How to Flirt

There isn't just an art to flirting—there's a science! Use these proven methods to charm and seduce.

Step 1: Smile
Begin with a bright smile—one that comes from your eyes as well as your lips.

Step 2: Say hello & ask question
Say hello and then ask a question that requires more than a "yes" or "no" answer. For example, "What do you think of the band?" or "Where are we, anyway?"

Tip
Forget cheesy pick-up lines. According to one study, a simple "Hi" is the most successful opening line.

Step 3: Keep conversation light
Keep the conversation light. The object is to banter, not get bogged down in a serious discussion.

Step 4: Fiddle a little
Fiddle a little—with your hair, your jewelry, your clothing. People do this subconsciously when they are attracted to someone. Doing it intentionally excites the other person by subliminally telegraphing your interest.

Step 5: Be funny
Put a fun spin on whatever you say. Everyone is attracted to a person with a good sense of humor.

Tip
Don't break eye contact, unless the person is showing you something. Someone who can't take their eyes off you is very intriguing.

Step 6: Lean in
Lean in as the person talks. It will make him or her feel fascinating—and find you fascinating in return.

Tip
Not sure the person you're flirting with is interested? Look at his or her feet. If they're pointing in your direction, you're scoring!

Step 7: Touch person lightly
Touch the person lightly on his arm or hand to create a little sexual tension. Just keep it above the belt!

Step 8: Give hug or peck
When it's time to go, give a brief hug or a peck on the cheek to convey warmth and reinforce your interest. Happy hunting!

Did You Know?
According to one study, winking, smiling, and making eye contact are the three most successful flirting techniques.