Tomi Lahren: Why Don't Men Approach Women Anymore?

Tomi Lahren: It bothers me because there’s a reason why young men and men in general, as we said before, don’t approach or talk to women. They’re not actively looking to date. And it’s because of things like this.

In fact, I posted about this on my Instagram, and the number of men in the comments when asked why they don’t approach women or why they don’t even try to date was: “I don’t want to be the target of ridicule on social media.” “I don’t want people laughing at me.” “I don’t want to be humiliated.” “I’d rather just live my life and keep to myself.”

So, these kinds of apps aren’t helping. To all the young women who want to find a man, going to apps like this to read trash about other people? That’s not helping at all.

Currently, many men avoid approaching women in person due to the fear of being labeled as "inappropriate" or "harassers," especially on social media platforms where interactions can be recorded and shared publicly. This phenomenon has been widely discussed on forums like Reddit, where users express concern about being ridiculed or humiliated after attempting to approach someone. For example, one user commented, "I don’t want to be labeled as weird or have people laugh at me. I’ve had negative experiences and prefer to avoid humiliation."

Additionally, the #MeToo movement has influenced the perception of romantic interactions, making gestures like compliments or asking someone out be interpreted as unwanted advances. This has created a climate of caution, where even well-intentioned actions can be seen as harassment, discouraging many men from initiating conversations.

On the other hand, some women have expressed frustration over the lack of approaches, noting that despite their efforts to be visible, men seem to avoid initiating interactions. This has sparked a debate about expectations and behaviors in modern dating.

In summary, the fear of public rejection, the possibility of being misunderstood, and the influence of social movements have contributed to many men refraining from approaching women in person. This shift in social dynamics reflects a transformation in the norms of interaction and courtship in contemporary society.