Know your self worth. Don't give your power to those who lie behind your back!!!!

Have you ever felt like you're not good enough, no matter how hard you try? You're not alone. Many people struggle with self-worthiness—that unshakeable belief that you are capable, valuable, and deserving of respect.

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), your self-worth is your evaluation of yourself as a capable and valuable human deserving consideration and respect.1 It is an internal sense of being worthy of love.2

We often think about terms like "respect," "love," and "consideration" about our relationships with others, such as our friends, family members, colleagues, and neighbors. However, the term "self-worth" gauges how much we respect, love, and value ourselves.

Self-worth is important for many reasons. People with positive self-worth tend to have greater self-confidence and self-esteem.1 Having low self-worth, on the other hand, means judging oneself harshly, having a low opinion of oneself, and tending to focus on one's mistakes and shortcomings rather than one's abilities and strengths.2

It’s important to have self-worth because it impacts everything you do from your relationships, to how you work, how you feel about yourself, and how others view you.
— Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD
Keep reading to learn more about why self-worth is so crucial to your psychological well-being and explore strategies to improve your self-worthiness.

Factors That Influence Self-Worth
Self-worth is a subjective concept that can fluctuate based on many variables, says Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and professor at Yeshiva University.

According to Dr. Romanoff, these are some of the factors that may influence self-worth:

Core beliefs and values
Thoughts and feelings
Emotions and mental well-being
Experiences and interactions with others
Relationships, both past and present
Health and physical fitness
Career and profession
Activities and hobbies
Community and social status
Financial position
Physical appearance
Childhood experiences
"I’m Not Good at Anything:" How to Combat Low Self-Esteem
Gauging Self-Worthiness
If you're trying to gauge your self-worth, Dr. Romanoff says it may be helpful to ask yourself the following questions:2

How much do you like, respect, and value yourself?
Which words would you use to describe yourself to a stranger?
When you self-reflect and think about yourself, are your thoughts generally positive, negative, or somewhere in between?
Do you believe you are worthy of others’ love, respect, and consideration?
Asking yourself these questions can help you introspect and get a sense of your own self-worth.

As you explore these thoughts, it can also be helpful to think about where your thoughts and beliefs around your self-worth originated from.2

Importance of Self-Worth
Below, Dr. Romanoff explains the benefits of having a healthy sense of self-worth and the potential pitfalls of having low self-worth.

Benefits of Positive Self-Worth
Folks with high self-worth carry with them a sense of confidence that they will be all right and manage whatever comes their way. While they are aware of areas in which they can improve, they don’t let their shortcomings define their identity. They are not afraid to pursue opportunities and have reasonable faith in their ability to deliver.

Self-worth also plays an important role in relationship dynamics. For example, if someone is treated poorly, their self-worth will likely have a large impact on their interpretation of the event—someone with low self-worth may blame themselves, whereas a person with healthy self-worth may not consider themselves deserving of mistreatment.

Therefore, having positive self-worth can help people set boundaries around how they are treated by others. Learning to ask for respect is what pushes others to be respectful.

According to a 2017 study, positive self-worth is associated with a greater sense of well-being and life satisfaction.3

Potential Pitfalls of Low Self-Worth
Low self-worth is characterized by a negative view of oneself and a lack of trust in one’s abilities. As a result, there is a perpetual fear of failure, difficulty accepting positive comments, and a disproportionate focus on weaknesses.

Because there is a strong tendency to view oneself as unworthy, there is also a tendency to elevate others, in an effort to compensate. Someone with low self-worth may therefore minimize their needs, allow their boundaries to be infringed, go out of their way to please others, and be unable to stand up for themselves.

Low self-worth is highly correlated with depression and anxiety.4 As a result, people may experience symptoms like low mood, irritability, anxiety, fatigue, changes in weight, sleep difficulties, and inability to concentrate.5

Strategies to Improve Your Self-Worth
So what can you do to improve your sense of self-worthiness? Below, Dr. Romanoff shares some strategies that can help you boost your sense of self-worth:

Do Things You Enjoy and Are Good At
Getting good at something—and enjoying it—can provide positive reinforcement and feelings of proficiency and capability. Regular reminders of your talents, strengths, and abilities can also help make you more confident in other areas of your life.

Exercise and Challenge Yourself
Research shows us that physical activity is linked to a greater sense of self-worth.6 Inducing moderate strain on your body and striving towards increasingly advanced goals each time gives you tangible proof that you are capable of more than you thought.

Exercise also recalibrates your mindset and offers both physical and mental benefits.

Challenge Negative Thoughts
Remember that thoughts are not facts. Most of the time, they are distortions caused by internalized critics, stress, and situational demands. Next time you have a negative thought about yourself, think of an alternative realistic thought to replace it.

Seek Support
You could also see a therapist for self-worth if you notice that it’s constricting the quality of your functioning in your relationships, work, or emotional well-being. Having low self-worth can be like living life through restricted blinders.

Sometimes, complacency with this restriction grows, and people believe they are not worthy of more. In these instances, the perspective of a neutral, trained professional can be very effective.

Build Self-Worth in Your Children
The origins of low self-worth can often be traced back to adults' childhood behaviors, even if they were well-meaning.7 If you have children, it's important to actively work toward building their self-esteem.

Recognize and praise internal factors such as effort and determination rather than rewarding them for external factors such as appearance or winning sports games or prizes.

Focus on what your child can control because if their self-esteem is solely based on external factors, their self-esteem will depend on the next accomplishment.

When Too Much Self-Confidence Is a Bad Thing
Takeaways
Having a healthy sense of self-worth is important and can contribute to better relationships, work, health, and overall mental and emotional well-being. If you think you might have low self-esteem, there are steps you can take to improve it and have a more positive view of yourself. Loving, respecting, and valuing yourself can be the first step toward gaining the love, respect, and consideration of others.