What's the Difference between Love and People Pleasing?

Learning the difference between love and codependency is the key to a healthy marriage and healthy relationships!

One of my many symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress disorder and social phobia used to be codependency. In short, being codependent means the reason I was saying or doing something was to get a specific response from the other person – for example to avoid conflict, to make them feel a certain way so that then they would give me something or love me back.

But then I met Jesus when I hit my rock bottom, right after my husband asked me for a divorce. And that’s when I started learning about unconditional love, which is, technically the only form of love that is actually love. Conditional love isn’t love, but also I discovered that not everything I thought was loving was indeed loving, but it turns out most of it was codependency, not love at all.

✅ What the Prodigal Son Teaches Us about Emotions:

https://rumble.com/vo1h0b-what-the-parable-of-the-prodigal-son-teaches-us-about-processing-emotions.html

✅ Step 9 and 10 in Processing Our Emotions: How to Tell Someone They've Done Something Wrong:

https://rumble.com/vng5lx-how-to-tell-someone-theyve-done-something-wrong.html

✅ Step 8 in Processing Our Emotions: How To Decide When To Break Up or Continue A Relationship:

https://rumble.com/vn5f6j-how-to-decide-when-to-break-up-or-continue-a-relationship.html

✅ Step 7 in Processing our Emotions: What about Payback? :

https://rumble.com/vmlah3-what-about-payback-lie-1-god-punishes-us-part-21-how-to-stop-anger-and-bitt.html

✅ Step 6 in Processing Our Emotions: How to Change (Repent):

https://rumble.com/vmmmtx-how-to-change-lie-1-god-punishes-us-part-20-how-to-stop-anger-and-bitternes.html

✅ Step 5 in Processing our Emotions: How to Really Forgive:

https://rumble.com/vm05pv-how-to-really-forgive-lie-1-god-punishes-us-part-17-how-to-stop-anger-and-b.html

✅ Forgiveness is the Basis of Our Relationship with God: The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant:

https://rumble.com/vlpmzi-the-parable-of-the-unforgiving-servant-lie-1-god-punishes-us-part-19-stop-a.html

✅ Why Our Forgiving Others Is Important to God: Forgiving Others:

https://rumble.com/vl1smv-forgiving-others-lie-1-god-punishes-us-part-17-how-to-stop-anger-and-bitter.html

✅ Step 1 to 4 in Processing Our Emotions: How God Forgives Us – Our Part:

https://rumble.com/vkre43-how-god-forgives-us-our-part-lie-1-god-punishes-us-part-16-how-to-stop-ange.html

✅ Processing Our Emotions – The Basics: How God Forgives Us – Jesus’s Part:

https://rumble.com/vkhfy7-how-god-forgives-us-jesus-lie-1-god-punishes-us-part-14-how-to-stop-anger-a.html

✅ Processing our Emotions – the Basics: How God Forgives Us:

https://rumble.com/vk6nxa-how-god-forgives-us-lie-1-god-punishes-us-series-part-14-how-to-stop-anger-.html