AITA #2: Am I the ASSHOLE for Considering Leaving my Boyfriend over Golf?

5 months ago
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Reddit user asks: AITA for considering leaving my boyfriend over golf.

I 29(f) live with 32 (m) boyfriend and our 5 month old baby. Before I got pregnant my boyfriend used to never play golf a few months into pregnancy my dad invited him to go one weekend after that its a wrap hes been going every single weekend without missing a sunday . Sometimes he would even go 2 days a week to "practice " . When our baby was born it didn't and has not stopped. I am at my wits end and am sick and tired of being the primary parent and on top of that being left every Sunday to care for our son alone. With his job sometimes he would only have sundays off and he would still choose to spend his one day off a week playing golf. He bought all new gear (my dad had goven him an old set he had) he has spent hundreds on a bag and new clubs. I have expressed how upsetting it is and he just doesnt understand or seam to want to get where I am coming from. He said that it helps him de stress and that I dont understand because I need to get a "hobby" . I literally work from home mon-fri 8-5 and I take care of our baby 24/7 i handle all the feedings cleaning caring for our baby everything and I brestfeed/pump. And do it all alone. His excuse for not helping ever is he is the bread winner of our house and he has to wake up early to drive to work everyday. I understand that to an extent and still manage to do every thing alone but I would love to know I can count on him at least on the weekends with any little thing so I can at least get a few more hours of sleep but I cant he wakes up at 5 am on sundays to go and play golf and usually comes back all drunk around 12-1 sometimes later it depends . AITA for considering leaving him over this . Not sure how to approach the situation I have mentioned before my frustrations and usually he will try and help me for like a day or 2 after that by offering to wash the babies bottles or hold him to rock him to sleep for a bit but it only lasts a day or 2 then he goes back to just focusing on himself. I was visibly upset this morning and he asked what was wrong I mentioned it again (I sound like a broken record 😒) I told him I felt like he cares more about golf than us and once again I am doing everything alone and he just gets 5-10 mins with him a day if aww your so cute and some baby talk and everything else is on me . And he just stormed off to golf upset with me and didn't finish our conversation.

Daniel and Anthony answer the age-old question in AITA #2.

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