Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup

BPD Silent Treatment vs BPD Ghosting A commenter asked if BPD silent treatment is the same as BPD ghosting or similar or are they different. Great question. For some people your person with (most often quiet) BPD may well have silent treatment patterns and this is the best way you can ascertain the difference between the silent treatment and BPD ghosting. I also talk about the internal differences in what's happening for the Quiet Borderline. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog

BPD Ex & Codependent Denial - Can You Rekindle w/pwBPD in future? ajmahari.ca/sessions Can your BPD Ex get help or experience a “loving relationship” get healthier that way so you can re-kindle with them in future? No. This is Denial! People with Codependency lose themselves and unconsciously abandon themselves and their needs in betrayal bonded relationships with people with BPD. It’s time to get into therapy and become much more aware of the ways you are not taking care of yourself as the Borderlines continues to hurt you and blame you because they can’t take personal responsibility.

Borderline and Codependent Betrayal Bonded Relationships Not Healthy Love Borderline and Codependent Betrayal Bonded relationships aren't as much about love as many with BPD believe and even more people with Codependency believe. These relationships are unhealthy bonds and where adverse relational dynamics are at the center of these relationships what do you think that does to the "love" of both people in the over-all dynamic? https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDCodependentBetrayalBonds #ajmahari

The Borderline “I just need space” is BPD Ghosting to Discard ajmahari.ca/sessions When a Borderline has ghosted you but will respond a few times to your emails or texts telling you they just “need space” or see “you contacted me again and I didn’t get enough time to be ready to “come to you” This is BPD code for you have been ghosted and are on your way to a final discard but in the meantime, the Borderline is just stringing you along in case the next person hasn’t been “caught” yet.

Betrayal Bonding With a Borderline - What Codependents Need To Know Betrayal or trauma bonding with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder is how these relationships between Borderlines and Codependents dysfunction. It's why they are so painful. It's why they are relationship impossibility and partners or BPD Ex's (Codependents) lose themselves and get increasingly hurt and need to go no contact and get into their own healing and recovery processes to break these unhealthy bonds. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBetrayalBonding #ajmahari #codependency #codependentBetrayalBondingwithBorderlines

Another reason people with BPD lying … ajmahari.ca/sessions has to with attempts to make things better, bridge their poor behavior gaps without taking personal responsibility. It's a child-like way to try to connect when really people with (untreated BPD) aren't really connecting to you.

BPD Ex Discarded You? It’s Over Despite Your Denial. ajmahari.ca/sessions Whether after being discarded by a Borderline you get hoovered back to relationship recycling or not - it’s over. It won’t work. Codependent denial couple with betrayal bonds have you trying to make an unworkable & unhealthy relationship work. Your pain and listless will exponentially increase.

Do pw/BPD “age-out” of BPD? Spontaneously just “remit” from BPD? The answer is NO! ajmahari.ca/sessions First the A.P.A. falsely claims “no cure” for BPD - it doesn’t require any “psychiatric cure” to heal and recover from and then this: This misinformation about people with BPD is not true and makes absolutely no sense. BPD is so pathologized by the American Psychiatric Association and there hegemony with Big Pharma why the pseudoscience of “BPD is biological” etc (not) can then be described as if it just remits as the borderline gets older? Nonsense!

BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination - Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster BPD idealization is the beginning of the intense fast-paced relationship and it is also unconsciously for both the Borderline and the person dating or in love with this person, the start of the ending of all you believe you have found and can continue to build on. People in these relationships with (untreated) Borderlines go from idealization, shockingly, to devaluation on to be ghosted, discarded, or you breakup with the Borderline and then rumination is overwhelming and if not treated people with Codependency are the brink of emotional and/or physical, and sometimes also, financial ruination. You need to get off the BPD rollercoaster before you really don't recognize or know yourself emotionally at all anymore. Getting off the BPD rollercoaster means going no contact. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDBreakup #ajmahari #Codependency

Do Borderlines Want To Hurt You? ajmahari.ca/sessions What have you experienced? What do you think?

BPD Relationship Trajectory is Impossibility ajmahari.ca/sessions Codependents need to realize you cannot escape the truth of the unhealthy rollercoaster of the BPD relationship and keep denying that this isn't going to work. There is no healthy trajectory for Borderline/Codependent relationships. They hurt you they are not love or healthy attachment. Stop trying to change and care-take a borderline and face your own Codependency and get help for that. Then you can find your healing and recovery journey out of the betrayal bond. From A.J. Mahari's 2,000+ Video Archive. #BPDrelationshiptrajectory #ajmahari #Codependents #CodependentDenial #BPDrealationalimpossibility #NochangingaBPD

Borderline and Codependent Dance of Impossible Connection Borderline and Codependent dance of impossible connection comes together from the wounded childhoods (to varying degrees) of both. People with BPD cannot connect from a lack of self. People with Codependency have learned to try to please and over-give to others to connect. It is the woundedness of each that creates the betrayal bonds - that is not just a one-way street like so many with Codependency believe. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDCodependentDance #ajmahari #betryalbonds #impossibleconnection

Codependent Ex of BPD Finding Others Boring? ajmahari.ca/sessions Many people after a BPD relationship once No contact, in healing & recovery journey find that dating other people (non-borderlines) who are healthier and not anywhere near as intense as people with BPD are just too boring. Can you relate to this? Why do you think this is or has been how you feel?

