He‘s Belligerent When He’s Drunk Is This a Dealbreaker?

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Question:

I’ve been dating a man for seven months. We are both 50. I feel it is a healthy, happy relationship day to day.

However two times when alcohol has been consumed, he acts entitled, loud, and bold and by the end of the evening he’s almost abrasive with me—making jabs about me, my friends, and even himself. Acting very differently than when no or moderate alcohol is consumed.

Most recently he drove under the influence after refusing a ride.

I told him I do not respect or trust him for driving drunk and I no longer feel protected by him; he is typically very protective in a gentlemanly way.

I hate to leave over this, but it truly feels like a dealbreaker because it is wrong, hurtful and raises so much anxiety in me.

Outside of this issue I have not been this solid, happy, or in alignment with a man in several years. I feel so disappointed and let down over this and dread the idea of re-entering the dating pool but also do not want to settle even if it is just an occasional issue.

Am I making a bigger deal of this than it is?