How to Build Self Discipline Without Being Controlling

What’s more important: self-discipline or self-compassion? If you’re to grow as a human being, which of these features should you work on developing more? This is a profound question, the answer to which is usually oversimplified or misunderstood. The answer, as with many things, can be found by looking at extremes which we’ll do here.
Many people have told me in therapy that they’re looking to work on compassion. Others have said that they want someone to be firm with them and to challenge them more. As we’ll see, it’s never really an either/or choice, but rather both.