🔴ROCD Q&A Part 4: Does God Choose Your Spouse? Attraction and Feeelings | Emotional Immaturity

In this raw and honest Q&A session, I confront some of the most damaging theological beliefs and distorted thinking patterns that keep Christians trapped in Relationship OCD. If you're stuck measuring your attraction levels, asking "Is this OCD or real?", or waiting for God to give you a sign about your relationship, this broadcast will challenge everything you think you know about love, commitment, and faith.

DOES GOD CHOOSE YOUR SPOUSE? • Why the "God has one person for you" theology creates obsessive doubt. • Why Christians treat God like a puppet master instead of making mature decisions • The danger of spiritualizing every anxious thought and calling it "God speaking."

THE ATTRACTION MEASUREMENT TRAP: • "I'm only attracted to my boyfriend 50% of the time—is this normal?" • How fight-or-flight physiology affects sexual attraction and desire • Why self-hatred and shame lower attraction • How pornography addiction programs unrealistic dopamine expectations • Why fluctuating attraction is normal and doesn't mean you're with the wrong person

EMOTIONAL UNDERDEVELOPMENT IN ADULTS: • Why you're 27 but relating to intimacy like a 9-year-old • How fantasy worlds keep you from real relationship practice • Why OCD sufferers excel at work but regress in dating • Understanding triggered states as frozen developmental stages

"IS THIS OCD OR A REAL CONCERN?" • Why this question itself is a compulsion that leads nowhere • Working through actual concerns without feeding anxiety loops • The difference between sober assessment and catastrophic overthinking

CHRONIC ROCD PATTERNS: • Breaking up and getting back together repeatedly over years • When reassurance-seeking becomes a way of life • The paralysis of double-mindedness: "One day I want to marry him, the next day I don't"

CONTROLLING PARENTS & PROPHECIES: • "My mother prophesied I'll marry an Asian man"—when parents try to control your choices • The principle of leaving father and mother • Breaking free from parental approval addiction • When to move forward without 100% family support

THE TIMELINE TRAP: • Why perfectionism creates impossible deadlines • You won't "get better" and then get married—you heal IN the relationship • Stop treating engagement as a finish line that requires perfect certainty • The myth that marriage will solve your problems

LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS & COMPULSIVE CHECKING: • Constant feeling-checking after rejection or awkward moments • The neediness/avoidance cycle in anxious-avoidant attachment • How to stop compulsively analyzing every interaction • When physical distance amplifies mental spinning

DARK SEASONS IN NEW MARRIAGE: • "We've been married since June, renovating our home, and feel stuck in darkness" • Learning to love through difficulty instead of trying to escape it • The roommate syndrome and calendar overwhelm

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0:00 Intro
7:40 Mark Gives Understanding of ROCD / Channel Info
17:40 Does God Choose Your Spouse? / Isaac & Rebekah
42:05 Im Attracted to My Boyfriend 50% of The Time
1:01:40 DANCE BREAK
1:04:05 ROCD & Marriage Prophecy
1:07:05 OCD Recovery In Marriage During Stressful Times
1:12:40 Ring Shopping Triggered ROCD/Anxiety
1:21:50 Overthinking About Marriage
1:30:30 Accepting Lack Of Attraction
1:31:10 Marrying Another Denomination
1:35:25 Political Disagreement and ROCD
1:43:12 DANCE BREAK
1:46:04 Does Mark Have A Church?
1:50:35 ROCD / Thank you
1:51:40 ROCD/Broken Engagement/Cycle Repeating
1:55:45 Wrap Up