The Best Example 08 - The Messenger ﷺ, as a Husband

With his beautiful morals, good treatment, and the lofty Islamic Shariah rulings that regulate the relationship between men and women, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, lived with his pure wives a happy and good life that represents a practical application of the Almighty’s Saying, “And cohabit with spouses in kindness.”
The Messenger of ﷺ, set for us the most wonderful and sublime examples in the marital relationship. He was the head of a great family that raised righteous children who were loyal to a righteous and compassionate father. In his seerah, he advised to be good to women, that is, do not be arrogant towards them, do not shout in their faces, do not be stingy, and do not be violent. Have mercy on women, do not burden them beyond their capacity, do not command them to do what they cannot do, do not scold them for what they have not done, and do not neglect their affairs or the affairs of their children. Let your understanding of guardianship be in its correct concept of good leadership, bearing responsibility, care, and affection, not domination and oppression.

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ, despite his many concerns and great preoccupations in spreading the Dawah, establishing Deen, and governing the state, did not neglect his wives’ rights over him. He was their beloved husband, their intimate companion, their loyal friend, their trustworthy guide, and their advisory companion. He would joke with his wives and tease them, bring joy and happiness to their hearts, listen to their complaints, be patient with them, wipe their tears, and treat them well. He would not hurt them with his tongue, nor hurt their feelings with his words, nor would he detract from them. He would praise them and commend them, and exchange light conversations and beautiful stories with good meanings. He would acknowledge their kindness even after their death.
Yes. “Indeed in the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, you have the best example”

الرسول الزّوجُ
بأخلاقه الجميلة، ومعاملاته الحسنة، وأحكام الإسلام الراقية التي تنظم علاقة الرجل بالمرأة عاش صلى الله عليه وسلم مع أزواجه الطاهرات حياةً سعيدةً طيبة تمثل تطبيقًا عمليًا لقوله تعالى وَعَاشِرْهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فقد ضرب لنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم أرواع وأسمى الأمثلة في العلاقة الزوجية وكان ربَّ أسرةٍ عظيمة، ربَّت أولادًا صالحين يدينون لأبٍ صالحٍ حنون ففي سيرته استوصوا بالنساء خيرًا، أي لا تتكبروا عليهم، ولا تصيحوا في وجوههم، ولا تبخلوا، ولا تعنفوا ارحموا النساء فلا تكلفوهن فوق طاقتهن، ولا تأمرهن بما ليس في استطاعتهن، ولا تنهرهن بما ليس فيهن، ولا تهملوا شأنهن ولا شأن أولادهن وليكن فهمكم للقوامة بمفهومها الصحيح من حسن قيادة وتحمل للمسؤولية ورعاية وعطف وليس تسلطًا وقهرًا فكان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم رغم همومه الكثيرة ومشاغله الكبيرة في نشر الدعوة وإقامة الدين وسياسة الدولة وحرصه على دوام العبادة رغم كل ذلك لم يغفل حق أزواجه عليه فكان لهن الزوج الحبيب والصاحب الأنيس والصديق الوفي والموجه الأمين والجلیس الناصح وكان يمازح أزواجه ويداعبهن ويدخل البهجة والفرح في قلوبهن ويسمع شكواهن وينصت لكلامهن ويحلم ويصبر عليهن ويكفكف دمعهن ويحسن إليهن فلا يؤذيهن بلسانه ولا يجرح مشاعرهن بكلامه ولا ينتقص منهن ويمدحهن ويثني عليهن ويبادلهن السمر بالأحاديث الخفيفة والقصص الجميلة ذات الموعزة الحسنة ويعترف بالجميل لهن حتى بعد وفاتهن نعم لقد كان لكم في رسول الله أسوة حسنة