5 Reasons Why Most Couples undergo Divorce

'Till we die apart', or well you know, divorce papers. What does this tell you, 55% of all marriages end in divorce? More couples get divorced than ever live happily ever after. Several factors can come into play that drive two people to end their marriage. The most obvious reason is that people make hasty decisions and think it's all good.Show more

All is not good. All is far from good. Getting married only on the basis of physical attraction is a big mistake, and people realize that mistake leads to divorce only after marriage. Although I agree that two people shouldn't be made to be together if they don't feel like living together, the fact is that two out of every three couples don't even have to go through a divorce if they follow these rules. Follow up (cheating, lying etc. are all obvious non-negotiable factors leading to divorce. This article focuses on other reasons):
1. Don't know each other well.
Obviously, the two people know each other to some extent due to which they decided to get married. However, they do not know each other well enough to get married yet. Look, the difference between dating and marriage is mainly that you cannot end it without any consequences. Obviously, when you break up with a partner there will be some consequences, but not as big as divorcing one partner.

Take your time; Take as long as you have to. There is no age limit when it comes to marriage.You can get married really young or really old depending on when you feel like you’re ready to take the relationship to the next level. Don't rush into marriage just because of that 'instant' affair.

Like I said before, marrying someone just because the shoe fits is probably the worst reason to get married. So there was a quick connection, you both have a lot in common; You enjoy their company, but is it enough to get married? To answer that billion-dollar question, you need time.

2. You don't want answers.
This doesn't make it scary for you to learn about your partner's past. Don't judge them just by their past, but keep this in mind when both of you are about to tie the knot. Find answers to questions you didn't know you needed. You're marrying this person, for crying out loud! You have every right to know everything about them.

Everyone has baggage, and it can be painful for your partner to tell you about every single detail, and you don't need to know every single detail, but you do need to know about the things that affect both of you. And will impress you even more if both of you were to get married.

3. Ignoring too many things.
People often find themselves wondering what is 'revenge' in a relationship because one day you knew them to be this wonderful person, and now they make your life hell. Nothing changed to be honest, unless it's circumstantial which you can probably tell, nobody really changes. From the first date to the divorce, everyone's the same. You just ignored most of the red flags.

These red flags include; Lying on petty things, laughing or joking about sensitive topics and making fun of your flaws. People mostly ignore them because they don't think they are worth a big deal.

4. Want different things.
When the topic of marriage is brought up, you need to pay so much attention to what comes out of your partner's mouth. Differences in wedding plans are normal, but I am talking about the difference in what you both need after marriage.

Will you both have children? Where do you two live? It's a wedding! It's a big deal if you ask me. People need to see every little thing, never think that you can convince them later because even if you manage to get them to say yes, chances are there is (and is bound to be) in every little problem. They'll be bitter towards you, thinking it's all your fault.

This brings me to the last point.

5. Don't try to change your partner.
Never, and I mean never, try to change your partner. Look, you want a perfect life partner, I get it, but you can't change anyone in that. You need to look for someone who is everything you want in a soul mate. You do not need to turn a human being into the personality of your ideal life partner with the face of your ideal partner or vice versa.

I'm pretty sure no one would want their relationship to end, but they disregard so many things that ultimately, they are left with no other option.