Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup

Do Borderlines Have Empathy? Watch my video: “Borderlines Lack of Empathy” https://youtu.be/hLH_R-uroGo Yes and no! Many with BPD do have the capacity for empathy but it gets suspended - disappears - when they are triggered to emotional dysregulation and the more often than not they are being very defended about something. This coupled with the inability to take personal responsibility means many with BPD untreated are only focusing on themselves and not at all aware or caring how you feel. Sessions with A.J. - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Relationship or Breakup & Your Loss of Self People in BPD relationships or going through a BPD breakup with or without relationship recycling need to go no contact. If you stay in contact you will continue to experience a loss of yourself that results from self-abandonment as you try so much to change a person with BPD when you really need to break free and heal and change yourself. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDRelationship #ajmahari #BPDBreakup #CodependentLossOfSelf

Borderline Eggshells in all Relationship Types & Codependent Denial BPD of relationships types involve Codependents and the Codependency of people with BPD as well. You can't emotionally regulate a Borderline no matter how many eggshells you try to walk on without them breaking. The eggshells break! People with BPD often are triggered and emotionally dysregulated. It's not your fault or your responsibility to regulate a person with BPD. It doesn't matter if that is a parent, sibling, friend, boss, co-worker or your girlfriend, wife, boyfriend or husband or now your BPD Ex. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDRelationships #ajmahari #EggshellsofCodependentDenial

No Repair Stage in BPD Relationship Cycles Many people indicate in their information about BPD Relationships Cycles that there is a "repair" stage when there really isn't. There isn't any repair in between or at the start of relationship recycling either. In any BPD Breakup there isn't any closure and people with untreated BPD do not know how (emotionally) to take personal responsibility let alone how to communicate or explain their feelings, actions, or behaviour. Nothing really gets repaired. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDRelationshipCycles #NoRepair #ajmahari

Borderline Ghost You? Want BPD Ex Back? Is Your BPD Ex Thinking About You? Most people who each get into a significant other relationship, with someone who ends up having all the patterns of BPD (undiagnosed) or someone diagnosed and untreated, will get split to devaluation and ghosted. When most people in these unhealthy relationships (having Codependency) are ghosted they want the BPD Ex back. Is your BPD Ex thinking about you? Do people with undiagnosed and/or untreated BPD really have you on their minds after splitting you to devaluation and ghosting you? Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/borderline-ghost-you-want-ex-back-is-you #BPDGhostedYou #WantBPDExBack #ajmahari

Borderline Provocation Manipulates You | What Codependents Need To Know To Break Free Borderlines provocation manipulates you to react & re-engage in cycles of circles that won't and can't meet your needs. Why and how can you stop the emotional reactivity? This happens in BPD Breakups and/or BPD Relationship recycling as well as in any relationship type with a person with BPD patterns and/or BPD. Codependents need to take action in a healing and recovery process to learn how to stop self-abandoning and how to regulate their own emotions to cope more effectively with choices and working toward no contact and breaking the unhealthy bond. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDProvokeManipulate #ajmahari #CodependentsBreakFree

BPD Betrayal Means Can't Be Friends & No Contact Needs To Be For Life BPD Betrayal occurs when they split you to devaluation (often even in the relationship) and then the major split to devaluation (in relationship recycling repeatedly) ghost or discard you. It is not healthy at all to want to be friends with a Borderline that betrayed you. No contact is the way to heal. No contact needs to be for life? Why is no contact so important? I talk about why no contact is central to healing and why it needs to be for life. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBetrayal #NoContact #ajmahari

BPD Relationship Recycling Sunk Cost Fallacy Is It All About The Borderline? BPD relationship recycling and the sunk cost fallacy coupled with each partner or Ex partner or on/off person trying to love and change a person with BPD is not just about the Borderline. Why are you continuing to abandon yourself and give your power to a person with BPD? Where's your personal responsibility for yourself? https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakups #sunkcostfallacy #ajmahari

BPD Rage Episodes & Smirking - What's That Mean? BPD rage episodes often followed by the person with BPD smirking, what does that mean? Many think it means that the person with BPD they know is sadistic. Is that true or not? What do you think? Does BPD smirking after rage mean your borderline fits several other Cluster B "labels?" https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDRageandSmirking #ajmahari

3 Things A Borderline or Narcissist will Not Say To You In Any Meaningful Way “I am wrong” “I am Sorry” “I love you” If you hear these words they are meaningless vs the actions of people with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Pay attention to their actions and behaviour - not their empty meaningless fake words. Go no contact and focus on yourself in your own healing/recovery journey. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions

