How to Get Your Relationship Needs Met

Needing closeness with your partner and wanting them to meet reasonable emotional needs for you is not weakness or co-dependency, it’s attachment and it’s our shared nature.

When our needs are consistently met by our partners, we feel secure, and our bonds grow stronger. Our nervous systems regulate, we're less stressed, and we experience better physical health and all-round wellbeing.

On the other hand, when our needs are not met, our sense of security is damaged, we feel isolated, disconnected and anxious and our health will deteriorate if this is goes on.

In case you're not quite sure what needs are reasonable, then here's a list of examples:

Trust
Commitment
Affection
Appreciation
Empathy
Friendship
Satisfying Sex
Compromise
Respect
Quality Time
Kindness
Generosity

If any of those things are missing from your relationship then you have a right to ask for them.