Darren F Magee

People pleasers tend to put the needs, thoughts and feelings of others before their own. This video looks at some of the common behaviours of people pleasing such as over apologising and over thinking. Looking also at some of the common motivations such as fear of conflict, lack of boundaries and low assertiveness, and some of the causes such as codependency, a fawning response to trauma or being highly sensitive. Lastly, looking at some of the consequences of constant people pleasing behaviours such as being open to being exploited and abused. Other videos you might find interesting: The Strengths and Struggles of Highly Sensitive People https://youtu.be/XJkCLWhGv0g Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video interesting or helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #peoplepleasing #hsp #darrenmagee

Narcissistic people have a huge sense of entitlement but a weak ego and a false sense of self. They require constant attention, validation and admiration from others, often referred to as their narcissistic supply. But what happens when they aren't as entitled as they thought, their schemes backfire or they lose their supply? This video discusses the questions 'What is a narcissistic collapse?' and, 'What causes a narcissistic collapse?' Why Narcissists discard others https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Dr Sohom Das is a consultant forensic psychiatrist and the host of the Youtube Channel 'A Psych for Sore Minds' where he discusses mental health topics and the crossroads between mental illness and offending. He is author of the book, 'In Two Minds: Stories of Murder, Justice and Recovery from a Forensic Psychiatrist' He joined me for a discussion about the world of forensic psychiatry, true crime, the diagnostic process and shares some of his anonymised cases (not for the faint hearted!) We also discuss treatments for trauma, PTSD, narcissistic and borderline personality. Check out his channel at https://www.youtube.com/@APsychForSoreMinds/featured 00:00 Introduction to Forensic Psychiatry 08:03 True Crime - Dr Das most emotional case 17:08 True Crime - Faking it? 24:15 Similarities in clinical presentations 31:10 Normal level of narcissism 34:02 Dark Personality 35:55 Treatment of mental illness and personality disorders 41:02 DBT for BPD 45:37 Can narcissists change? 54:29 Dr Das most gruesome case 59:18 Work/life balance Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #truecrime #DrSohomDas #darrenmagee

Narcissistic families often operate like a cult. To the outside world there is peace, love and cohesion. Behind closed doors there is hostility, envy and bickering. This video answers the question 'how and why narcissistic families can be so disjointed and fractious yet bond together in the ways that they do'. Other videos relating to narcissistic families: Eight Characteristics of a Narcissistic Family https://youtu.be/UKfe-bnIvN8 The Narcissistic Family - Growing up in a cult https://youtu.be/rsSdJ67vlss Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you liked this video please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissisticfamily #pseudomutuality #narcissisticabuseawareness

Special occasions such as birthdays and Christmas can be an ideal opportunity for a narcissist to manipulate others and gain narcissistic supply. This video looks at some of the common motivations and attitudes around gift giving, and responses to and receiving gifts. Part one of this video: How Narcissists Behave during Special Occasions https://youtu.be/FuKp32KM1Z0 Other videos you might find interesting: Why do narcissists discard others? https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg What happens when narcissists grow older? https://youtu.be/tt7YwF5lH_Y The stages of an abusive relationship https://youtu.be/VRKbhxzRybY Why do narcissists behave the way they do? https://youtu.be/ic0dmzz8wQ8 Seven signs of a healthy relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Did they ever really love you? https://youtu.be/ARc-SIeNsNU Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissism #narcissistrelationship

The straw man fallacy is when someone takes something you've said out of context and attacks you for what they claim you said or meant. It's a way of misdirecting a conversation or an argument. A common arguing tactic of narcissists. Watch the full video on my channel.