Codependency: 16 Patterns From Childhood Re-Enacted in BPD or NPD Relationships People with Codependency, more often than not, re-enact core childhood woundness from Family Systems in Family of Origin in adulthood with people with BPD or NPD especially in significant other relationships. You need to focus on you now and your patterns and what you need to heal not continue to focus on a Borderline or a Narcissist and recycling relationship breakups with them which is only you repeating your multi-layered trauma and increasing your pain and loss of self. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & More #Codependency #ajmahari Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/codependency-painful-emotional-dangers-r

People’s worth and still being attractive and your Borderline still “feeling” attraction (untreated) BPD who devalue partners, friends etc to ghosting or discard(s) has nothing to do with what you did or didn’t do or say or not. It is most certainly nothing to do with you attractiveness or the Borderline “losing attraction” to you. It’s their internal chaos , lack of self, and inability to consistently relate to you or anyone else. Sessions - https://ajmahari.ca

BPD Splitting Destroys Relationships - 14 Signs of How & Why You Need To Stop Relationship Recycling Splitting in BPD is the major defense mechanism in Borderline Personality Disorder. Its roots are deep within people with BPD who core trauma caused a loss of self and arrested emotional development by or before the age of 2 years old in childhood. You cannot help a person with BPD change or heal this core primal wounding that is the seat of the defense of splitting caused by the approach/avoidance conflict in BPD along with its disorganized style of attachment. What you need to know about splitting in a very deep dive about how it is hurting and betraying you and why you cannot and will not succeed in rescuing, changing, or fixing the person - who doesn't exist - that you as a Codependent are so "in love with". https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Ebooks & More #BPDSplitting #ajmahari #bpdbreakup Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/bpd-splitting-destroys-relationships-14- 0:00 Intro 0:45 BPD Splitting Major Defense Mechanism 9:05 BPD Triggered Emotional Dysregulation Drives Splitting 11:30 Why Borderlines Split 12:57 Toll Of BPD Splitting on Partners 17:16 Origin and Effects of BPD Splitting 28:06 14 Signs of BPD Splitting Sabotaging Destroying Relationship 44:04 BPD Splitting Effect In Couples Counselling 48:01 Deep Dive BPD Splitting Codependents Relationship Recycling & Need To Heal

BPD Subtypes are all Core BPD Regardless of your Borderline’s subtype parsing BPD via subtypes is misleading. All people with patterns of or diagnosed BPD have the core primal woundedness of BPD. One subtype or another doesn’t mean anyone with BPD is “less BPD” Are you aware of how much pain you are in? Are you numbing and outrunning your pain with endless focus on every word said or written about BPD? Information & misinformation - which is which? When will you choose you and your own healing? Sessions to help you choose you and heal - https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Breakup The Emptiness of BPD Relationship Recycling T Bonded Situationships BPD Relationship Breakups and the emptiness of recycling T Bond Relationships increases your codependency and only worsens how you actually feel. These relationships with people with the patterns of BPD or BPD diagnosed but untreated do not last or work out no matter how many times you abandon yourself to try to change the Borderline. It is you that you can change and that needs healing change in letting go of these people who cannot have healthy relationships. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #ajmahari #BPDrelationshiprecycling

After BPD Discard - No Way Back To “Honeymoon Phase” It’s OVER He or she - the Borderline- is not who you thought he/she was and they will not ever idealize you again. It’s over. You are beating a dead horse and hurting yourself more because you are in too much pain to know what to do besides try, try, again. Want to stop this self harming and self-abandoning cycle but fear how to cope with the pain to heal? https://ajmahari.ca/sessions I have 33 years experience helping people just like you find yourself, know yourself, heal from the BPD relationship trauma bond and help you to find an independent peace.

BPD Breakup & Relationship Recycling - What About You? Are you one of countless people after a BPD Relationship Breakup end up totally focused on that Ex and learning all about Borderlines? Trying to end your intolerable pain by getting the Ex back and by continuing to re-abandon yourself? I help people to cope with that pain and the lostness of self toward realizing you are in a devastating re-occurring cycle that only increases your pain exponentially. You need to break free of the trauma bond and find yourself and heal your core wounds from your childhood along with the trauma from the Borderline Ex. Choose yourself today …. The journey awaits you - you deserve to heal and love yourself and you CAN do that! https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Breakup Wanting Ex Back is Self-Harm People out there using all kinds of “cute” language, “buzz words” or cleverly meaningless “terms” and words all about how, why, etc you “can” get your Ex back. Want to know more and get honest clarification while being fully supported in wherever you are right now in a BPD Breakup cycle? I have 33 years experience helping people with and through extremely painful BPD Relationships Breakups, Relationship Recycling, and helping people like you to learn how to cope whether you still seek your Ex back or you want help to move forward healing your pain and knowing yourself better. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Breakup Recycling - Need For No Contact & Dilemma of Codependency BPD breakup recycling still wanting and/or needing your BPD Ex back when you really do need to go no contact - this is the dilemma of Codependency and the avoidance and self-abandonment of Codependents to the over-focus on the Borderline no matter how much this keeps wounding you. With help, and not all on your own, the only way out of this dilemma is to choose you and your own need to heal. Why is that so compellingly difficult? It feels impossible yet it isn't impossible. Change and healing require that you choose yourself firstly, and that you learn to cope effectively in healthy ways with the adversity of that process. I can help you. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #codependency #ajmahari