BPD Deceptive Hoovers Set You Up Again ajmahari.ca/sessions In the pain of BPD Ghosting or Discards so many long for a hoover to get that BPD Ex back - you think it can work out after all - No - it won't. BPD deceptive all-about-them hoovers feel pseudo-relieving of your pain. Soothing to you. They are another set up to the cycle going around again that leads to ghosting and/or discard. From A.J. Mahari’s 2,000+ Video Archive.

BPD Unrequited Love Ex's Limerence ajmahari.ca/sessions Limerence is an experience of obsessive focus on another person that you love and who doesn't reciprocate your love. Original Full Video: Limerence In BPD NPD Relationships & Breakups https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rq7m7VH2ZXI&t=911s Original Podcast (more in depth than video) BPD NPD Relationships - What is Limerence? 12 Signs & 5 Traits - Codepen... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUc1L2REF14&t=1207s BPD unrequited love leads to many with Codependency (BPD Ex's) experiencing Limerence. Limerence drive obsessive thinking and rumination. I help clients to work their way out of limerent experience that increases BPD Relationship recycling and even after ghosting, discard, the final breakup, to help you to slow down, cope with, and stop the limerent rumination. From A.J. Mahari's 2,000+ Video Archive. #BPDnoreciprocation #Limerence #ajmahari

Codependent Need To Break BPD Betrayal Bond ajmahari.ca/sessions Codependents need to stop BPD Relationship recycling and make your own empowering choice - choose you - to break the betrayal bond that you are a part of due to your own childhood woundedness. I'm out here to help you heal if I resonate with you. #ajmahari #stopBPDrollercoaster #codependency #CodependentBreakFree #endrelationshiprecycling

Borderlines Want What (Who) They Want - Get It (You) Then Don't Want It (You) Anymore & Why this Is Borderlines want what (who) they want until they get what the want (or you) then they don't want what they wanted (you) anymore. This is about the lack of self in people with BPD and what they are unconsciously (mainly) really seeking in attempts at relationships and with attempts to "love" and be loved. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Blog https://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & more https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog #BPDGhost #ajmahari #BPDDiscard #Codependency #BPDlability

BPD Love Trap Isn't Love At All ajmahari.ca/sessions Even in the idealization phase BPD "love" is a trap because it isn't really "love" at all. Borderlines confuse love with need. They need and so do Codependent's in their own way. The illusion of "love" is at the root of the betrayal bond that unfolds. #ajmahari #BPDLoveTrap #BPDNoLove #codependency From A.J. Mahari's 15 year, 2000+ Video Archive.

Unmasking BPD Idealization Phase ajmahari.ca/sessions The BPD idealization phase is not what most people believe it is or was. In the beginning with a person with BPD it all feels wonderful because they are mirroring you. You aren't learning much, if anything about them. People (often) with Codependency experience the illusion of "incredible" "love" and yet the person with BPD wasn't at all who you thought they were and there was no love. From A.J.' Mahari's 15 years video archive of over 2,000 Videos.

Final BPD Discard - Now What? ajmahari.ca/sessions If you are in this place and it’s over what do you do now? All the pain, the rumination, perhaps still longing for your Ex. Feeling lost, betrayed, depressed, it’s so important to reach out for help.

Unmasking Codependent BPD Relationship Recycling ajmahari.ca/sessions Unmasking the Codependent reasons that keep you stuck recycling with a BPD on/off partner, BPD Ex, is best done in your own healing and recovery process. At some point the BPD will do the final discard if you don't end the recycling with making a BPD Breakup stick. Many with Codependency are very afraid of their own pain. Can't live with that borderline but feels like you can't live without them. You can, reach out, I have 33 years experience working with clients in these recovery processes. You can't go on the way you've been going. It's time to focus on yourself and to realize that all the do-overs in the world with the Borderline will not make this relationship healthy at all.

Want Your BPD Ex Back? ajmahari.ca/sessions Been ghosted or discarded? On/off again many times with the person you love with BPD? Wanting your BPD Ex back is common. Can it work the next time? Why or why not? What is the pull to want this person back after how they have treated you over-all? #WantBPDExBack #ajmahari #codependency #unhealthyattachment #unhealthylove

BPD Discards & Deceptive Social Media Games ajmahari.ca/sessions After a BPD discard or being ghosted by a borderline don't fall for their social media trap of deception and social media games. All those suddenly "happy" pics of your Ex with that new person, they are manipulated, staged, and not a true depiction of your Borderline Ex being so "happy" as if the next relationship attempt is working or will last. It won't. #BPDDiscard #ajmahari #BPDsocialmediadeception #BPDpunishment

Is BPD Real? Some say it’s not … ?? ajmahari.ca/sessions What do you think? Why do more and more people talk about BPD saying it’s not real? BPD is getting way too conflated with so many other and/or co-morbid diagnoses that may or may not be accurate. How real is borderline personality when it’s conflated with endless other things?

Borderline “Mistakes” Cause You Emotional Devastation ajmahari.ca/sessions Borderline mistakes that hurt you vs "every day mistakes" how many very hurtful things as a person with BPD done to you? Do you think they are just mistakes? Most of us don't keep making the same mistakes over and over. So, what are "Borderline Mistakes" versus the relational impossibility that pw/BPD bring to relationships? Splitting, lack of personal responsibility, they claim all their "mistakes" are your fault. What "non-mistakes" have you been so negatively impacted by from a Borderline?