Remember "Jazz" Trans male to female? Proof his mom is abusive

His mom wakeshim up from a dead sleep to tell him to stick a lubricated vajayjay dilator into the makeshift canal (that wants to close up and heal because the body perceives that rightfully as a wound that needs to heal up), and mom says she tells him, "If you don't do it, I will!!" At what point is ANY of this her son's decision?