The Gottman Doctors: Women Tend to Be More Unhappily Married & Non-Cuddlers Have an Awful Sex Life!

Drs. John and Julie Gottman are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab.

0:00 Intro
02:43 What mission are you on & Why study love?
07:06 Studying traits of successful couples
09:03 Link between relationships & our health
12:51 What is the love lab?
15:41 The misconceptions about relationships
17:52 How to connect with your partner
27:44 What is the 'attuned' framework?
32:46 Why does typical couples therapy often fail?
35:17 The 7 Principles of a successful marriage
38:45 Do partners' dreams need to be aligned?
40:45 69% of our problems are not solvable
48:41 What to do when your partner wants to change you
51:19 The four horsemen
58:21 What is flooding?
01:03:31 What's a 'caretaker' in a relationship
01:06:31 Conflict misunderstandings
01:08:34 How to become a master at conflict resolution
01:11:41 How to repair/fix relationship issues
01:19:22 What have you learnt about the role of kissing
01:22:25 The role of sex in a relationship
01:29:58 Our society is becoming more sexless
01:32:18 Men struggling to figure out where they fit into society
01:37:50 What do women really want in a man?
01:39:59 Talking about sex makes your sex life better
01:44:30 Betrayal in a relationship
01:45:14 The traits that show a failing relationship
01:49:20 Asking your partner their dreams
01:51:28 Advice to give a relationship its best shot
01:53:21 The most interesting conclusions from the love lab
01:55:39 What does Julie mean to you, John
01:56:36 What does John mean to you, Julie
01:58:38 Why did you write this book
01:59:54 The Last Guest's question