Givers, Takers, and the Cost of Codependency

1 month ago

Some marriages look balanced on the outside—but inside, one partner is constantly giving, while the other is always receiving.

At first, it may feel noble to give without limits. But over time, unchecked giving can lead to burnout, bitterness, and a quiet resentment that no one sees… until it explodes.

And if you’re the one always taking—without giving emotional weight to your partner’s effort—there’s a good chance you’re unknowingly reinforcing a codependent dynamic.

So let’s ask the hard questions:
Are you giving in hopes of being needed or loved in return?
Are you taking because it's easier than doing the emotional work yourself?
Are both of you stuck in roles you didn’t consciously choose?

Healthy marriages are built on mutual responsibility, not martyrdom or entitlement.

In Marriage in Bloom, we help couples step out of toxic patterns like this and into partnerships marked by mutuality, self-awareness, and emotional healing. Whether you’re the over-functioner or the one who quietly checks out—there’s room to grow, rebuild, and reconnect.

Ready to break the cycle?
Let’s plant something better.
Start here: https://debbiecaudle.com/therapy-for-christian-couples/

If you’ve been stuck in the same roles for too long—giver or taker—it’s time for a reset. Marriage in Bloom is your invitation. Share this with someone who needs it. Follow for more insights that heal, not just patch over.

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