Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup

Why do so many people believe so much misinformation perhaps also based on how you view your experience with a person with BPD as being the same as NPD? For approximately 60% of people diagnosed with BPD they do not have NPD or co-morbidity with BPD ajmahari.ca/sessions BPD is starkly different in many and the prognosis for BPD long-term therapeutic success is actually very positive for people with BPD who seek specialized treatment, unlike Narcissists. Many people truly do not deeply enough understand BPD thinking it’s the same as NPD. It’s simply not.

Wanting Your BPD Ex Back is Avoiding Your ‘Self’ It is a Codependent repetition compulsion of trying to get your needs met by over-giving to an emotionally unavailable person while hoping “expecting) to be validated, seen or actually heard by the Borderline. BPD relationships are toxic betrayal bonds - norms “love” ajmahari.ca/sessions

Idaho4 One Year Later No Justice The quadruple murder of 4 University of Idaho students, one year ago, today, Sunday November 13, 2022 shocked the small city of Moscow, Idaho. Unalived were Maddie Mogen, 21, Kaylee Goncalves 21, Xana Kernodle, 20, and her boyfriend 20 year old, Ethan Chapin. An accused as been arrested and in jail for almost a year, Brian Koberhger. It's a real puzzle and mystery what, if anything legal (allegedly) led Law Enforcement to Brian Kohberger. This is a true crime case with way more questions than answers and in which the defense has had to formally ask for missing discovery evidence 9 times to date. https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts

The Borderline Push/Pull is very core. Borderline push/pull is the core approach/avoidance struggle that is experienced from BPD splitting - the most major defence mechanism of people with BPD. The Borderline Push/Pull is an unconscious repetition compulsion of the lost self - a false protection and can only be changed, and healed in years of psychodynamic therapy. ajmahari.ca/sessions

Are you stuck in BPD relationship recycling? Are you still denying that you have Codependency? Codependency is a childhood emotional survival adaptation to varying degrees that creates a relational pattern that is why you are in a betrayal bonded relationship. You can’t change, rescue, fix the borderline or the relationship. ajmahari.ca/sessions

Covert Borderline is a meaningless term that some out there forward with a disingenuous agenda. The Quiet Borderline is well outlined and accurately defined by psychologist Theodore Million in his well established ling-time recognized BPD subtype of “The Discouraged Borderline. BPD *is not* NPD. ajmahari.ca/sessions

Definition and 5 Signs of a Trauma Bond with a Borderline or Narcissist Definition and 5 Signs of a Trauma Bond with a Borderline or a Narcissist that every Codependent partner, on/off relationship recycling, or Ex of a person with BPD or NPD needs to know. People in relationships with a person with BPD or NPD are in trauma bonded relationships that are not healthy. People in these relationships do have Codependency, to one degree or another. Even those who experience Counterdependency can often also be codependent as it's a spectrum. What you need to know about trauma bonds, trauma bonding, and the 5 tell-tale signs you are in a trauma bonded relationship with a Borderline or a Narcissist. 0:00 Podcast Intro 0:44 What is a Trauma Bond 13:45 5 Signs of a Trauma Bond 38:26 Codependents’ Responsibility To Self https://ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Ex’s - Move on from No Contact? Full No Contact Is Not A Strategy. If you think you can be in “no contact to “win your Ex back” and gain autonomy that’s a fantasy that will block your ability to heal. ajmahari.ca/sessions

The Borderline Set Up Hoover The Borderline set up hoover is unlike any other type or generic "average" hoover. The Borderline set up hoover is one that is your BPD Ex plotting to punish you (especially the female borderline vs the male BPD Ex) by lying false accusations to get you arrested and put in jail. This is as serious as your BPD Ex can ever get. Not all with BPD will do this set up hoover but many more women with BPD are doing it to male Ex's. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDSetUpHoover #ajmahari

