavior, Curie activity, having negative consequences as a result of the behavior. Each of these will be undergone and have disproven some aspects of them in science, called falsification. An addiction has to fulfill all criteria otherwise it’s not an addiction. Having shame because of conservative upbringings, having a high sex drive and not being able to complete everyday tasks and relationships, leading up to impulsive and compulsive disorders are not the same as addiction. In the field of science, no scientist has labelled porn as addictive and most of this stigma is around public perception. Women Who Watch Porn Women are the biggest spenders in OnlyFans and women who watch porn are seen to have positive effects such as improved sexual satisfaction, increased orgasm consistency, and higher relationship satisfaction. The big gender difference is that in sex clinics, the most common problem women report is low desire which has been going on for 40 years and watching pornography could be one of the ways to spark drive. Sex Research on Trauma Healing and Sexual Reframing PTSD is affective dampening, which is when a person shuts their emotions off because of the fear that their traumatic experience will happen again. Through orgasm meditation, the idea is if there’s a way to get victims to have intense emotional experiences that are safe where they can start to experience feelings of intensity again in a way that isn’t frightening so they can do exposures. This allows them to feel high intensity but a positive, pleasurable thing which can make their affective range broaden out again. CPT is one of the most common form of therapies for PTSD victims. Dr. Links and Resources: https://twitter.com/NicoleRPrause https://www.liberoscenter.com/ Meta-Description Liberos LLC sex researcher Dr. Nicole Prause shatters the stigma on sex and porn and gives us the science behind its healing and health benefits.

Support the podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.Minds.com/candicehorbacz Full episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRi3nH_58a4 Candice and Andrew talk about life on earth, animals that are way ahead of us, the Metaverse, and the misinformation on Facebook affecting geopolitics. It’s exciting and scary and they both are aligned with how they see where the future looks like in present time and how they’re not afraid of Mark Zuckerberg at all.

Support the podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.Minds.com/candicehorbacz Full episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRi3nH_58a4 Are babies born with residual karma or debts to be paid? Andrew explains rollercoaster perspectives, punishments or rewards, and the purpose behind the bad things that humans go through.

Support the podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.Minds.com/candicehorbacz Full episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRi3nH_58a4 Candice and Andrew talk about enlightenment, “Stealing Fire” by Jamie Wheal, and David Hawkins. Can a person be truly enlightened? Are there actual sages that keep the peace on Earth? They go back-and-forth on their own and Numerology’s perspective.

Support the podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.Minds.com/candicehorbacz Full episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRi3nH_58a4 From the youngest age, people are taught that emotions like sadness and anger are “bad” and that you have to be positive all the time. Recently, Candice has been scrolling through Tiktok where people are quick to label bad experiences as “trauma”. Candice and Andrew talk about what trauma really is and how to best handle emotions.

Support the podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.Minds.com/candicehorbacz Full episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRi3nH_58a4 Is there such a thing as mistakes? Does the universe or some higher being make mistakes or is there a purpose when it comes to the obstacles we face in life? Andrew gives his response based on his intuition and Numerology.

Support the podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.Minds.com/candicehorbacz Full episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nRi3nH_58a4 Candice asks Andrew what 2022 is going to look like. Is it going to be a little bit better than the last year? Andrew gives both his personal take and what’s going to happen based on Numerology including clues on what happened in 2013.

