OUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE US

Our past does not define us
It just adds to our story

And what a story that is

The past is gone, it’s not longer there, all that it becomes is a thought, a memory. However many of us still hold on and get consumed by our past, that those thoughts become feelings and it’s the feelings that really count

We all change going through life, and we find it hard to let that go.

There are many things I regret

I was the drunken mess too often
I ended up in a cell on more than one occasion
I said some horrible things
I bitched and moaned about others
I had a very negative and naive outlook to many things
I did lots of things I regret and ashamed of

BUT

And it’s a big but….

As mentioned this has all gone, and all of this now becomes my story

Without these regrets, I would not be where I am right now

Without those stories, I would not have been able to help so many of my clients over the years

Without the lows, I would not have appreciated the highs in life.

Without the mistakes and pain, I would have not been able to make a conscious decision to turn my life around.

Remember there is always a positive in every negative, we must be brave to go back into the past to find the teachings without letting it consume us

Other things to note is that, others change too. We all change. Some changes happen very quickly and others over a longer period of time

People closest to us do not like or get some of the changes we make. This is ok, we have to be honest with ourselves about what we want out of life and know that others will not agree. In some cases, we will lose people closest to us which is tough and at times essential for our growth

If we Now know that our past does not define us know that we continual to change, we certainly can more forward and live a life we want and deserve