Stop Arguing with People in Your Head!

22 days ago
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Have you ever argued with someone and later somehow ended up in a situation where you are arguing with that person.. or worse you end up having arguments with everyone you meet.

It's like you are somewhat manifesting it.

When you are making up scenarios in your head where you are arguing with someone, you are preparing for an argument.

In a way, you are expecting an argument. Moreover, you are communicating with your brain and preparing it to argue.

If you are doing this, guess what.... you end up in more argumentative scenarios

And it's not like being in an argument turns you on... I mean if it does then okay. But most of the time, being in arguments is not very pleasant.

So why do you always want to think about them?

It's like when you want to buy a yellow car, you will suddenly start seeing more yellow cars on the road. It's not like suddenly they released more yellow cars onto the road, but it's just that you are focusing upon it and now you clearly see what you are focusing upon.

Life is basically what you focus upon, if you always focus on the negative you will find more things to be negative about.

If you always focus on the positive, you will find more things to be positive about.

And you argue with people in your head because these people said something or did some things that were not pleasant.

At that moment you didn't know how to react, so now you feel like you have to prepare to face them next time and prove them wrong.

Basically, you want to express your unresolved emotions on the inside. And you don't have to put on a fight to do that

All you have to do is find a medium to express these emotions, it may be a physical expression like working out or going for a run. It may be a creative expression like writing a song about it.
or you can just talk it out to someone or just meditate and let go .

Once you process the situations that made you feel unworthy and let go of them, do the inner work. You essentially become free of all these blockages on the inside.

And then just take back your self worth as you probably attached it to these people who you are arguing with in your head.

You start arguing with them in your head because you want to prove that you are right and they are wrong.

In a way, you're self worth is somehow linked to the words and opinions of certain people; that's why you feel the need to prove that you are right.

What if I told you that none of this matters, the words, and opinions of others, including your family members shouldn't affect your self-worth.

You are worthy just because you exist. Not because mom said so or dad said so or stepmom said so.

Once you start raising your self worth and start embodying it irrespectiev of any external situations. The words and opinions of others will just be like static noise to you.

And when these certain people realize that you are not emotionally reacting to them, they lose power and eventually they will fade out from your life.

Because they know that by triggering you you will start emotionally reacting and start arguing with them

So all you have to do is let go of the past, raise your self-worth, stay in state and you'll eventually gain back power.

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