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Whether you are avoidant with romantic relationships or avoiding activities that take you out of your comfort zone Or avoiding topics that you prefer not to speak about.... This is a harmful way of approaching the world. It is unhealthy for you and it is unhealthy for the people that you are behaving avoidantly with. Avoidance is the opposite of what God wanted us to do with each other. You were born with a sense of needing togetherness needing to be held and needing to be around other humans. Anything else is abnormal. And this abnormal trend is only increasing in the United States. As parents or lovers or bosses....we need to STOP this trend. And that means not accepting the avoidant behavior. If you have an employee or a child who will only text....force a phone call by setting a meeting time over and over if necessary. If you have a lover that hangs up the phone when you accuse them of lying...drive to their house or set a meeting to continue the discussion. A person who says "I don't do conflict because it makes me anxious"....is possibly just a person who is saying "You caught me lying but I am not going to take accountability to apologize" WOW....why are we allowing sociopathic behavior? By allowing bad behavior...you are changing the world to a bad place!! Call people out on this stuff even if they are OCD....it's no excuse. If they are so uncomfortable with certain situations that they avoid them at the cost of hurting another? Maybe they need to spend time in a mental institution....because they obviously are not working on their OCD to defeat it?! Take the kid gloves off with these folks or enjoy a dangerous hate-filled future. I mean my neighbor's dog bit me and instead of discussing it....he ran away and now he avoids me when he sees me? Frickin weird. I plan to go knock on his door. I didn't need stitches but I am not putting up with avoidance. Avoidance harms people. And psychologists say it is just as bad as "hitting someone" if you avoid them. It's often a form of passive aggressive abuse. If you find this advice helpful...please support my work by donating to my venmo username LDavimes.

Where focus goes, energy flows...are your thoughts putting energy in a bad direction? If cosmic consciousness doesn't work.... Then why have people for centuries all gathered at the same time of day on sunday to pray together the same sort of things in churches all over the world? Have you never wished for something good or something bad to happen and had that wish come true? I have... hundreds of times. If you are super connected to someone with O.C.D is it not possible that their thoughts can impact your emotions or the outcome of your day.....especially if they speak those thoughts outloud? If someone has a mental illness with that sort of power and they are not working hard to defeat that mental illness, then they are possessed and controlled by the mental illness and this impacts the people that they are involved with at work, school or home. It's my belief that a mental illness that actually controls someone's life and that they won't work to defeat is at that point "the devil's" work. Most of the people that I have met with O.C.D are also atheists or agnostics. And they don't have a compass.They don't have a rule book that they can refer to and obey. Daily rules are per the OCD thoughts they are having that day. . If someone lets OCD tell them what to do... They could make moral- less or illegal choices. And this is why people with free-roaming OCD are extremely dangerous for the people they come in contact with. I was traumatized by a person with OCD and these are my opinions based on 5 yrs of efforts/observations and a lifetime of studying psychology. Remember the song "Radar Love"....what if instead of sending comfort coming in from above....your lover sends you a load of bad vibes and awful feelings....that's why being connected (energetically) to someone who STEWS and RUMINATES that maybe you are not worthwhile or you like all the other lying/cheating females they dated? Or maybe you work with them and they are thinking "that new guy is gonna slip and fall in his dumb shoes"....well a normal person might thing that once....but someone with OCD can think it 40 times in a day and then they qualifies as "cursing" someone if you ask me. So these coaches who say that the thoughts are "harmless" are letting the folks with OCD off to easily. The negative thoughts need to be stopped. And they can't be stopped if the OCD person is vibing in a place of paranoia, fear, hate. People with OCD need brain retraining...they need quantum energy healing and they need a higher power so they can feel LOVE/FAITH.