From Survival to Strength: Escape from Covert Narcissism with Mia Hanks

Episode #97 In this episode of the Awakened Heart Podcast, I sit down with Mia Hanks, who bravely opens up about her 29-year marriage to a covert narcissist. Mia shares her personal story, revealing the subtle yet devastating signs of narcissistic abuse and how it gradually eroded her sense of self.

We dive into the complexities of recognizing narcissism, the hidden aspect of financial control, and the importance of building a strong support system. Mia also talks about her healing process, including the cathartic experience of writing her memoir, Bridesmaid. She offers heartfelt advice for anyone facing similar struggles, urging them to trust their instincts and seek the help they deserve.

Takeaways

* Many people encounter narcissists in various relationships.
* Narcissistic abuse often starts subtly and escalates over time.
* Covert narcissists can appear charming and kind to outsiders.
* Isolation is a common tactic used by narcissists.
* Financial abuse can trap victims in toxic relationships.
* Therapy can help victims recognize and escape abusive dynamics.
* Writing can be a therapeutic way to process trauma.
* Support systems are crucial for recovery from narcissistic abuse.
* It's important to validate one's feelings and experiences.
* Leaving a narcissistic relationship often requires careful planning.

Sound Bites

"You lose your sense of self."
"It's okay to leave."
"You have to have money to leave."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Importance of the Topic
01:24 Recognizing the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse
05:26 Degrees and Snowball Effect of Narcissistic Abuse
09:03 The Deterioration of Narcissists with Age
11:31 Understanding True Intimacy and Feeling Safe
17:54 Covert Narcissism and Misconceptions
21:58 Planning and Leaving a Narcissistic Relationship
26:15 The Journey to Healing and Rebuilding
30:10 Raising Awareness and Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

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Bridemade Book:
https://www.amazon.com/Bride-Made-Memoir-Mia-J-Hanks/dp/B0CVC322MF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=I72ELCBXTNDX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.PBsthRtyPonRFrbOhl7N-wzxfSGsivsNiwMw4OUXGN95Bi0yceJo1CHjml6kijAdBaitkPPCz_owM8vWPUibSFrt19NB5wLkDhaEUPJt8s3h2D5LjmzRKzDmheDPbiCVDrgLAznP2EwRE8aplm2ndwxZ7eblX3RVOFNy9H39Bkb805OzEnOFPQPtVCRhDC6z.8p-DnlONxp3DsHFTGOHaWvyd4nS7Ci-2dIZ513RxkVM&dib_tag=se&keywords=mia+j+hanks&qid=1722285875&sprefix=mia+j+hanks%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-1

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miajhanks.com

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