Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup

Still Loving & Obsessed with a Borderline? ajmahari.ca/sessions Are you still loving & obsessed with a Borderline who ghosted you? Do you still want this BPD Ex back? Have you been on/off in relationship recycling? Are you obsessed with ruminating, losing yourself and ability to cope more and more? You need help to create healthy change for yourself. I can help you to break these cycles. People need help to really understand, process, and break the BPD-Codependent Betrayal bond. You can't go on like this. It's time to get help and support to heal.

Feeling You Want Your BPD Ex Back Even When You Know Better? Feeling that you want your BPD Ex back even when you know better is a major sign of Codependency. You are extremely strongly feeling one way - try again with the Ex - get him or her back so that you can get another "BPD Hit" while the end begin all over again. And with each BPD relationship recycle the Borderline split to devaluation speeds up and without any re=idealization. What you know is in the back seat to how you feel. This cognitive dissonance and separation of reason and emotion - Intellectual intelligence (IQ) and lower emotion intelligence (EQ). https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #WantBPDExBack #ajmahari #codependency

BPD Betrayal Bond - Are You Stuck? Borderlines Don't Commit ajmahari.ca/sessions So many people, BPD Ex's, Ghosted by the borderline, in limbo and/or often on/off and are not able to break the betrayal bond. For so many people (often with) Codependency you may well be stuck. Borderlines don't commit and you are pursuing and/or fighting for the impossible.. You need to seek help to start processing this and to get unstuck so you can break that unhealthy bond and start to focus more on you and work toward getting unstuck. #BPDBetrayalBond #ajmahari

Frantically Want BPD Ex Back ajmahari.ca/sessions Been ghosted or discarded by BPD Ex? Really want and need them back? What should you do? What is best for you in the long run? Full Vid: https://youtu.be/etF_RS8CD88?si=xIW9wFkAwm59OjpD Many people frantically want their BPD Ex back. It's all of the struggle with how you feel that in various ways has people (often) with Codependency compulsively and obsessively needing their BPD Ex back to just stop the pain. You can get into therapy while you are having difficulty coping to strategize ways of coping to take a break from frantic pursuit that in the long run will only hurt you even more. Clip From A.J.'s 2,000 Video Archive.

Want More From Your Borderline? ajmahari.ca/sessions Have you been ghosted or discarded, maybe still in the repeating cycles of BPD relationship emotional chaos but you want to get your BPD Ex back? Full Video: https://youtu.be/Z6gEsZKsens?si=_725Lx5vUWyC4leb You somehow continue to try to make a very painful - impossible - relationship work? From A.J.'s Vid Archive Clips from over 2,000 videos.

BPD Ex Fear Next Person Gets All the "Good" You Never Got? ajmahari.ca/sessions BPD Breakups that are endings cause many Ex's to fear that the next person the borderline quickly (often) gets involved with will get all the good that you never got - that's not the case. Full Video: https://youtu.be/DSguX4xG9Uo?si=eplVSnP40J2Pt32w The next person will get all you were so negatively impact by and then some. Stop hanging on, stop comparing - let go and get into your own healing and recovery process. You will, in time, be so glad you did. Clip from one of A.J's 15 year video archive of over 2,000 Videos. #BPDExNextPerson #ajmahari #codependency

BPD Lens Alienates Sessions - ajmahari.ca The BPD Lens alienates you because it is negative, defensive, internal, often unconscious and their skewed perspectives block communication and relating. The BPD lens alienates because in the absence of known self in those with BPD that lens is "self" focused and people with BPD can't focus on "lack of self" and "other". This makes mutuality and/or reciprocity impossible for people with BPD. Clipped From A.J's Video Archive.

Unmasking BPD Relationship Impossibility It's Them Not You No matter how strong you are or try to be emotionally nor how much you give you can't save the relationship with an untreated Borderline. Sessions - ajmahari.ca It's them, not you. You have tried so hard, for so long, over and over again (for so many loved ones) to make an impossible relationship work because of your Codependency and need to heal the adverse experience of your own childhood. From A.J. Mahari's Archive of 15 years of videos.

Unmasking BPD "Love" They can't take in your love or trust it. They can't reciprocate your love. They are emotionally stunted a very young age. The Borderline that you fall in love with is not a "real" person. It is the Borderline false self doing its best to survive. ajmahari.ca - Sessions The Borderline and his/her false self do not emotionally live in the shared here-and-now. They don't see you, they don't hear you, they just use you, blame you, demand from you and what's in that for you? How is all that one-way "love" ever going to meet your needs. It can't and it won't but it will continue to cause you to hurt and lose yourself more. Shorts from A.J. Mahari's archive from 15 years of videos. A.J. will be making new shorts too but the shorts denoted as "From A.J.'s Archive" will be from different years.

Unmasking BPD Hoovers Because you long for that BPD Ex and you can't stop ruminating and wanting them back you need to see through what all BPD Hoovers are actually about. They are not about you. The relationships will not work out. Borderlines Hoover when they want to use you again, please, don't mistake that for love or a relationship "meant to be". ajmahari.ca - Sessions It's all false and they can't love they only take and you lose yourself more and more. Get into a healing process to be helped to go no contact and stop recycling betrayal bonded nightmares. Shorts from A.J. Mahari's archive from 15 years of videos.

