Conviction - How to stop shame and condemnation

Over the years, I've been hurt a lot by the people I interacted with, whether in close relationships or in occasional meetings. And because I didn't know emotional skills were that - skills that anyone can learn, I thought some people were good at handling relationships and I just wasn't.

Then, I eventually realized something was wrong in my life, so I started studying about people and relationships, and I discovered about setting boundaries. I thought - this is it! This is how I stop getting hurt by other people, but I've soon come to realize boundaries aren't as effective as one might hope. I've been both on the setter and the "settee" side, and it just didn't work.

Fast forward to August (or so) 2019, when I discovered conviction - a totally new thing for me. I finally learned how to no longer be emotionally dependent on other people, even when they hurt me or didn't want to honor a boundary I'd set. I've come to see that conviction is what works in my life, and it's what's worked best so far with my husband, and my friends!

Have you ever heard about conviction? What do you think about it? Are you willing to try it? :) :) :)