Support the podcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice https://www.Minds.com/candicehorbacz Teledipity founder Andrew Gabelic is back on the podcast! On this episode, I ask him about what 2022’s going to look like and if it’s going to be any better than the year that we’ve had. We talk about his forecast for the upcoming new year and we go deeper into life, enlightenment, and how we deal with positivity, trauma, and time and space through intuition and Numerology. 00:00:00 00:01:22 Welcoming Andrew 00:03:34 New Nine-Year Cycle 00:11:35 Horoscopes and Forecasts 00:25:05 Mistakes 00:32:19 The Positive Mind 00:36:59 Trauma 00:42:58 Enlightenment 00:53:26 Dimensions 00:57:10 Residual Karma 01:04:56 Time and Space 01:09:51 Animals and the Environment 01:16:02 The Metaverse 01:19:40 Where to Find Andrew 2022 Forecast In terms of Numerology, it’s a Six Year and a Nine Cycle for the planet and a Six Year vibration can act in different ways depending on the other numbers that are on top of it whether it’s on a person’s or a planet’s chart. For reference, the last Six Year was 2013 and when Andrew tries to figure out what the next year’s going to be for the planet, he looks back at other years with the same vibration. What he saw in 2013 was a lot of seeds. It wasn’t a difficult year for the planet, there wasn’t a lot of conflict or major chaotic global events. What he did see was that a lot of the storylines that later became big for the planet, the seeds were already planted in 2013 such as Bitcoin, geopolitics, and pop culture. Do We Make Mistakes? Based on his intuition, when we end up on a certain path in life after making a less ideal decision, there are serendipities and things that fall into place perfectly to the point that maybe it was meant to happen. When a person has free will, the universe will always organize around you. No matter what you do, the order will always be there because there is feedback and a need to go through a certain experience because of the choice a person makes. In Numerology, there is a theme for the year and if you think about your life according to that theme, the universe will organize around the choice you make but still give that theme back. The order will always be present because a person can’t escape that bubble of perfection where you will be given what you need to evolve regardless of what choice you make. Are Babies Born with Debts to Pay? Without invalidating the pain that humans go through, Andrew would never dare negate those experiences, but there is a possibility that the pain humans go through is not measured in the same ways from the spiritual perspective. He compares it to walking out after a rollercoaster ride or a horror movie. When you’re back in the spiritual plane, it’s easier to understand pain in a way that humans can’t. It’s not so much that horrible things happen in the world but maybe there’s something that we don’t understand in the spiritual side of things that humans are not going to be able to explain right away. Secondly, difficult experiences are not earned, but there’s a chance that we just don’t immediately understand the purpose of these experiences from the actual perspective of the explanation that makes sense. One on hand, there’s a purpose to everything but on the other, it’s best to edit yourself out of the situation and be as empathetic and understanding when communicating that to others. Links and Resources:https://www.teledipity.com/Andrew's Websitehttps://www.facebook.com/teledipity/ https://www.instagram.com/teledipity/?hl=en https://twitter.com/teledipity

FULL Episode https://youtu.be/P8gnDaCvCp4 Support the podcast Https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice Guest @Dr Brian Keating Back in 2020, the Pentagon released videos on what seemed to be UFOs floating around in the sky. Do they exist or was it all just a stunt to keep us all distracted from the crazy year that was?

FULL Episode https://youtu.be/P8gnDaCvCp4 Support the podcast Https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice Guest @Dr Brian Keating Some scientists look at religion with skepticism and it’s not altogether unearned, but this could only strip life of any meaning. As a believing and practicing Jewish man and cosmologist, it’s Brian’s goal to give way to the possibility of an existence of a higher being.

FULL Episode https://youtu.be/P8gnDaCvCp4 Support the podcast Https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice Guest @Dr Brian Keating In 2017, Rainer Weiss, Kip Thorne, and Barry Barish won the Nobel Prize for the LIGO Experiment where they measured waves and ripples from a billion years ago. Brian explains further how this happened and how it became possible in modern-day times.

FULL Episode https://youtu.be/P8gnDaCvCp4 Support the podcast Https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice Guest @Dr Brian Keating One of the most interesting questions in science is whether a beginning existed before the Big Bang, which is a question that intersects with all other fields of science. Brian deep dives into what that “beginning” really means in the context of the universe.

FULL Episode https://youtu.be/P8gnDaCvCp4 Support the podcast Https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice Guest @Dr Brian Keating Brian has had an impressive academic background: from Brown University, to Stanford, CalTech, and so on. Scientists like him are known to be obsessed with achievement and challenging the limits of science, but what does “science” really mean when you put life and spirituality into perspective?

FULL Episode https://youtu.be/P8gnDaCvCp4 Support the podcast Https://www.buymeacoffee.com/candice Guest @Dr Brian Keating Most scientists have healthy egos but they also battle impostor syndrome—something they have in common with Einstein. At the end of the day, they’re still humans who strive for happiness which Brian pivots into the concept of entropy.