Why do narcissists ruin special events and occasions such as holidays, birthdays and Christmas? Whether they are parents, in laws, partners or ex partners, narcissists have a tendency to ruin things for other people, even if in their quest to try to make everything perfect, Looking at Grandiose, Covert and Altruistic narcissism this video looks at some of the common characteristics and behaviours and how they can ruin any special occasion, especially the ones where they are not the centre of attention. Part two of this video - Narcissists and Gift Giving Other videos you might find interesting: Why do narcissists discard others? https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg What happens when narcissists grow older? https://youtu.be/tt7YwF5lH_Y The stages of an abusive relationship https://youtu.be/VRKbhxzRybY Why do narcissists behave the way they do? https://youtu.be/ic0dmzz8wQ8 Seven signs of a healthy relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Did they ever really love you? https://youtu.be/ARc-SIeNsNU Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissism #narcissistrelationship

Gaslighting is a term used to describe the psychological and emotional manipulation of someone's sense of reality. But what is the difference between gaslighting and just lying? Not always easy to spot as gaslighting often involves lying. Other videos you might find interesting: Recognising Gaslighting https://youtu.be/QcUDXFuC5TY Gaslighting - Emotional and Psychological Manipulation https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw How to Respond to Gaslighting https://youtu.be/Pp3rVB460Mc Pathological vs Compulsive Lying https://youtu.be/LSolhbg9Bc4 Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos If you found this video helpful please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #gaslighting #liar #darrenmagee

Did the narcissist ever really love you? Can they love? Watch the full video to find out.

Do narcissists love others? Are they capable of love? If you've been a relationship with a narcissistic person the obvious answer might be 'no'. However narcissism can be more complex than you might think, and it’s not always easy to give a definitive answer as we can never fully know what is in someones head. This video looks at the different kinds and stages of love and explores how narcissists might experience them, if at all. 00:00 Intro 01:24 What is love? 02:25 Romance 03:59 Being in Love 04:44 Commitment 08:17 Conclusion 11:04 Did they ever love me? Other videos you might find interesting: Why do narcissists discard others? https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg What happens when narcissists grow older? https://youtu.be/tt7YwF5lH_Y The stages of an abusive relationship https://youtu.be/VRKbhxzRybY Why do narcissists behave the way they do? https://youtu.be/ic0dmzz8wQ8 Seven signs of a healthy relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos Please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissistrelationship #narcissism #narcissists

Some ideas on how to support someone who has been in a long term abusive relationship

Why do narcissists avoid responsibility and accountability? Why do they blame shift, accuse others of doing the very things they do themselves? "Since [narcissists] deep down, feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault. Since they must deny their own badness, they must perceive others as bad. They project their own evil onto the world. They never think of themselves as evil, on the other hand, they consequently see much evil in others. "– M. Scott Peck, M.D.

Narcissistic rage is a term that was first coined by Heinz Kohut in 1972 in his book ‘The Analysis of the Self’. It refers to how a narcissist reacts to what they would consider to be negative feedback, or when expectations are not met. This causes a discomfort that triggers an exaggerated angry response often out of proportion to the perceived offence. This video outlines ten signs of narcissistic rage and how it differs from a normal outburst of anger. Other videos you might find interesting: Seven Signs of a Healthy Relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Seven Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship https://youtu.be/WMRFYyCtoic What to Expect in a Relationship with a Grandiose Narcissist https://youtu.be/Tz_SW6U1Qog Why Narcissists Discard People https://youtu.be/_O9Cq_QJOSg Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

The crew of the Titanic had a choice. Either try to avoid something that was unavoidable or hit the damn thing head on. Either way there would have been consequences. They chose the former and the rest is history. Sometimes we have to choose our consequences, the ones we might thank ourselves for later on.

Narcissism is characterised by a sense of entitlement and being self absorbed. There’s a lack of empathy for others. They can be highly disagreeable and highly resistant to criticism. They can also be envious of others, and believe others should envy them. Many people who have been in long term relationships report their self confidence, self esteem and sense of self had been eroded over time. This video looks at how and why that happens. Other videos you might find interesting: How covert narcissists manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How narcissists make their victims look like villains https://youtu.be/_2cHAjmArPE How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 What happens when you ignore a narcissist? https://youtu.be/ZVRjD4ZryRY If you need support for being abused there are some helpful links below. https://mensallianceni.co.uk/ https://belfastwomensaid.org.uk/ https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help This video is for information purposes only Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #narcissism #narcissistrelationship #abusiverelationship

