Why Do Men Lie? 10 lies + 10 reasons (And MORE!)

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There are plenty of other places a man will lie to retain his feeling of masculinity, such as stories that brag or embellish his accomplishments.

These little deceptions are best left alone. Pointing them out to him - or others - will only push him away.

Lie: The "Last Resort" Lie
In a relationship, there will be times when a guy feels as though he is "damned if he does, and damned if he doesn't." Meaning that he won't win no matter what he does.

He feels cornered...

And very often, a woman puts him in this predicament.

For example, maybe you ask him if he's going to "play that video game all night long?" Which is a sarcastic way of actually saying: "Can you pay some attention to me?"

If a guy hears underhanded requests enough, he's going to start resenting the indirect, passive-aggressive way in which she asked him.

Women are much more indirect with their communication style. Most women want to avoid direct accusations, and avoid confrontations. This behavior is rewarded from interacting with other women. But it's not rewarded when communicating with men.

And that's where a lot of men don't understand what to do. He feels caught between the proverbial rock and a hard place.

If he just wants to get in a little "me" time, he now feels guilty for doing it...
If he then gives in to make you happy, he will feel a bit resentful...

The "Last Resort" Lie isn't always a 'lie.'

You only think he's lying simply because you never heard the real truth of what he was saying.

When a man doesn't feel like you're really listening or believing him, he'll just conclude that he's not going to be heard and should just save himself the effort by avoiding the conversation.

For example: If a guy says he's not ready to make a commitment, and you keep acting as if he will commit if you just keep showing him how awesome you are.

This is a case of "not hearing him." And it pushes him to do what he must to be true to himself.

It doesn't really matter how much you feel you have riding on the relationship. You have to hear what he's saying and really take in his words as his Truth.

Now, even if you can identify his deception, there's still something you want to know:

Why Men Lie...

Men's lies are rarely ever to hurt or cause pain. In fact, almost nobody ever lies to deliberately hurt another person. It's not even on their radar in that moment of telling the lie.

It's all about self-preservation!

What he's thinking about is simply this:

"How can I avoid being embarrassed - or causing her pain?"

And that right there is the reason that men lie:

To avoid embarrassment or humiliation

To avoid hurting you - or someone else they care about

Sure, there are guys that lie about their affairs, but truthfully so do women. Who wouldn't?

But in the end, our primary reasons for lying are usually to keep a painful truth away from someone we love.

How Do You Know If He's Lying?

I'm not going to go into huge detail on this, as I've written a great article for you about it Here...

But suffice to say there are just a few of the warning signals that a guy is lying:

He changes details - you just can't seem to pin him down to what actually happened, or what he was doing...

He's nervous - guys suck at lying, for the most part...

Won't give you details - because if he doesn't get very specific about his story, he's probably trying to avoid getting caught...

He's got a "tell" - we all give off subtle indicators that we're lying. His might be clearing his throat, or playing with his keys. Basically look for ANY behavior that stands out...

I've got many more of these explained in detail in the other article.

But the most important one is - of course - to trust your gut.

Because the biggest sign he's lying to you is that you just KNOW something isn't right about what he's saying.

Women have a VERY accurate B.S. detector when it comes to this stuff, because you've been practicing your whole life on your friends and family.

And you've probably polished your own ability to cover up those things you'd like to hide yourself.

Trust your instincts!

But the real question is:

What Do You Do If You Think He's Lying?

Watch the video to find out ...

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Why Do Men Lie?
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