Don't Worry About Other People | Stop Worry and Anxiety Series

Without intentional learning on our part to learn the skills Jesus teaches us in the Bible, we naturally end up putting others first!

When we’re born, we’re totally dependent on our parents or those around us for food, cuddles, and health. But as we grow up, we’re meant to learn the skills that Jesus teaches us in the Bible – and we’re meant to become independent of other people and dependent on God.

We’re meant to go to God to process our emotions and experiences, to go to God to be healed of the inadvertent hurts that are natural to relationships, to go to God to get our love tanks filled on a daily basis.

But without God – without knowing or realizing we are meant to keep Jesus’ Commandments, we end up codependent people-pleasers trying to feel loved by getting others to love us. I did this for my whole life, and especially for the first 9 years of my marriage. I was really in love with my husband and I wanted him to be “the one.” but I had believed lies about his role in my life.

I falsely believed that if he really was “the one,” then he could overcompensate for my abusive childhood, for my lack of interpersonal skills, and even for my current life experiences. So I spent most of my time with him, explaining how I experience things, so he could understand, so he could “love” me the way I thought I needed, so I could “feel loved,” finally since my parents didn’t.

I was asking my husband to do what no human being can do, which is to be Jesus for me. Because we’re all born with a God-shaped hole in our hearts, and without realizing it and knowing what Jesus teaches us in the Bible, we end up trying to get from other people what only God can do!

By His Grace, I discovered the Truth of the Bible, and it has totally transformed my life and my marriage within one year!!

I hope you enjoy this video and find it helpful, and I hope it encourages you to start taking the necessary steps to turn to God first, and to permanently get rid of any worry or anxiety influencing you today! Because getting rid of such emotional garbage will help us to not only be able to feel loved by others in whatever love language they may be speaking, but it will help us to be able to be more loving towards them in all the love languages, and therefore be successful in all areas of our lives!