Making Friends, Losing Friends, And Balance Theory (10-12-23)

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https://lukeford.net/blog/?p=153122
I don’t have the normal access to feelings. I fear getting flooded and disabled by empathy, so I usually stay behind a hard cynical exterior and I keep most people at arm’s length. I only confide in a few people.

This will sound weird, but I haven’t felt a thing about the attacks on Israel. I think I’m still in shock and I am protecting myself by staying in analytic mode.

Despite my lack of emotion, I make friends and I lose friends as I go through life.

I hate losing friends. I admire those who can keep friends. Dennis Prager, for example, says he has never lost a friend.

How do you do that? I guess you have to be solid.

I’m constantly changing and as a result I’m constantly shedding friends.

In 2009 and 2010, I went to kundalini yoga frequently. In 2009, I went 200 times. In 2010, I went just over 100 times. I wanted to get my money’s worth from my annual $1,000 pass for unlimited yoga. Because I wouldn’t take teacher training and go deeper into the 3HO (Happy, Healthy, Holy) cult, I couldn’t advance most of my friendships at yoga. On the other hand, as a convert to Orthodox Judaism, I couldn’t stay at kundalini yoga because enough rabbis declare it idolatry and I didn’t want to rock the boat, so I dropped out.

This is a typical story for me. I join something moderately, enjoy it, and then move on. In the process, I gain and lose friends.

The less you have in common with your friends, the less of a friendship you have. When I converted to Judaism, the friends I grew up with generally experienced that as my rejecting them. When I became an Orthodox Jew, I let go of many non-Orthodox friendships. When I had an entire social circle around Dennis Prager, when I alienated Prager by my blogging, I lost all those friends.

I have an online-only friend in Ricardo. For months, we so hated each other that it seemed like the only possible road back for us was the Dallas Cowboys. If we didn’t have this team, we wouldn’t talk. Suppose we didn’t have the Cowboys. We would have been finished. Upon such trivial bases, friendships endure.

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