What a Man Has To Say

An agnostic's thoughts on the Bible, one book and chapter at a time.

An agnostic's thoughts on the Bible, one book and chapter at a time.

An agnostic's thoughts on the Bible, one book and chapter at a time.

An agnostic's thoughts on the Bible, one book and chapter at a time.

Your ability to communicate to women with confidence can often be the final factor that determines your successes or failures. It's not enough to look the part, or to have accolades. A woman must respect your perceived ability to please, command, and dominate her, and that's done when you consistently demonstrate confidence in your interactions with her. Don't let any festering insecurities diminish your future with women. Instead, confront them and work to eliminate them by paying close attention to why you seem to succumb to them, and why perhaps women continue to see them and pay attention to them more than what you think you're capable of offering.

Misery should never be an option.

Your success as a man that a woman craves in bed is entirely dependent on your ability to put her in a state of psychological bliss. It's not necessarily physical, although giving good meat is certainly an integral part of it. But if we focus on the fact that both a woman's initial and lingering attraction begins (and most definitely ends) in the mind, then we must identify what things distress women the most and how, by eliminating them as men, we can heighten the sexual experience into something that will separate us from others she may have or might still be currently messing with. Don't be intimidated by a woman's sexuality. It's not as exquisite as it seems, and it most certainly can be manipulated to give you the advantages you seek.

Never forget that the most important things that make us attractive to women and earn their respect exist in the mind. That doesn't give you an excuse to forsake your aesthetic appeal, but an average man with substance can build an even playing field (if not an advantage) over a handsome man with nothing to say. Don't risk becoming an accessory to women simply because you want to get laid, because accessories aren't only used; they're often discarded and forgotten. Women are usually quick to judge not only our sex appeal, but also our potential as something more. If you behave like you have little to offer then you won't ever get the attention you want from women. Everything starts in the mind.

Don't stress over whether being the first one to start a conversation online (or in the real world) will make you less attractive as a woman. You enjoy the privilege of automatically getting all the attention you want from men simply for existing, so things are only going to be as awkward as you make them. Generally speaking, men don't care about women talking to them first when expressing interest. As a matter of fact, it can be a breath of fresh air for many men who aren't as good with women as they'd like to be, but are still confident and capable of showing a woman a good time while making a good account of themselves. So take initiative! There's nothing wrong with that! What I WILL tell you is that, as a woman, it's important you do so while also making yourself vulnerable to some degree and while also creating the illusion that the man you're interested in has a good degree of control. Men don't want to be with overbearing, authoritative women who think it's a good idea to do everything necessary to make a relationship function. In short, we don't want to be bossed around and we get off on the idea of pursuing and conquering women, not the other way around. Gracefully (or confidently, depending on your personality) express interest, make yourself available, and offer the man you're attracted to options. If he's interested, he'll respond in kind and won't hesitate to pick up on your cues and make plans.

You're depressed because your attention is on the wrong things. Focusing on being without will only make you more miserable. Instead, simply accept that most men will go without women for substantial portions of their lives and consistently make the choice to focus on how you can continue to improve as a man. You must also understand that you don't "deserve" or are "owed" a woman's company because you're in the process of becoming or have made yourself into what the world would deem an incredible man. In time, you will be rewarded for your commitment, sacrifice, and discipline, but that reward won't appear as an ocean of submissive women. No matter what you become as a man, you will always have to work in some way to gain and retain the attraction of the women you want in your life. There's no magic formula to it, no shortcut to it, and definitely no way to pay for it, at least not in the long run.

The pursuit of women can turn a man from the fruitful path. What's always best is for a man to build himself into someone who walks with the confidence that comes from grasping purpose. Women always find that man attractive, even if that attraction doesn't result in sex. Never forget that the key is to do things that put you in a position to become the most attractive to women in the long run. Yesterday is forgotten and today is dying, but how do you want to be viewed by women tomorrow?

There is never anything more important than the truth. Why? Because truth is progress. It is freedom. It is clarity. Lies are destruction. They are oppression. They are tyranny. In the long run, truth creates strength, whereas lies bring only the weakness that comes from living in darkness.

The truth, regardless of our learned biases, is that no one race is superior to all others. From the womb, we are all (save unfortunate genetic deformities) capable of the same levels of physical and intellectual excellence. However, the world often doesn't operate with that truth in mind. We are different, and therefore some of us are deemed inferior while others are considered more valuable. It is what it is. Understanding these things plays an important role in your consideration of not only the woman you want to marry, but also what kind of family you'd like to build. Another truth is that there is nothing wrong with marrying a woman of a different race; but satisfying such simple desires as becoming the mate of a person that you care deeply about isn't so simple when you consider the effect that your choices may have upon your offspring. The world is a cruel, unforgiving, and unfair place, and it's important for us to make the attempt to consider as many angles and outcomes as possible before making some of the biggest decisions of our lives. But don't operate out of fear. Knowledge is power, but sometimes that power can turn a hopeful and determined heart into a cowardly and fearful husk if allowed.

Find strength in the fact that, with women, the odds will initially be against you in terms of attraction. Women are naturally very picky, and for good reason, which means that we must step up and become more if we're to gain their eyes. Women are often a reward for all of your efforts. They are a bonus granted after much time spent working to improve yourself. The truth is that most women will not find us attractive at first glance. Most women will not want us in their beds, or to fall into ours. But that's okay. Find strength in the strictness of their standards. Focus and don't give in. Stand up and fight for what you want.