Narcissism is characterised by a sense of entitlement, theres grandiosity, a lack empathy for others and a constant need for attention and admiration. A narcissistic discard is when a person with narcissistic tendencies ends their relationship with someone. This video outlines seven of the common reasons why narcissists discard others, and also whether or not the discard may or may not be permanent. Other videos you might find interesting: Seven Signs of a Healthy Relationship https://youtu.be/l73RWcTfCt8 Seven Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship https://youtu.be/WMRFYyCtoic What to Expect in a Relationship with a Grandiose Narcissist https://youtu.be/Tz_SW6U1Qog Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Communal narcissists are often outgoing just like grandiose narcissists. Both have similar traits and motives regarding entitlement and the need for admiration, but employ different behaviours in order to achieve them. They typically seek out and like to have important or moral roles in society and they experience immense validation from feeling like they are the most virtuous, dedicated, hardest working people involved. This video looks at some of the common signs and traits of communal narcissism including altruism and virtue signalling, and also looking at what happens when a group of communal narcissists come together in the same thing. 00:00 Intro 01:11 Communal motivations 03:28 Low Level 04:21 The Martyr 05:35 Mission in Life 06:45 Virtue Signalling 08:21 The Superhero 09:42 Narcissistic Groups Other videos you might find interesting: Virtue Signalling and Narcissism https://youtu.be/yOSlu4ccgJw The Altruistic Narcissist https://youtu.be/7ZX-VMI-Liw Is Cancel Culture Vindictive Narcissism? https://youtu.be/Q7BRD-siRA4 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

Gaslighting is a term used to describe forms of psychological and emotional manipulation aimed at confusing other people's sense of reality, having them doubt their own thoughts, feelings and experiences. It is a tactic abusive people use to create a sense of uncertainty in others, have them believe different narratives and control them. This video outlines what gaslighting is, how to recognise it when it happens and gives some ideas to consider when it comes to respond to it. Other videos on this topic you might find interesting: What is 'Gaslighting?' https://youtu.be/-jtuYJLfAHw The Stages of Gaslighting, Tactics and Phrases https://youtu.be/QcUDXFuC5TY Dealing with 'Strawman' Arguments https://youtu.be/oTqITHKt_nU Managing Boundaries (Part 1) https://youtu.be/_kYml-ZQChY Managing Boundaries (Part 2) https://youtu.be/BKcQBfauXBY Managing Boundaries (Part 3) https://youtu.be/3nmSBk-WCJ0 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

What kind of things do narcissistic people face from middle age and approach old age, and how they react? Whether a parent, partner or friend, this video answers questions about 'How do narcissists behave as they grow older? Do they change, if so is it for the better or do they get worse?' Also answering the question 'What can friends and family experience as the narcissist grows older?' Narcissism is characterised by a sense of entitlement, being disagreeable, highly resistant to criticism and having a lack of empathy for others. Other videos on this topic you might find interesting: Narcissistic Mother / Daughter Relationship https://youtu.be/BywgD_1HQ0w Narcissistic Mother / Son Relationship https://youtu.be/9B3_cI4Pp9U Narcissistic Mother in Law https://youtu.be/nnv9wcAbYTs Narcissistic Father / Daughter Relationship https://youtu.be/LHhgfeMD9PA Narcissistic Father / Son Relationship https://youtu.be/MLFc36iFL7k Narcissistic Father in Law https://youtu.be/-ELMOLdAwNI https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31670564/ https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/wellbeing/articles/measuringnationalwellbeing/atwhatageispersonalwellbeingthehighest Wetzel, E., Grijalva, E., Robins, R. W., & Roberts, B. W. (2020). "You’re still so vain: Changes in narcissism from young adulthood to middle age." Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 119(2), 479–496 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #agingnarcissist #narcissism #darrenmagee

