Object Relations: Fear Of Success Pt. 6

Blog: https://psychreviews.org/object-relations-fear-of-success-pt-6/

Many people want success, but they are not sure about the work involved. In some cases it’s wise to just start, but momentum is hard to build and it’s easy to quit. There are also questions about what is authentic when one has been on a wrong path with a goal or they feel that they are simply making another person’s dreams real but not their own. The reality in psychology is that it all starts with a basic autonomy of a self that can make authentic choices, and no matter what, there will always be some exploration, trial and error, before finding a sliver of authenticity. That sliver involves some feeling in the body that a person likes or dislikes, and is not covered over by a disguise.

Intro: 0:00
Playing and Control: 0:23
Shame: 10:57
Approach and Avoidance Goals: 33:33
Self-regulation and Magical Thinking: 43:02
Repetition Compulsion: 58:35
The Default Mode Network and Psychedelics: 1:09:19

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