BPD Relationship Recycling vs Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup BPD relationship recycling vs surviving a BPD relationship breakup. Why are so many people investing so much time and energy into a Borderline Ex? Wanting your Ex back is a circular on/off nightmare that doesn't work out. Many people may want the Ex back for all kinds of reasons but for 99% of you it will mean - sooner or later - you will need to stop avoiding yourself, your own increasing stress and distress. In recycling your BPD unhealthy relationship you will lose more and more of yourself. You will increase your woundedness, your own unmet needs. Why are you needing/wanting your Borderline Ex back? Codependency and the core wounds of your childhood that unconsciously drive you in these cycles and circles. Reach out and start a healing process of change and growth so you can break the BPD relationship recycling patterns and begin to cope effectively with surviving a BPD relationship breakup - working to process and heal to have the relationship breakup be the end of that chapter of your life. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & more #ajmahari #BPDRelationshiprecycling #bpdbreakup

BPD Breakup - Con of No Contact Con 'Strategy' To Get Your Ex Back - Pursuit of Recycling Fantasy A BPD Breakup should not mean continuing to hoover or be hoovered by your Ex to recycle the relationships. The Con of no contact "con" 'strategy' is extremely unadvisable. It strengthens codependency and fails to be an honest description by others of what you are in for. Nothing changes when if you get your BPD Ex back. You will see the recycling relationships be exactly to true to the original relationship but without re-idealization. This pursuit of fantasy is the opposite of what you truly need - honest, actual no contact and investing in yourself and your own healing and recovery journey. Promises of marriage when getting the Ex back are extremely rare and manipulative messages of others out there. Your feelings won't change the facts of undiagnosed or untreated BPD. And no, they don't just have an "attachment issue". https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Ebooks & More #BPDBreakup #NocontactcontogetExBack #ajmahari

BPD Breakup No Contact Con To Get Ex Back Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/0_xwGImd3A4 This is a recipe to stay stuck in all the pain and rumination that you are experiencing. There’s no “in the meantime “ working on yourself because wanting your BPD Ex back strengths your Codependency and the trauma bond and keeps you abandoning yourself. Does it hurt too much? Is getting sleep very difficult? Are you isolating and ruminating? Are you exhausted? Feeling withdrawal? Can’t live with or without the BPD Ex? Want your Ex back thinking it will be different? Recycling with BPD Ex won’t be different. I have 33 years helping people who have been where you are now. Choose you today, take an action step to slowly start to heal. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Relationship Recycling Getting Your BPD Ex Back is Recycling The Trauma Bond BPD relationship recycling between people with BPD and their partner/ex-partner person with Codependency getting the BPD Ex back are really recycling the core trauma bond that is not love. This is a dualistic "rebounding" by each person with BPD and each codependent on/off partner/ex of the unhealed woundedness of the core re-wounding trauma bond. It is an increasingly toxic re-wounding and painful cycle all of its own. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & Courses #BPDRelationshipRecyling #GetBPDExBack #ajmahari

BPD Relationships Ever A Good Time To Talk To pw/BPD About Your Feelings or Needs? In BPD relationships is there ever a good time to talk to the person with BPD who is your partner (or was - or on/off) about your feelings and needs or that you believe they have BPD? In so many relationships with people with Borderline Personality these "conversations" aren't amenable to any "good time" because so many with BPD (largely untreated) cannot tolerate and/or hear what you have to say or share. Rejection sensitivity and fear of abandonment along with so many with BPD that can't, don't and/or won't take personal responsibility. People with BPD more often than not will feel "attacked" by you expressing your needs and trying to talk to them about what you feel, need, or want. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - Podcasts - Ebooks & More #BPDRelationship #CommunicatingtoBPD #ajmahari

Borderline Duplicitous Apologies Borderline duplicitous 'apologies'can be consciously or unconsciously extremely 'self-serving' and manipulative. Many people close or who were close to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder deny their own feelings and misunderstand the borderline duplicitous apology - or breadcrumbing apology to mean that this is new awareness, better insight and growth when really in more cases than not it's just part of a cycle of them escaping responsibility and looking to you to regulate their emotions after they hurt you. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog