Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure? (with Adam Lane Smith)

I’ve spent a lot of time over the past 18 months looking into the various attachment styles of men – anxious, avoidant, and secure. I think we all intuitively know that “secure” is the best place to be, but the question is, “How do we get there?” It’s especially difficult considering our engrained attachment style drives so much of our decision-making process – much of which is subconscious.

My guest today is licensed psychotherapist and attachment specialist, Adam Lane Smith. Today, Adam and I discuss building secure, sustainable relationships, why responsibility breeds security and why we subconsciously avoid it, how the chemicals, Oxytocin and Vasopressin, drive our emotional and problem-solving connections, and why every man needs to work on building his “male solution network.”