Why Giving Yourself a Backdoor Destroys Trust

We don’t talk about this enough: marriage requires courage.

Not the fairy-tale kind.
Not the candlelight-and-romance kind.
The everyday grit kind.

It’s easy to give yourself a backdoor.
To think, “If this doesn't get better, I’ll just leave.”
And when we're hurting, sometimes we weaponize that fear:

“I could walk away.”
“I can find someone who appreciates me.”

Those words cut deeper than we realize.

Real courage in marriage isn't pretending everything is fine…
and it isn’t threatening to run when things get hard.

Real courage sounds like:

“I feel discouraged right now.”
“I don’t know how to fix this yet.”
“But I want us. And I’m willing to try.”

It’s saying, I don’t have the answers, but I refuse to quit on us.

That's the kind of bravery that rebuilds trust.
The kind that revives connection.
The kind that honors the covenant and invites God back into the center.

And if you don’t know where to start — you don’t have to do it alone.

That’s exactly why I created Marriage in Bloom — to help couples find hope, tools, and a path forward when they don’t know where to turn.

Go here to learn more:
https://debbiecaudle.com/marriageinbloom

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