Beautiful Collision Part 3

The struggle is real, but can collision with the God of the Bible and commitment to Him and each other cause something beautiful? For shows and more, subscribe at parentcompass.tv/subscribe or download the Parent Compass App

We are just trying to get it right. – Alexcia

There have been times when we have bumped heads. – Shamoir

I am jumping in this fight. We were just going back and forth. – Alexcia

When you live life for Christ, there is a separation that takes place. – Shamoir

I finally got the help that I asked for when I prayed about it that first day In my journal. My eyes were kind of opened to a new world. – Alexcia
Then they got to politics. Now you have entered my reign. This is where I put on my boxing gloves and I am jumping in this fight. We were just going back and forth. He (Shamoir) was on one side and I was on the other side. – Alexcia
We had one particular discussion. We did not agree with each other. I presented her some information. She came back to me at the next rehearsal and she said, hey, I went home and did some research about what we were talking about and you were right. – Shamoir

I am the type of person I need to research to myself. I would go home and I would research for myself about what we just debated about and I realized I was wrong. – Alexcia

My mind was blown. I was like, What? You changed your mind based on some facts and evidence that was presented to you? And she was like, yeah. And I fell in love with her right there. - Shamoir

My eyes were kind of opened to a new world. I went rummaging through my stepfather’s library and found a Bible. – Alexcia

She had just gotten out of a really bad relationship and became a newly single mom. It was a hurdle for me. I had to ultimately alter my preferences a little bit and she had to alter her preferences a little bit for me too. My conduct had not been entirely conformed at the time we started getting together either. – Shamoir

Our first date he told me, “I am looking for marriage and if you are not we need to stop the date right now.” Okay, I had never heard anyone say that before so I am going to stay right here. We are going to finish this date. – Alexcia

We spoke about everything. Laying it all out there. I told her how many kids I wanted. The dynamic of my family that I wanted to structure and lead in a Christlike way. – Shamoir

I remember he told me his life story and I cried. This was completely opposite of my story. Sometimes you think all black people have the same story. – Alexcia

I was there and I didn’t want to be there. I would hold onto it for a while and I would pass it to the next person. No one noticed. – Shamoir

No one is really paying attention until one day one of my friends did notice what I was doing. He said, “You haven’t smoked in a really long time. You are just taking it, holding it, and passing it. I am like, I am going to be honest with you, I don’t want to do this anymore. When you live life for Christ, there is a separation that takes place in between like your family, like your friends you grew up knowing and loving where you had everything in common because you are from similar backgrounds and you do the same things. A huge chasm of difference grows inbetween you because I am called to live life this way and you are going that way. I started to grow in Christlikeness in that regard where I didn’t need it anymore. ..definitely feel liberated. - Shamoir

She is off the deep end now. She’s going toward the white man’s religion. – Alexcia

The rule in my house growing up was: Do as I say, not as I do. That leaves room for them to make all the mistakes that they want without taking accountability. But you just don’t do it. I can do what I want because I am adult. You are a child. You stay in your place and do as I say. I did not want to perpetuate that cycle of brokenness and dysfunction. – Shamoir

I understand how important it is to have that father figure there, who is there every single day. Although he is not going to be perfect either, just to have his presence. I did not have that, but I knew how much I wanted that for me. So I was like, I am going to give that to my kids. – Shamoir

I struggle with being a husband and a father. I am trying to be good at something that I have never witnessed. I have never seen firsthand. Yes, I have the representation of the ideal man in the form of Christ. But I think there are elements that come from experience. A lot of it was just trial and error. - Shamoir

While growing up comfortably, Alexcia's religion was her skin color. Shamoir grew up surrounded by drugs and gangs. Now ministering to others and raising three daughters, their journey has been filled with life altering miracles.

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