Why You Keep Running Back to Your "Toxic EX"

Be honest with yourself…

How many times have you told yourself this is the last time? That you won’t text them back. That you’re done with the drama, the pain, the chaos. That you deserve better.

And yet… somehow, you find yourself right back where you started.

The late-night texts.
The emotional rollercoaster.
The feeling of missing them so much it physically hurts.

You know they’re not good for you. You know the relationship was toxic. But there’s something about them—about that relationship—that keeps pulling you back.

Why?

Because it’s familiar.

Your subconscious mind craves familiarity, even if it’s toxic. Even if it hurts. Because at some point in your life—maybe in childhood, maybe in past relationships—you learned that love and pain come as a package deal.

That love means proving yourself.
That love means earning affection.
That love means never feeling fully safe.

And when you finally leave that toxic person, you don’t just leave them—you leave a version of yourself that felt normal. And that’s terrifying.

So you go back.

Not because you truly want them.
But because your subconscious is screaming, “This is what love is supposed to feel like!”

But what if I told you… it's not?

What if love could feel safe? What if it didn’t have to come with chaos, with arguments, with walking on eggshells?

Healing starts when you rewire your mind to accept that healthy love is real—that you don’t have to chase or beg or fight for it.

The moment you stop making toxicity feel normal is the moment you stop running back to it.

And when that happens?

You finally break free.