Why is My Heart so Cold? Freedomain Call In

"Hi Stef
"I am a struggling mom of 2. My oldest just turned 2 last weekend, and the youngest is now 4 months old. Ever since i gave birth, things have been chaotic. Having 2 kids so young means they both need me all day long (and also all night long, for the little one). I have help (a nanny), but that just shaves the peak of stress. She plays with the older one when i am preoccupied with the younger or cooking or laundry etc.
I am on all day, talking or playing with the older, taking care of the household or the baby, and don't get rest at night either.
My fiancé (we are getting married Friday, he is the father of the 2 kids) and me are fighting all the time. I don't know how to stop the fighting, since i am just exhausted and desperately need a break.

"My current state also impacts my parenting. I am much less patient with the kids. And i still need to protect the younger one from the older one. When the older one is frustrated, he hits the younger one, or lies on top of him, or bites him. And i always need to be on guard. If i fail, then the baby cries and i tell the older one off and tell him to apologize. He doesn't comply. And when that's the case, i pick up the crying baby and walk out of the room. And then the toddler follows me, desperately crying out my name. It is a lot. But i really don't know how else to react when he mistreats the young one. I of course try to prevent it all day, but it does happen about once a day or once every other day that the toddler makes the baby cry.

"Please share your advice with an exhausted momma that is desperately trying to do her best."

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