A man's pride is a delicate and powerful thing. It can be an infinite source of strength or the reason for his greatest weakness. Mine is constantly tested by all the things I don't have and wish to have. Sometimes irrationally. Sometimes for good reason. But in order to become more attractive to women you have to do what's so very hard for most of us, and for some, nearly impossible: you have to strangle it. You have to kill it, burn it, and from its ashes create something new: resolve. You have to decide to become more honest with yourself about your place in the world as a man. You have to identify what things you have to offer women that could convince them to fall for you, as well as everything you lack. You have to decide on what kinds of women you want in your life. And after answering all of those questions you have to decide if it's worth it to sacrifice and struggle to become the man you want to be. Because that man is one that more women will want. But he won't be created overnight. Building him will take time.

The first step is always to build yourself into the best version of who you want to become, and in so doing, see yourself slowly molded into what most women want their men to be forged out of. Along the way, do your best to understand as much as you can about a woman's general nature. In time, that will also make you more attractive because you'll learn how to behave around them to get what you want. Just never forget that the company of women should always come second to your journey of self-improvement, and that a woman's happiness isn't always so great a thing to solely strive for in the long run. You want a woman to know that she stands by your side because you've chosen her, not that you keep your arms wrapped tightly around her waist because you need her.

Be direct, make plans, and don't talk too much (you can talk all you want when you're out on a date). Entice her to go out with you by using original language that matches her interests and puts you in a positive light; hopefully a far cry from "Hi" or "Hey, beautiful." That's how women start things off online because they don't know how to be interesting. They don't have "game," something you should have enough of to get things moving at a good speed.

I'll say this: if either or both parties in a relationship have placed hands on one another, it's quite possible that it should have ended long ago. Striking a woman shouldn't ever be done to inflate a man's ego and make him feel big and strong. If that's the intent, then he was never much of a man to begin with. Any measure done when dealing with a woman should be done with purpose, whether that's to discipline or reward.

Keep hope alive, gentlemen, and fight in America today for the women you’ll want your sons to cherish tomorrow.

As sad as it may sound, some women just won't want you no matter how much you work on yourself, but that's okay. No amount of effort you'll use to better yourself will have been in vain, because bettering yourself will always improve your life in the long run, regardless of whether or not you've claimed a woman as your own. Remember, success with women always starts in the mind, so learn as quickly as possible how to deal with their disappointing rejections with class and keep moving forward.

Do yourself and all men a favor and stop tolerating a woman's mediocrity simply because she turns you on. Demand excellence from women, and if they refuse to give it, simply shrug your shoulders and move on. Doing so will change things for the better in the long run.

It's usually not worth your time, and frequently mirroring an undesirable woman's stubbornness and ignorance is bound to cause more problems than create long-lasting solutions and harmony. Be cool under pressure. Stand firm when confronted with nonsense. Walk away from women who fail to observe, understand, and accept the truth. You'll be rewarded later in life with peace that will enrich your soul.

Never forget that promiscuous women often come packaged with something that should always disqualify them from becoming your wife: a fractured, selfish mindset.

Every one of us that has dared to play the mating game has been hurt by a woman, and that's because all women come with risk, which means that sometimes you're going to fail. But that's not a bad thing. Simply accept it. Accept that you're never going to be able to train any of them into becoming the perfect wife and mother to your children. Women are only human, and therefore, behave with default metrics unique to their gender. All you can do is do your best to react firmly towards undesirable behaviors, and reward the rest that suit you. Women are not our enemies. They complement us and make life worth living. So don't use the burns you've accumulated when dealing with them as an excuse to always keep them at a fearful distance.

This gentleman and I spoke about many other things that could’ve been influencing his virtual discourse, because, quite honestly, the entire thing was sketchy. It’s possible that he wasn’t speaking with a woman at all, but an intelligent hustler preying on the desperation of his brothers. It’s possible that, if he was indeed going back and forth with a woman, that she wasn’t your average college girl at all, instead a seasoned miner of lonely and ignorant men’s resources. Regardless, we spoke at length because scenarios like his do happen in varying degrees to many others around the world, scenarios in which men offer their wallets and attention to women who frankly don’t deserve them. In this video, I wanted to use his questionable situation as a bridge towards understanding commonalities that undesirable women share and the mistakes we make as men to ensure those bad habits stick around. Now, I want you to understand one thing. That the reason why women often impact us in such negative ways is because we ALLOW them to. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Our problems with women are a direct result of our unwillingness to learn their nature and put our feet down when necessary. Women only get away with foolishness when they sense that men are weak. UNDESIRABLE WOMEN ARE OUR FAULT. Never forget that. This gentleman I spoke with, regardless of whether or not his situation was authentic, did not agree with many of the points I made to you, the viewer, in this video. He was incredulous and told me that I was too extreme. He didn’t believe much of what I said. He is a reason why many women do not respect men. DO NOT be like him. Be more direct. Be more stern. Don’t be afraid to cut a woman off if she’s unwilling to give you what you want. Don’t give women undeserved attention. Don’t be afraid to hurt their feelings. Find value in their actions and not their words. DO NOT be like him. Instead, do your best to become a man that a woman will respect and desire, and I promise that if you take even a fraction of my points to heart, one day you’ll get there.