Is God a Cosmic Sadist?

Romans 9:19-33

Today we talk further about the state of the Jew during this time of the Gentiles that have now been grafted into the larger vine We talk specifically about what I believe is wrong theology in this passage, extrapolating from it that God is a sadist and he likes for us to be in misery and specifically that he loves his "elect", but hates the "reprobates" somehow prepared before hand for wrath. Many believe they are the chosen and everyone else is going to Hell in a hand basket. Paul says that God is merciful and none of us should be proud but simply accept his free gift. The real reprobate and those destined for wrath are those who stoically live their whole lives with their middle finger up at God and choose not to repent, even at death's door. It is not God's will that any should perish but that all would desire to have everlasting life.