Popular Video Revisited! Why I'm Happy I Dropped APO! Is It Harder To Make Friends As An Adult?

Originally uploaded: July 13th, 2021

YouTube Link: https://youtu.be/VgS6FPwUk3M

Filename: Popular Video Revisited Dropping APO!.mp4

To fam and friends that know me personally. I do curse, like a sailor in this video. If you don’t like this don’t watch. I hold nothing back & you will either love my bluntness or hate it.

REQUESTED: People are still interested in this shit a year later. Seriously thanks for watching the 1st videos. I did not think people would reach out to me, ask for a follow up & all that jazz. Since I’m in several friend groups on Facebook that asked about making friends as an adult, I answered those questions & used my experiences in Alpha Phi Omega as an example. This shows me to always share your story, you never know what could happen out of it. I've gotten interview offers off this, haven't decided if I'm going to take them up on their offer one day or not.

Part 1: 0:26.53-.44.16, give or take (Original Video Here: https://youtu.be/484BxZZHdJo)
Part 2: 26:44-44:02 (Original Video Here: https://youtu.be/8UYCZNymplM)
Part 3 : 44:02- MOST PEOPLE SHOULD START HERE. This video is already long enough. Lmfao.
45:07: IS IT HARDER TO MAKE FRIENDS THE OLDER YOU GET?

46:11-53:45: Why I still think most of my beloved APO bros who posted the black box pretending to be on the team don’t give two f*****. My blunt stance. Why I will never re-join Alpha Phi Omega. (Some people say never say never, but y’all don’t know how stubborn I am. I have joined other orgs as an adult. I understand that everyone won’t be close to everyone & you can’t completely avoid cliques. I’ve felt more appreciated, welcomed and more like home elsewhere. I don’t care for awards and recognition, just really looking for an opportunity to trust a group outside my close friend circle fully and deeply again, and I haven’t felt this way in a long time. My close friends are expecting/have kids and don’t always have the time for me, so as a singleton, I gotta get my neck back out there, you know what I mean?)

Just because you got it going on doesn't mean you have to be a doormat for anyone. Nor should people make you feel bad for the success you are experiencing. Maybe you can in turn be an inspiration for them to have successes in their own life. Go forth & keep experiencing abundance. I've always gotten the impression that one too many APO folks got a lil green when things were going well for me.

“4 Reasons Why People Hate On Your Success (And Why You Should Be Successful Anyways!)” by Alesha Peterson https://link.medium.com/yB4o9ZevRhb

Some friendships and relationships are not meant to last forever. Some only last for a season and a reason. Some people I haven't seen for years and I can pick up right where i left off.

54:11-1.09.56 marker: I talk about mean sorority girls here (Pre APO story). Feel free to skip if you don’t like Greek life. I no longer want to be a sorority girl. F**** it. I love the friends I met tho as an outsider. I answer some friendship questions here, & talk about why I was looking for orgs to join in the 1st place.

I’ve been having a lot of interesting conversation due to the abolish Greek movement, and people reaching out to me since posting in FB groups and posting my articles about being cut from rush all those years ago. They say I was cut due to being black & not having money @ the time, & that the GPA thing is something put into place to cut people out. Thoughts & opinions on this? Bc the “if really wanted you they would have taken you & money talks & bullshit walks” convos have been hitting my inbox like cray cray. I used to think race didn’t matter, told my friends going into rush that it’s all mindset, & that grades was a thing. I was also told about the ties of white supremacy & racism. I no longer care about being Greek anyways, (& most of my friends who are/were Greek loved their college experiences & couldn’t imagine college without their orgs) but to hear this honest and eye opening perspective from people across the country both still in the Greek system & out has been educational to say the least. At this point I’m happy I have connects to help my cuzzos get a better experience in rush if they chose to take that path. I do not like college so I think it’s best to get someone closer connected (IE PEOPLE IN THE DAMN Sorority & Fraternity HOUSES ALREADY LMFAO). There’s only so much I can tell my cousins anyways, it’s better to connect them with peeps that made it through the whole thing.

1 hour 10 sec marker: APO stories, really juicy, some girls prolly deserve to get called out (give or take, I think it officially starts around 1:09.56 marker). More f****** shit to get into. Why I now believe I was never truly an APO brother. My transparent thoughts on why I never truly fit in w/ the org despite my best efforts (& I do mention law of attraction & setting intentions here).

1:16.49 to the end of the video: I talk about abundance, wealth creation, & how finding friends on your same wavelength really is a gamechanger! P.S. I've learned in some situations, it's better to shoulder things on my own.