Oppositional Defiant Disorder, sometimes referred to as ODD, is a condition characterised by a continuing pattern of behaviour that can be defiant, hostile, un-cooperative and disruptive towards others, in particular authority figures. This video looks at some of the common characteristics and traits of ODD and how they present in day to day life, relationships and at work. 00:00 Intro What is ODD? 01:50 Co Morbidity 02:21 Common Characteristics 04:49 Defiance Disorder in Relationships 06:47 Defiance Disorder at work 08:58 Living with ODD Other videos you might find interesting: Narcissist's False Superiority Complex https://youtu.be/rFtUyBx2eno Signs Your relationship will fail https://youtu.be/yxS1DU1IGrE Dealing with StrawMan arguments https://youtu.be/oTqITHKt_nU Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #oppositionaldefiant #personalitydisorder #

Tourette Syndrome is a condition of the nervous system which causes people to have 'tics', sudden involuntary twitches, sounds or movements that people do repeatedly. Neurodiversity describes how people experience, process information and interact with the world around them in many different ways. Becky Simpson Ryan is a therapist based in the UK and has had a diagnosis of Tourettes Syndrome since she was fourteen. She works to educate others on neurodiversity through social media and provides support through her counselling practice. In today's discussion Becky shares her first hand experience and insight into Tourettes Syndrome and dispels many myths around it. Becky's channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKq5LUTvJTFrHu7VP_Q_10Q Becky's interview with Paul Stevenson https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8We619fKPHY Becky's Music https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6ocZEUE3_TnLzF9Yqck8-g https://www.bsimpsontherapy.com/ Follow her on Twitter @stigmainthebin https://www.tourettes-action.org.uk/ #tourettesyndrome #neurodiversity #counselling

Coercive control is a series of behaviours aimed to dominate through manipulating, threatening, abusing and bullying someone into submission. Among other things it can involve emotional, psychological, sometimes even physical abuse. Some of the common recurring themes in coercive relationships involve gaslighting, intimidation, violence, with holding attention or resources, and emotional blackmail. This video outlines the stages of a coercive, abusive relationship from the beginning, usually known as the honeymoon period, to how the victim adapts to the abuse. What happens when the victim realises it is coercive control and what happens when they either leave or attempt to leave, and the aftermath. Other videos you might find interesting: How covert narcissists manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How narcissists make their victims look like villains https://youtu.be/_2cHAjmArPE How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 What happens when you ignore a narcissist? https://youtu.be/ZVRjD4ZryRY This video is for information purposes only Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee #coercivecontrol #domesticabuseawareness #abusiverelationship

Narcissists have a strong need for attention and admiration from others. But what happens when you no longer give them that attention? This could be asserting boundaries, start to use the Grey Rock method, or decide to go no contact. How do narcissistic people react? This video outlines some of the common reactions they employ to get your attention back, and some of the motivations and reasons behind that behaviour. 00:00 Introduction 00:43 Characteristics of narcissism 01:26 Silent treatment 01:55 Romance/bribery 02:40 Trying to reason 03:08 Stalking 03:57 Recruit flying monkeys 04:50 Emotional blackmail 05:20 Aggression 05:56 Motivations Other videos you might find interesting: How covert narcissists manipulate https://youtu.be/UTDics5IeDs How narcissists make their victims look like villains https://youtu.be/_2cHAjmArPE How Narcissists Bully Others https://youtu.be/ROkr8I4gIF8 Narcissist's Superiority Complex https://youtu.be/rFtUyBx2eno Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos in the comment section. If you found this video interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

To be ostracised, excluded by others can be one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse in the sense that the aggressors don't have to actually do anything except ignore their target. It can happen at work, in communities, friendship groups and even families. In this video I outline what it is, the affects on someone's mental health and refer to research carried out by Professor Kipling D Williams. For further information: https://www.purdue.edu/newsroom/research/2011/110510WilliamsOstracism.html#:~:text=This%20is%20when%20people%20who,helplessness%20and%20feelings%20of%20unworthiness.%22 Please use the comment section to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos. If you find this video helpful or interesting please consider supporting me on Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dfmagee

One of the reasons why relationships succeed or fail can be how much work both parties put into it.