Can You Help a BPD Ex To Go To Therapy in Repeated Attempts To Have the Impossible Conversation? In response to a comment left on my Youtube Channel, a video "5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships - Is There Biology To BPD?" Do you still want to, or do you continue to try to reach back to a BPD Ex to "start a conversation" to help them? Are you aware this means you want this person to get help and change to still try to make the betrayal bonded relationship work? This commenter asks a question many can relate to "How can I help her?" I address this comment and I hope people will consider my response. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions https://ajmahari.com - Ebooks and Audio Programs #BPDEx #ajmahari #codependency #canIhelpmyBPDEx

#1 Top Reason BPD Relationships Are Impossible Relationships are one-sided and people with untreated it not significantly treated BPD are very self-focused victims taking everything personally and blaming those closest. Sessions with A.J. - ajmahari.ca They can’t and don’t take personal responsibility and they use others. You can’t really talk to them. Stop enabling a Borderline who is abusing you. It’s not love.

7 Signs Your Loved One Has Borderline Personality - Are You Experiencing This? 7 Signs that your love one, in any relationship type, has Borderline Personality. If you are or you have experienced any of these signs you may well have a loved one with BPD. Are you new to learning about BPD? This video can also help people who "know" but keep questioning if their loved one, girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husband has BPD because they are not diagnosed - You can stop doubting yourself by watching this video! https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #7SignsofBPD #ajmahari #codependency

Does Your Loved One Have BPD? In any relationship type are you wondering if a loved one in your life has BPD? Full video: 7 Signs your Loved One has BPD https://youtu.be/sxtNazCrq3Q There are patterns that strongly indicate Borderline Personality Disorder in people even if it hasn't been diagnosed or many have received a misdiagnosis of something else. ajmahari.ca/sessions You need to be aware of what you are dealing with and how it impacts you. There is an accruing and extremely on-going wounding that happens to loved ones who continue to try to "save" relationships that just can't work. #BPDLovedOne #ajmahari #codependency

BPD Lying Obliterates Trust Why do Borderlines lie? Is BPD lying caused by biology? BPD Lying among other things destroys relationships. Full video: https://youtu.be/KakDOpy-WKM ajmahari.ca/sessions

5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships - Is There Biology To BPD Lying? 5 reasons (Root Causes) that explains why people with BPD lie. People with Borderline Personality - BPD - lie pervasively and often for so many reasons. BPD lying destroys relationships because you can't trust someone who lies so often about so much. There is no room for you to maintain your sanity if you keep giving them some benefit of the doubt or think they just can't help it. Is BPD Lying grounded in and "Biology of BPD?" https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDLying #ajmahari #BPDLyingBetrayal 0:00 Intro To BPD Lying 1:24 BPD Lying Betrays Relationship Foundation 2:45 Reason 1 Extreme Emotions 5:11 Reason 2 Impulsivity 6:29 Reason 3 Shame 7:56 Reason 4 Distorted "Self" Perceptions 8:36 Reason 5 Rejection Sensitivity 9:14 Is There Biology of BPD Lying 12:43 BPD Lying In Relationships 14:46 No healthy Coping Re BPD Lying 17:08 BPD Lying Destroys Trust

I Want My BPD Ex Back But He/She Needs To Change Originally Recorded July 28/23 You want your BPD Ex back he or she needs to change and yet in your relationship you tried so hard to change them and it didn't work. You can't change them, only yourself. Wanting your Ex back should be your red flag of how much you haven't changed. Pursuing getting a BPD Ex back is a massive avoidance of self and you don't know how to let it go and have it end because then what you do with yourself? You are trying in vain to recapture the initial idealization phase. That's not possible either. Nor is the BPD Relationship. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDEx #ajmahari #codependency

Coping with Death of My BPD/NPD Mother - After 34 Years No Contact Full video: https://youtu.be/IC-kUbNlCWI https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog

Attempted Closure Conversations With a BPD Ex Can Leave You Hurting More Full video: https://youtu.be/0ny6y73Hxmo https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog

Go *No Contact* From One Way BPD Relationships All Types Even a Family Member Go no contact from one way BPD relationships of all types even a family member. Many people in any relationship type with someone with BPD are dealing with severe BPD in people who will not get treatment or who do not stick with treatment. In these cases whether you are a romantic partner or Ex or an adult child of a BPD parent or have a sibling with BPD no contact will be necessary for you to heal. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #GoNoContactFromBPD #ajmahari #codependency

Can't Breakup with a Borderline? Need to Make it Make Sense? You can't wait to breakup with a borderline until you make it make sense. Really no matter how much you learn about BPD it isn't really going to make rational logical sense. Trying to make it make sense also fuels your false hope. No contact is your way forward. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #ajmahari #codependency

On a Borderline’s Rollercoaster? Are you stuck? Does it feel impossible to leave? You need to yo help yourself because you can’t change the Borderline. Exhausted? Can’t live with them or without them? Check out the About section on my channel here to book a session or sessions with me.

Why no closure from a borderline? People with BPD have no middle-ground it’s all black and white and emotionally immature relating. Many with BPD aren’t consciously aware of how they treat others. ajmahari.ca/sessions There is no closure from people with BPD because they don’t have the personal awareness or consistent (if at all) understanding of the difference between “self” and “other@ (you). They are experiencing their own inner chaos and don’t even see or hear how you feel, how they affect you or why you don’t just feel whatever they do l.

Borderline Betrayals - People with untreated and/or not effectively treated BPD continually betray you. Their unstable identity - lack of self drives the chameleon in each of them. They don’t have the sense of a known self or the emotional maturity or emotional intelligence to grow in a relationship or to be reciprocal. Full video here: https://youtu.be/qr7rr7hsYwI

Borderlines are Drowning Emotionally Go No Contact Don't Drown With The Relation - SHIP Borderlines (untreated) are drowning emotionally go no contact don't drown with the Relationship. Borderline emotional dysregulation and the major defense mechanism of splitting leave many partners, Ex's, On/Off again "partners" playing the role of a life preserver. If you approached a person actually drowning in a pool or lake who was panicked and freaking out they often pull rescuers under who then drown as well. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #Discarded #NoContact #ajmahari