Female Dating Advice: Should I Reach Out to My Matches Online or Let Them Go First?

Don't stress over whether being the first one to start a conversation online (or in the real world) will make you less attractive as a woman. You enjoy the privilege of automatically getting all the attention you want from men simply for existing, so things are only going to be as awkward as you make them. Generally speaking, men don't care about women talking to them first when expressing interest. As a matter of fact, it can be a breath of fresh air for many men who aren't as good with women as they'd like to be, but are still confident and capable of showing a woman a good time while making a good account of themselves. So take initiative! There's nothing wrong with that! What I WILL tell you is that, as a woman, it's important you do so while also making yourself vulnerable to some degree and while also creating the illusion that the man you're interested in has a good degree of control. Men don't want to be with overbearing, authoritative women who think it's a good idea to do everything necessary to make a relationship function. In short, we don't want to be bossed around and we get off on the idea of pursuing and conquering women, not the other way around. Gracefully (or confidently, depending on your personality) express interest, make yourself available, and offer the man you're attracted to options. If he's interested, he'll respond in kind and won't hesitate to pick up on your cues and make plans.