How To Increase Intelligence, Improve Communication, and Decrease Conflict

How To Increase Intelligence, Improve Communication, and Decrease Conflict

Focused on agree or disagree instead of hearing and understanding

What is said is very often quite different to what is actually heard

What is heard is usually quite different than what is actually understood

What usually happens is someone hears something that reminds them on something they already think, feel, or know and then assume that it is the same thing.

From there they react to whether or not they agree or disagree.
In otherwords whether it support their self image in a positive or negative way.
That is to say whether or not it makes them feel good or bad.What you are left with in a person expressing their emotional reaction to their misunderstanding of whatever was presented to them and calling that communication.

As an experiment - start to look at your own behavior, your own communication in relationships.

How much do you focus on listening, hearing, and actually understanding?

Look at online dialogue via comments - how often do the comments actually line up with what the person is saying in the content vs how much is just people sharing their emotionally reactive misunderstanding?

How I arrived at this
How I use it to learn from teacher in internal arts