LIMERENCE vs LOVE Obsessing on An Unavailable BPD Ex - Stop Relationship Recycling Go No Contact Limerence vs Love Codependent obsession with BPD Ex. You need to stop relationship recycling end all hoovers and go no contact. A lot of people who can't stop BPD Relationship Recycling, ruminating about the BPD when you are their Ex have Limerence as well as Codependency. In this episode I explain the 3 Main stages of Limerence. The differences between Limerence nad Love. I also breakdown the 3 stages of Limerence and the negative impacts of Limerence and why going no contact from a person with BPD who ghosted you or discarded you or who you may have broken up with is crucial for you to break the betrayal bond, heal the limerence and your Codependency. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions #LimerencevsLove #BPDExObsession #ajmahari #codependency #CodependencyandLimerence #LimerenceRuminatingBPDEx Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/limerence-vs-love-obsessing-on-an-unavai

BPD EX - 3 Stages of Limerence- Go No Contact To Heal and break the betrayal bond. ajmahari.ca/sessions

Borderline Creep of Wokeism In Relationships & Online Borderline Creep of Wokeism is increasing. Borderlines are becoming an echo-chamber force of (often) abusive "advocacy" that is ever-increasing Borderline Creep of Wokeism in Relationships, online, and in what amounts to Cultural Marxism of what (many - not all) with BPD try to censor what I say (and others online) and each of you in relationships. It's increasingly their flawed ideology meeting with their right-fighting. So many people with BPD have no understanding of what the rest of experience. They are only interested in their own narratives and lack the emotional maturity, lack of critical thinking skills, to be at all aware of why we can't all just be here to "empower them" with positivity in the face of their incredible splitting everyone else as by devaluing us as forwarding "stigma" with anything said that they need to disavow. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDwokeism #ajmahari #BPDrolereversal

70% Of Adults Are Living W/Trauma - Not Just Borderlines - New Cluster B World Podcast Coming to examine and talk much more about how we are all now living (maybe always were?) in a Cluster B World. There’s Cluster B abuse in the interpersonal and in the collective macrocosm of the world today! I will link the YouTube Channel for the podcast soon - check on the tab on the front page of my channel for the “Channels Tab & Click on that!

Borderline Entitlement is so myopic. You are not considered. You are not seen or heard. Borderline entitlement exists and doesn’t mean people with BPD are narcissists. ajmahari.ca/sessions

BPD Devaluation Cycles & Codependent Reverse & Stealth Hoovers. Codependents who stealth reverse hoover by watching your BPD Ex’s social media and/or reverse Hoovering your BPD Ex are in fact strengthening the betrayal bond. No contact is necessary to stop self-abandonment and in therapy to break free of the betrayal bond. ajmahari.ca/sessions

Borderline Ghosted or Discarded You & Hoovered You? *Go No Contact* I respond in this podcast "video" to a commenter who through he was ghosted by a BPD Ex almost 3 years ago. That period of time really means he was discarded by his BPD Ex. Recently, through, he was hoovered. They are "chatting again". This is not a wish fulfilled it's another type of nightmare in disguise with no re-idealization being slowly re-visited. Initial red flags already being ignored and the biggest self-abandoning self-sabotaging Codependent "non-action" of NOT having gone NO CONTACT makes this twisted dilemma even possible. If you don't go no contact when you are ghosted or discarded you lack self-respect, may not even trust yourself, feel like you know yourself anymore and you cannot move on with your life when you leave even on avenue of contact open. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDDiscard #HooverYearsLater #ajmahari #BPDBreakup #GONOCONTACT #BPDBREAKUPGONOCONTACT

Why Don't Borderlines Just Get It? Why don't borderlines just get it, how to have their own boundaries and understand their feelings even with iniial therapy can't they just get it? Are you falesly hopingwomeone in your life with untreated BPD just get it? What is it that you might not be getting? What do you still need to get? That you still need to undersand about BPD and your relationship recycling? https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://ajmahari.com Ebooks #BPDDoNotGetIt #ajmahari #Codependency #BPDCodependentBetrayalBonds

