How are your resentment and your children's illnesses interconnected?

How are your resentment and your children's illnesses interconnected?

If something is wrong in your life, with your children, think about it, maybe in my words you will find some kind of answer for yourself.

How your resentment and your children's illnesses are interconnected.

Here is the story of one family. The mother shared her feelings about her son's illness: at the age of one, he was diagnosed with deafness. The child was the second and not particularly desirable. The mother did not fully disclose what actually happened in this family before the birth of the baby, during pregnancy.
She referred only to the fact that everyone was waiting for a girl, and a boy was found on ultrasound. There was a strong resentment against her husband, who allegedly said: "what should we do now? Perhaps he asked this question not after the news about the sex of the child, but after the news about the pregnancy itself. There's no way to know for sure.
But the woman constantly pointed out that she had long felt resentment towards her husband. And this resentment began to pass only when, at the age of two, his son had an implant implanted and began to distinguish sounds with the help of a hearing aid.
Before that, there were a lot of tears, self-torture, reproaches, refusal to accept this fact and, most importantly, very mixed feelings towards the baby. In general, from a psychological point of view, such a reaction to a strong shock is quite justified. In that case, unless it drags on and eventually turns into something more constructive. Which is what happened in the described family.
Now listen carefully - in fact, it was the child's illness that allowed the mother and father to forgive each other and unite again. To cure the baby. His son's illness became a cement for their family. Although, of course, many families cannot stand such difficulties, but for that family, the plus (if we can talk about it in such a situation) was precisely this.
It's a pity that you can't turn back time and fix anything. And this is objective. Subjectively, you can use special psychotechnics to change your attitude to the negative past. And this is also the way out.
A way out to get rid of resentment. Because resentment itself could become the root cause of the baby's illness. Resentment of the father automatically reflects badly on the child, as on his particle. Rejecting or hating the baby's father, we do not accept his part in the baby, which means we reject the child himself.
It's like we're telling him that he's not welcome, wanted, or loved here. We ourselves put this program of self-destruction into our children. Now listen carefully - in fact, it was the child's illness that allowed the mother and father to forgive each other and unite again. To cure the baby. His son's illness became a cement for their family. Although, of course, many families cannot stand such difficulties, but for that family, the plus (if we can talk about it in such a situation) was precisely this.
As soon as the spouses quarrel, the children begin to get sick. Parents get divorced, break up, and it can go to the hospital. In addition, the emotions that mom and dad feel for each other are also important. The psychosomatic nature of diseases is well known to everyone.
I'm saying things that are probably scary to you right now. But look around you, and you will definitely notice that this is the case. At least in my life, that's the way it is. I see it and I always try to do something about it. I know for sure that health problems in infants are problems in the minds of mothers, or rather, in their thoughts. During conception, during pregnancy, after birth. What needs to be fixed, what needs to be changed, sometimes you won't notice right away. But there is a good question that will help you. Answer it honestly, and a lot of things in your head will fall into place.
"When, under what circumstances and for what purpose do I mention the child's illness, tell about it? Thus, if you refuse to answer, it means that you are not yet ready to take responsibility for what is happening on yourself. You may never be ready. The consequences? I think you already know about them.
And the last thing. Love will help you. Truth. No matter how hard it is, unfair, insulting and undeserved, you still love. Send love mentally to your abuser. What he did was the only possible thing for him to do at that moment.
Excuse me. Because you don't forgive him, but you let yourself go. And, of course, thank the father or mother of your child. At least for the fact that you now have this miracle. Send them love and other good feelings, because you are not giving all this to him or her, but to your baby.