How I manage close contact

In just a moment, I'm going to tell you how I get around shaking people's hands. We'll tie all these things together. We've got six of them and that will bring it all together.
But what we're talking about are non-verbal cues. Why? Well, because people with autism were non-verbal cue challenged. Those who live in the neurotypical hive mind, they're really good at these things and they don't even know it.
They're communicating one with another subtly, subliminally, and they don't even know they're communicating. But we see them communicating and we can't communicate, so it becomes very obvious to us because we don't understand it. We're left out of the cold, so to speak.
So let's talk about these six things and see if it can't help us a little bit understand what they are saying and how they are communicating. The first thing has to do with eye contact. I don't like to make eye contact.
I don't even like to look at a photograph in the eye, which seems kind of silly, but I don't. But what if instead of looking at a person's eye, what you're doing is you're checking to see the size of their pupil, the pupil of their eye. Is it big or is it small? And if it's big or if it's small, that tells us something.
Now, that's kind of a little trick, a hack, to look somebody in the eye without actually the discomfort of looking them in the eye, because in a sense you're not. I mean, you're looking at their eye, not in their eye. So you're looking at their eyes so you can tell what they're thinking, how big their pupil is, not how light or dark it is.