Why is being Selfish such a bad thing?

I was reading a book last night and the author was praising his mom for being the most selfless person he had ever met, and it got me thinking, why is that something to be praised? I understand putting aside some of your immediate needs to be able to care for your family, but to be completely selfless? No, I don't get it.

If I was a little more selfish over the last few years I may not have gone through a life shift recently. I am grateful for my journey, it has led me to where I am now, and I know this is where I'm supposed to be. But what kind of mom would I be now if I took a little more time to breathe? What could I have discovered about myself or what financial situation I would be in if I had discovered my purposed sooner?

There is nothing wrong with being selfish, take five extra minutes in the shower. Leave the house and get a cup of coffee you didn't make. Read a book for fifteen minutes. Have a dance party and listen to two of your favorite songs without allowing the kids to change the music. Whatever your heart needs, take the time to cultivate it.

Being selfish isn't always a bad thing. Being selfish can be invigorating.

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