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Our role as dads is one of the biggest roles we have as men. All men influence like a dad when they mentor others. So in a way, every man acts like a dad at some point in their life.
Dads are one of the most influential factors in their kids' lives and in society as a whole. The relationship with our fathers sets us up for many of the ways we will live our lives.
If you are a dad, you have an incredible amount of influence on your kids. This isn't meant to scare you, it is meant to challenge you.
The challenge is to live as a good influence. That means making choices that help your kids develop as whole and healthy adults. To do this you have to watch out for 2 attitudes that will mess your kids up: Selfishness and Hypocrisy.

Selfishness
- All of us have a tendency to selfishness
- Kids often help us to overcome this
- As men, we can hold onto the attitude "It's all about me!"
- Me Centered Parenting
- Me centered parenting focuses more on us than our children
- This is selfish because we are telling our kids that our reputation is the most important thing for them to think about
- Healthy dads work to train their kids to own and take responsibility for their own reputation
- Blame Parenting
- Blame parenting is the Dad who always talks about what could have been
- The other side is the "I was "all that" before I got married"
- Kids don't care what you were before you had them
- They want you to be something now for them
- Ignore Parenting
- Ignore parenting isn't an obvious style that men take part it
- How we lie to ourselves and our kids is by saying things like, "I'm doing this for you...."
- Kids want their dad more than anything else
- We shouldn't accept a life of ignoring our family while saying we are working for them

Hypocrisy
- Hypocrisy for us as men is when our saying and our doing are different
- Outward Hypocrisy
- We all have a bit of outward hypocrisy in all of us
- Outward hypocrisy is another angle of image management
- Outward hypocrisy is about teaching our kids to protect our reputation, rather than engage with authentic living
- Family Hypocrisy
- Family hypocrisy is when we expect things from our kids that we don't do
- Putting members of the family down in front of others or behind their back
- Not taking responsibility for our actions
- Inward Hypocrisy
- Inward hypocrisy is often the hardest to deal with because it usually involves our own shame
- Kids will figure it out

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David Maxwell

Key Moments in this Episode
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Content Opener - 02:04
Selfishness - 05:19
Hypocrisy - 17:32

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“Being a man is not a finish line to pass, but an adventure you live every day.”
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He has been speaking in front of small and large audiences for over 30 years and hosts “The Confident Man Podcast” on all major podcast platforms.
David has a degree in Banking and Finance and a Master’s Degree in Organizational Leadership. He was married to his late wife Angie for 28 years and has 2 children.