Borderline Childhood SA Will Healing That Mean BPD Recovery? Partners and Ex's of people with BPD want to know this. BPD along with childhood SA very negatively impacts relationships from intense and/or then disappearing physical relations often without any real intimacy to communication and so much more. Many with Borderline Personality Disorder have been S abused in their childhoods. A commenter asked a question about this and wanted to know if exposing the abuser, getting justice, if one heals the SA mean they would also be recovered from BPD. Childhood SA in anyone's history, whether BPD or not is not predicated on getting justice and this quest or BPD right-fighting for justice can become an obstacle to many going to therapy and/or having success in that process. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDSAImpactsRelationship #ajmahari #CodependentsandBorderlines #BPDRecoverysocomplex

BPD relationship Impossibility & Codependent Fear of Letting Go Are you in or trying to go no contact in a BPD relationship that is impossible? Do you fool yourself by thinking you can help the Borderline get into therapy, you go to your own therapy, and somewhere in the distant future you will find bliss together? (A happy healthy relationship together). This is painful Codependent denial that is an avoidance of your fear of letting go, your struggle to find your way to the no contact that is central to healing. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #ajmahari #codependentfear

BPD Ex Stringing You Along? The "Just Give Me Time" BPD Manipulation Some people's BPD Ex is stringing you along. They won't see you or give you the time of day, but, they will respond to some of your communication wanting to see them by saying, "I just need time", "I just need space" or "You never give me time to come to you first" - it's all manipulation. What is the BPD Ex really trying to accomplish? https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDExManipulation #ajmahari #Codependency

To Survive a BPD Breakup First Stop Relationship Recycling So many people are so stuck in the betrayal bonds that play out Codependent repetition compulsions cycles in relationships with people with Borderline Personality Disorder to a point even way beyond self-abandonment, self-sacrifice, and losing yourself that emotionally it feels impossible to live with the Borderline or without the Borderline. Where do exists in that when there's no middle, no room for you, no reciprocity and you are stuck giving all the time and not being seen and heard? This is a recipe for mental and physical health breaking down and you need to find your way, with help, to stop the relationship recycling, get to the point of taking action that is self-focused and self-partnering so you can heal and recover and live your best life in all areas of your life. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog - & More https://bpdbreakups.com - Podcasts #BPDBreakup #ajmahari #codependency Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/13416281/to-survive-a-bpd-breakup-first-stop-rela

Breakup With a Borderline To Teach A Lesson Still Love Them - Can You Rekindle In The Future? Did you break up with a person with BPD to teach them a lesson because you love them so much? Others have. A commenter broke up with his BPD Ex for just this reason because he loves her so much he somehow thinks she'll got and find a "loving relationship" and then he and she can rekindle their "relationship" sometime in the future because he will "always love her forever". This is a Codependent man trapped in an unhealthy bond. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #ajmahari #Codependency #CodependentsandBorderlines #SurvviingBPDRelationshipBreakup

BPD Empty Eyes And BPD Dissociation BPD empty eyes, cold-hard aloof eyes, glazed over eyes are fueled by internal emotional dysregulation and often experiences of dissociation to varying degrees or severe dissociation. People with BPD when emotionally dysregulated and dissociative are not "evil" and this does not indicate psychopathy either. I share an experience of dysregulated dissociation I experienced from the inside out in my therapy decades ago. I've been on (to a degree that was not most severe the inside of BPD dissociation and hope that what I share from the inside out can help you understand this is not people with BPD being all the very dark accusations people often misperceive. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDEmpthy Eyes #ajmahari #BPDDissociation #BPDinsideout

BPD & Codependent “Love” in Betrayal Bonds? ajmahari.ca/sessions *Full Video:* “Borderline and Codependent Betrayal Bonded Relationships Not Healthy Love” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dp3DqAfx5i8 There isn’t healthy love in any betrayal bonded relationship.