Control Your Destiny in 8 Powerful Steps - Part 2

Control Your Destiny in 8 Powerful Steps - Part 2

3. LET GO OF THE PAST
Your past is not your future – unless you live there. To control your own destiny, you must forgive those who have hurt you and let go of the past. Realize that, as Tony says, “Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give to it.” Will you give your past a meaning filled with hurt and pain, or will you realize that it’s what made you who you are today? Your past can be a source of inner strength and deep belief in yourself, if you choose to give it a positive meaning.

4. EXPLORE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Nothing affects the quality of your life and your ability to control your destiny more deeply than your relationships. They are a window into your values and beliefs, including your beliefs about yourself. They are the source of life’s greatest pleasure and life’s greatest pain. And they can either propel you toward your goals or keep you stagnant.

Sometimes you must cut ties with unhealthy relationships that no longer serve you. This is one of the hardest parts of learning how to control your destiny, but you can’t fly when you’re weighed down.

5. REVEAL YOUR DRIVING FORCE
Your relationships also provide clues about your driving force – the ultimate reason you do the things you do. We’re all driven by Six Human Needs: certainty, significance, variety, love/connection, growth and contribution. We need all of these things at a certain level, but we each have one top need that drives us more than others. By looking at your life in this context, you’ll be able to more successfully control your destiny, because you will recognize and fulfill your needs in a positive way.