Kicking Perfectionism to the Curb, Once and For All

Perfection: the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects
Perfectionism: refusal to accept any standard short of perfection
I can’t be the only one that always thought perfectionism was something to strive for! Perfection meant success, accomplishment and high achievement. I even recall at times in an inward way almost bragging about how good that “perfection” made me feel! Some might even list it as a weakness on a job interview to indirectly say how hard-working we are without seeming pretentious.
Why do we need to kick Perfectionism to the curb?
A Defense Mechanism of Protection
It does help to realize that perfectionism is not necessarily a positive trait that we should all be aiming to achieve, contrary to popular belief.
But instead, as Brene Brown calls it, perfectionism is a heavy-as-shit 20-ton shield that we carry around to protect our hearts and our inner child from shame, criticism, and judgment.
And let me tell you – that shit gets real heavy with time.

Researchers many times to divide perfectionists into two groups
1. Those that are self-motivated and set higher standards for their own personal motivation
2. Those that use perfectionism as a way to deal with the fears of being judged or criticized.
Embrace 'Good Enough' to Lift The Weight Of Perfectionism
Accepting good enough means allowing outsiders to see the real you.
It means allowing yourself to accept:
the messy, the lost, the not-having-all-together-all-the-time, you.
It's opening your heart and exposing your true self to the world just as you are.
Imperfectly perfect.
But you know what's on the other side of that pain?
Beautiful growth. Authenticity. Love. Courage.
And these are all much better feelings than the neurotic tendencies that perfectionism places on you.
It is important to remember to you are not alone!

Let’s wrap this episode up by talking about 5 steps to kick perfectionism to the curb, once and for all!
1. Begin Owning Our Stories – Our Messy-Sometimes-Chaotic-Mostly-Not-Perfect Intimate Stories.
It's time we see the bigger picture and change our perspective.
2. Instead of seeing a messy imperfect home, be grateful for the life that thrives within it.
3. Challenge your perfectionistic thoughts and beliefs.
4. Set realistic goals. Perfectionists often set unrealistic goals for themselves.
5. Celebrate your successes. Perfectionists often focus on their failures and shortcomings.

Here are some 3 tips to become your best version of you and achieve all the goals you desire!
1. Find a friend to confide in when you’re feeling the pressure of perfectionism.
2. Find a professional.
3. Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and when you find the perfectionism flooding in, snap the rubber brand to remind you the benefits of being true to you!

Thank you for joining me on this episode about Kicking Perfectionism to the Curb, Once and For All!

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Resources to help you achieve the success you are working for:

The Gifts of Imperfection, 10th Edition by: Brene Brown – https://amzn.to/3Zx1p4E

The Art of Exceptional Living by: Jim Rohn - https://amzn.to/48hlrUs

How to Own Your Own Mind by Napoleon Hill - https://amzn.to/3EGNrDD

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